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>>18427080
>>>/fa/

Koreans wear some real stupid shit so don't treat them like a solid standard

Unless you are a qt Korean girl it won't look qt on you

>>18426994
Don't do it OP. I had a similar experience this October when the first and only girl I've loved dropped me for no reason. The next day my uncle shot himself, and the next week my best friend moved to another country.

I can confidently say that shit gets better. It took me 7 months to stop feeling so terrible. I'm still depressed but things have changed. I've now got a girl that I'm getting ever closer with and college is starting soon and I'm ready to move out and be free.
Just give it time. Hang in there.

>>18426994

How old are you?

>>18427009
>old enough to know it's over
>young enough to be a tragedy

>>18426988
Do you want to evenrually get married and have children? No, it is not ok.

Do you want to stay single / just fucking milfs? Then it is sort of ok.

>why cant you just find qtie your age who you will call mommy in bed?

>>18426988

Oedipus complexes are some of the most common out there. As long as you don't actually bang your mum, it probably isn't an issue.

>>18427005
>>18426996
I also have a fetish for my sister she's younger

>>18426965
This is not normal. Even if he occasionally had something remind himself of her, he shouldn't be bringing up to you or be dwelling on that. That was then and this is now. I'm not sure why he's that way but obviously part of him is affected by how that relationship ended. Before you go off and dump him, I would have this very conversation with him. I would also tell him how it makes you feel. If it continues he needs therapy as he is failing to get over it.

>>18426972
Thank you for your response! I have always tried to be openminded about his past and the important experiences in his life but this particular topic is not something I find comfortable anymore. I do want to talk to him about how it makes me feel and I think it'd be good to talk about how things ended with her too! I didn't think to bring that up with him so thanks!
I definitely don't want to just up and leave him over this without talking about it first haha! Any suggestions on how I could go about it w/o coming off as overly jealous?

>>18426965
props to you for being chill about it, honestly, people dont react too well to this in general.
I mean, hes talking about her often... what..
move on or move out.
( using it as a framework for a funny story here or there is fine i guess.. )

>>18426929
Several ideas:

Read literature from at least two centuries back, where guys were portrayed as having strong emotions and that was virile af.

Second, get on YouTube and start warching lectures by Jordan Peterson. He explains a bunch of stuff about how the mind works but also how emotions help you to navigate your world, how they give you meaning. That might help you consider emotions as useful, it just a liability.

Third, try to come up with a plan to slowly familiarize yourself with all that amd express it. You won't turn into a blubbering mess if but by bit you start getting in touch with them.

Also re-evaluate how your childhood might have thought you having emotions is bad.

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>>18426929
Don't be afraid of rejection, you can go a long way if you choose to ignore how others think of yourself. That sounds simple but it's a huge step at improving yourself

>>18426929

Do you mean you see emotion as weakness or that expressing emotion is weakness? Either way, I was in the same boat for the first 25 years of my life. The main reasons why I struggled with emotional openness was that I had trust issues (didn't trust people not to use my emotions against me) and because I wasn't even comfortable or close enough with anyone, not even immediate family. Emotional expression is ultimately about equal exchange; you can easily express emotion only with people who are equally willing to express their emotions in your company. I eventually found someone who I could both trust and grow close to, so opening up was easier. Basically, seeing emotion as weakness is probably not the only reason why you struggle. Figure out the thought patterns that cause this reaction and the underlying issues that make you cautious and then figure out a way to work around them.

>>18426909

yes

any other opinions? or is this the general consent? why is it rude though?

>>18426909
It is rude. It is not your house.
>i have scared a few people that way, though
Why do you think it is not rude?

if you think you will just magically become rich and famous because you "have a gut feeling", then no. but if you know that it's what you really want and take active steps towards it, then yes, it is very well possible.

You're wrong. Good luck.

>>18426797

>music school

HAHAHAHAHAHA

Sounds like she's simply underage. She will eventually grow up and realize her behavoir is ridiculous and a waste of time.

t. /pol/

>>18426755
Take the red pill now, anon. Before it happens

>>18426755
>being this bluebilled

idk but that picture is really interesting.

definitely not economics
go for what you're good at

>>18426730
>I'm very good at math and technology related stuff
EE?

