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>What am I lacking?

Perspective. Girls are just other humans. With tiddy and vagoo for the fun times. All humans can be equally shitty, or not-shitty.

There was one crucial trick I learned that helped me become not-shit at dealing with girls and that was to treat them exactly-the-fucking-same as I treat dudes. Let me tell you, it works. And since you make male friends you clearly have redeeming qualities, so worry less.

Go in, talk to them, chat about shit. Who cares. If a guy doesn't wanna be around you, do you get all broken up about it? Do you stare at your screen wondering where you went wrong? Do you re-re-re-re-reread your last text to him, thinking, "If only I'd done it differently!"??

There's literally nothing different about girls that isn't self-imposed. It will become different when you two agree to date; not before.

Most of the girls I've talked to cite that they enjoy that I don't treat them differently or like they're some delicate thing. I treat 'em like I treat everyone, equally brusque, and they're always into it.

I'll be your friend anon.

>>18546458
Yeah perspective might be a part of it. I've always had problems with puttting the pussy on a pedestal since my early high school years, some of that attitude is probably what's fucking me over. I'll try to focus on treating girls as if they were guys like you said, that should help.

Although the reason why it's so easy to make dude friends is because we often have common "dude" interests. We can talk about yesterday's soccer game, or some hot chick, or go play some normie vidya together. I never really know what to talk about with girls except class-related stuff or basically gossiping about other people.

>>18546430
Sounds like you're both young. Ask her to hang out at your house. Or hers if it's better. Watch a movie with no one else around. Make out with her. Go slow but take it as far as she lets you (sounds like you're both pretty innocent, so don't be surprised if she wants to wait.) Have condoms just in case.

There's no way to know for sure if she likes you, but girls usually play their cards close to their chest and don't show unambiguous interest until you do. If she is hanging out with you one on one and kissing you on the cheek, that's a great sign.

>>18546449
Thanks. Well we aren't that young, we are in our early 20's. I guess the whole innocent stuff comes from the church environment though, you must be right.

>>18546430
when she said she doesn't meet a guy dressed like that she was just telling you she cleans up nice because she likes you. probably doesn't even remember saying it.

you guys are going to have so many mormon babies

>>18546407
Don't do it. Make friends with people you work with though, because they can introduce you to their friends.

>>18546407
Avoid it at all costs if possible, but if you must date them do not date them if they manage you or you manage them unless you want to sink your career.

>>18546407

Make friends at work; get comfortable with them and them comfortable with you; get invited to their gatherings; meet their friends; date their friends.

Dating at work isn't a no-no explicitly, but some real talk pointers:

>Most companies will basically fire for superior/inferior relations (fuckin' your manager for instance, or fuckin' your interns).
>In general, relations between employees tend to be treated with deliberated separations so that there aren't conflicts of interest.
>If you're the new kid you'll run the risk of being outed for failing a relationship; if they're the new kid you'll run the risk of scaring someone out of the company, knowing people nowadays.
>Try to realize that some people are very work-oriented and might not spend their time with that kind of thing at work. Someone can be very different between work and personal lives.

I'm not saying 'don't,' I'm saying 'you shouldn't.' There are easier ways.

What the fuck are you on about

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Just tell them that it is 2017, don't judge, they can't judge and to get over it! Then show them /b with a simple explanation of how it works and if they don't understand after some lurking then fuck'em, intolerant degenerates.

Own it, nigga. If anyone asks me if I'd fuck a dude, I say, "Sure, if they're pretty enough." Then if they ask if I'd fuck a chick, I'd say the same thing. Hell, I'll go for one of those Thai ladyboys.

Listen, OP, I want you to grab your nuts like you did in the first bit of your post. Repeat after me:

"Honestly, you probably care more than I do. If I think someone's fuckable, there's a good chance I'd fuck 'em."

But I've been selling total self-depravity for years, so it comes easy to me. You might be a bit more proper than I am.

You could also ask your friends why they're so concerned, ask if they're sizing up their options, and start a slow-walk toward them, one foot in front of the other (ever wonder how women sway their hips?).

Honestly, though, why do you care? Is it really not simple? You fuck what you find fuckable... What's not simple about this? I regularly discuss traps with a buddy of mine, who has a lovely girlfriend, and I've got a long history of dramatic relationships with females.

But we still talk about smashin' boipussi, so whatup with you? Own it or don't, but don't pretend you're invested in this part of yourself and then wuss out when people call it.

Ever seen Game of Thrones? First-fucking-episode, the baddest ass of characters from it-- Tyrion Lannister, played by Peter Dinklage-- issues this single quote to the bastard child of a lord, who takes offense to being called 'bastard.'

Noting this, he tells him he meant no offense, and proceeds with the following sage advice you would do extremely well to commit to your memory:

"Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you."

Remember that. You're the one enabling negative viewpoints on it.

Your relationship doesn't seem too strong to begin with if you're going to end it over some petty shit like this desu senpai. If it was you would work it out.

>>18546348
You sound like a scumbag but on the chance that you're a decent person..
Why you upset over this? If you wanna get back with her then do so, but if you're still angry go pick up your shit and leave.

