Okay so I dont know how the fuck it happened because no one I am around has them but I think I have a cold sore.
I went to the doctor cause my lip instantly swelled to three times its size after popping what i thought was a zit. now it looks like i have a fat lip. he said put a hot compress on my lip and wait cause he thinks its just a giant zit waiting to be popped and i did it too soon, gave me no inclination that it is a cold sore and even touched it
someone please put my mind at ease :(
a cold sore would be a unique pain. like a numb tingly but at the same time awfully painful burning.
its pretty sore, but feels like i have a fat lip doesnt burn but feels swollen as hell
>>16564033
I would say that it tingles/itches before coming out, and afterwards it hurt only when putting pressure, scratching or biting.
>19 years old
>married
>she lives with me and my mother
> getting papers next week (I was undocumented)
> doing bad in community college
>not motivated
>don't want to live with mom anymore
>live in jersey
What do I do? I was thinking working full time with ups and take one or two classes. Trying to do computer science but I would like an IT job. I love my wife and just want to move out and be in peace with her.
Get your shit together
>>16564014
I'm trying anon. I just don't feel happy living here with my mom and not working and shit. I wanna move out and live alone with my wife and a roommate.
>>16564006
>19 years old
>married
how?
why?
Sup /adv/
So, heres the issue and I know its cliché as fuck but I still feel the need for help..
>Had a rocky relationship with a girl a truly loved
>The reason it was rocky is because I fell apart completely, depression, anxiety, paranoia etc.
>we broken up almost a year ago now, but got back together and things started to work
>I got on anti-depressants, things were better
>She dumped me, saying I broke the relationship when I was a mess
>Several other reasons, like occasionally getting blackout drunk and having a massive go at her (was very rare. but happened)
>I started to move on eventually, after a month or so of begging and being blocked by her and completely ignored..
>I've now been seeing a few people, slept with a lot, thought I was getting over her..
>Messaged her about being friends, was ignored still..
>She then calls me drunk, and I thought it was fine, we were gunna meet up and hang.. >she then says shes going to bed and its a bad idea and that she will never see me again, after a 3 hour conversation, where she talked about still having feeling for me..
>I'm now back to square one, all I want it her back, for her to stop fucking ignoring me and talk to me, even if we were just friends..
>I was doing so well, now shes all I can think about again.. and all she does it ignore me, acting like I don't even exist.
Can I win her back? Is there anything I can do to turn this around? She says she can't because we wouldn't be just friends and she can't go back to our relationship because it apparently ruined her before.. but it was only when I was a mess that the relationship was fucked.. but she just holds onto those stupid resentments and won't just get over it, like I did with the shit she put me through at the time.
Did she actually love me? Does she still? Is it pointless to keep holding on and trying? I know if she see's me (we both agreed) we'd probably get back together, but shes avoiding that like the fucking plague.
It was a mistake to reach out to her.
But it is one we who have been in love make.
I do wish you the best but i cant help bit feel this is going to end up with you hurt again.
>>16563998
>Can I win her back? Is there anything I can do to turn this around?
No and no. She loves you and feels a great deal for you, but the trust between you is broken. She cannot trust you with her feelings.
>Did she actually love me? Does she still? Is it pointless to keep holding on and trying?
Yes, yes and yes. Again, if she can't trust you, she will never be able to have a healthy relationship with you. She will always remember the past, think about how much of a mess you were, and resent you.
Just leave her alone. You're making this so much harder than it needs to be.
>>16564032
Surely theres a way to build trust with her again? Or talk her around to trying? Or even build a friendship? I miss her so much, and I know she misses me.. surely theres something I can do?
Am I attractive? About 6 people say I am, but, I don't really believe them. They just do it to be nice, so I need you guys to tell me the truth. (Don't have any picture where I'm alone.)
>>16563961
Sorry I can't see your personality in your pic
Also confidence in a woman is so sexy it doesn't matter if she's 5, 6, 7, 2
>>16563961
the girl is the guy isn't
take this garbage to
>>>/soc/
we literally have a board dedicated to vanity
>>16563972
Gg
Thanks for nothing>>16563972
Hey /adv/ I'm 22 and 4 months ago I started a job in computer science. I'm starting to get depressed and suicidal though knowing I have to basically work almost every day for the rest of my life. I know it's such a lazy thing to say but I'd rather just play video games all day than work. It feels like hell having to get up at 6 am everyday and work 7-4. Are there even any enjoyable jobs or do you just have to find the most tolerable one? Everyday I feel like I'm dying from this shit.