>Aerospace
I've heard this is not too good. Too specialized. You'd have more opportunities with an ME degree

>math and econ/finance
if you want to work for shekelstein at some bank, then sure

>>18426614
You wouldn't be beautiful, give it up

>>18426614

You know.. I feel that some, not all, of men transitioning to women have followed that line of thinking. They essentially failed as a man and decided to try as a woman. Women have it easier after all, right?

It doesn't work. You'll still be unhappy. Happiness comes from within.

>>18426614
It's not really a good idea to get with a woman you don't think is beautiful. Unless your're asking about beautiful as in "conventionally attractive". I could personally love a "plain looking" girl and come to find her beautiful if she had a personality that's highly compatible with mine. BUT if I cannot find a woman beautiful on the outside, it's likely something on the inside is turning me off as well. It doesn't mean she's objectively ugly but I'm not sold on the idea that you should give someone a chance if you feel nothing for them, and certainly not if you find them physically unattractive.

That girl you posted is not ugly but not every man would agree she is beautiful as in OMG SO HOT. Some guys might not even bother because they only fuck black girls or blondes, or think she's too fat or something. See what I mean anon? Do not compromise your standards for attraction just because you feel obligated to "date down". If you must, raise your attractiveness a little, but don't settle or do something else you'll regret later.

>>18426569
request a copy of the hormone test results i'm betting your testosterone is 'normal' aka within the bullshit range of 200-1200

have you tried fapping to different stuff?
I enjoy vanilla, but some days my penis likes butter pecan with strawberry typing and rainbow sprinkles. feel me?

>>18426591
really? what would be "dick not working" low levels of T?

>>18426599
oh yeah, everything from straight to hentai to traps to gay stuff

>>18426537
More important question is what do YOU think about it? Quit looking to other people to figure out how you "should" feel about this and just go with what you feel

"""Talk""" to them.
While that IS a thing, she may or may not be lying to you and downplaying it. Figure out if she's doing that.
Also what >>18426542 said, if you feel the need to post about it here youre clearly uncomfortable to some degree.

She wants to be a sugar baby and she wants to fuck old men for money. I did this, and I remained single because only cucks wanna date a sugar baby. The guys with money always come first. This is ALWAYS how it goes, personally I'd tell her to fuck off with that idea and work a fuckin job.

>>18426499
Do your parents have a dog? Dogs are awesome to fight loneliness, you could also advice them to get a hobby together, they're probably bored most of the time because their life revolved around taking care of their children, and now they're gone.

>>18426561
No they stopped having dogs and puppies since that last couple died and their baby dog ran away from our house. I suggested my mom to take one those nieces or nephews back to my parents house to take care of them, that might cheer my mom up but she refused. No kids want to be a part with their parents.
My dad has a garden and into gardening. But he's suffering from depression for awhile already.
My mom is regilious she went to chruch every now and then.
I don't know what is the solution for us to be honest. I think the problem was me, I thought too much about my parents

>>18426593
The situation is indeed complicated, how often do you visit your parents?

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>>18426481
>tfw I want to study English
Am I making a huge mistake? I just don't give a shit about STEM etc.

>>18426481
every company with a foreign presence needs a translator.
every branch of government and every government agency needs many many translators.

You did study something meaningful you just aren't seeing it. Are you able to join the military? maybe you can find a purpose there and use your translation skills for good use.

>>18426489
Don't get me wrong, I like the subject. I like translating literature and I like languages. But sometimes I wish I were reading about the theory of relativity, the mechanisms of a rocket engine or mathematical equations describing the fabric of reality instead of sociocultural implications of discourse analysis.

>>18426436
Call the manager and politely inquire as to the status of you application, an thank them for their time

>>18427199
Best move.

Your friends really have little leverage. If they keep asking, of course the manager's going to tell them that they'll get back to you to get them off their back, but that doesn't mean that they will. All you can do is take them at their word and do this >>18427199, but don't hold your breath and don't stop applying elsewhere. If you hold on for this, other places might fill up for summer jobs.