Is it too late to become interesting?

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>>18494777
I mostly just watch shows, play games, and chat in discords/irc in my spare time. I also waste way too much time fapping and have seriously considered doing something about that for both my mental well-being and to have more free time.

Getting back to the point, I'm not really interested in girls into similar nerdy things. Other people into similar shows are typically way more social and have the experience and activities to make them baseline more interesting.

I like a variety of music but the snobs intimidate me because I have breadth and not depth to my tastes; also typically other people very into music either play an instrument or regularly attend concerts.

Just generally speaking I feel like there's this huge gap between me and most other people, as if in my mind I just really couldn't keep up with the lives of people that are traveling, bar crawling, doing lots of shit with their lives, and having aspirations no matter how inane.

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I think you need to do some introspection and find out what it is that really makes you want to get up in the morning.

Maybe you always wanted to learn a language or maybe you always wanted to go traveling etc.

Start actually doing things you've always wanted to try. Once you find the thing that excites you, you will become "interesting".

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I genuinely want someone more outgoing and experienced, but if someone has that experience why would they ever want to be with someone who honestly couldn't keep up with them?

I understand the short form solution is just to suck it up, start giving my hobbies proper attention (or find new ones), and take baby steps towards faking my ability to participate in social contexts.

I guess I just want an idea of what steps I need to take to at least seem interesting beyond a promise that I'll probably have a decent wage in the future. Confidence is probably a major player here too, and it'd be nice to have more of that but it's mostly just not in my character and I don't want to be dishonest about who I am.

I've also got issues like not being able to really ever picture myself in a relationship and the fact that I'm emotionally distant with most people and pretty afraid of hurting people I'm close to. Stuff like that.

Don't you have hackathons where you live?

I've been to 4 this year. Met some people who were fun.

Join the writing society, ours is more of a social group rather than a strict must write group.

Tabletop/DND is also very easy to make friends with.