Hey /adv/. I'm at the first major crossroad in my life: deciding on further education.
TL;DR: should I do a trade job, or go to university and try for the job I've always wanted? I'm in Canada, so I'll have the money to do either option.
My feelings: If I go to university, I'll be doing something like political science/foreign relations, and my goal would be to work with the Government of Canada in the Ministry of Foreign Affairs. I've been working for the government in minimum wage jobs and volunteer positions for a long time, and I absolutely love it. But this is a long, hard road, with no guarantee of success.
If I do a trade job, it would either be mechanic or electrician. I'm already okay at these things, and it's fairly interesting work. I also love the idea of potentially owning my own business, doing contract work, always being in demand, being able to use my skills to help me in my own life, etc.
My short term/long term financial goals are the obvious: I want to buy a house at some point, keep my mom our of a care home, buy a decent car, save for my retirement, have a family, continue being able to do my hobbies, travel once in a while, etc. My ultimate goal is financial independence; I don't want to be like my family before me who had to work everyday until they died to keep their family afloat... but I'm extremely good with money, so I'm sure no matter what I do I'm sure I'll be "fine" financially.
So yeah, I'm lost. I know in the end it will all work out, but I'm also scared about being unhappy with life as I live it, waiting for retirement to roll around... I'm also worried about wasting time, having to go back and do things like school again, because I've already wasted a few years since highschool in this limbo. Any advice you have, or personal experiences, other ideas for work or schooling, or anything really, helps a lot. Thank you anons.
Hello /adv/
Made tinder a while back, not geting much luck. Got five diverse pictures, including with animals.
Anyone got any tips how too up my game? What to put in the bio, what kind of pictures do I put up? How do you contact girl when you are matched with them?
24/M/193/would say 8/10
>>18494376
When you do match, try to start up the convo by asking about things on their bio and be friendly. Don't start off by asking for sex.
>>18494922
Being friendly never worked for me. I usually start with a half-cocky joke to poke a bit of fun at her. If she has nothing on her profile I'll ask her what she has going for her besides her looks. If she has interesting pictures or has written something interesting about herself I'll joke about that.
Have gotten 4 dates recently this way.
Found a job on craigslist. Basically id be a perfect fit as i have previous work experience in the field. I emailed the guy with my info and why id be a good fit - he emailed me back shortly after saying everything sounds great, and that he was going to call me at around 2 oclock to discuss the job with me because he was currently busy and that to expect a phonecall from him then. He also said he was looking forward to speaking with me. Responded affirmative to him and that ill have my phone ready. Pretty to the point stuff.
Well its been 3 hours and he never called me. Skipped going to the gym with my thumb up my ass waiting for this dude. What gives? Do i email him again asking whats up? Or do i just keep waiting and maybe email him again tomorrow?
Inb4 find a different job - im already working and will be going to school in the fall again and this job pays awesome, has perfect hours for my schedule, is full time and something i have years of experience in. Opinions welcome on how i proceed from here, thanks.
>pic related how i feel right now
Bumping, could use some opinions
Pls respond
What're some relatively tame ways to have someone show penance for a trust breaking action?
Can you be more specific
My GF was disloyal to a minor extent, what are some decent ways for her to atone?
How was she disloyal? And she is under no obligation to atone for amything. You can always leave her though if you don't like what she does. You control yourself, not other people.
Is ghosting really immature?
I just dont feel like calling her or anything. Just got fed up with non stop drama and feeling like dancing on a minefield.
She wasnt bad person per se but constant neediness and demands just drove me off.
So I ghost her. I think of her everyday just dont want to talk with her if all I will get is more drama.
Am I bad or childish?
>>18494358
Ghosting is more mature than getting involved in drama and arguments. Sometimes there is no other choice.
If you do have another choice though you should be talking with her about it.
>>18494358
What sort of drama?
>>18494380
ie our last talk, last week on thuesday:
She was supposed to come over my place after visit at her dad's. 11.00 and she still isnt here so I called her 2 times, no response. I was really worried. Then she calls that the visit at dads turned to a spontaneus party and she will stay longer. I reminded her (and I stress REMINDED as she knew perfectly that I get up really early) that I have work tommorow. She asked then If she should go home then I replied that she should. Then I heard her sobbing on phone and telling me that sucks that I dont care and dont want to see her. I just said that I will talk to her tommorow and Im going to sleep now.
This was our last real talk (called her on saturday and had robotic chat for 1 min - "how are you" "have a good day" something like that)
I've recently graduated from the University of Khartoum (the most reputable university in the country) with a BSc in Mechanical Engineering (second class div. I).
>I'm interested in thermofluids (energetics, energy, propulsion and CFD), control engineering (modeling and testing unstable dynamics via LQR, FLC, and etc.)
>I don't have money
>I want to pursue a MSc degree outside of the [shithole] continent, preferably in Europe, USA, Canada, Australia or Newzealand.
What are my options? What are the job prospects in research or R&D?
>pls respond
>>18494355
Bump
>>18494355
Not bad, honestly. CFD is a big deal in basically any subset of what you're wanting to do, and aerospace sounds like a good field. That being said, it's probably gonna be hard to deal with ITAR restrictions.
I don't know shit about engineering or its research prospects. But I know some universities will pay you a stipend for either masters or doctoral work. You can just lurk around some universities that interest you and see if their engineering department caters to your research prospects.
Hi, /sci/. Need your advice. So I have the intention of getting the degree in computational/mathematical linguistics after immigrating to Czech Republic (I'm eastern slav). Is this a good idea in terms of getting a job and consequently money? Or there are significant risks of becoming a useless nerd with a diploma and no money whatsoever?