If you don't like programming, don't work in computer science.
I have fun at work, I'm a tradesman.
>>16563952
I don't know if you understand but the only thing I really enjoy doing it playing video games. Plus I spent 3 years getting my degree in computer science it'd feel like a waste to not use it.
>>16563931
>4 years of school
>only at the end realize you dont like doing it
OP a question, how will you afford games and a nice gaming rig on top of rent and a car?
Why do people care so much about how I choose to live my life? I'm not living off of welfare or anybody else's money but my own and my life doesn't negatively affect anybody in any way, yet people feel the need to talk shit because they seem to think that I'm wasting my life and that I'm some kind of failure despite the fact that I love and enjoy my life.
So, why do people do this instead of worrying about themselves?
self-defense mechanism
people have to convince themselves their lifestyle is superior in order to maintain it
ignore them
They demand conformity. They see someone on the outside of their conditioning and it offends them. They can't conceive of alternative life styles. If they continue to bother you, just cut them off. They will eventually get the idea that you are no longer receptive to their attempts at interacting with you.
I feel the same way but in a different way
So many people I deal with like in coffee shops or everyday students treat me really badly no matter how much I smile or be nice to them. At first it really REALLY made me depressed and couldn't understand why people where being so mean then I realized fuck'em. Who are they to bring me down? I assume at first they were these great people who got their shit figured out and were looking down on me but in reality that might not be the true. They might be struggling themselves or overall be people who have a very negative view in life with twisted morals so what's the point of getting sad over people who are mean for no reason?
Their opinion shouldn't affect your life OP and you shouldn't lose focus and live your life the way you think is right.
ALSO i'm not saying block everyone's opinions, I'm saying block people who are being unreasonably mean for no reason.
Hey I am a 30-year-old femanon. Unfortunately, my relationship with the guy I've been dating in the past 4 years didn't work out and we broke up 5 months ago.
What is the dating game like for me? Is it really shit for me as I am already 30? I look younger than my actual age.
Thanks for answering.
Just date people your own age. There are still plenty of singles in their 30s, people are getting married much later in life these days so not all of them are going to be divorcees either.
What happened?
>>16563837
He got a job offer in another city and moved there. The long distance relationship didn't work out.
I just failed my first semester at college. I got into engineering school and tried my hardest, but I'm just not smart enough. I want to try a degree in history and teaching, but I'm afraid that people will just call me a quitter. My academic advisor thinks that I just "didn't apply myself", and I haven't told anyone yet. Any advice?
Just fuck 'em, dude. You know that you can't do it, don't trudge through something you honeslty can't do.
Waterloo?
just wait two semesters and come back and do it op
You are not smart enough for college. I didn't apply myself in first year either. I got an A+ average. College isn't for everyone.
I am joining an art competition organised by my local animal shelter. I need to draw an artwork to illustrate what responsible dog ownership is like.
I want to draw a scene featuring an owner cleaning up after his dog. Should I just draw him chucking away the dog shit into a bin as in pic related?
>>16563618
Or maybe I should draw something such as this?
Wtf
Why not draw a picture of an owner taking care of a dog after surgery
Why do you want to draw poop
>>16563797
this. You a shitpig or something?
Okay, so I'm female, 22, and I just really don't like make up. Mostly because I think:
>it's deceiving
>it's a waste of money
>in many cases looks fake or slutty
My biggest problem is that whenever I wear make up I feel like cheating. I'm naturally freckled and have ruddy cheeks, and for example when I put foundation my skin evens out and look flawless. But I feel like I'm deceiving people and feel incredibly stupid and shallow. I don't wear make up at all (maybe 4-5 times a year when I really have to) and my mother keeps telling me to start using make up, because I'm 'in that age'
I'm also fat and while losing weight wanted to find some ways to better my looks on a different platform, make up was suggested... But I just can't stand that shit
>>16563606
Focus on not being fat. Also, don't post cat pictures, it gives you away as a fatty.
