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>>18486252
They just want the D, better to be that guy than the guy whose D they don't want.

You only have so much personality that after a month you've basically told every interesting story, shared every interesting piece of information, and just plain no longer really have anything to contribute.

Most people in general are dopamine addicts.

I bet you're valuing the games at full retail price when I know that you paid substantially less than that. Link the profile

>>18486221
Why are you that desperate to move? Trying to offload a steam account is risky.

>>18486221
I don't see the point in spending that much money for games that I a) might not want and b) might already have

What DO you spend your time doing and what DO you want your life to be in the next 10-15 years?

>>18486194
I spend my time working, taking classes for professional development/ for the sake of learning cool shit, lifting, reading, consuming media, and sexing girls here and there.

10-15 years from now I'd like to make strides in my career where I'm doing something as close to my "dream job" as possible, while also affording to take care of my parents as they age and other family members with whatever they need.

I really don't see another woman or house or Golden Retriever fucking that up for me

I mean, you're 24 so it's entirely normal to not want to settle down. It's not like you you'll face pressure from society to have babies before 35 like women. You could live a pretty chill life and not settle down well into your thirties. But there'll be a time where you want to create a family, it isn't really something you can control.

> Past a certain age, a man without a family can be a bad thing.

Writing that out kind of made me feel better, but every time I try to talk about it in person, I start crying involuntarily

>>18486197
it will get better with time
i imagine this must be very painful for you you were probably very close with your grandfather, i hope you find solace in knowing he lived a good life

>>18486190
My father passed in April, just take it day by day. You're going to have days, maybe weeks, where everything feels fine then suddenly it'll hit you again. Talk about it when you ready, I too found it easier to talk online then in person. Try to remember the good times - not the time he was sick.

>>18485966
What is your hobby?

Regardless don't let them bother you. Find a community for said hobby that encourages you to pursue your dreams. If this hobby is your passion, doing it is all that's important.

>>18485966
share the discord

>>18486012
gamedev.

>>18485932
>outgrow
Meh. No.

I am a boy, so we may do things differently than girls
>say A, think B, expect C
So when we dislike something about people around us, we have only these options
>call them on their bullshit
>ignore it
>cut contact short

I suggest you to behave like rational man for the first time in your life and choose DIRECT CONFRONTATION.

Have a talk with her in private, explain to her how silly she behaves, ask her if she knows it and then suggest her to stop it. If she is good friend, you cant really make her super pissed of by teling her truth
>which i have heard you girls never tell no matter what (see telling fat/ugly friends that they arent fat/ugly)
and if she gets offended to the point of abadonding your friendship, she wasnt worthy in the first place.

T. Honest boy.

Also i suggest you to get into nursing/teaching/working with kids / helping people instead of wasting time and money by studying something you hate and wont finish it anyway. Not everybody is cut for degree.

>>18485932
You and her being females has absolutely no bearing on this at all. That aside, she tears people's success down because she doesn't feel successful herself. You don't have to cut her out of your life but you also don't have to be as close to her anymore. Things change and people grow apart. You're busy living your life and going after your dreams. Don't let her discourage you. Instead, achieve success despite her negativity. Maybe you will inspire her to unfuck her situation.

>>18485978
I think it would piss her off, honestly. She might even deny it entirely.

PS: I think all those jobs sounds shitty. Not everyone is cut out to be happy, I guess.

>>18485783
They're all in the STEM field so your salaries are already some of the highest.

Per investment engineering related fields are intense but much faster to get a job.

>>18485790
They can always be higher

>>18485810
Depends on your circumstance, whether you pigeon hole your career or move up.

>>18485781

My gf is a very different person from me she's 18 (inb4 hurr durr pedo pls go), goal oriented, very focused, her parents are middle class and run a little business, she's doing alright in school and is going to college in a few months, she's a typical success story I guess. However our personality is pretty similar, we're both proud stubborn little idiots who can't agree on anything though that's been the case for the past 2 and a half years.
Lately I've felt like she hasn't really matured as a person, as in she's still childishly jealous of other women even though I fucking hate most women and the only other woman I talk to is a weeb neet landwhale who's in a discord group I chat in, she's jealous of that as well. She's also very fucking petty and will argue over anything, on top of arguing over anything she'll say the nastiest fucking things with no regards to what people feel, like for example she'll call me out on being broke even though I just had to fix a flat tire, buy some oil due to an emergency and spend some more money on important documents. Or she'll bring up shit I did in the past or mention my friends whenever she possibly can, usually in a tone of jealousy cause I'm always laughing around my friends (Maybe she should consider the fact they're not nagging me 24/7) cont.

