This thread is for advice not concerning significant others.
Focus on friends, family, education, work, drug abuse, etc.
My best friend is dating an absolutely controlling bitch who wants to completely change his life.
They're engaged.
Do I have a place to stop him or talk to him about it?
I don't want to lose him as a friend by doing so.
What is the best way to get rid of a tobacco addiction?
>>16685342
The patches work pretty well, but you still have to commit.
My girlfriend has recently become completely apathetic to sex.
>Started dating four years ago
>Very sexual relationship, ate her out in her car on a date. She gave my road head, constantly wants to make out.
>Go to her house a week later and we have sex for the first time.
>amazing passionate connection
>Sex three-five times a day for a few months
Skip to now
>Sex maybe once a month
>Gets turned off when groped
>Only wants to hang out and watch episodes of Seinfeld, get stoned, go on hikes.
>feels like we're just friends now
She got off birth control a few months ago. her sex drive started to diminish while on it, and she said that it gave her anxiety. She showed me a study that said using birth control for too long can permanently destroy your sex drive.
I'm afraid this might be the case...
We had a heart to heart a while ago, and she basically said that sex just doesn't interest her anymore. She gets anxiety from penetration, even with a condom, because she is afraid of getting pregnant. So we started doing a lot of oral sex and foreplay, and it was great, but now she doesn't want to do that either.
She says she wants more control, and wants me to stop making advances. she wants me to let her come to me.
I've been trying this, but it's fucking hard. She is extremely attractive. Short, big breasts, perfect ass, small waist, gigantic hips. IMO she's a 10/10.
She also wears leggings almost exclusively, so I find it really hard when we're laying down to not grab her ass or put my hand down her pants. I have stopped, but when she gives me any signal that she may want sex, I make a move and she gets upset.
My sexual frustration is getting to me. I've considered cheating, but talked myself out of it. It gets harder by the day, though. I want to connect with her on that physical level again, I need the validation of making her orgasm, I just feel like we broke up without saying it and are now just friends.
I just feel like she is being a huge tease. Kissing me, coming over to my house, laying next to me with her ass pressed against me. Getting dressed in front of me but not wanting to be touched.
What can I do? I want to do what she says, completely stop making sexual advances, but it's so frustrating. I haven't had sex in a month. I don't like masturbating, it's not the same. When I jack off I just feel shitty that I have to do it when I have a beautiful girlfriend that could do it for me.
I tried giving her libido supplements, but they didn't make a big difference. She ran out and said she would buy more, but I don't think she has.
Any advice or words of wisdom would be appreciated. My sexual frustration is starting to affect my career. I've found myself avoiding my duties to go home and meet up with my gf, hoping that we can have sex, then when she's not in the mood I feel horrible realizing I just wasted my time trying to get sex then getting nothing.
I also looked through her phone, I know I shouldn't have, but I had to know if there was something else going on.
Nothing. No talking to any guys, no signs of cheating, nothing. The only people she talks to are her family and female friends. I found a conversation she had with one of her female friends talking about how I'm the perfect boyfriend and she's very happy with me. That made me feel pretty hopeless.
she might be getting satisfied elsewhere
Am I wrong for thinking that new roomate is something your bf/gf should say about?
>bf lives in flat with two other of my friends
>dont meet for a while due to christmas break
>go to him today
>turns out gf of one of guys is now living there
I know it is nothing big but I alsk him at least once a week how things are going in his flat and he never said anything, which made me feel weird and insignificant.
He doesnt agree that information like this is any important.
Who is right?
>>16685211
Usually people who live in the same flat grow to hate eachother. Not always tho, it's like brothers/sisters. Incest does exist...
why don't you stop being a passive-aggressive bitch and just ask whether he wants to fuck her? that's what you're really worried about, isn't it?
what other fucking information are you fucking trying to fish for then?
>>16685220
I am not worried about that. I want to know if i am right or wrong to think that information like this is something people tell their partners
I know either one is not very attractive, but which is the lesser of two evils? Are skinny guys really as repulsive to women as fat chicks are to guys? I'm skinny-fat, but not that fat. I have a hard time gaining muscle but I'm tall. 6’1" weighing about 163. Strong for my slim frame and not so big arms though, I move heavy shit around every day at work, so I could probably lift a non fat girl up and fuck her against the wall. That's what counts right?
Women want men who possess true confidence.
Men who can approach a woman without being needy and give her what she desires and still can leave her without investing too much.
Sounds cringey, but it is true.
So, be selfish, but also be good to others.
Also, the more you invest in yourself, the more quality women you will meet in your surrounding.
So chase your dreams or your goals instead some women who you put on the pedestal and dethrone your own life.
Skinny guys look good until they take their clothes off, fat guys look like shit all the time.
how about somebody that takes care of their body?
other than that, i can find either one appealing. but i strongly take personality into consideration when starting to find somebody attractive, so there's that.
I am in dire need of some extra income and heard I can sell panties I've worn for a decent price. Does anyone know the best method, websites, or price ranges for doing this? Would I be expected to show my face/reveal my identity to a customer?
>>16685177
I'll give you 5 NZD to eat my shit and drink my piss
Is that you OP? If so let's talk.
do you have the panties of a more attractive girl?
your bottom half is pretty plain jane.
