Losing my innocence doesn't feel good

>>18485605
have you considered that before you lost your virginity you thought yourself different because of it, and now that you've lost it you can only compare yourself to other nonvirgins, and maybe you don't like that comparison?

Just reading the post you can tell that you put some importance on your virginity. And now its gone. So now what?

>But let's be real. I'm not ALWAYS confident. I want to feel free to show women that I care about them when I do. I don't want to see them as a means to an end. I don't want to initiate physical contact from the moment I meet them and follow some game plan. I don't want to lie and come up with bullshit lines to start conversations.

Same man. You don't know how relateable this is.

(Consider this comment a bump)

>>18485605
Women are awful, and disgusting. You can choose to try to stay the way you are as much as possible, and you'll get laid once in a while but hardly ever.

Or you can choose to change and just do whatever dumb things you need to do for women to like you. You'll kind of hate who you are but maybe you'll get so much pussy you won't care.

>>18485636
That's not true. I didn't think virginity is a real thing to begin with.

My point is that I'm always horny and I'm beginning to see women as means to an end because it's frustratingly hard to find single women that I can genuinely care about. It goes against a lot of the things I've stood for and it hurts to see me change like this just because I'm horny as fuck.

>>18485605
> But let's be real. I'm not ALWAYS confident. I want to feel free to show women that I care about them when I do. I don't want to see them as a means to an end. I don't want to initiate physical contact from the moment I meet them and follow some game plan. I don't want to lie and come up with bullshit lines to start conversations.
Uh, well, you don't need to be ALWAYS confident & wanting to fuck your GF *and* also have someone relatable as a life partner is nothing special either.

Apart from dating a bunch of women and seeing how it goes there isn't very much you can do, though.

>>18485605
Shit sucks, but that's the way it is.

If you want to fuck random girls, you will have to follow a game plan and fool around with all the courting bullshit.
If you are true to yourself you might fuck some girls every once in a blue moon, but it is possible that you may have more quality relationships this way (there's still no real guarantee though). But still, 4 out of 5 times in any relationship with the opposite sex there will always be these games, even if you don't actually seek them.

>>18485605

I love guys who never fucked around. Please don't ruin yourself by fucking around, please. Not that I can help you personally, Sacramento is a bit far from you and I'm not looking at this time -- but, guys like you are such a huge turn-on and it's so hard to find. I would kill for a guy like you that I connected with, when I am single and looking, I just am not as attracted to guys who have had sex indiscriminately in the past.

>>18485654
If you can travel for a bit, spend a couple weeks in the South. Southern culture is kind of the opposite of that.