How old is too old to go to university and make a career out of it. I imagine stuff like this gets asked quit often, but this is a serious question. Would like to hear from people who did it at a later point in their lives, and how did it go.
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I was at an vocational school specialized for teaching arts and IT stuff, and the school was mostly really young people, but on my course, there were couple of middle-aged people, and one woman was literally like 50-something.
In one college course I was at, the oldest guy was like 29-something years old.
There really is no age for college that is too old, but if you have a grumpy mindset where you think you know it better than the teachers, that's when you are not fit for college anymore.
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>>18550602
Thank you for you answer. Do you know what became of some of those people? This is more about how successful can you be in once you receive your education at a later point in your life.
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>>18550610
Most of the older ones were already working on a solid career path somewhere and attended the course just to learn new skills or make changes in their profession. I actually preferred some of the middle-aged students to people my age, because they seemed really passionate about the field and it was interesting to listen to their rambling stories. One 40-year-old man on the other course that I sometimes talked with was really interesting, he seemed to be simultaneously into graphic design and believed conspiracy theories.
Only downside of those older students is that they sometimes get too autistic about some details and start arguing with the teachers or ask too many questions, generally just stretching the lectures/seminars to drag on for longer than they should be.
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How do you have confidence?
I mean real, lasting confidence?
It seems whenever you ask people this they try to Drill Instructor you into having confidence, either because they mistake anger for confidence or because they saw it in a movie once, but when all they do is insult me it just is pushing me further down into the dirt.
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ive been think about this lately. to me it seems illogical to have confidence in any capacity because no matter what you know, there is a shitload more that you dont know.
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Yes I do
Competitive public speaking is what pulled it out of me
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>>18550551
Fake it doesn't seem to work, because people shit on you harder when you don't deserve to be confident.
I guess this is what a therapist is for, so I have someone to fall back on.
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I'm at the point where sleeping is pretty much impossible without sleep aids at 21.
Currently I need:
>15 mg melatonin
>50 mg doxylamine succinate
>2 shots of whiskey
To get to sleep ib less than 4 hours
What should I do? How do I adapt to a 9-5 life? Does it ever get better?
>inb4 meme til you dream
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What do you do during the day?
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>>18550507
Find what makes sleeping hard for you. I can't sleep in hot environments as it triggers my ptsd, and I love around a lot in warm settings. So what I did is I made my.room super cold so my body is forced to sit tight under blankets.
I also go for walks to help clear my mind so I don't think about everything as i lie down
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>>18550507
Exercise and lose the whisky. Start a cool down period before you go to sleep and read something incredible boring like a refrigerator manual. Not on your phone.
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I keep obsessing over my wife's past sexual partners. She's only had three or four, but at the same time it drives me crazy thinking about her having a moment of sexual excitement leading to another guy's dick going inside of her. The last time that happened was over 8 years ago.
I know this is mentally retarded to think about one's partner's past sexual partners, and that most people don't think about this at all. But my question is: how do you all not think about this or care about this? Do you just not think about it at all, or when the thoughts come up do you think a certain thing to make them go away????
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Why did you marry her without addressing this insecurity of yours?
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I have a policy that I don't get upset about things I can't change. Its dumb and pointless. Also jealousy is a terrible trait for anyone so I just bury that.
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>>18550420
I have addressed my insecurity with her, but not specifically about her past sexual partners because I think that would creep her out. I also have paranoid thoughts about her cheating on me all the time (which are unfounded), which I do talk about with her. However, it just makes her almost offended because she is the most loyal person someone could ask for as a significant other.
I'm seeing a therapist about this stuff, but it isn't helping so far. I keep obsessing about her having sexual excitement with another person (before she met me, 8 years ago). I know full well that it is totally insane, but I don't know any coping mechanism.
How do people deal with the fact that their girlfriend/wife has fucked other people and sucked their cocks, and taken it in the ass, or whatever???? How can one be totally ok with that??????
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Friend is dating a gold digger
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Friend of mine is very rich, but also unattractive
He started dating this very unattractive korean girl who is in the US for education.
