So me and this girl are seeing each other for 2 years and i only recently find out she is a feminist.
*red flags activate*
I begin to tell her what i think of feminists and how there is a considerable amount of them that a extremist and only wish to make women
>more equal
She begins to tell me that this isn't her take on it and that she wishes to have equality for all people no matter who they are. "oh okay so you're a humanist?" *gets extremely offended*
She just won't take anything I say on board. I kept calm through the whole argument but she kept bringing up things that I do that are inherently misogynistic in a fit of rage like paying for our food or not letting her pay for dinner when we go out.
>excuse me for letting you keep your own money
What should I do. Aside from this I really can't think of a single thing wrong with her. She's got no major flaws that I can seem to deduce.
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Let her have the right to pay for her own meal.
Wow, that was easy.
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>>16676563
Tell her equal but different. You pay for the meals. She decorates your bachelor pad.
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You started off wrong. Even if you were calm or logical or whatever else what did you expect by attacking someone's closely held political beliefs? There are extreme views in any schools of thought that are easy to pick apart.
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>be me
>In college
>track runner
>muscular otter build
>able to easily flirt and make girls laugh
>8" penis
The catch.
>dont drink
>only take science classes.
How the hell am I supposed to pick when at parties Im the only sober one.
>anon have a drink
>oh youre one of those guys...
>boring
How the hell am I supposed to pick up women under these conditions. Im not looking for a serious relationships and there are girls I could date for that. I just want to bang hot chicks I see. Like I can get them to bite their lips at me, but I cant close the deal.
And why is there so much pressure talking to these girls. One will wink at me and Im supposed to cross over the fucking earth to entertain her. But in the end, shes a drunken mess and I cant, or she wants to be around drunk people.
Advice?
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Now you understand what people mean by "personality matters". Just fucking act drunk instead of being stiff as a board - it's like the same fucking thing. They want to be with somebody that's confident and easy going. You sound like you have a massive stick up your ass because of your entitled attitude "oh man I got a big cock, I'm fit, and I'm in the sciences, the bitches should be begging ME for the D!"
Holy fuck, man.
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>>16676516
Why does everyone here project so much.
I dont have a problem with my personality. People love me. And I have no problem with sober women. Just the drunk ones. When someone ask you to drink with them and you turn them down they immediately get turned off. Guys as well. Im asking how to avoid that.
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>>16676526
Not that I have this problem, but I think in this day and age, it's a genuinely legit concern. However, it does mostly boil down to the kind of people you hang out with. Like, if someone thinks you're boring just because you don't drink, they're generally not worth your time.
You sound like you have a lot going for you OP, maybe expand your social circle and try meeting people outside of parties. This is a prime time in your life, so make the most of it.
Are you in any clubs/societies?
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What can you do about being overly sensitive and getting upset at everything?
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Give some examples to we can get an idea of what you mean.
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>>16676537
I was having a perfectly good day, looking for jobs online, helping mom with the house work, playing with the dogs and making tea when I remembered that the syrian crisis is a thing, and the thought of innocent civilians makes me sad, and the thought of getting raped/killed by muslims makes me sad, too, and that sometimes there are literally no good options and human suffering is awlays inevitable and now I'm sitting here in my bed crying, hiding under a blanket and knowing that it doesn't make the big scary world go away.
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>>16676508
The key to prevent sadness and fear for the future is preparation. Take self defense and have the skills and reference experiences to feel confident.
Additionally, it seems you went on a depressive thought cascade. Basically, one bad thought leads to another right? The key to that is to insert a time gap between thinking of something sad, then expressing that sadness physically.
Try pausing for one second before you think of the next thought. Maybe (inside your mind) scream the word PAUSE! Do it for one second, before you physically react. Eventually work your way up to 2 seconds, to 5, to 10, to 15, 20, 30, 45, then 60 seconds.
From there, you learn that you have the power to choose how to react to a bad, or even good, feelings.
Hope that helps!
