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offer to take care of her kids

>>16685831
Bazinga.

>>16685826

Do you specifically want non-offensive black chicks like the one in your pic? Or are you also open to hoodrat-type of black broads?

I have specific advice for either.

its not bad but man will it limit your choices

>>16685815
Nope, not at all. In this day and age, women have more job opportunities than they used to, and a woman with ambition means that the two of you can have something to talk about, and that she'll understand when you're stressed out at work because she's going through the same thing.

Definitely don't boil it down to the exact dollars and cents, since there's still a slight wage disparity, but if she works as hard as you do, that's what matters.

>>16685940
That 78 cent thing is a proven false myth

What is it they are doing that is dickish?

they don't want you around

>>16685810
They know I was in an abusive relationship in the past and sometimes will make fun of me about it. Normally I don't really care but that is a pretty sensitive issue for me.

>>16685813
That would be fine but like I said, my boyfriend spends most of his time with them and if I don't go along I barely get to spend any time with him at all. I tried asking him maybe to hold back a bit on spending time with them but he thought I was being controlling or something.

I don't really know what to do.

>>16685796
Ask a friend from work to see a movie with you?

>>16685800

it's like 10pm, and the only person i'd be comfortable with from work is in another city right now, huh.

got the radio on so it sounds like there's another human in the room with me at least

>>16685796
Watch a comforting tv show and make plans with a work friend sometime later this week?

You can't fix your life 10pm on a Thursday my friend, just relax and enjoy yourself

>>16685737
more vitamin d

Get a script from the doctor for the head shit.

Drink more water and moisturize your skin. Get a scrubber/gentle exfoliating wash for your face/body to get rid of the excess skin.

>>16685737
Tea Tree Oil in your shampoo.

>>16685712
cover your face in pizza slices so your face turns red all over

Accutane

I had bad acne in my youth
Nothing worked

My parents had mild acne well into their 40s so I was certain I'd be fucked

Went on Accutane and I've not had a single skin problem for years and years

Only side effects I'd experienced were easy burning and dry skin until I was off it, but that's inevitable. My skin is fucking beautiful now

>>16685712
Exercise and washing face with hot cold water trick.
Drink water. Like a shit ton of water. If you already arent on your 3rd liter youre doing it wrong.
Exercise supposedly has a lot of scientific reasons for helping. But Im going to give you my psuedo science reason.
It feels like the liters of sweat Im perspiring burns a lot. Like it burns the acne. I take that as a sign that the pores with acne are being flushed.
Drinking 4 liters of water is what probably did it the most though. I forget the scientific reason why drinking water prevents acne but a doctor actually told me off handedly that my acne is from me not drinking water enough.

>>16685690

locksmith? unless someone is coming to let you in at some point today, you gotta make the choice. they can be pricey. mine did it for like 60 bucks.

if you have someone who can let you in later, contact them and see if they can help you now. if not go to see a friend or something.

I don't have a cell phone and I have zero cash atm

>>16685700

in regards to what? going elsewhere or getting a locksmith?

in regards to a locksmith just knock on neighbors doors til someone answers

>BUT THAT WOULD BE REALLY AWKWARD AND BENEATH ME

then go start a new life somewhere else cuz ur not getting back inside.

just ask a neighbor if you can call a locksmith, they will generally be like 'sure no problem' and pull up some options for you. call and they will arrive

>BUT I HAVE NO MONEY

you have money inside, or at least a card or checkbook right? locksmiths are used to this, it happens all the fucking time, they dont expect you to have your wallet if you dont have your keys. simply pay him after he gets you in.

in regards to going elsewhere, simply go there. if they are wtihin walking distance. otherwise just go to the local park or something and hang out til you know your roommates / parents will return.

you clearly have access to internet so im betting you have have your phone on you tho.

Bottom line is being with her is making you feel like shit, so next her.

what's the evidence? what is it exactly that makes your guts think she's cheating?

>always trust your guts

>>16685658
The evidence itself isnt really sufficient.
But its involves alcohol, party I wasnt at, not responding to text or messages, hanging out with one of her guy friends I feel like wants to steal her. Apparently they left the party early together.
Also when I asked if they had ever slept together even before we were dating she said it was non of my business. Then theres the suspicious behavior and things I heard word of mouth. Feels like people were being careful with their words about her around me.

>>16685628

Open relationship. It brought my girl and I closer together if you can believe it.

Inb4 cuck faggott only marry virgin 4ever yadda yadda yadda

>>16685659

I have suggested this and he wasn't completely against the idea. I don't know how serious he thought I was though.

How do you and your partner choose alternative partners? I do have one person I'd kill to fuck but I don't know how to tell him it's a particular person (rather than someone random in a club or whatever).

