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Should I go and try to pickup a smoking girl? 2017-07-22 08:54:49 Post No.18545645
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Hi anons,
I was chilling at the beach and a not bad girl who was looking where to stay, I and her had eye contact for like 5-8 seconds. I was at the phone and chilling, couple of minutes later she was coming couple of meters from me and couple of times she looked at me but when I was looking at her she looked away...
I looked at her and I've not seen anything degenerate like brazilian thong, different color bikini but she was SMOKING.
I do not smoke and I smoking is pretty haram/degenerate.
Veryclose to me in a group of frenchpeople a ultrawhitefrenchhipster started to pray with a towel to the east...it was very weird.
I know that women are choosing but do you thing her actions as a yuuuuge sign of interest?
Do you approach girls who smoke?
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Women who smoke are usually coping with ADHD
I've found this out through direct contact. Simple information probing.
You can get her then help her stop. You both know it's bad. I smoke and I know it's bad.
I occasionally smoke when I don't have my medication because it clears my head. It's fucking disgusting OP. I always wondered why my grandma continued to destroy her lungs with this shit.
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I forgot to say that she stayed there laying on her towel and enjoying the sun like me, and doing the whole I look at you-I look away if you look at me thing, couple of meters from me.
Interesting the correlation with ADHD.
Well If I will see her tomorrow I will talk to her and if she is not a degenerate (aka a girl I enjoy to be in company with) I will make her stop.
thanks anon
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>>18545747
Smoking is incredibly addictive. Don't try to get together with a smoking girl if you can't deal with her being a smoker. It's not just kind of lame to get with her only to expect her to change from how you got to know her, it's also unrealistic. Smoking isn't just addictive because of the make up of cigarettes but also because it's a very powerful ritual. People use it to have an excuse to just sit around and do nothing without getting questions or being asked if everything's okay - no one wonders why you don't contribute to conversation when you're smoking. And conversely they smoke when they feel awkward doing nothing, like waiting for the bus to arrive, gives them a purpose and helps them with how to carry themselves. People smoke because it's a bonding thing to share this gross guilty pleasure with others. To have an excuse to get a breather at a party. To buy a little bit of time before answering a question. Lighting a cigarette highlights the anticipation of a movie starting or a good story being about to be told.
Basically it fulfills a lot of very minor but very resilient psychological urges/needs, on top of being physically addictive.
So, here's the story:
After two years and a half of relationship with my (first) girlfriend we came to the conclusion that we had to have a break. To make it short, our sex life was completely ruined by her libido, we went from having sex at least four times a week to once every two weeks (or even once a month sometimes). So, first we started to think that it was a side-effect of her birth control pills, but after maybe two months she started to think that it had some sort of connection with her feelings. And thus this idea grew in her idea, and yesterday she told me that she didn't know if she loved me anymore nor happy with me. Because I love her so much and because her happiness is what counts for me the most, I asked her to think about what she really wanted and that she didn't have to be scared if she wanted to leave me.
Yesterday, when we woke up, we spoke for a bit and she told me that if was over.
BUT:
We hung out today (because we are on holidays at a friend's and so we are stuck with each other until tomorrow) and she kept holding my hand and hugging me, but when I went for her hand she rejected me and told me that it wasn't right to do this, because she didn't know about her feelings and that she felt completely lost.
I also looked into her phone and she told her best friend that she couldn't bear to be with me anymore, that it hurt her and she wanted to leave.
Here's the problem, she considers that we are on a break, and she told me that she needed space to think about it.
So, here's my question guys: What should I do if she comes back ? Should I accept ? Or reject her ?
I know that it must be really confusing, but that's what happened (not detailed ofc), plus English is not my native language.
Thanks.
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dump her
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which one is your native language?
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I consider dumping her, but I love her way too much
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How do I find out what I really love doing?
I have a bunch of hobbies I enjoy, but I can't think of any the possible career paths they could have in which I would excel at. I don't feel any 'calling'.
I really like arts as in film and music specially, I read a lot of critics and thought about being one, but I don't think I could *excel* being one nor that I'd be happy working in that.
So, how do you find a calling?
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Just do diferent things that please you till you find something that you like and also are good at. Maybe you are just too young, some people need time to find something. Not need to have career plans at 18 or even 22, just relax.
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Google onine career test and do like 5 different sites. Make a list of thibgs which looks good to you, prioritize them and pick one main and one backup. Dont fall for meme
>do/study what you enjoy
because sooner or later you will have to pay the bills.
Easy?