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My boyfriend insinuates occasionally that I'm clingy even though we only see each other 2 days a week throughout 4 years of dating, and the days we don't see each other we reply to each other's texts after a few hours with rare phone calls late at night (we are both lazy texters to everyone). I feel like this is not clingy and it is reasonable. Sometimes I ask to see him a third day in the week and he gives me a look like I'm being a clingy bitch and reluctantly says ok. He also tells me that I don't like him spending time with his friends, but I don't see where he is getting this as he has 5 days a week to see them and I don't even give a fuck if he goes to the strip club with them. I only get pissed if on the days we do meet he cuts our time short by meeting his friends first and then coming to meet me at 9 or 10 pm when I have work the next day. I feel really hurt by this and it's just odd to me because every other guy I've dated have told me that I'm cold, private and don't see them enough. This is how I know I am not clingy. I just feel like he doesn't enjoy seeing me or something, and when I talk to other people they always talk about how they meet their SO almost all the time, etc. I don't even want to meet him every day, but three days a week would be perfect for me as the 2 days we spend together, he usually picks me up late and we wake up early the next day. Does anyone have similar experiences ?
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>>16676502
He's bored with you and this relationship; possibly has a side bitch. Obviously he's not very involved so prepare yourself for getting dumped
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>>16676507
I actually tried to break up with him over this a couple weeks ago and he begged me to stay, saying that he intended to marry me and shit.
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He seems really shady and not that into it. I say move on.
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Does this person think we are dating? I sometimes flirt back but have given no indication that we are dating. They changed their name in my phone to Bae(; and say things like this. I don't want a relationship with them.
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Stop flirting back then you idiot.
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>>16676461
Don't mind flirting, just don't want a relationship and they even told me a week ago that they weren't ready for a relationship with anyone.
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>>16676455
I'm sweating rn for you anon lmao it looks to be the case. For your sake, I hope it isn't.
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So I got a message from my ex the other day. Here's the general idea lads:
>She's preggers
>Not mine so it's cool
>She's planning to kill it anyway
>I begin to refer to it as Bort for abortion
Next day
>It begins to dawn on me that Bort will fulfill his purpose and get aborted this week
>Fug.png
>Become strangely attached to this doomed embryo (probably because like him, I too was let go at the last minute)
>Consult friend
>We begin the 'Save Bort' movement.
So, /adv/, how should I rescue Bort before he dissolves from existence?
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You know how they always say don't name it
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>Pro Lifers
Top kek m80, she's destroying that mistake and there's nothing you can do to stop it.
>>/tumblr/
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>>16676384
Don't. You're only invested in this because you picked out a dumb name for it. You'll get bored of it and she'll be left with an unwanted child and all the responsibilities and financial drains that a child entails.
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I've been thinking about killing myself for a very long time and I want to make it easy as possible on my family.
Is there anything I could do to make it easier for them?
Anyone who has any experience with losing someone, what could I do or say to soften the blow?
So far I have come up with leaving a note saying I don't blame them, that I had been suffering for a long time and maybe they can find some peace in the fact I'm not any more.
I also plan on leaving a photo of my mother and I so she has something to remember me by.
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>>16676371
My brother killed himself. It destroyed me and my family. I can't get over the guilt, the anger, the sadness. I have been in therapy for a year and it is so hard for me.
Please, don't do it. Seek help.
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>>16676371
There is no way to make it easier. Everyone you know will suffer quite badly for varying lengths of time, totally independent of your actions beforehand.
It's why people call suicide selfish, because everyone will blame themselves, wonder what they could've done more to help you, and feel guilt in addition to their sorrow, no matter how nice your little suicide note is.
If you have a selfless bone in your body, you wouldn't do it. It's a lot of anguish
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Smoke cigarettes. Makes yourselve feel better, is a cool thing to do and only cuts of a couple years if you don't stop it when you're old.
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Disconnected from people 2016-01-12 14:22:31 Post No.16676339
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When I was young I used to find comfort in people's words and presence. I used to crave connections with people, friendships, hugs.