>>18485807

She can not argue on a fair playing ground, at all. She'll do and say anything to win an argument, even if it's over the dumbest most vapid shit. She will not, can not, admit she's wrong in any circumstance. Even if deep inside we both know we're right, she'll still argue and bitch like a little child.
Lately she's been getting on my nerves as well, constantly picking at stuff, the little things that you don't pay much attention to but they add up and they bring up the annoyance meter real fucking high after a day of it. It's things like oh those shorts are so old when are you getting new ones, oh I bet you're not gonna show up at this thing this weekend, oh so your internship starts next week uh? guess I better find someone to hang out with, oh look at this random hot dude on instagram teehee just joking. These little meaningless teases have been adding up to my stress level that I actually can not fucking control myself when something actually meaningful happens.
A few days ago, my car broke down, not an unusual sight considering it's a piece of shit and I keep it alive through calculated visits to an actual mechanic and some handywork done by myself and a friend.

>>18485824

So the car broke down, big deal right? No, not a big deal due to the fact it's the second time this month something unexpected happens that's probably gonna crash all my plans. So I flip out, I get angry, I start talking to myself just cursing the car. I was already a bit steamy, having her nag me the entire trip from the very first fucking minute she got in the car. I just let it go, insulted the car, threw some random curse words everywhere, let off some steam.
And my girlfriend, with her amazing, great and wise mind, decided the best course of action was to tell me to shut up, that she didn't have to listen to me bitch about it and that it wasn't her fault. This is a constant excuses, "It's not my fault", it doesn't, however, prohibit her from picking at it constantly. And this really blew my mind, I had an anger towards her that was some kind of fucking deep seething rage, I didn't even react to it, I couldn't, I was just so god damn angry I couldn't do anything. I listen to every single one of her rants, take her name calling whenever I piss her off over some autistic shit nobody cares about and have to listen to her dumb fucking teenage rants over stupid shit and she has the nerve to tell me to shut up when I get fucking pissed when fate decides to shit all over my plans for the 3rd time that month.

>>18485766
You aren't responsible for his poor decisions. Don't let them weigh on you. If he does something stupid, that's his personal responsibility, not yours.

Dump him and let him deal with his problems. They are his, not yours.

If you date a string of simikar losers, maybe you're attracted to the type. Some women are attracted to depressed, pained loners. Try dating someone who seems happy and well-adjusted.

>>18485776
thats the thing. they are always really fun when we start dating but eventually they turn out the same.

>>18485766
Demand that he gets help or you will walk, give him a reason to improve himself.

Maybe if they were unbearably ugly, but probably not.

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>>18485748
Ugly is subjective to the perceiver, people actually like character and personality in a partner, and most times it outweighs looks. Statistically you will most likely enter relationships with people in equal or lower physical appearance than you.

I've dated some 8-9/10 and some just have no personality or attract too much attention, in the beginning it's fine. But it's just annoying after time.

>inb4 hurr durr you must be ur gf's bitch, American Girl.

Better personalities make more intimate relationships, and it makes a huge difference with sex.

If they are so ugly that this would be the sole reason to break up with them, why would I even have gotten into a relationship with them in the first place?

>>18485712
Sorry anon Tinnitus is incurable.

>>18485712
Wait a few days.

Drown it out with music 24/7 and become a getaway driver.

>>18485699
*overreacting

>>18485699
Be confident and try to stay away from toxic people who want to make you feel low that's all

>>18485699
Find what is more important to care about.

What rate?

>>18486073
Nuke.

Why don't you talk to her...?

>>18485605
have you considered that before you lost your virginity you thought yourself different because of it, and now that you've lost it you can only compare yourself to other nonvirgins, and maybe you don't like that comparison?

Just reading the post you can tell that you put some importance on your virginity. And now its gone. So now what?

>But let's be real. I'm not ALWAYS confident. I want to feel free to show women that I care about them when I do. I don't want to see them as a means to an end. I don't want to initiate physical contact from the moment I meet them and follow some game plan. I don't want to lie and come up with bullshit lines to start conversations.

Same man. You don't know how relateable this is.

(Consider this comment a bump)

>>18485605
Women are awful, and disgusting. You can choose to try to stay the way you are as much as possible, and you'll get laid once in a while but hardly ever.

Or you can choose to change and just do whatever dumb things you need to do for women to like you. You'll kind of hate who you are but maybe you'll get so much pussy you won't care.

>>18485569
Are they always clingy or are they going through a rough patch?

>>18485569
Are they even your friend? If they are why get rid of them?

Basically the friend in question, when i first met them was pretty chill, but now he is very weird and annoying. I cant put up with him anymore, (It isn't just me that thinks this way its other people too)