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>>18545664
Funnily enough I'm 22. Thanks, guess I'll take it easy for now and discover stuff.
>>18545707
I know, and I'm willing to have some random jobs in order to pay the bills but eventually I want something fulfilling to some level. Will try the career tests although I really don't trust those.
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Femanon in a relationship , where there is an expectation of a lot of sex. How do I know that I'm viewed as more than just a willing set of holes to put a dick in?
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>>18545590
Do you ever spend time together without having sex? Do you have good conversations?
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>>18545598
Women have a lot to learn. A lot.
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>>18545590
You probably are just that. If you let them, men will treat you like a cumrag.
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I want to leave the Air force 2017-07-22 08:30:27 Post No.18545572
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I want to leave the Air force
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I've been in the military for 1 year:
- I hate my fucking job and it's unfullfilling. It's also a non-maintenance job so people always shit talk about it.
- My co-workers are always chewing me out and insult.
- I fucking hate my work enviroment, It tears mypride and dignity down a little bit everyday.
-I fucking hate having working under other people. I'm not passionate about my job so I only give 50% -60% effort most of the time and as a result I'm treated like an idiot and written up constantly.
- I FUCKING HATE THE MILITARY. I'm conspiracy theorist and I'm 99% certain we fight for zionist freemason psychotpaths rather than for america's freedom.
I can't even fuck or hit on girls because being in the military completely drains my essence ad dignity. I've contemplated suicide multiple times.
The main reason i haven't left the military is because I'm lazy, insecure, and have a low IQ thus can't think of any profitable business ideas that would enable me to live independent of the military. So i'm forced to live like a fucking parasite and fucked up the ass by superiors.
What do i do? What other options do i have?
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please ask your superiors to let you see a therapist.
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>>18545624
I tried therapy, It's not a magical cure. Waste of fucking time.
anything else?
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>>18545572
what girls do you hit on?? Other girls in the air force, or locals at different bases?
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I need serious advice about brainwashing.
My girlfriend I've been with for over a year has ended up brainwashed by her female friend who has hated me since day 1. This is because my girlfriend has a weak personality and self-esteem, and she's in a quite sad period in her life right now and lost her dog just recently too.
She has turned my girlfriend into trying Vegan and the next step is being a feminist.
How do I reverse this shit? I literally want to throw acid on her friends ugly face right now. Her friend hates me and does this to control her and turn my girlfriend against me. But if i tell my girlfriend to choose between me or her, I feel like I have no momentum behind me right now. But also, time is against me.
She's been tricked into starting Veganism, take hot yoga classes with these hippie fuckers and buy organic food n shit from a hipster convenience store. The only thing left for her is to vote leftist and become a feminist. Then she's one of them. One of the problem with this world.
What the fuck can I do? If she has been brainwashed this easily, shouldn't I be able to easily reverse this if I play my cards right and show her the light again
TL;DR: My girlfriend has become brainwashed into a Vegan bitch by her friend, how do I reverse this?
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>>18545508
You cant really control someone anon. Shes going to do what shes going to do. And if you oppose her shes going to do it works.
>weak personality
>low self esteem
So why are you with her anyway? Just date better, bro.
Try dating a girl with a brain. A partner is way better than a pet.
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>>18545514
My country (Sweden) is a socialist shithole filled with feminists, idiots and shitskins.
This girl is literally the first good looking ethnically white blonde girl that has accepted that I support Trump, I'm right-wing and redpilled. But she's been hijacked by her friends retarded agenda.
Those are the reasons and I love her for caring about me. She told me she wants to move abroad with me and escape this shit.
It's easy to find a redpilled girl in another country like the US and eastern-europe etc. but I'm stuck in this cucked shithole and she's literally one in a million. I don't have any money or ability to move from here right now.
I don't want to lose her because she got brainwashed.
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>>18545514
Yes, you can. Her friend is the proof that you can control someone because she has brainwashed her into this.
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Is it too late for me to develop into a normal adult 2017-07-22 07:49:22 Post No.18545487
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Is it too late for me to develop into a normal adult
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>25/f/severe case of arrested development.
>Still virgin, still lives with parents
>Not a NEET, but still working the crappy part-time minimum-wage retail job I had when I was in college despite having graduated over a year ago
>Don't even have a drivers license to help me get a better one
>Extremely deficient in all the ways of acting as an adult
>Don't dress well
>Am a complete fucking slob when it comes to house work
>Hygiene is passable but grooming is generally poor.
