how does one 'get over' mental illness? i'm fucking sick of alienating people
therapy and/or meds
Do you want an honest answer?
>>16598268
>>16598268
well my 'best friend' just left with ~2000$ worth of free stuff
tl;dr: Bf doesn't like the way I fuck but won't give me details as to why. He also wants to have sex more but knowing he doesn't like how I fuck makes me REALLY anxious to do it.
>Bf and i get drunk together the day before he's going away for the holidays
>next day I wake up super nauseous, combination of period and hangover
>he asks me to give him a BJ since he's leaving soon and we won't be able to do anything for a while
>I say no because I feel sick
>He goes into the bedroom to do his thing
>A few minutes later I go vomit
>He hears me and after asking if I"m okay, says "Jeez, first you wouldn't go down on me, and then your vomit noises almost made me not be able to cum"
>My feelings are kind of hurt but I just brush it off as him trying to be funny/getting out a little frustration
However, it gets worse. As we're showering together, he asks me why we never have sex anymore. He's right, we don't do it that frequently. He asks me why I never initiate it. This is where it gets complicated.
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A big reason why I don't come on to him is because for about 2 months every time I asked him if he wanted to do anything, he turned me down, and he refused to talk about why he never wanted to have sex anymore. However, I knew if I told him that, he'd say "You're just trying to blame this on me", so I had to pick reasons that had nothing to do with him. I told him that having sex made me self-conscience about my body, to which he just said "Okay" as in "Yeah right, whatever". We stopped talking about it for a while. Then around the same time we both brought up different sides of the same issue.
ME: Well, there's also the issue that I kind of have performance anxiety, I worry that you're not satisfied with me sexually..
HIM: Oh, and when we DO have sex, you're...really awkward sometimes
I tell him that now it feels like my worst fears have been confirmed and ask him what to do to be less awkward.
HIM: I don't know, I feel like that's just something everyone has to learn on their own.
I have no idea what to do with that. The only tangible advice he gave me was "You just lie there when we're fucking"
but that's not true at all. I'm on top half the time and when he's on top I'm doing the same kind of shit he does when I'm on top...scratching his back, kissing his neck, etc.
It's like he has no actual concrete advice/criticism to give me besides that he's not happy. And now knowing that he's not happy makes me want to have sex even less....
Why do girls do this
All these fucking words
I'm not reading this
>sex before marriage
He's a punk.
Need an opinion on pic related.
>be spic mexican
>be guy not girl
>have brown eye
There's this laser eye surgery clinic that can turn dark Brown eyes into light Blue eyes. The main surgeon working there is dating my sister and he told me he'll hook me up with a 60% discount if i ever wanted the surgery (which is originally $5k but i'd pay $2k). He got my sister the surgery for free and they look legit. She swears her sight is normal and besides her eyes being irritated for a few day there were no side effects.
I'm not a richfag but i have a steady job, my cheap apartment's paid for the next 3 months and i have around $9k that i can fuck around with. I kinda wanted to take the offer while i have the chance (just incase the relationship goes sour) and change my eye color Blue so i can be special snow flake but idk if i'll look retarded being a brown spic with blue eyes because the surgery is permanent / irreversible. My sister's eyes pop and she looks hot but im a bit worried it that wont be the case with me, also if someone ask id feel a little faggy saying i got laser surgery so i'd probably lie and say its "genetic luck."
Should i do it? I wanna do it but i really want to hear someone elses thoughts on it.
>>16598003
If anyone ever finds out your reputation is ruined, at least if you are a beaner you could be proud of it
Light brown quadroon here. This is interesting.
My initial thought is get cheap blue contacts and try that out for a while. It would give you an idea.
>>16598034
personally I'd be surprised if anybody gave a fuck how he got his eye colour. but then personally I would not get eye surgery that was not medically necessary.
How do I stop being a loser? Should I just seriously kill myself?
I'm 27 year old overweight loser living with his parents. I dropped out of university this year after faking for years that I'm majoring in engineering successfully. Meanwhile I got a part-time job that paid for my expenses and some rent/utility money for my parents. However, due to the low pay and high expenses I could not save up anything. In fact, I owe my parents 2000€ and my father has started demanding it back as he urgently needs it.
Recently, I had to quit my part-time job (web developer), because the company moved away and I couldn't afford to relocate. Last week I had an interview for a dream position and I completely botched it. They didn't tell me whether they will hire me or not but it is VERY unlikely.
On top of it all, I managed to make a girl in a neighbouring country fall for me online and we started having a long-distance relationship. She keeps asking when I will visit her. I don't want to lose her as I really like her but I'm not the guy she thinks I am.
I will receive my last pay at the end of the month and will receive no more than 600€. 100 of which will go into clearing my deficit on my bank account.
I'm at a loss, I don't know what I do. Last night I went out and just walked around for hours until I ended up falling asleep on a bench crying.
>>16597993
it'll all be good. probably best to start working full time for now and know what you wanna do with school/work. is it okay living at home or does it suck? if it does probably should move out and live pay check to pay check working some shit job
>>16597993
>but I'm not the guy she thinks I am.