>>16563615
>it gives you away as a fatty
I said that I'm fat already in the post so it's all good. But yeah, will do as you suggest
>>16563606
>moral issues
That's just fucking stupid. Make-up is used to emphasize/de-emphasize features. It's for fun, it's art, it's social. But it's not fucking immoral. If other people are too stupid to understand that some people wear make up and generally how it works, their ignorance does not make it immoral.
>I don't like it
Then don't wear it. I don't. Who cares? Your mother? You're also at the age where you can start to tell her to fuck off. Also >>16563615, focus on the fat if you want to improve yourself. But keep posting cat pictures, cat pictures are always related.
I've had a lot of messed up stuff happen in my life to make it near impossible to actually trust anyone, especially males.
Men getting angry, yelling, fighting etc scare me to death to the point that whenever my boyfriend and I fight, I have terrible panic attacks.
Not too long ago, we had a fight, the worst we've had. During the fight he shoved/hit me. He's never done that before and has always said guys who hit their girls are the scum of the earth.
He doesn't remember any of it; I haven't told him about it yet.
The thing is, I haven't been able to stop thinking about it and I'm petrified that he'll do it again if he gets to that point again.
I don't know what to do /adv/. I love him so much, we're probably going to get married but I think I'm kind of scared of him now and I know that it won't ever be the same. I'll never be able to move past this or properly forgive him, but I don't want to leave him.
Please, help me.
Do you want to persist in an abusive relationship because of love?
If so, you will likely be abused, yet may even think you deserve it.
If not, you'll do yourself a favor. Breaking off an abusive relationship will hurt less than staying in one.
You decide.
>>16563589
I'm not trying to sound like a dick, but that's how the following sentence is going to sound; Good luck marrying someone you're scared of.
>>16563792
This!
If you want to save the trip back here in a year or so about how you made the mistake of marrying a man you fear, just break it up. Don't even confront him about it, just say you feel like your relationship is going nowhere or some excuse that won't open another argument that might scare you.
I am considering deleting from all online social sites like FB, because they give me nothing and made me little addicted.
Should i go for it or no?
>>16563574
What do you think you'll accomplish by doing this?
How do you plan on deleting your 4chan presence?
upside be tht i will do more productive stuff for my life instead
Downside might be that i might miss some friend invites, or some messages from old friends and stuff (but these things never happe anyway for me)
Do bathmates and other penis pumps actually work? That is, will they give me a temporary increase in size for sex and a permanent increase if I use them continuously?
Any anons have experience good or bad?
I'm about 6" long 5.5" girth just looking to up my game a bit.
>>16563549
>Do bathmates and other penis pumps actually work?
No. They are nothing more than the latest form of a scam that has been going on for literally thousands of years, preying on insecure men lile yourself.
If you want to step up your game, master foreplay. It's more work, but it actually works.
I have worked in medical clinics that specialize in male performance for eight years. The only model I have sold was Dr Joel Kaplans. It does work and results differ but be careful to avoid busting blood vessels using to much psi and research proper use before you fuck your dick off. I know they can work because I have files that progress there growth from a clinical standpoint.
>>16563572
Yeah, I'm not expecting anything amazing. To be quite honest, the idea of permanently changing my dick if even possible kind of scares me.
I wouldn't mind the idea of a temporary enlargement though lasting a few hours which is what this thing seems to claim it can do.
My psychiatrist diganosed me as a sociopath months ago. I'm not really sure if I believe her to this day. Still, there's one thing I've been holding back telling ; that I'm a pedophile . I have a very young sister , and I feel she will assume I'm a danger to her . Combine that with my supposed condiotion of being a sociopath , I'm kinda worried to what she will do. Now OFC will never tell her I've had sexual fantasies revolving around said sister.
You sound like a real high quality person. I hope you don't harm your sister.
>>16563540
So never tell her
>>16563540
Psychiatrists are mandated reporters, retard.
Don't give her a reason to think that you're a pedophile and nothing will happen. If you're really a socio and not just an edgelord who self-diagnosed then you should easily be able to keep this a secret.
Is it possible for me to learn how to write with flawless grammar?
>>16563537
You just did
>>16563537
Flawless grammar eludes most native English speakers. Some are violently opposed to the observance of such practices. Just make that sure you read a book every few weeks and you'll be fine.
>>16563541
I usually make a grammatical error or two when I write a paragraph.