Myself, my friends, and his parents, all suspect that she's gold digging and going to use him to get a green card and also exploit his wealth
She wears the pants in the relationship, and has been verbally abusive to him in public, at one point she was screaming and freaking out so much at him that the police had to get involved to make sure he wasn't trying to rape her (he wasn't)
their sex life isn't good.
At the same time this dude is also complacent in the relationship, and a "super nice guy" and i suspect hes afraid of leaving her because he doesnt think he'll be able to find another girlfriend (low confidence).
So, how can myself, my friends, and their respective girlfriends erode their relationship over an extended period of time without them realizing and with the best chance of them NOT getting back together in the future?
Please help, we dont want to see this guy get taken advantage of. He's pretty unaware.
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The moment he finds out that you guys sabotaged his relationship, he will cut you all off.
I say let the poor bastard learn life the hard way. You guys tried talking to him about her but he refused to listen or is a beta pussy making excuses.
I mean what else is there to do? Grown adults don't act like teenagers, grow up and let the man deal with his own problems.
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Tell him to grab his balls, and break up with her. You all have to be with him to back him up.
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>>18550392
Some notes I've been scrambling over past 2 days
>>18550392
This guy
>Low test
>Nice guy
>People pleaser
>Unassertive- probs no boundaries
>Too dumb to dream of buxom white women
>Complacent- even her cheating would probably keep them together
>Unattractive- cosmetic changes? How this nigga dress?
>Avoids rejection and bad feels
>timid
>Socially disconnected? – hrrm okay then
>Afraid of unknown
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Gf (mechatronics engineer) is embarrassed to tell people what I do for a living (cleaning). I am saving for the education I could never afford and do a lot of reading and studying in my free time, but its hard to not feel worthless when even the lowest of my ambitions like going to university is such a long way away. Last night she got back from work and said she doesn't know what to tell colleagues who ask and that she's sick of that situation. I'm barely keeping myself above water with depression and self worth as it is, and this has really hit me.
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>>18550362
I'll never understand why people thing engineering is so prestigious.
I'd your gf is going to be a cut about it then drop her. If she cares for you then have her say it and if people bitch or complain then tell em to fuck off.
You're not just sitting around. You're working for your shit. You didn't get it handed to you like most of her friends probably did.
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>>18550374
Its not that its particularly prestigious, just that I'm 23 now and still have nothing to show for it. I'm harder on myself than anyone else is, and she is usually very caring. I'm just feel like I have a lack of support and despite her never saying like it before, it seems like an outburst of honesty that she looks down on me for it. I love her and I know she loves me, but this lack of progression seems to be getting to her as much as me now.
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>>18550362
if she's embarrassed by you then you need to address that shit right now because that's a sign of a really shitty relationship.
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How do I get my asexuality to stop gnawing on my self-esteem?
I can't and never have been able to enjoy sex. I do want closure and affection but I've been told so many times by numerous different people that I'm cold, cruel and selfish for demanding love without giving anything back. That I'd be a bad girlfriend.
I could put out if I absolutely must, but apparently that's not enough, men want a woman who's wet and willing and enjoys it as much as he does, and that I can never do.
How do I get myself to feel less thoroughly unlovable when being loved is not an option?
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Please? Anyone?
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>>18550321
Realize that asexual men exist, or get into open relationships with men.
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Do the things that make you smile. I rarely smile but when I do I feel this good side of me. Maybe if you do something that makes you geniunely (don't know how to spell it) happy, you can be able to reflect that on other people.
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22F here. My boobs are small, and they've been small since puberty. It makes me feel inadequate and not very womanly. I'm not looking for advice on how to feel better, but on how to get bigger breasts without going through plastic surgery. My estrogen levels have always been low--I had irregular periods because of them--and I was wondering if a doctor would give an otherwise healthy woman estrogen pills and whether that would make my boobs bigger.
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Are you daft? You can't make your boobs bigger through estrogen pills?
Two ways breasts become bigger:
-through pregnancy
-through plastic surgery
Either deal with having small tits or pick one of those two option.
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>>18550320
How do transwomen develop breasts then? Don't they take hormone pills?
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>>18550329
>transwomen
>trans
You are on a board that is 99% heteromen...I can't help you.
