I've been living with my boyfriend for about three years. He's gotten a new job recently and it doesn't pay very well so he's been having financial troubles. I've agreed to pay his share of the rent over the last few months--not a huge deal to me, since I make a great deal more money and as long as he pays me back we're fine.
Recently he's been smoking cigarettes again due to high stress (we quit smoking together about a year ago) and I can't help but feel slightly annoyed. He's pretty much living paycheck to paycheck, I pay for his rent, and he's buying 1-2 packs a week. I know they're not that expensive but I really think he should be spending his money on something less wasteful if he has to ask me for money every month. I know he'll pay me back eventually, but...
I realize this creates a messed up power imbalance. I don't want to control every aspect of his life (and smoking "makes him happy") but I feel like it's a little unfair that I'm helping him with rent and he's blowing money on cigarettes. Am I being too sensitive or is this an issue?
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It's an issue, but don't make it a big deal. Just mention it casually: "Anon-kun, I'm not comfortable with you smoking your allowance."
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>>16562140
Sounds like you to dump the boy and start dating a man.
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>>16562140
>I feel like it's a little unfair that I'm helping him with rent and he's blowing money on cigarettes
Tell him this.
she wrote me this yestarday and i didnt reply yet
wat do
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>>16561984
Double negative. She wants the D.
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Considering you waited this long without responding, you might as well go all the way and ignore her entirely.
I don't know why you failed to respond though. Maybe you weren't near your phone all night? It seems like you could have typed out "ok" otherwise.
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What's the situation? is it love? a simple crush? a infatuation? or just simply a fuck buddy?
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>be living with inlaws while searching for a house
>wife and mother in law arguing
>father in law steps in and hits my 26 year old wife while she's holding one my three month old twins
>in front of my 5yo and 3yo daughters
>technically this is assault & battery and felony child abuse, yes?
>shipping wife and our 4 kids to my parents out of state
>Stuck here in my work contract till may
>They'll return when I close on a house
>wife can't leave till tuesday because our car only fits two carseats, on tuesday brother can take two kids with him
>trying to do this covertly, suddenly, without warning
>there will be a moment tuesday evening when everyone is gone but me, inlaws, younger brother in law
>if I leave, they will likely trash our belongings in rage, possibly take it out on little bro, cerebral palsey, not mobile
>if I stay, I could be in danger, no weapons, other than a knife, but I can attempt to explain the situation to them and protect brother/our things
Advice from law enforcement is doubly appreciated
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>>16561843
Nobody necessarily wants to rip apart my wife's family, so avoiding reporting the abuse is, at this time, my intention as long as things stay stable.
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>>16561845
ABUSE IS NEVER STABLE YOU FUCKING MORON
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>>16561848
By stable, I mean not physically attacking. We're in full damage control mode until they can sneak out on tuesday.
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24 year old kissless virgin here who is finally getting his shot...
Girls have finally started showing me a lot of interest this year. Usually, I'll go to a party and it takes less than 10 minutes for a girl to be all over me. I am very good with body language, dancing, and flirting.
Well, one of the most gorgeous girls I have ever seen in my life has shown interest in me. I met her before my finals, and we're on break. We have been flirting hardcore through text messaging, and she has sent me quite a few nudes. We talk about sex constantly and casual things (she is very into BDSM stuff, which is definitely my fetish as well).
We're meeting for drink next week. She is extremely anxious about this, mostly because she says she has never hooked up like this before. Well, I'm a fucking kissless virgin and I'm not about to admit that.
Essentially, I need any good advice I can get. I'm a fun guy to be around (I wait tables to pay for school), and I can very vividly picture how I want to fuck this girl, but I'm smart enough to know this won't go off perfectly. I like this girl for her personality as well, so I'd like to do my absolute best here!
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rollins 4 fun
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>>16561742
Rolling.
Just try to make it a fun experience OP. You sound like a pretty fun and rounded guy so it shouldn't be hard. Just be sure to look for signals she displays. Like if she bumps into you a lot, she most likely wants to hold your hand or be held but expects you to take lead. She also sounds like she's very dtf so again, watch for signals, initiate the feeling and petting, escalate over time but don't rush things. When she's ready take her back to your place and lay some pipe.
I believe in you OP.
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>>16561782
>calculator
Cmon man.
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I got my ears pierced (standard piercing) 3 weeks ago and I was told I cant change them for 6 weeks. I've been spraying a sanitizing antiseptic spray on it and they feel healed. Would I be able to change them earlier? Has anyone changed earings earlier without infection?
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Let's says you had an shoulder operation where they had to insert a piece of metal in your shoulder bone because you fractured it.
The doctor says that you shouldn't carry any weight on your shoulders for at least a month.
After two weeks, you feel like it has healed. Could you start carrying weight earlier?
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Comparing a ear piercing to a major surgery isn't fair though.
I was more meaning if I could put new earrings in 5 weeks instead of 6. If the earrings are sanitized and of the same metal what is the problem there?
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>>16561393
That you have inflicted a wound in your ear and it has to heal before removing or inserting new stuff in it. Maybe you have a fast healing factor but they say 6 weeks just to be sure, and you should adhere to it.