Now they are meaningless to me. Everyone has an act or an agenda. I didn't have friends as a teenager because we moved a lot, I didn't fit in in the place we settled, I was weird. So I was raised with the anonymity of the internet and disappointed parents, and now everyone in person seems fake. I don't trust people unless they're sharing harsh truths, and no one does that in person. I remember the connectedness I felt when I had friends as a child, I wish i had that but I think even if I did it'd feel meaningless and fake now. Why have "friends" if they're not willing to tell you when you're being a piece of shit?
I can't connect with people beyond the "nice" stage and haven't been able to since I became a teenager. I was a loser as a kid, people were nice to my face but made fun of me when I was gone. And now as an adult, everyone is shallowly polite. It makes me feel pathetic.
I want to die, my life has such little meaning, but I can't do that to my family. How do I cope with this? Is there anything that lessens this pain? I'm in my early 20s and already a bitter old crone.
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>>16676339
Opiates, in moderation.
You'll feel great, and will enjoy connecting with other people again.
I was as jaded as you, and around your age. Opiates work wonders, but the key is moderation.
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>>16676339
Well, you figured it out. There's no going back. Either someone wants a friend to use them or to vent. Having a relationship is just about seeing the best of yourself in someone else (aside from the few who like a partner who challenges them). Welcome to the shit-hole that is humanity.
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>>16676339
Self-fulfilling prophecy: Your low self esteem makes you put a false energy into your 'niceness' with people. People can feel your insincerity, and respond by acting 'fake'. They do not want to show their genuine selves because you appear to be deceptive. This leaves you feeling alone because you did not establish a human connection.
YOU have to come off as honest and sincere. If you are, someone (not everyone) will find value in that. That's what a real connection is, and sonny boy, is it rare. But it's real, and worth the effort.
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Which language have you found to be the most useful besides English? (Pic only related if you speak Husky)
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Hard say, might depend where you live. Useful day to day might be Spanish or Chinese but I'd like to learn Latin for its own sake, understand art, law, medical terms more.
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>>16676285
For global speakers it goes:
>English - 880 million to 2 billion speakers.
>Mandarin - 760 million to 950 million speakers.
>Spanish - 550 million to 675 million speakers.
Mandarin is fuck hard to learn, you really need to engage a tutor and study hard for years to get even halfway decent at it, so go for Spanish. English will be the lingua franca long after the West has fallen back into obscurity, so don't worry about being outdated (at least within your lifetime.)
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>>16676285
>Which language have you found to be the most useful besides English?
First of all, >>>/int/
Secondly, it's dependant on your current needs. Up until recently, for me, its been Spanish. Now I'm learning mandarin, which is actually not as hard as it sounds although pinyin is fucking stupid.
Learning any language can be easy if you put the right amount of effort into it. Immerse yourself in the language through media and constantly practicing with apps or other software. You can also Skype with native speakers.
Masturbation Girl here again.
Whom do I have to talk to to ask to get banned from this sub for a month? It is literally outside of my power to resist the urge to keep bothering y'all until my time at the therapist.
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just spam pics of my little pony and you'll get banned eventually
it seriously triggers the mods for some reason
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>>16676157
I lol'd
>>16676144
I am unaware of this history, you like to touch yourself? Cool.
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>>16676162
No, I've got some sort of a mental block on masturbation and for some reason people keep asking me if I've been abused sexually, because apparently my views on sex, sexuality and the relationship between men and women are fucked up.
I desperately need to orgasm in order to lower tension, and I am too tense to orgasm at all times. I try to do it as a substitute for self-harm but 100% of the time it doesn't work and I end up cutting anyway.
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I have Fordyce Spots on the underside of my penis and they're starting to appear on the top side of the shaft as well, how can I prevent this?
also is there any way to just get rid of them altogether, I'm a virgin and this is causing some anxiety. I also have a light brown complexion and my junk is a few tones darker so it's noticeable.
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>>16676081
Rub aftershave on to them.
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>>16676091
This isn't like bengay on balls right?
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Isn't this normal for some guys?
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What is the best way to kill myself without drawing any attention to it?