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I grew up spending almost all of my free time on the computer either playing video games, browsing 4chan or watching youtube videos. I have had basically zero motivation, inspiration, or interest in any kind of career or job. Ive been living at home my whole life, im 24 now.
I went to community college for like 4-5 years just bullshitting random classes because my parents told me i have to go to school, despite me not having any prospects as far as majors go. I got a AA in Psychology, two in general education, a certificate in computer networking and communication. I don't see any of these as an achievement, just some bullshit i went towards since it was closest after a few years of school.
Here's my current dilemma. My father had a very succesful business as a smog technician. He was talking about getting another business opened up, a general repair shop, where i would be in charge of a few mechanics and running the place.
Well he did it and now opened a garage and put me in the office. I know nothing about running a business, or cars, but now ive gone from being basically NEET to sitting in this place for like 60 hours a week. Owning your own business is supposed to be a pretty positive thing but i feel so out of place. One of his friends he's known for like 20 years is the only mechanic here, very nice guy i get along great with him, but i have no real way of contributing. I sit in the office while he is in the garage. I have no knowledge or training as a mechanic so the only thing i can do for customers is give them an estimate\bill. I try to be productive but i really don't even know where to start.
At this point in my life i have accomplished nothing and have no job prospects outside of minimum wage bullshit, so i don't feel like i have an excuse to quit. However imagining spending potentially years of my time here is so disheartening. I don't even know what i'm really asking here, i just feel so lost.
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also re-reading through this, i realize i sound like a whiny cunt. This is what i get for not applying myself in anything, but i just need some kind of outside input.
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You go the IT route, where you start minimum wage, get some certifications and then climb the career ladder.
Learn to program and become a web developer.
Go into sales and become a sales men.
Work in construction, getting licences to drive different machinery.
I mean honestly what do you want to do mate?
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>>18550335
i think you may have not read my full post
but as far as your question, honestly fucking nothing
i cannot imagine myself doing anything for an extended period of time, like the rest of my life, for income.
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I have had ringing in my left ear for about 2 days now.
Sounds like when you have a CTR tv on, basically a EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE sound.
What should I do to stop the ringing?
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>>18550280
That's called tinnitus and it's permanent, the ringing will never stop until the day you die. Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life.
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>>18550288
>the ringing will never stop until the day you die.
The ringing has gone down though, maybe it isn't Tinnitus
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>>18550298
How about instead of asking random people on the internet you talk to a doctor.
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I think I might be the "other man" 2017-07-24 04:21:41 Post No.18550220
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I think I might be the "other man"
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Been seeing this girl for two months, got with her after her ex broke up with her for another girl, they were with each other 6 years. She's been open about how he has made pleas with her wanting her back since then and has reassured me that she chooses me and loves me (we've been seeing each other only two months, she definitely seems to love me as she says, and the feeling is mutual). But some things are fishy, she blocked me on facebook when I tried to add her, and claims she didn't, but they both still have "in a relationship" on there when I log out and look them up, also there are pictures all over his wall of them together, not hers though although there used to be before they broke up which might support the idea that he is just sad he lost her and wants her back. She also says she loves him at the end of conversations if he calls while we're together which is the biggest red flag. I would understand if she still loves him and doesn't want to hurt his feelings, also he has very deep ties to her family so that could explain the facebook thing, maybe she'd be embarrassed/feel awkward if it ended, but if she's trying to keep up appearances or not hurt his feelings like that I'd assume they're still fucking. I'm really starting to question whether they are still together and she's just cheating on him with me, I'm probably stupid for even thinking otherwise maybe.
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cont
The way she's talked it seems like she has every intention of being in a long term relationship with me, we've talked about kids and marriage with each other, we say we love each other, and it's only been two months. The sex is the best either of us have had, we talk on the phone for 3-4 hours a day, text constantly, honestly don't know how she'd even have time for her ex which gives me some reassurance.
Basically my thinking is this.
1. Confront her on this, make her explain herself, not sure exactly how to phrase everything if I go this route, could use help there. If it turns out she has been with him since we've been together would it be wrong to give her another chance or should I just end it? I'd strongly be leaning towards just ending it.
