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There is a school I really want to go to, that teaches what I really want to do. The whole program costs like 70.000$ and that may not sound like a lot for americans but I'm from a country that doesn't have paypal and I can't make money online. My skills would work online but since my country doesn't have paypal, online competition doesn't work as well because clients prefer people who can do the same with a paypal account

I do work and I do study (not what I want tough) and it's killing me I don't have the money to study what I want (which is something you can't do in my country because I live in the third world)

I feel more sad every passing day, it would be so easy if I was american, but I only make 400$ a month (and that is good money here for someone my age, which is 22. At least as a first job)

What can I do? I feel I'm wasting my life away and as I said. All my skills work better online but my country doesn't even have fucking paypal

Also, I do try to make smaller jobs here and there, but my country's currency is shit


What can I do to not get depressed? I'd really like to have the money to be able to study and I feel really bad because even If I saved everything it would take me more than 20 years to do so and in my country banks only loan if you are going to buy a house

Please don't ask for the country or the currency.

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Quick

Co-worker #1 who I don't really talk with just told me co-worker #2 and her hung out and I was discussed at length in a very smitten kinda way. I was busy at the time and joked it off but now I'm desperately curious.

Text co-worker #1 and ask, or play the long game?

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When, three years ago, I was a little one, 16, my girlfriend at the time and I had pretty great sex, she often orgasmed and was really into it.
(side note: I once finished ten times in a day with her)

My current partner of two years has never responded in the same way and grills me about only giving her smallgasms, I always assured her that she was the best I've had to preserve her feelings. Sadly, she harms my fragile ego, making sarcastic comments about how she's heard that I was good in the sheets before (from girls at one time or another)..
How best proceed?

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Hey adv, just went backpacking and when i came home i saw someone broke into my apartment. They took alot including my pc that I've dumped alot of time and money into. I bought a gaming laptop for work for the meantime but do you guys think Its worth it to start a new build? I've been battling my lack of motivation and I just don't want to make a new one especially if I was already robbed once. Would you guys just stick with the laptop or try to build a new rig?

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I just Office spaced my boss. By that, I mean I just ignored all his phone calls today because I know he wanted me to work this weekend.

This place is horrible and my boss is notorious for telling me to work on my days off at the last second. Last month, I only had 3 days off. this isnt an office job though, its a 12 hour shift outside. What game plan should I have when I go back into work on monday? To give you some context, Im going back to school in a couple of months anyway, for something completely different to this profession and have more than enough money to last me. I went into this field because of the money, but I hate it so much I decided to change careers.

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Background: Just moved into a house with my girlfriend, she moved across the country to be together. Went over to our landlord's house to drop off rent about a week ago and had a nice chat with him, he's about 75 and we're in our early twenties.

Today, the landlord called and invited us over to hang out and have a beer a little after lunchtime. He lives alone, and my girlfriend is in a whole new place, and he's our landlord, so I figured it might be a nice idea to put in some face time and hopefully give my girlfriend an opportunity to get out of the house. We got there and sat down in his living room, talked about weather and the town and other random things, and then about fifteen minutes into us being there he asks "do you guys watch porn?" We both said no, really hoping this wasn't going the direction it was, and he continued on by telling us that he has lots of porn and enjoys watching it when he's around by himself. He gets up and grabs a DVD, and puts in one of those ancient porn collections from like 2003. Suddenly, we're drinking Natural Light and watching tranny porn at 2 in the afternoon with our 75 year old landlord.

I have no idea what to do. I'm worried this has put us in a really weird position with someone we owe money to every month. We didn't leave on bad terms or anything, but we did leave pretty quickly, and he did say we should come over again and watch more some time. Fuck.

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I'm turning 20 in two days and I hate it. I'm doing well at university but otherwise my life has no meaning, I'm still single and I'm not a likeable person.

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I'm graduating in one semester having more or less avoided any opportunities to meet girls or meet new friends in general.

Recently I've started working out, I've started a software dev co-op, and I've tried to carry myself a bit more confidently (so I say but I'm still socially retarded).

Despite a lot of things on my life being on the upswing, it feels like I'm so far behind people in terms of experience, and my overall apathy in past years has left me as someone without very interesting hobbies or activities.

I draw sometimes and have some potential, but I've been so unmotivated and find myself never practicing. As much as I like CS, I almost never program outside of work/school.

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So 5 long years of voluntary unemployment is coming to an end tomorrow. I've finally gotten a job after never having one and am going in at around 10 o clock.

I'm really fucking nervous because one reason I was unemployed was so long was anxiety over working. I'm kind of scared that I'm just going to fuck everything up and get fired after like 3 days.

To give some context I am working at a brisket house and will be in the kitchen. I'm not sure if this means specifically on the grill or what but it's the only place that called me back and seemed desperate enough to hire me. It doesn't really seem like a shitty place to work and the manager I talked to was really nice about everything.

Anyone got advice?