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Am I attractive? Is this a good photo? I rarely take pictures.
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If you're trying to look high af for a prison photo, it's great.
I personally don't find you attractive because I'm a straight male.
Why are you asking this?
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Put on a polo, loose the beetlejuice shirt, cut hair, wash grease off your face
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Girl here.
Not my type, but I know people who would find you cute if your personality was good.
Shirt isn't bad, honestly. Beter than most
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Anyone here pursued their interest in their careers? 2015-12-13 06:09:13 Post No.16560744
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Anyone here pursued their interest in their careers?
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Do you regret it? Are you doing well now? How did you know that you won't regret pursuing your interest?
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No regrets. Doing very well now, probably better than like 90% of the people I know. It was what I wanted to do since I was a child, and it has only gotten better at every turn
Only qualm is the locations suck
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>>16560814
What are you doing?
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>>16560820
High rate gay prostitute. I have sex with men who have the money. Its a dirty job and lots of people look down at it but it pays the bills and I always wanted to help people any way I know how.
Are you more likely to bring home six figures with an engineering degree? Specifically a Mech/Aero engineering degree? How does one even do this? I was thinking that they go up into management positions, but I'm not quite sure as the industries vary.
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Once you get the degree and the job, you are supposed to go to night school for your MBA. Then you segue into the 6 figure mgmt position.
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>>16560663
Why though? Why do they all chase after MBA's? Why don't they go get a master's in their field of engineering? I suppose it could be since that would lead to more research based stuff rather than management. But, I hear getting an MBA isn't even that great if it's not from some top-tier school.
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>>16560648
>Are you more likely to bring home six figures with an engineering degree?
More likely than what? More likely than someone that majors in feminist dance theory? Fuck yes. Six figures is getting to be a middle class income, and even truck drivers break into that bracket with much less time wasted.
How do you deal with being a super-masculine girl? Is there anything you can do about it, any way to become more feminine?
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>>16559935
How are you masculine?
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>>16559935
Define super-masculine...
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I don't even know. I don't know what I do wrong. People just keep saying that, dropping the "but you're almost a guy anyway"-things like it's just something that I would already know.
Also physically, kind of, though I can hide it pretty well.
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>born forcefully in the smallest shittiest village in the world
>nothing but retarded rednecks around me
>literally everywhere I go baseball cap, beard, camo
>were 5 hours from an amusement park and 7 hours from a city
>no matter what direction I go in there's trees and fields for 500 miles
>everyone here acts like they are in middle school still
>want to die every second I have to be here
>would literally rather be homeless but don't have the balls
>am the only person here with a superior intellect
>everyone just sits around here waiting to die
>jobs are 50 mile commutes and there's like 3 full time jobs in the whole county
>just want to leave without sitting here until I am 30
>don't have time for college
>I want to move to LA or NYC Atlanta or miami
>impossible
How do I live in a big city? I just want to live in a big city.
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>>16559460
>Nothing to do
>Don't have time for college
Nigga fuck off.
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>>16559496
I need to get out NOW
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>>16559500
Then leave. Your superior intellect should be more than enough :^)
I blew it in my gf last night while she was on her period. Are we screwed
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-p0OadRapq4
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>>16558400
It's all still a possibility bruh. Get that bitch on morning after pill.
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there's a pill for cases like that, don't know the name i english
but the sooner she takes it, the better
Regrets from this past year?
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More than I feel like typing.
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We both know I am right.
Hopefully you realize this while we can still do something about it.
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Should have gotten a job sooner.
Should have asked her out earlier.
Shouldn't have listened to my parents ever.
Should have eaten way less ice cream.
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how do i make friends /adv/ and be a more talkative and fun person?
>been at my job for a year
>barely know anyone
>still a quiet, boring loser
>always by myself
>hear coworkers going to lunch together, getting coffee, etc., generally chatting to each other
>there's a new guy at work
>good personality, sociable
>has made a ton of friends
>have a crush on a coworker
>don't even know why should would like me when there are more fun/funny/popular guys around
how do i get better /adv/? i-i want my crush to like me ;_;
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I'm the same way. I have terrible social skills. I've been at my job for 3 years and barely talk to anyone. I don't think I'll ever be able to change. :-/
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Damn.. Dat ass
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How To Hit On Girl On FB? 2015-12-13 23:20:24 Post No.16562705
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How To Hit On Girl On FB?
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>added this cute girl on FB
>she added me back
>never messaged her
eventually find out through a mutual friend that she thinks I'm cute.
What do I say to break the ice without being cringeworthy?
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Ask if her panties are on inside-out.
> Yes OP pic related
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>>16562711
sorry i just think that pic is hot
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>>16562733
It's not bad.
You can even do better.
> Your panites are inside-out. I'll come over and help fix it.
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Why does someone saying 'you mad' make me so angry?
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>>16562704
Probably because you know that they are purposely trying to upset you. Someone being a dick for no reason is usually upsetting.
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>>16562704
Because it's condescending. It's the classic insult technique known as "feigning surprise".
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>>16562709
yeah I know its disrespectful but I can't put it into words
>>16562715
that's it. thank you