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>>18548572
You look so fucking ugly my screen broke and I feel embarrassed for those who have to see you.

>>18548572

not really. the problem with sexual based control is that when a girl (or even a guy) isn't horny, they suddenly lose interest.

its the kind of thing they think about when horny but to honestly go through with that in real life is contradictory to their entire existence.

I've been a dom for years and met maybe one girl who seemed to maybe be interested in this, but she had major psychological issues, im talking weekly therapy sessions that cut into our play time.

you can find girls who might be intersted in a weekend long role play of sorts, but not really into a long term quasi permanent change.

>>18548572
They have specialized dating sites for kink/fetish relationships like that

>200k in debt
>just to fucking teach
>80k salary

Holy shit dont do it, you will never get rid of that debt. If you really want to teach then get your masters in a way cheaper school somewhere else in the country.

>>18548443

ehhh from what I have seen most acting teachers / professors will only get hired if they were a one hit wonder, by which i mean they needed to appear in some film or tv show of some notoriety to be anything more than a shitty improv class teacher.

>>18548443
It's graduate school, go find yourself some grant money or something jesus christ. im all for following your dreams but be practical about it. i go to school in nyc too and while there isn't much you can do about the cost of living you can bring down how much student debt you accumulate

Like I told the guy with an English degree, you need to be looking for jobs that require your specific skills, rather than your major. IR is one of those 'soft' majors that really don't translate to a particular job, so you need to step out of that "I have an IR degree" mindset and into a "I have these skills" mindset.

Other than that, think about what you want to do. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? What is your ideal job? How can you make that happen? You're 24, you're at a point where you should have SOME idea of where you want your life to go.

>>18548382
Move to America and get some job in the South where need to talk to Mexicans a lot.

Or give up and join the military like I did. They love college kids who speak multiple languages

>>18549715
Aren't there plenty of chicanos who speak both languages perfectly?

I'm 99% I wouldn't be accepted into the army for medical reasons, at least definitely not the British army.

>>18547993
You're a jerk. Appreciate what you have, because you'll never get anything that good again.

no matter how hot your GF is, there will always be hotter women, and even if you dated or slept with those, there will be still others

>>18547993

I think it's OK to be attracted to other women and have these thoughts. What is important is what you do about it.
You should know that these kind of thoughts most likely stem from your own insecurities and you should find the root of that by seeing a therapist.

4. A few of my friends tried to tell me to leave him, but since I was blind with love at the time; I kept denying it. Well my ex found out (thru reading the texts on my phone) and for a whole month he kept telling me to leave them. It eventually got to the point where he gave me the ultimatum by telling me "you either drop those friends right now or you lose me and possibly your reputation." You know what happens next after that.
5. Throughout all those times, even after we became friends after we broke up, he kept putting me down. He kept calling me a retard (coz I'm on SSI due to my Aspergers and the fact that I was in special ed since kindergarten), moron, freak, weird, ignorant, whore, bitch, and a lot more. He also told me that I will never marry anyone and have any kids, that I'm only good for sex and not for anything else. He even told me he hopes I get beat up one day.
6. Every time we went out on a date, I had to pay for myself and help pay for gas and sometimes for his food. He claimed that he was broke and didn't have enough money to pay for gas and food. Throughout the duration of the relationship, he only paid for me around 4 times in total. Yeah he was a leacher, he even had his friends pay for his gas and food too.
7. He cheated on me with another girl while he was on vacation to Los Angeles and lied to me about it. I didn't find out about it until a few months after we broke up and it was because he told me. Even before he went to LA with a band mate of his (yea he had a band before he created a YouTube channel, but they all one by one left him- I wonder why) the merch girl was invited and was going to sleep in the same bed as him and his friend (before she cancelled out due to work). He probably cheated on me other times too but I don't know for sure. He said he was loyal the entire time and I even read his Facebook messages that didn't show any notable signs of him cheating, but I did notice he was flirty with a lot of the girls he talked to.

