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Grow up having good experiences

>>16564661
I don't even HAVE bad experiences. I don't know where it comes from.

there's nothing irrational about a fear of other people

other people are the enemy

depending on
1. what you look like
2. what you can do for them

boycott everything

If course we won't know what will help you best but here are a few general options that you may have already considered:

- Start seeing other women. The only caveat with this is that you can't be doing it to try and make her jealous, because trust me it won't work and you'll feel all the worse for it, and you'll probably just make another girl fucking despise you for making her part of your mind games. Keep it simple keep it free, don't jump straight back into a relationship.

- minimise contact. If you haven't already, block her on social networks and delete her number and past text messages. The past messages are especially important. Archive your Facebook chats and delete everything else. Delete all your photos of her and all other evidence of your relationship that you could easily see. Don't actively avoid her irl but certainly minimise areas where you know she'll be, but she should never be impacting decisions like whether or not to go to a party

- throw yourself into your work/hobbies. The more time you spend doing nothing productive the more time you'll spend fixating on her. If you start throwing all of yourself into new or existing activities, it'll help you move in mentally. If you start getting better at this stuff then that will boost your overall self esteem/confidence which is probably in the shithole right now. Structure will help - make a plan or a schedule for your days or weeks.

- make a list of small tasks you need to do. This one worked for me - every time you consider getting really down about her or consider texting her or something, do one one of the tasks on the list. Not only will you be getting a bunch of useful stuff done, you'll also get more time to think it over.

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- improve yourself. Again, this has to be for you. Anything you do with the goal of impressing her won't work. It has to be with the end goal of making yourself a better and more wholesome human being, for yourself and no one else. This could be in the form of exercising more (this WILL boost your self confidence and esteem) or reading, or just engaging in activities that improve yourself as a new person.

- the nuclear option. Of course it may feel like you still have a chance with her. Everytime you make small talk you feel like there's still a spark there or something similar. Bullshit. But still, maybe the only way you'll get over her at this point is to wait until you're both at a party together and then just fully confess how you still feel about her. Given what you've said about that state of your relationship as it stands I don't see this is as going anywhere but sour. Some guys just need the finality of a yes or no decision. This may destroy you in the short term and cause a depressive spiral which is why I don't recommend this, but sometimes it's the only way forward,so you can start to rebuild from your lowest point.

Listen to some uplifting power anthems, watch some interviews from people you idolise, fuck shit up and stay being a king of your shit. Hit me up with any other questions you might have.

>>16564706
>>16564710

Yeah, pretty much what that anon said

You are pushing yourself into not moving on.

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Yes, they're adorbs

It's maybe a good way to get rid of that fear.
Just tell the shelter staff about it first, they might even help you getting used to bigger dogs.

It'll help you get over your fears. They're just big fluffy pups though. I've never been afraid of a dog so I don't know what it's like though.

>>16564561

Nothing's going to make you gay, fag.

>>16564561
Yes, that's how it works. At this point i'd estimate that you're already about 47% gay.

>>16564561
nah it's not gonna make you gay, just less compatible with a normal girl. but more compatible with a weird girl.
many men like to crosdress every now and then.

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No, shitting where you eat refers to jobs.

OP, don't do it you fucking idiot. This is your future career at stake.

>>16564546
Yes, it refers to schools to.o

School is practically a job. In fact, you use it to get a job. Sexual shit makes you lose possible connections since she can and will use it as a reason to severely ostracize you.

>inb4 muh experience
Some good that will do when OP is sitting in a kangaroo court hearing for sexual harassment

>>16564557
Do you use 'don't shit where you eat' to rationalise why you don't get any girls?

Another quality thread for /adv/. Thanks OP

As long as it makes my penis feel good, idgaf. Though if you look gross down there I'm not going down on you.

>>16564489
This.

>>16564420
Whatever your worried about, it feels like an avalanche, i would try to slow down and take time to yourself and tell yourself it all doesnt matter because i'm alive and well. Meditate if you need too anon, it really helps

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Get into better physical shape; muscle tissue helps moderate one's moods.

>>16564420
I feel exactly the same way right now. I wake up in the mornings feeling shitty and I go to bed thinking how I am shitty. If you need someone to talk to, we're hear to lend an ear.

>200 k over 3 years

What's the expected return on that investment?

>>16564324

What is the program and what is the major?

Probably not. I'm guessing that being ~200k in debt wouldn't be offset by the difference in income you might make with a degree from the better school.

Shitposting

>>16564305
When I'm feeling really shitty I go to a strip club and get some touch. It's sad and pathetic but so is my life. I feel slightly better when I'm done but my wallet doesn't. Oh well, I have nothing to spend my money on anyway. No girlfriend, easily pay all my bills, car is paid off... Fuck it all.

>>16564317
This can help, op but the satisfaction is very short

>>16564226
It means she saw you more of a friend than a lover. This happens a lot and is a very common reason for breakups.

>>16564232
how do you prevent that down the road?

>>16564232
I broke with my 3 year boyfriend over this, there wasn't even another person involved. I just saw him as a friend, and feared that the person I chose as a life partner is nothing more than a friend to me.

>>16564187
Hot but 90% crazy and slurry judging by looks and your post

Also, you're probably a kek

>>16564187

Bitch looks like a drug dealer slut

OP čuck status: MAXIMUM ČUCK

Bump for my sanity

You might be overthinking this a bit. As someone who overthinks everything, I can't really fix that for you, but I can assure you the reality is always far less scary than the worst-case scenario you're imagining.

Hey friendo, I'm a senior too and I feel ya. I can't exactly give wise retrospective advice but I can tell you that grades aren't worth killing yourself over, there are gonna be opportunities that come up even if you don't get accepted. If anything, buckle down and study for awhile, focus on earning the C and if you don't it's not the end of the world.

>>16564143
That's an awesome idea anon! She'll be floored

>>16564152
I make just over minimum wage so my budget isn't exactly high enough for something fancy like a sephora gift card or something

nooooo make an owl plushy

that way she can hug and squeeze it and hold it in bed and think of you :3

What exactly do you need advice on? Sounds like you're good to go. Nice work!

>>16564050
I know you are asking for advice but your turn around with women peaked my interest, how did you go from a 24 year old kissless virgin to playfully flirting with girls with ease.

> next week, OP makes a thread about being stood up

>>16564029

She is using it as an excuse anon, no one should get that upset and a good partner could at least have a fun conversation about the policies that the politicians have that are dumb/good and why they are needed. Fuck political conversations with friends can be really fun sometimes, of course this is assuming people won't get ass-blasted and storm off from a different view-point. She sounds dumb OP, dump her if she is willing to throw such a hissy fit over something so foolish.

is it Trump

>>16564049

If it is I honestly think you're better off. Less chance of you reproducing.