2. Don't bring it up and keep things going but just start pursuing other options (the sex is so fucking good and she is hot as hell, don't want to risk a dry spell while I look elsewhere) and end it when something comes along.
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Seems like you are leaning on number 2 and that is the best option. No need to ruin the sex. Keep quiet about your suspicions and bang her until you find someone else.
Btw don't just end it via text, do it face to face like a man and let her know that things didn't work out. Slowly be more distance.
Also something you should know for the future, don't ever talk to a girl for 3-4 hours. That is a waste of time and I am sure the 80% is bullshit. I get calling up on someone is important but burning so much of your free time just talking helps no one.
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>>18550224
Couple more points, not of the photos of them together are recent, also I'm better than her ex is basically every conceivable way, I feel like
the most likely thing is that she might just be transitioning towards a relationship with me, doesn't want to let go of her ex until she is sure our relationship is solid so she has a fall back option if I ended it.
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I have been agnostic for the past 8 years and have finally decided to get back into the church soon. I am torn between the Catholic Church and Eastern Orthodox. Which one is better and why?
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Better how? They're pretty much the same shit.
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Might as well join Islam.
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>>18550171
Reform Judaism.
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How worried should I be about my girl friends "best guy friend" who I've never met.
>15 minutes after we bang she is drunk texting him at 2:00 am
>"I Miss You"
>"I Wish we lived closer together"
>"I want you in my life forever"
...she going back to grad school with him in the fall
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no, theres absolutely nothing unusual or abnormal about this behaviour. you should ignore it, its nothing.
you fucking retard.
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You should worry for way less
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Maybe they really are just best friends
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I got rejected from an office job because I shoplifted a Tech Deck last year.
How do I get this off my record?
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>>18550066
are you black?
if yes you can sue them for racismm
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>>18550066
Realistically you can't.
Hire a lawyer and see what they can do for you.
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>>18550066
Just B Yourself and it will work out.
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My best friend is driving me mad. He's ftm, and I watched as he slowly developed full schizophrenia over the years (coming from someone who has been institutionalized) that is undiagnosed bc he doesn't believe in mental illness.
What he does believe in is witchcraft and the metaphysical...so in his mind he's legit all these different people/beings because they are his past lives.
He has two other friends who are the same way. One is mtf and the other a cis guy. I'm actually Pagan myself, but I don't believe there are beings sharing my body or supernatural things that can take over me at any second.
The past month my friend (26) decided he wanted to date his cis guy friend (17).
Literally every week these two are on and off because the 17 year old can't make up his mid if he wants my friend as a boyfriend.
I've always been the "go to girl" for anyone who wants a personal therapist... So every other week my friend is literally crying in front of me because of the 17 year old breaking up with him or some retarded shit about a curse being in place that makes him not remember they are dating.
I've told my friend it's his age, and that he is probably bs'ing about the curse and the others "inside"him that keep changing their mind... But no, these two legit believe this shit. My friend is even saying it's because he let someone else talk through him that it erased the (ex)bf's love.
And what is actually going on, is that every time my friend says something he doesn't like, his memory that they are dating goes away.
This is the most unhealthiest shit show, because my friend is saying that abusive stuff to the 17yr old like, "No one will ever love you but me!" then bam--guy's "memory" is erased and friend comes crying to me.
I don't know what to do. Friend won't listen to me to drop him and goes off on starstruck tangents on how fate needs them together, and he still wants me to solve this somehow.
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>>18549995
The fact your friend thinks she's a guy automatically qualifies her for a lot of therapy and an institution. The rest of whay you posted is irrelevant.
Tell her she needs to see a doctor who actually puts the care for someone over this political absurdity.
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>>18550004
Well to his credit, he was trans before the craze, and has been getting t-shots for the past 3 years.
It's the frustration of not actually having a penis that sent him into the otherkin headmates schizophrenic delusion... But yeah, he believes nothing is wrong with him with the mental health department, and if I tell him to see a real doctor, I'd lose his friendship.
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>>18549995
>I'm actually Pagan myself
Why? It's literally LARPing.