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What job can I get as a recently graduated math major with a low GPA and an otherwise lackluster resume? Any job at all that would cover the following:

1. People will actually be willing to hire me for it
2. Will pay enough for me to live off of

I've calculated my living expenses, including car payments, tuition payments, food costs, gas, insurance, etc, and even when heavily overestimating how much I would spend on things like food and phone plan, it totals out to just above $1000/mo. Rent on top of that would cost me anywhere between $500/mo and $1000/mo depending on the exact area I live and how shitty of a place I'm willing to live in. So I'm looking at needing to earn between $1500/mo and $2000/mo, or between $18,000/yr and $24,000/yr (after taxes, of course).

Finding a job that pays that low of a salary in and of itself isn't that difficult, but what I've been having trouble with is finding a job that pays that kind of salary that's also not afraid to hire a math major. I'm either totally unqualified for even marginally technical jobs because of my shit GPA and lackluster resume, or I'm overqualified just because of my major. These are not assumptions, as I've been applying to jobs for a little over six months now and these are things that I've been repeatedly and explicitly told by everyone I've applied to. I haven't even been able to get basic office assistant, data entry, bank teller, or call center type jobs because of it.

I know that if I want to eventually get a "real" job in my field, I'll have to beef up my resume and/or go to grad school and get a masters (while actually doing well enough to get a good GPA that time), but I desperately need something for the short term while I'm doing that, ideally a job or a set of jobs with which I can fully support myself in the short term.

Any ideas? Would doing something like being a waiter while also supplementing with as many Uber/Wag type gigs as possible help me at all?

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Women of /adv/, can you give me advice?

For my period I use a menstrual cup, with a volume of 30ml. I've filled that up three times today. The blood looks bright red and is such a fucking hassle to deal with, explodes everywhere because it's overfull after two hours.

It fucking sucks. This shit lasts for four days, then tapers off to a reasonable flow for the next six.

What can I do?

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So I used to be a complete /r9k/ type autist but I decided to improve some things in my life and now I'm trying to adjust to actually having friends, social life etc.

I met some people recently, we hang out, had a good time etc. then I texted one of the guys in the group again and we ended up hanging out a few more times.
What concerns me is that I'm the one initiating it every time. How do I know I'm not just being annoying by asking him if he wants to hang out again?

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So i am from the UK but have the opportunity to go to university in America (specifically Depaul University).my mum want me to stay, my dad wants me to go to USA and claims he can pay for it, what is a better choice guys?

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I'm currently at a point of dilemma. Up to this point in my life (heading to university at the end of summer) i've largely pursued a fairly hedonistic and low-effort lifestyle (Fat, playing video games all day, smart-but-lazy meme outlook was luckily countered by an autistic habit of browsing wikipedia for fun and ended up with full ride scholarships out the ass). I always had lots of ideas and aspirations, but never did anything to develop myself in a direction that would allow me to act on them.

Now, in the process of getting these scholarships (interviews, etc.) i've had the good fortune to come across people who actually do the shit they dream up in their spare time. This has made me realize that I need to do shit, too.

Basically, I want to continue normal studies while also becoming a graphic novel creator. Up until now, this second plan has consisted of making partnerships with people who already know how to draw, because i currently fucking suck at it, but have stories and worldbuilding completely planned out. These partnerships are not a great strategy, because working with uncreative-but-talented people tends to also involve working with people as lazy as me who can't keep a schedule, while working with genuine creative artists is difficult because they usually have their own comic to draw in the first place.
Additionally, I consider it important to learn a foreign language (being fluent in a major world language is mandatory for my scholarships anyway, I picked Japanese because i like vowels) and develop personal fitness. I've read that mastering a skill with consistent practice usually takes 7 years; I'm concerned that trying to master multiple skills in the same time frame will cause all of them to develop more slowly, or improperly.

tl;dr if i try to develop multiple unrelated skills at once, will they interfere with one another

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>sitting in a train station in city of London, drinking coffee at 11 pm
>seeing all the attractive people enjoying their lives
>can't even be bothered walking around outside to get the cathartic feeling of seeing Chads and Staceys at bars on a hot Friday night, definitively crushing my daytime delusions that arise due to seeing so many qts who are dressed as Chad bait at night and all have one night stands and 5000 tinder matches
>tfw aged 26, no social life for almost ten years, no female attention ever, only ever done stuff with escorts
>demoralised as fuck, blackpilled as fuck, nihilistic as fuck, see snake oil salesmen, stupid people, and charlatans as far as the eye can see, in all fields
>have no hobbies that have not morphed in to their own sort of work and drudgery (reading books - "Read these classic books", lift weights - am mentally held hostage and have to be tortured by seeing half naked Staceys exercising for Chad, learn programming- "Learn this way or you're dumb!")
>at this point I even procrastinate my hobbies - sitting and drinking coffee and riding the tube while reading on my phone is more enjoyable

What horrific drudgery. What a huge irony that I am the most relaxed at my government job, even though I became the ugly loner beta autist within two days.

And this is me standing at the edge of the Darwinian social game. If I ever talked to anyone or tried to join in, I would be humiliated due to my non chad looks and lack of social capital.

At this point, fuck society, it sees me as a disposable beta male to suck the life out of. I guess seeing people whine about student loans in the news is a great pleasure.