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>>18551499
You are never going to be more thank a fucktoy. Understand that fully right now and you'll be fine to proceed.

As far as not fucking it up, don't act your age. Don't talk to her about your gay hobbies or video games or anything else that is only attractive to people your age. Talk to her about her. Make her feel beautiful all the time, as attractive older women are most insecure about looking and feeling beautiful. Don't try to "be" with her outside of the bedroom. You're going to fuck up if you try to take things further than just sex, because you'll find you have more time/chances to out yourself as a manchild compared to men her age.

>>18551509

All noted. This all just feels a bit surreal I guess.. I'm 23 to her 40. Randomly started conversation with this woman when out and about and she offered her number + a kiss. How straight forward older women are to girls my age is so refreshing.

>>18551499
She is twice your age. Nothing you will do or say will catch her off guard. She lived through it all already. And if she wants to fuck you, nothing will stop her.

All you need to do is to be patient, chat her up and surrender your young body to her use as she see fit.

just be sad about it for like a year and you'll get bored of it eventually

>>18551339
Seems like that's ho it usually happens. What if it doesn't though? It's only been ~2 months

She's not special, she's a flawed useless shit like everyone else. There's nothing extraordinary about her, it's just yourself mentally masturbating to the idea. She's just like everyone else.

>>18551134
You want a "motherly" gf that you can dominate?
Kind of sounds like an oxymoron to me.

>>18551138
Not dominate, just take the lead.

>>18551144
What do you mean by "take the lead"?

You just have a resting bitchface and you need to learn how to be okay with it. The thing is, if you don't see yourself smile often it might just look weird to you. Not to anyone else, just you. I would avoid fake smiling at people. For people who aren't comfortable in their own skin, it will just look bad. The only way to fix this is to actually be happy. Then you will naturally look friendly and your smiles will be genuine and normal looking. Being happy should be a general goal of yours anyway.

>>18551143
So I`m just not happy enough?

Practice smiling in the mirror and when you find one that makes your features more positive, keep training it daily until it becomes natural to you. Don't worry, I have the same problem, I have this very hardened and mean guy face, but inside I'm a giant fucking mushball of love.

Are you male? You sound male.

First things first: get a male therapist. Don't let some stupid cunt following a script give you pills. Find a therapist who is a man and who does not try to medicate you away. Never, ever see a female therapist.

Second, go for PA (physician assistant) instead of nurse. You'll help people more and clean up less shit, puke, and blood.

Third, everyone in communications is wasting time. That used to be what the football players majored in, because they were too stupid to do anything else. Then the SJW faculty took it over, because they were English majors and too dumb to get a job in any other field. Comms is the perfect storm of idiocy: avoid it at all costs.

>>18551097

I'm going to give you a piece of advice that I wish I knew when I was younger. The key to being happy is finding a happy medium between making decisions that make you happy and decisions that are smart. Yes, nursing will always get you a job somewhere, but if you hate it or the classes, why do it? Find a college program that you enjoy and is actually viable to make you some money later.

>>18551118
Yes im a dude
Theres only one decent college in my city and it doesnt offer that, also im already a year in nursing and masscom so if i switch to a third course not only will it look bad on transcript it will set me back yet another year, and i dont want to be delayed 3 years


The biggest reason i chose mass communications is because its an everything course, my uncle was in mass communications and hes a judge, the other mass com grad i know is my surgeon fathers colleague.
it had a whole load of things i was interested in. But the biggest thing is i did not have intention to get a job immediately. My parents are fairly well off but boy does the guilt feel heavy.

the therapist referred me to a psychologist. Im havent met em yet so i dont know if hes a guy or not.

Just go cold for a few days and see if she brings up the topic.

>>18550965
Seems she's being very childish; what was the actual reason she left?

Girls do things like this all the time for no reason. Forget about her and move on. If she likes you she will get in contact with you.

>>18550924
You don't have to change anything at all about the way you live your life, you're just attracted to both. It's really not a big deal.

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>>18550924
Enjoy being bi? Where is the problem?