As in you're catfishing her? Wow bro. Get your shit together.
I got angry and started smashing shit one day. I decided that I didn't care whether or not I was a loser - what mattered was whether or not I felt like one. So I stopped judging myself and I stumbled and flopped along until I gained momentum and improved. I'm still an idiot but I'm an adaptable idiot and I haven't been depressed for years.
Hi all!
> Come from Scandinavia
> 18 years
> Go to my apartment
> Listen shower
> Go to the toilet
> See showers open
> Person it
> Godly feces!
> She cried
> I freak out panic insane
> Fly
> Realize I traveled to the wrong room
> Girl told leaders
> Hold up! You pull out now! Hit roads!
What am I doing? This was only shelter in my world!
>>16597988
Please people! I am urgent advice! I need person give light on this issue, as I no home.
>>16597988
Help! Does any person proficient in advice giving? Help is needed direly in the most peculiar of situations! help!
>>16597988
Are you using bing translator
My first college grades came in recently.
I found out that I have achieved a 0.8 GPA and have been put on probation
What does this mean for my college career?
How salvageable is a 0.8?
What does this mean for my future in the professional world?
I scooted by in high school with a 3.5 so this is a completely new experience for me
>>16597966
Bad GPA isn't the end of the world. You are going on probation so they will monitor your grades. Dontnfuck up this time
I got a 0.8 in high school but I have a 4.0 in college. Maybe you shouldn't have been such an asshole to me.
>>16597966
How the fucking fuck fuck do you get a 0.8? Did you go to class only once or something?
Hey guys, i'm a dude but I love watching men with vaginas and women with dicks fuck eachother. Thing is I would like to have a vagina and a woman with a dick fucking me. I just wanted to know what you guys had to say about this.
You're a bit up shit creek then because transsexuals tend to have dysphoria and don't like their genitals very much and they would freak if you wanted them to use them.
>>16597987
Its weird because i'm 19 and have never thought of normal male - female sex as pleasurable and cannot get an erection over normal sex. But I get an erection over Male (with vagina) - female (with penis) sex. I will admit, I hate my cock and balls like hell to be honest. But I keep them because I don't then need injections and would like biological children if I have any. I'm in a real fucked up situation...
>>16598104
Ok, it sounds like you're complicating things a bit too much.
What do you mean when you say
>have never thought of normal male - female sex as pleasurable
that when you try to have sex with women it does nothing for you?
unfortunately you will never experience having a real vagina, but you do have a boipussy that either a man can fuck, or a woman with a strap on (although the real dick feels much better than the strap on).
Why not try that out?
i recently ffound out that my boyfriend i got back togetherr with gets raped by his dad often when he is around; i foudn out over the summer when we werent together, but i thought it was only one time, then i stopped talking to him for a bit. Bf lives in Chicago, and his dad lives in Florida. He is visiting his dad, but so far his dad hasnt done anything. But sometimes his dad goes to chicago to visit one of his children, but "requests" my bf to come visit him, and a few times he has raped him. My bf says he has been raped about 5 times, and he cant do anything about it, because he used to have mental problems and he is not yet 18, so he cant report it or people think he is crazy. What do I do? This is literally stressing me out emotionally so much that I want to die and i feel sick all the time
>>16597882
i mean as in to visit him at his hosue when he is in chicago. and the last time he visited, he didnt do anything, but has before on his previous times
>>16597882
>le teenage texting language
>'This is literally stressing me out emotionally so much blah blah blah'
>raped about 5 times
I can't give serious advice for a post this incoherent. Beyond that, from what I can tell, your boyfriend is an attention-seeking teenage faggot who hates his dad. I mean, shit... why the fuck would you go across the fucking country to visit your dad who raped you //about// five times?
tl;dr: OP is gullible and her boyfriend is an attention whore. Both are autistic, the end.
>>16597882
tell him to film it some how next time it happens.
so how do i get myself together in every single way possible
???
i hate myself, i have no desire or motivation to do anything most of the time (this includes basic things like showering or even playing a game, it's barely enjoyable to me, i don't even want to do nothing, i just don't want to do something either)
i have weird body and eating issues, which involve obsessing over my weight, binging, punishing myself, and thinking i'm fat when i'm not (logically i know that - my bmi is 21, i would like to get down to 16-17)
i have a bf but i'm thinking of leaving him because i don't believe he loves me because i don't think a depressed gross little shit is lovable unless you're desperate as fuck and that makes me feel worse and i don't want a reminder of that.