>>16685659
>cuck faggott only marry virgin 4ever yadda yadda yadda

Pre-emptively denying it doesn't make it less true.

take drugs

chemistry is chemistry. don't waste his time forcing shit that isn't there

>>16685574
Do what you know you will be mocked for later. Break up with him.

If you're related by blood there can be complications with children but otherwise do what you want

B8

>Girls get asked out by 300+ guys a days
>Yet they chose to date their own brothers

What chances has a only child like me got.

>>16685598
You can't compete with a handsome brother anon.

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I don't really know, adv... I could just hit the road, look for luck all over the world. I could end up being a bartender in Sydney, a waiter in London or an actor in Hollywood. Or I could end up being homeless in Bratislawa, or a professional burglar somewhere in Ohio. I'm totally lost. And I don't feel anything. I don't feel bad, or good, not angry or calm. Just nothing.

Bump going once

Travel around. It either gets you a great set of memories or the motivation to do something with your life.
You should also check whether you're perhaps suffering from ADHD. It would explain why you can't get arsed to do anything not because you're lazy but because you have a short span of attention. Give it a serious thought, it could help clarify a few things.

Remember, if you don't know where you're going, then it doesn't matter which direction you take.

looking for a job and trying not to kill myself

>>16685502
I do judo, go to gym, play football on a semi-pro level, study some french and meditate when I get the chance, all I can think of now

>>16685502
chess, vidya, aquarium stuff, want to get into drawing and rc

Who started the argument, who attitude sucks.

>>16685492
>to ensure order is restored
Lost

>>16685497
I made two threads about this already, so I'll make it brief on this one.

We hadn't seen each other for 18 days or so, I was getting anxious because I wanted to see her, we finally went out (with her parents), she was embarassed I think, didn't hold my hand, didn't kiss me, pretty much made no physical contact, and the entire time kept talking about how much she wanted to go home, after over half a month of us not meeting.

I got mad about this when I arrived home and we started arguing because she is generally cold and that's something I feel could change. By the end of it she said I was desperate for affection, thought I knew everything, was paranoid, this and that. I really felt like she hated me.

Now she says she wants to stay together but things are like this. I'm actually making an effort but it's pretty hard. She just told be she thought I was "arrogant and fucking snobby" when she first saw me.

You have to actually want to be interested in them. Make yourself care. When they feel you care, they'll reciprocate and you can move beyond small talk bullshit.

When you're with people, focus completely on them and make the conversation about them. Make note of everything about them. Their facial expression, their posture, the wrinkles that appear when they smile. When you're conversing, they and everything about them is the center of your universe now.

Most people make the mistake of waiting for a chance to talk about themselves or what they do. Take the backseat here and actually get interested in what they say. By letting them open up and engaging, they'll feel more comfortable and do the same.

>>16685470
You're having real talk, you're just terrified and trying to be in complete control of every aspect of the situation, and it's preventing you from feeling the connection that is developing.

Let it go and relax. Understand that you aren't in control. When we take it easy, don't struggle, and let go of control and micro-managing of every situation that happens to us, life is much easier, less wearisome, and far more enjoyable. Friendships won't feel like a chore, fear of uncontrollable situations like socializing will lessen, and you'll be able to handle shit that used to bring you to fucking tears.

>>16685470

unfortunately good things come with hard work. you dont quite realize this now becuase all your close friends are already in that 'close' bubble but there came a time where you had to make it work and weed through other people. it was a little easier when you were in a system like school that forced you to interact iwth large groups of people. you were able to single out someone you had a connection with.

a little harder now but not impossible. the best way to do it is to connect with people who have similar interests. this stops your hangouts from being awkward or generic. people who share my interests or are at least passionate about their own connect well with me.

i met a guy at a bar the other day and asked what he did for a living, you know the generic conversation shit. and he told me he does giant fucking lego statues for legoland. turns out he was REALLY into legos growing up, like autistically obsessed so much that it lead to a very big career for him.

personally i never liked legos, but i appreciate the level of obsession. i got into filmmaking at a young age and my entire life revolves around it now. so a lot of people simply cannot connect with me. they find my obsession autistic, even those who do indulge in filmmaking.

but this guy gets it and i get him, so we hit it off real easy. these are the kind of people that have the weird tattoos and like the odd niche stuff, stuff you might not have heard of but are of interest when you do because its pretty fucking neat.

that being said, you might not be really passionate about anything or odd enough for this sort of thing, so lets operate under the assumption that you need someone with similar interests?

>write down your interests, even if you consider them to be stupid indoor activities that people only do alone
>then google those with 'clubs' and 'groups' in your area. even nerds go down to comic and game shops once every week or two for tournaments and other such events.