8. He took me to a house party at some guy's place even after I told him I was uncomfortable being there bcoz there were people there I didn't like. They gave me dirty looks when they saw me, thankfully nothing happened. They told him afterwards thru text that I was weird and why did he bother bringing me with him there. He just laughed and said he agreed.
9. He always defends his fellow classmates who bully me and ostracize me from every activity. No matter what I told him, he always made up an excuse to try to justify their actions. I'm socially awkward and don't know how to converse with people that well and all he kept telling me was to "stop being a pussy, talk to people and deal with it."
10. He got his best friend (who's a girl and didn't even go to our college) to spread rumors about me to almost everyone in the music club (the club we went to), thus ruining my reputation in the process. Everyone thought I was weird at that point and avoided me afterwards. And there were also a few other girls who were friends of his that helped out in defaming me too. I almost dropped out of college due to it.

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>>18547308
>I will list all the horrible things he has done to me
for what purpose

>>18546841
Just tell the truth and stick with it. That's literally the simplest advice anyone can ever give you. Don't worry about no one believing you. Don't let yourself get caught up in the system. You're in the right here. Own it.

Lawyer the fuck up NOW. Luckily you stopped at mcdonalds and walmart and therefore you are on camera at those locations. Get a lawyer NOW, and explain every single fucking detail. They will know how to handle this. Likely you will get charged for stealing the car, but since there will be video evidence of you driving the car with your "friends", it will be proof that their statements are bullshit. They will go to jail for making false statements.

Shits gonna get real dude. The gears are already turning and there is nothing you can do to avoid this shitstorm. GET A LAWYER, TOMORROW, and you will come out on top. You cant just talk your way out of this. Get a lawyer.

Again you should be ok in the end, itd going to be a rough fucking ride. But your lawyer should be able to produce evidence you did not steal the car. Fck those dudes, they fucked you in the ass. Let them reap what they fucking sow. Youre not a rat, you are defending your fucking self in court.

>>18546858
Alright. I'm having my mom get in contact with our attorney in the morning. My heads spinning so much right now i didnt think of him

>>18546215
5'11" honestly isn't that bad, right on the edge of manlet tier. 6.5 is pretty average for dick as well. Have hope though, my dick didn't start really getting bigger till I was 20. Also most students will have money problems, that's life.

>>18546215
get over yer damn self image issues nibber

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>>18546226
how?

My plan was to look out when she was coming, I have about 2 minutes to get a boner, unlock the doors, lay down on my bed, put headphones in ears so I can pretend I didn't hear her, and jerk off and let her catch me, if anyone has any better plan I would like to hear it.

What is it you're trying to accomplish?

>>18545748
Whatever it may lead to, preferably sex

>>18549838
Haven't you learned how to act differently when in real life than when you're on the web? You should've learned the times when you should meme and you don't. 7th through 9th grade is when I thought anime love stories were just like real life. Y'know, you look at a girl and then you wait til she looks at you and you look away quickly showing her that you're embarrassed or whatever. Shit like that. I grew out of it because I realized that they were two different things, internet and real life. You should've learned that by now. There's not much you can do, you cant just flip a switch. Just tell your friends what you said here, let them know that you don't enjoy being an edge lord irl.

>>18549838
Just make more of an effort to be conscious of the feelings/comfort level of the people around you, and try not to upset them unless you're actually accomplishing something. Treat people the way you want to be treated, you know?

>>18549860
>>18549866
Thanks.

How do you guys feel about my issue with spending money on friends? Is there a better way to be willing to pay for people and seem less condescending? I usually make a really conscious effort to not act like an asshole or anything when I suggest I pay/help pay for something.

>>18549695
The withdrawl is kinda bad but for some reason easier than it was when I tried to quit smoking tobacco.

Just stop buying vape juice and hide your vape, it's gonna take some willpower but you can do it.