>>18494351
Dude there are so many jobs here for people like you since 95% of the unifags go to social studies, go for it. Good luck.
>>18494352
Thanks for the advice. Btw are you somehow connected to math linguistics? Or you said it just because it sounds technical? If first is true I'd like to ask you a couple of questions on the topic.
Hey /Adv/ i generally dont post anywhere but im having a horrible time right now and i dont know where else to turn. Let me explain;
>Be 19
>Currently homeless living with family of 4 in a small one room hotel
>Cant find a job because homeless and no car
>Only car we have my father uses for his shitty paying retail job
>Mother has to stay in the hotel with my special needs brother
>Can't start college like i was planning too because i had to use the funds i saved to help pay for the hotel room every week
>Can't move out on my own or with friends because i dont have a job and unable to pay rent
>Family is losing money rapidly because no one will sell or rent us a place to live in our price range (1200 a month)
I have no idea what to do /Adv/ im afraid we are going to be on the street soon which wouldnt be the first time but especially with my brother i dont want to have that happen. What can i do to get money fast or get out of this situation Adv?
pic also unrelated
I was a person with a "strong spirit," and the kind of person who always believed things would get better. Because I suffered from mental illness from a young age, I was better at dealing with problems, and more mature, than other people. I thought that my suffering made me stronger, and that I would make it. Fast forward, and I'm 29-years-old, and I'm the opposite of that now. I'm more beaten than anyone else, and the slightest thing throws me emotionally off balance. I've lost all my will to fight. I can't even stand up to small challenges anymore. Still fighting the same demons as always, and I've gotten better at that, but worse at handing normal life. Just wanted to hear other people relate and commiserate, if possible.
>>18494343
Hi OP, I can relate.
Life has ups and downs, I like to think I'm getting better at being a decent human being. I fear eventually I'll have one mood swing too many and end myself but until then I'll take what I can get.
I like the idea of kintsugi : being broken isn't the end, getting fixed up is the start of a new cycle. How you broke and recovered is part of your history and what makes you unique.
I think i'm depressed, i always want to cry and have a very cynical outlook on life. What should i do? PS: No therpy shit, doesn't work and is a waste of money.
>>18494341
Try mindfulness meditation
Hang around high spirited people. And don't just try to fit in. Let it happen naturally
Okay, heres the deal, my life is pretty fucking sweet right now, and mean its not but I have plans that makes whats going on right now worth enduring, anyway what I want advice on his how not to be a fucking retard and get into a relationship with someone, right now I am of clear mind in my room typing this but I know this girl who is very pretty and is also cool, I came pretty close to asking her out today, now I know the likely hood is I'd get rejected but if she accepted and we got into a relationship it could fuck up all my plans for the future and make me miserable in the long run.
So I want advice on how to stop that, how to
not do something dumb when the feeling takes me.
I need to kill someone so I can finally die too. The thing is that I want to something even harder, I want to leave that person handicapped for life, but I can't even do the former.
You're not doing shit sperglord
>>18494318
why is that a prerequisite of you dying?
>>18494326
Justice.
I'm trying to decide if I should do one. For the past two years of my life I've thought it was what I wanted. Now I've finished my undergraduate degree, I've just kind of... stopped caring about it as much.
Half of me wants to get a job and just enjoy my free time, and half of me wants to do the master's – the thing I've told everyone I want to do.
But preparing for it is making me want to kill myself. Literally researching whether my local river, if jumped into, would kill me.
>Should I do this thing I do not want to do
no
You can go back later if you change your mind.
>>18494306
I don't know if I don't want to do it though. I wanted to much to do it before, when I was around other people in academia. Now I'm not, I've lost my drive. What if I would find my drive again once I was immersed in it?
uuuguhughhhhh i'm crippled with indecision
i just wanna stop stressing to the point that i want to die
Hey /Adv/ i generally dont post anywhere but im having a horrible time right now and i dont know where else to turn. Let me explain;
>Be 19
>Currently homeless living with family of 4 in a small one room hotel
>Cant find a job because homeless and no car
>Only car we have my father uses for his shitty paying retail job
>Mother has to stay in the hotel with my special needs brother
>Can't start college like i was planning too because i had to use the funds i saved to help pay for the hotel room every week
>Can't move out on my own or with friends because i dont have a job and unable to pay rent
>Family is losing money rapidly because no one will sell or rent us a place to live in our price range (1200 a month)
I have no idea what to do /Adv/ im afraid we are going to be on the street soon which wouldnt be the first time but especially with my brother i dont want to have that happen. What can i do to get money fast or get out of this situation Adv?
pic also unrelated
How do I get good pictures to use in Tinder and similar apps/websites with the intention of getting dates with girls?
My group of friends doesn't do pictures at all and I'm not a big fan of them either, even when travelling. I only have a selfie of which I'm proud of that I use, but then I don't know what else to use.
I'm a bit unfit with bad posture so I cringe a lot when I see full body postures. I'm in the process for getting fitter, but until then, what kind of pictures should try to get to increase my chances?
I'm 22, white European, tall and will be studying in S. Korea (speak the language decently) starting next month and mainly interested in getting local girls there, in case that makes any difference in what pics I should take.
>with bad posture
okay well step one is to stand up straight
Well one thing I know about foreign girls is they love things they haven't seen before so what ever country you come from mabey introduce them to your culture?
>>18494276
yeah I know, doing exercises to fix it
>>18494277
was thinking about that, guess I will need to find some way to make a good pic with some cliche of my country they might know