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Fucking seriously? Grow up, dude! Its some nipple piercings. If you wanted to be there that bad and she did it anyways. Just make her let you put in the next ones once these have healed. Or if you really don't care about her enough to not talk to her for a day and call her a bitch for reacting then move on you child. Go be single travel and mature for a while.

Also kill yourself!

>>18546325
Well duh, you will of course be single if you never ask girls out. You should ask girls out

>>18546325
umm do you concern about it?

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Neeeeh, you should probably just kill yourself.

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>>18546284
In my dream, wether you believe me or not. I got Low tier god to convert to islam.
It was weird, so weird.

>>18546284
I'd like to think they are related to your desires.

Dreams are how your brain organizes memories. It takes things that you have thought or seen or heard recently and free-associates them with older memories. The act of pulling up these older memories brings them up in your dreams.

Also, the portion of your brain that controls reason and logic is offline during your dreams. So yes, it's normal for them to not make sense.

>>18546259
If your gf doesn't know, OBVIOUSLY it is dickhead

Might as well become a trap, mate.

It's not cheating if you're just hanging out as friends. If you're going for anything more then it's obviously cheating.

Murder-suicide is the only option.

If she's still flirting with you while having a boyfriend then she might be trying to have an affair with you. Your co-workers sound like they don't fully know the situation, and even if they did why would they support her dating both you and her current boyfriend?

>>18546289
I mean I have a FWB at the moment so I'm not really in for the whole affair angle otherwise I would've just went for it. They know pretty much all of it, they were there in the middle of it happening plus I confided in them some shit about it; theyre not so much thinking her dating both of us, they seem to think we're so perfect for each other and she likes me enough that if I just step up and ask her to start dating again she'd dump her boyfriend for me.

I mean that's bullshit right? If she really felt that way she wouldn't have cut things off...

You might meet someone without parents and who herself is not emotionally mature enough for a relationship. So you might click together.

Also, women tend to flip opinions of their men so if you arent uncomfortable with the thought of finding the true love that is actually so overwhelming that it will change your life, then you should not stay alone.

Imagine if some day you are mature enough and then in might be to late. Try out as long as you can.

>>18546391
But what if I don't think I have the capacity to love another person? Isn't that unfair to them?

>>18546422
Then be by yourself and figure out your own life before dating.

I'm a man, and I would not date. Regardless of FFM/MMF

I would not.
am a guy who lost virginity in threesome

>>18546183
Never talk and ask about body count. Avoid such topics and dont dig in the past. Only sadness awaits there.

Lie. Pick the smallest number she/he cant prove otherwise, treat all exes as strangers and deny everything within reason.

T. Boy who just want a girl who will pretend i have the biggest dick she ever saw. Is it so much to ask for?

This is why you don't get into stupid internet arguments.

Sorry anon, you're probably fucked.

Have a private twitter and a game dev twitter. Don't let them know you're the name person.

>>18546153
You should care about the best way to govern, and that includes considering the position of your fellow man.

I dont care what you will get as an answer but my guess is that 90% think only for themselfes. Why shouldn't I? All in all voting is meh and in a perfect world everyone should act towards a healthy society. But as long as some crackhead might stab you over 100 bucks I'm not sure whether the society is ready to be involved in an open consideration.

Also political topics are scarcelly adviseable...

This is something I ask myself every day. I'm pretty sure most people must vote what's best for themselves though. But you should think about the future and what's best for everyone, or I guess what's best for the poor AND the middle class. The middle class should be the most important part of a democratic society in my opinion. They should be protected and the poor should be helped to get jobs and education so they can too become middle class.

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>>18546124
please help me

>>18546124
>Philosophy degree

Social workers tend to be miserable burnt out husks of people. Generally because they are bright and cheery and genuinely want to better the world, and are instead bombarded with the most intense unadulterated niggerdom for decades at a time. Parents starving their kids, hoarders, people living in bedbug roach black mold infested shitholes with 3 dogs who defecate inside because taking them for a walk is too much work. You wont even be dealing with the bottom of the barrel of society; youll be dealing with the fucking dirt that the barrel is standing on.

Like yeah its a noble profession but unless you are pretty heartless and dont really experience empathy its a very destructive field to enter. Typically people who become social workers are very empathetic though and want to help, and wind up being the least suited for the job since it eats them alive and spits them back out every day until they just hate everyone and everything.

I wouldnt get into it personally.

Whoever wanted to see the other person.

If you two were really comfortable, there would be no qualms over who gets in touch first.

>>18546142
Well he told me that text him and tell him if I wanna hang out again and I told him that I'll text him later then.
So should I wait for him to text me or he leave it to me to decide whether if I wanna go out or not?

>>18546105
Proceed with this sureway algorithm regardless of gender:
1. Have date
2. Wait exactly 18 hours
3. Decide if you want to have sex/date/marriage
4. If yes and they still didnt contacted you, contact them on your own
5 goto 1 or break up

Do you think you can manage this?