I'm slowly trying to make improvements to myself. Over the last 2 years I've lost over 30 lb, which has boosted my confidence in not being a complete unlovable pig forever, but I feel like if I'm still this way now and I haven't grown the fuck up after 7 years there must be something rotten inside of me. Do people come out of this, and is it too late to transition into a proper adult?
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Are you fat?
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>>18545487
If you be my gf I'll help you become a normie
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>>18545487
You sound hopeless
Do people really care or just give false beliefe of understanding?
Is this how things work?
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>>18545428
about what?
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>>18545431
About other people
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>>18545428
>just give false beliefe of understanding?
It's not "fake" but it's the most you can expect them to comprehend.
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Hey, /adv/! 19/
I smoke a lot of weed. I use it to help cope with a few different things, like my Tourettes and Bipolar disorder. I'm not necessarily looking to stop (because it's seriously changed my life for the better), but I'm concerned about what I might be doing to myself. I'm worried about the effects of smoking on my lungs and soft tissue. Does anyone else here smoke a lot? I'd like to hear how you believe smoking has affected your overall lung health, or how you combat the negative physical aspects of smoking.
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If it makes any difference, I usually take decent sized snaps throughout the day (think 10-16) from a bong. Occasionally, I'll smoke blunts (maybe once a week?). I know I'm nowhere near the amount of serious potheads, but my financial situation doesn't allow for excess right now.
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I don't know anon the thought of putting foreign substances in my body irritates me but I realize most others do it to weed can help me relax but it can also make my mind racy. In my experience to truly rid yourself of any addiction is not to let it control your life. I don't really have any major issues or whatever that I need to treat with weed. I decide when I want to do it and sometimes I hold back and say you know what I'm not going to do it. I only 'vape' it though so I'm not sure if as bad as smoking but I do feel something. I'm under the impression that any drugs you inhale are probably some of the worst to do because they ruin your lungs vs ingesting which can do other things too depending on the drug. Maybe you could try vaping but I will say I can tell something has changed because after first smoking I could feel my lungs heaving and in intense sharp pain I was 16 at the time and it was actually smoking a joint. I've never really had this again with smoking very small amounts and just exclusively vaping now but I'm still nervous because something did happen these guys that do it all day I'm surprised they can breathe fine still.
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>>18546695
>doesn't like putting foreign substances in body
>existing
how do you live without air food and water?
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GIOYC -- get it off your chest 2017-07-22 07:16:52 Post No.18545396
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GIOYC -- get it off your chest
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Vent your frustrations, write those letters, ask for advice, and confess those sins of yours. Let it out!
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K I realize how degenerate I am. I've been with a couple girls and have always considered myself straight but recently I have been having some MAD sexual tension between me and a bisexual guy friend. We've been making out. We keep like getting close to doing gay shit and then pussying out. He tends to come onto me when he's drunk and I guess I don't want him to regret it if he sucks my dick so I don't let him get that far. But we're also both too reserved to do anything sober I feel like. Like I'm not opposed to the idea of us messing around but I want it to be consensual. Idk what do the bi/gay people of adv think I should do?
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So I reported a guy to the NSPCC (some of you might remember me from like a week ago) and now he's being taken to court.
Does this mean things were worse than I thought? I kind a hope they are because I feel so guilty for reporting him. It should've been none of my business.
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>>18545447
This is CPS poster?
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How did I become depressed? 2017-07-22 06:57:51 Post No.18545357
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How did I become depressed?
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Is this just adulthood? I'm 25 now.
Ever since I moved across country when I was 18 for college and work, I've been uptight and miserable. People have called me out and told me to "cheer up anon" , "why are you so sad?" "What happened to you man?"(I don't know) and I've apparently got this permanent sad, disappointed look on my face. The feelz version of resting bitch face.
When I was a teenager and kid I remember having a healthy hunger for excitement and life. When I look around at my peers today it seems they still have that spark in their eye whereas I can't find the energy to enjoy ANYTHING. Drugs don't work, alcohol doesn't work, being at concerts, bars, parties doesn't work, getting /fit/ didn't work, and I'm genuinely concerned I'm going to be stuck in a spiral of sadness for the rest of my life.
It's becoming abnormal and family members and close friends are beginning to notice my depressed energy. Is this a medical thing or is it all in my head?
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you can't think your way out of it, just see a therapist.
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what do you live for anon? what gets you out of bed in the morning?
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>>18545362
I'm too much of a pussy to kill myself and too used to financial comfort to quit my job
That's literally it. I have nothing else to live for.