I'm a PhD student and I had a massive mental breakdown last year. I have barely been able to leave my house. I teach online and took one class last semester that I ended up needing to drop because I was hospitalized for self harm and ended up having to stay for 3 weeks in a recovery facility because I was still super fucked up.
I've been diagnosed with PTSD from shit that happened in my childhood as well as genetic bipolar disorder, and general anxiety disorder. I also see a specialist do cope with agoraphobia that I've developed over the last year.
There is this one girl in my phd program who I went yo grad school with and she always makes up horrible rumors about me for no reason other than because I was a "freaky nerd kissass who cares too much about this stupid field".
The faculty love her because she's very two-faced. I have done better work, but knowing she would be following me into the phd program horrified me.
Anyway, I want to take another semester off because I still am so fucked up I can hardly leave my house. I was JUST put on lithium and it makes me more suicidal than ever.
My family and husband both know how fucked up I am and are always watching me because I had 12 hospitalizations from serious suicide attempts in 7 months. The problem is that someone always finds me, even when I try my best to hide it.
I doubt my department wants to deal with all my fucking shit anymore and I'm too afraid of going back to school.
The problem is how do I kill myself without anyone finding out and trying to help me?
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>>16676012
>repost
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>>16676014
But its not?
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1. pick up phone
2. dial 911
3. tell them you want to kill yourself
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should i feel sad or happy? 2016-01-12 11:12:51 Post No.16675995
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should i feel sad or happy?
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>year 2011,19yo me created a fake account on fb
>met a 9.5/10 girl(definitely a 10 if it wasn't for her teeth)
>lied that i'm still single
>started chatting more frequently
>a year later we became bff and skype a lot tells me she came from a broken family and other secrets even shows me her secret spots iykwim
>asked each other for our addresses
>exchanged gifts she gave me her favourite razor blade pendant necklace also gave her an octagon shaped necklace with her first name initial on it
>asked me for a 100 times of my real profile but i was afraid my gf would find it out
>finally tells her the truth
>she got sad af and wont talk to me anymore
>a month later she told me she already had a bf
>deactivated her account lost contact with her
fast forward in time 2016
>feeling horny looking for a good porn
>finds a 9.5/10 girl, realize she looks like my friend from 2011 after examining it i confirm it's her because of her teeth
> see the necklace i gave to her
.felt sad because of it also felt happy because she still wears my gift
>feelsbad.jpg
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>>16675995
You were looking for porn and found her?
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Show us the video, I want to see her teeth
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>>16675995
>19 in 2011
gtfo underage b&
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>20+ year old virgin
>spent years masturbating
>anxiety problems because of College
>finally get around with a girl
>can't pop a boner
Jesus H. Christ anons, I fucked up. I fooled around with her and even fingerfucked her but I couldn't keep my boner up. What the fuck do I do? Hours before I took an anxiety supplement whose side effects include some ED but I have also spent years as a porn addict.
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>>16675963
Stop watching porn. Stop fapping.
90 day...
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It's alright OP, same thing happened to me on my first time when I was 21. I freaked out about it for a while but now I realise I wasn't totally relaxed like I should have been during sex. It also didn't help that the chick I was with was experienced and only about a 7/10 in my books.
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>>16675970
>90 day...
I made plans to see her tonight and even talked about having sex. I just researched my particular drug and it says its out of my system in 37 hours at most. I'm fucking dying here with the worst anxiety I've ever felt, literally frozen at times thinking what might happen if I can't pop a boner again.
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What are some ways I can tease my boyfriend?
>send him lewd pictures while he's at work
>blow him while he's in the middle of competitive gaming
>innocently sit and grind on his lap and deny being lewd
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>>16675896
Sounds like you know how perfectly well already.
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Is this with a specific goal in mind? Like maintaining interest or something else?
>referencing swallowing, anal, randomly putting on outfits
>road head
>bend over right next to him
>get out of shower and start a conversation while not getting dressed and continue the conversation horrendously long as to make one think there was potential sex
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>>16675909
Forgot to list, being woken up by head. Can't forget that one.