>>18550936
I mean you're basically right. It's just the part about other people knowing and the way I'll be viewed. I set myself up on social media and irl to not really care so much about what others think but when it comes to this it's different. Take it one day at a time i guess?

>>18550910
I went through the exact same situation, except my ex wasn't a virgin and we were together for a very short time so didn't have the opportunity to have sex.

I felt deeply hurt when he left me and the next 3 months he didn't talk to me at all and I thought he hated me and we would never get back together. After 4 months since the breakup I decided to sleep with some guy I met. It probably sounds stupid, but I figured, might as well lose my virginity to someone I don't care, so when he leaves me too it won't hurt.

Her sleeping with someone else doesn't mean she doesn't care about you, or doesn't respect you. You dumped her, what was she supposed to do? She can't have known whether you'd ever come back to her or not. I understand you feel horrible, that's normal, but you let her go and these are the consequences. If you can't handle it still then there will always be a feeling of resentment on your side and the relationship won't work out again

How long were you together and why did you guys not have sex? Just nervous or?

>>18550910
Whoops, your bad. It wouldn't have happened if you weren't such a punk and stayed with her in the first place. Breaking up with someone because you don't want them to worry seems counter to everything I understand about relationships. Too bad you're so retarded but she didn't do anything wrong and it's entirely on you.

Nothing to be mad at her about as far as I can see.

You won't be able to get past it. It'll always be at the back of your head. Unless you go out and have sex with other girls to even things out. That's the reality kiddo. I am speaking from experience.

>>18550907
unfortunately they like handsome young men not boys

>>18550907
They're still attracted to the same type of guy they were attracted to at your age. They're spinsters because they won't settle for less than that despite not being worth as much.

What I'm trying to say is you'll have no luck with them either.

>Surely

Stop right there. Stop right fucking there.

Imagine.

A boytoy is in a presence of humiliation. So since you're at rock-fucking-bottom, what's left to take from you? You embarrass yourself; she doesn't even need to.

>>18550851
Look up "the doctors opinion" and read it. If you relate to it, I'd suggest trying an AA meeting.

>>18550851
Alcohol is hard drug. And once you reach certain threshold, there is no turning back. You cant cure alcoholism ever.

You can only avoid alcohol for the rest of your life unless you want to return to the place where you were before.

Good luck!

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Look up the book, the Naked Mind, on google.

I read it, and haven't touched a drink in a month, and this is coming from someone who was drinking everyday in college.

Cheers

>>18550830

do you like him?

>>18550830

It depends what you're looking for in a partner. If they don't have all that stuff it also probably means they don't have any debt either, at least not a sizeable sum.
Some people just aren't as driven by money as others.

>>18550833
Yes
>>18550836
Well I am looking for something steady and a long future ahead. I don't know if one with a free life style would be able to start a whole new level of their lives

self bump

Maybe he's just emotionally immature and needs time to come around, but he sounds like he needs to sort his shit out

>>18550815
In your situation, it might be good idea to try one more time. What is his version of the situation, though?

>>18550782
Just ask him if it's over. It probably is, and that's going to hurt, but I have faith that you'll rip this off like a bandaid OP.

Get used bitch he only wanted you for sex

>>18550782
I am sorry femanon, but you cant always have what you want.

He probably failed his classes and since you didnt, he feel inadequate around you and broke off. A lot of boys cant stand more successful girls than them. It robs us of the masculinity feeling.

Or he simply found somebody better than you or realized he wants to be single.

Pet your cute kittens, lie down and cry. And never allow him to return back to you. Have some self respect, stay single for few months and then hopefully get better bf.

It means you have low testosterone levels.

You probably have a weak frame, can't grow a beard, don't masturbate daily, have a beta personality, little muscle mass, etc.

>>18550779
None of those really apply. Arguably beta and muscle mass, but I don't really work out.

>>18550788
Are you a manlet? If so that might be why.

Reroll

I am short(5'6)
Small dick(5")
And I'm like a 6.5/10 imo

Yet, I am married.
Just keep trying bro.

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>>18550667
>marriage = happiness
AHAHAHAHAHA HOLY SHIT ANON, YOU CAN'T POSSIBLY BE SERIOUS, CAN YOU?