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What does it mean to be "special?" Every time I've broken up with, I'm told I'm special. How regular is this, and why am I thinking so hard about this?
>inb4 "please be patient, I have autism" hats
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Male/female?
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>>18545445
Male.
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>>18545348
You have to provide more information.
>you just werent good enough for them, find new girl to date
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>be canadian early-20-something
>kissless hugless virgin etc; no prior experience with women
>talk to girl online
>says she's a nurse in a hospital struggling to make ends meet, sustaining her independence
>distrustful and in disbelief at first, but never had a girl talk to me before
>years of talking go by; slowly let myself believe it's genuine
>get email from man ; claims they have a baby girl and are still together
>go into shock
>message her asking about it, she says they were engaged
>says she's a barista at the hospital's coffee stand instead
>she won't go into further discussion on details, i.e. how she can afford a home/raise a child on part-time barista pay
>could be child support/alimony, could be that they're still together
>she says I was her escape from her life (i.e dealing with raising a kid)
>I feel crushing guilt, but if there's a possibility (remote) that she gave up on trying to make her family work because she wanted to spend time with me, what right do I have to push her away when I have so little to lose in comparison to what she (might have) sacrificed
>but having a daughter must be a big part of her life, and if I'm not included in that, what am I really included in
>and she acted as if she wanted that to be separate, so even though I feel that I should ask more about/care for her daughter, it seems inappropriate if her only interest in me was because I wasn't associated with that role of hers
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>crushing guilt continues, but I don't know what to do, to leave or continue talking; either way trust in her, others in general, and myself is shattered; no confidence in my ability to make sense of things or know how to navigate
>to push for more information just leads to her saying "what do you want to know?" followed by ambiguous unrelated answers that don't address the issue of the question
>she has been literally the only woman who deigned to even speak to me as if I were of interest in my 30 dateless loveless years
>continuing crushing guilt over my role in encouraging the breakup of their family, though it was unknowingly for years
>still can't stop talking to her; she's literally the only woman I have ever had any social contact with
>I don't know what I want; it seems like I don't want to change my life for her (she's 3 hours away and across an international border, but we've never met. I have no car or passport, and can't afford to take time off my menial job, I live check-to-check and can't provide a living for myself let alone anyone else
>continuing like this isn't working; I'm not growing; my social skills (especially with women) are still at a kindergarten level of experience, and she's getting older and I'm not helping her be really happy
>she claims and acts as if she still wants to talk, maybe she fears change/doesn't want to confront her own life, maybe she feels guilty over taking up my time
We started talking 8 years ago. I got the message from her daughter's father 4 years ago.
I am miserable. Help me understand what to do
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something different than what you've been doing because all it's brought you is misery
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>>18545306
I fear greater misery
I will I be completely alone in the world if I tell her I want to stop talking and break communications
Also, I will have to live with the guilt of feeling like I left her alone, after she may have given up her chance at making a connection with someone else, or the father of her child, and making a family with them
If that is the situation, then there is no chance that it will resolve into a situation that provides life satisfaction. Continuing to string along with meaningless idle talk with her means something could eventually happen
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Sex hurts for female partner 2017-07-22 06:23:08 Post No.18545259
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Sex is becoming tedious due to pain on her side
>Have gf of 3 years
>every time we've had sex in the past year her vagina hurts and is irritated
>she has been to gyno, everything looks great, but apparently she might have a small vagina
>my penis is definition average
Sex is almost no fun anymore because it means afterwards I have to deal with guilt, or I can just relax and enjoy myself because she's hurting.
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Forgot the question, although it's obvious
>what do?
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>>18545259
Lots and lots of foreplay plus lube en masse and small dildo used with extreme caution for weeks/months. Then when ok with it, move up slightly in size .. repeat
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So i have a girlfriend who ive been dating for about 8/9 months, we met on Tinder and shes currently out of my city for the next 7/9 weeks.
Basically im bored and wanna go back on tinder, both for sex and also just to meet new people/hangout.
I dont wanna cheat behind my girls back. How do i suggest this desire of mine to her?? anyone have similar expirience? im ok for her to go on tinder also
Tips/advice/stories all appreciated
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>>18545244
Pretty entitled of you to think you can reach out for other sex while still keeping your current sex on the side for backup in case it doesn't work out.
Be a man. Stop acting like a woman.
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>>18545244
You just basically said you want open relationship. Or that you want to cheat on her.
Maybe it is time to break up?
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>>18545262
yeah an open relationship i guess