there's a lot more but this is becoming a drag:
1. how to stop hating myself (people tell me DOING things would do it, like my mom tells me to clean my room so i clean it and i don't actually care about it, so, no, i don't feel better after doing it)
2. how do i stop obsessing over food and my weight (it's usually not so bad, except when i make mistakes on anything, i illogically go, "this wouldn't have happened if i wasn't fat" and i 100% know that's stupid, except then i feel sick to my stomach if i even think about eating since i think of eating as a 'reward' and 'punishment' at the same time)
3. how do i get the motivation to do things with my life instead of just fantasizing all the time
i'm 19 and i dont feel like i have a lot of time to do anything anymore, and like i should have figured out all this stuff a long time ago but everything has just been piling on top of each other and logically, i know i probably didn't have the maturity to realize what to do at 16 but i'm 19 and i still don't except that i want to change it
>>16597796
>i'm 19 and i dont feel like i have a lot of time to do anything anymore
>>16597809
also probably illogical, would make more sense if i was 30 or something but,
i feel a lot of pressure to make decisions about everything, like what i want to do forever and ever and ever or the type of person i want to be with and i just don't have these answers and i feel like i should
and these aren't horrible things to think about, just the fact i have other issues on top if it makes me feel like i don't have the time to fix everything and be a responsible person
As a pretty ugly and below average girl how do I get a bf?
Post a pic.
Post pics first, then we can give you advice.
>>16597730
Post pic with tits, though.
What is the difference between hot,cute and hansome when it comes from a women's mouth?
>>16597586
If you are a male you should be getting called all three by different women depending on their taste.
Hot is a guy that makes you go into cave-woman mode. Perfect examples are stuff like him being big and muscly.
Cute is a guy that makes you go aww. This is probably more about his personality. It can be the way he smiles, the way he moves, how he talks, how caring he is, and so on.
Handsome is a guy that looks like a greek god. Those steel blue eyes? Yup. That freaking hot stubble. Check. Those big hands and his sensual lips. Dayum.
In the end, you can be all tree in her eyes if she likes you. One isn't better than the other and if you find a girl that thinks you are hot, cute and handsome at the same time, jackpot. It's the same thing with girls. If you think she is stunningly beautiful, adorably cute and minblowingly sexy, you got the right mix.
hot is obviously "you make me wet"
handsome should be coming from your aunt or grandmother, if not, I think it's supposed to mean well groomed/dapper/something along those lines
and cute can mean the girl adores you like a baby turtle, or she wants the d
i can't speak for women, but this is my understanding of those terms.
So me and my wife have not been able to fuck in months. Live in a small house. Paper thin walls. Have 2 kids and any little noise and they wake the fuck up and are fully awake. It doesn't matter what time it is. We tryed playing to tired them out so we can get some fuck time but as soon there is a tiny moan, bed creaking, even a fucking sneeze and these 2 get up and run to our bed to see whats up. Basically i need help getting my kids to sleep.
Maybe some kind of knock out drug
>>16597220
Why not just soundproof your room?
You guys need to take a vacation together and leave the kids with friends/a babysitter, or just send them off to Grandma's house for a weekend so you and your wife can have the place to yourselves.
Besides that, there's not much you can do. It sounds like they're at that age where they're old enough to ask questions and move around independently, but not yet old enough to understand social boundaries. For a couple more years, it's gonna be pretty much impossible to get laid with everyone in the house together.
Start mastering the art of the "quickie" so you and your wife can take full advantage of any free moments you can get. It's a bit like being a teenager again, and having to sneak around your parents.
if a girl sits close to u a lot, takes you out for pizza, touches you and says she cares about you, does she like you? (only need answer because I am beta af and don't know signs)
>>16596784
>says she cares about you
Ehhhhhhhhhh,
I'm a grill, and the only time I ever told a guy that "I cared about him" was when I was friendzoning the fuck out of him.
There is not enough information here for us to make the call if she likes you though. Just ask her out, goddamn. You'll never know if you never ask, what the fuck do you have to lose?
I'd say she likes you.
Why be beta though?
No matter what we answer, you won't get any better answers than by testing to see her response. I don't even want to get into this, just google/youtube "signs that mean she likes you"
But my answer is yes.
I am in army in an european country
Yesterday a computers liutenant called me saying i had browsed porn and "evil pages" (4chan) from the army internet and also deep weeb
he said i would be expelled and maybe put in prision for 2 months
but in exchange he told me i could be the informer and he would not inform the major
i told him who had alcohol in their room or who was a bad militar (lying medic about their illness)
am i bad or it is normal accepting to be the informer?
pic unrelated im not of a "minoritie" and this is not trolling
up
slav detected
>>16596553
no im not slav
im western european
Let's say that your cat hypothetically likes to steal from department stores, semi-professionally.
Do you think it actually hurts the clerks trying to make a living, and damages the atmosphere of the store?
Or do you think that charging $100+ for items that cost less than $5 to make in a sweatshop is just another form of thievery?
Speak honestly.
>>16595912
I don't like adding an extra thing for those employees to potentially be chewed out about.
I shop at dollar stores, second hand stores, and cheap online stores (taobao, aliexpress, etc).
>>16595912
selling things for a price people agree to pay for them is never theft.
Sure stores might mark up a product 100%+ but that doesn't mean that money goes right into scruge mcducks vault, it pays for the costs to operate the store and inventory the goods until someone buys them. If you do steal from people at least be honest with yourself instead of hiding behind edgy bullshit.
How bout you hypothetically get a job and use your hypothetical money to buy your own hypothetical shit, hypothetically.