>>18549695
Here's an idea: Start vaping at a lower nicotine level. I was on 3mg, and just stopped cold turkey. It was about as unpleasant as not having my morning coffee.

>>18549711
I did recently move down to 3 mg and I even bought 0 mg juice for my next step.

It's less of the nicotine and more of just the vape habit of itself for me.

1)A lot, for a long ass time so.
2)Can't help ya there, I never drive and I never stay completely sober
3)Since you managed to stay at a bar and don't drink it seems boredom and staying at home are your biggest problems. Make yourself busy.
4)If you keep eating sugary carbs, not really, sugar works like that.
5)It is possible, but it's best to quit drinking for a while entirely.

>>18549684
>3)
good advice, thanks dude, I think you're right. sometimes I'd blow people off just so I could go home and be alone and drink and play video games and shit. so, yeah, I should avoid being home alone all the time I guess, even though I love being home alone.

I'm proud of you OP. You've got this

Who did you leave in the care of your cat?
>We just left it alone without care for 3 days/it's an "outdoor cat"
You're a terrible pet owner and probably don't deserve a cat. Take it to the vet and hope for the best, you asked for something like this to happen

>We left it in so and so's care.
Ask what gives, if they give you a weird and/or sketchy story press charges for animal cruelty. Also take to the vet immediately and hope for the best.

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>>18549651
Where are you from? We have an electronic chip-locked catdoor and our cat comes and goes as it wants.
We have someone to come to our house to feed it every week when we are away. Are you supposed to lock the cat up when you're gone?

>>18549670
You are never supposed to let your cat roam unsupervised moron. They could get hit by a car, into fights with other animals, stolen to be used as dog fighting bait, stolen by teenagers to get fire crackers shoved up its ass, etc.

This is probably what happened. Some sadistic fuck saw your cat, chopped it's tail off for shits and grins, and left it to die. Because you can't be assed enough to take care of your cat and keep an eye on it.

>>18549478
Absolutely. Though they're not exactly the same thing, it's like how you can hear in a persons voice that they smoke.

>>18549511
What does it sound like compared to smokers? Is it irreversible?

>>18549522
Smokers voice is irreversible so yes, so is this. Bulimia has pretty much only has down sides.

I'm a long term Paxil user. I've also had periods where I've been on a large dosage. However, what you can do in the short term is viagra. In the long term, your dick will come back. I wake up everyday now with morning wood. Hang in there.

>>18549490
like how long are we talking here?

Also does the feeling of people being figments of your imagination go away or the feeling of no attachment go away?

>>18549512
>>18549512
You're talking awhile. Everybody is different. I can't remember exactly how long but probably a year or so.
The feeling of people being a figment of your imagination I never had.
The feeling of no attachment subsides. It was like that for awhile, but I still feel attached to people I love. The biggest thing for me was I literally don't give a shit about much of anything. The only thing I struggle with is while I'm not really depressed any more I never feel super excited either. I am more even keeled.

never fap when someone has easy access to your room

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Life is unfair but it doesn't owe you anything

Sometimes you have to do something even if you don't want to

Before growth there must first come destruction

Etc.

Just try harder even though it's difficult and you will eventually see results. That and it will become easier but you should always strive to improve yourself and push your limits. Start small and work your way up to bigger and better things, something along those lines.

CONFIDENCE, BRO!
yes, this was totally the best fucking advice i've ever had. not like it was drilled to me all my life when the reality is that i got enough of that shit. totally not like i needed a hand or some actual advice or whatever as i move into a new setting. no, no, trust me bro, best fucking advice in the world.

just b urself is also a dead 2nd as i've always been myself. i've just been by myself this whole time, hahahahahaha.

next person that tells me shit similar to this will get a fucking fist up their ass tbqhwy. not gonna be so confident when i'm drilling my fucking finger straight into your upper intestine, now, hmm?

really, i never got advice, obviously, i just did shit because i literally had to.