Anyone here lucid dream? if so. can you give me some tips to induce one.
I naturally obtain sleep paralysis, which causes me to be more lucid during dreams. So if you get sleep paralysis, think of it like a bridge between wake and deep sleep. Generally, people are lucid during sleep paralysis so you want to cross over to deep sleep while you're in paralysis.
From there you should be set - but honestly lucid dreaming happens pretty random for me.
Get comfortable and dont DONT move a muscle. Eventually you will fall asleep. Listening to different waves can help just search "bineural beats" on YouTube. Listen to that while falling asleep without moving and boom, success. At least thats works for me part of the time.
The first step is to be able to recall your dreams. How are you gonna lucid dream if you can even remember it when you wake up?
Start keeping a dream journal by your bed. Try to record every dream in detail right when you wake up.
>tfw a girl you hooked up with flakes out on you
I feel so crappy. I spent months on online dating, finally found a girl I thought I'd have something real with. Went on 3 dates with her, had a great time, we ended up having sex on the third... and then she just kinda drifted away, never available, stops answering calls/texts. I feel really dejected. I mean, she was the first girl I had slept with in a while, and although we had sex 3 times in one night, made me wonder if it was really bad sex for her or if she was just lying to me about it being great.
I mean, and don't get me wrong, I REALLY went through hundreds of girls in online dating until this one girl I was attracted to gave me a chance. And now she's gone, and I'm back to square one. I've gone on other dates from this site and they either cut the date short and never want to talk again, or they have some horribly obvious problem like stinking breath that ruins any kind of attraction I might have had.
How do I get over it guys? Should I give up on online dating and just try to meet people in real life? Do I try to work on myself and just ignore dating for a while; I'm thinking maybe these girls just see me as some broke college student working part-time and lose interest: the fact is my life isn't very together even though I'm 24.
I feel like my whole 20s, which is supposed to be the time I'm having a decent sex life, is just being wasted away, and the only thing I get is rejection at the end of the day.
What site did you used?
Why are you letting one flaky girl ruin your life?
Sounds like you dodged a bullet by figuring out she was shit early.
how about you stop online dating and start offline dating lol
Hi adv, I am an assman.
Show me a female's ass and if my dick approves it gets hard and I approve, too.
And it does it very rarely, it is so bad that I want to play with someone's butt.
But not any butt, butt one that belongs to one whom I like and can imagine spending some long time together.
Surely, this is somehow obstructing me seeing other women.
Women who might like me, or even approached me and I just couldn't see, because I am also a dense man who is trying to be less dense and also be able to look beyond the mountains I wanna hike.
How do I deal with it?
Or how do I use it to my advantage and get more out of my dating life?
I don't see any problems, here. No shame I'm not dating flat ass girls if that's not what you're attracted to.
Go in for the booty and get to know them after.
Unless I'm completely misunderstanding the predicament
i don't see a problem either.
i found out about boobs-and assman a few years ago and i find it rather amusing to find out which guy is whch type. it's normaly pretty obvious.
however.
your concern is what? that you knowingly diminish your dating-pool? so what? erybody has preferences. it's totally ok to wanting a thick ass.
>>16685005
No, you understand it correctly.
None the less, I see not enough opportunities for dating because almost no one has the right composition of muscle (if any) and fat (too much) to make me attracted to them.
I mean, have you ever seen a woman with a nice ass but she has fatwings under her arms or the fat sploorges over her back?
it is a dilemma for me.
My girlfrinds has a strange problem.
When he was 10 she started to tear her hair without a reason.
Now when she is stressed or sad automatically starts this weired habit, but she's not ok with her self, she would like to know the reason, the main cause that happend long time ago, but it is too difficult, maybe impossible.
We are in a sort of long distance relationship, i can see her only the weekend :(
This girl is so important for me, i want the best for her, but i can't be with her the time i would like and she is suffering so much for this.
Now we are in busy situation with our schools and activities, and she is so sad.
I had the idea to do something special next Saturday with her, maybe a gift, something that could help her to stay positive and remind her about how much i love her.
Do you have any sort of advice about our situation and about her habit?
Thank you for your time :)
(Sorry for my english)
>>16684770
It's called trichotillomania. It's a very rare disorder. My little sister has it too. There's nothing you can do about it
Usually stress triggers her pulling
>>16684770
http://www.trich.org/treatment/options.html
I tried my best but couldn't find much. Look here.
>>16684780
Do you think she could improve with time?
She was wondering if the main cause may be a tragic event, like a rape or something else, but she doesn't know...but i don't think so
What should I do in this situation?
Does she not respect me?
'Lol' - then don't reply til she brings up a new topic
She'll hopefully get the hint you don't give af about hearing about her ex, even in dream form
>>16684766
We're in a ldr and I hate hearing this shit. If she respects me, she wouldn't say shit like this.
Why is kissing so much more intimate than sex?
My fwb never wants to kiss but she has no problem sucking my dick.
Do most girls feel that way, that kissing is more intimate?
>>16684744
>tfw haven't kissed anyone since I was 15
>can't remember what it feels like
it feels good, right?
Maybe she's worried that it seems too romantic. As a girl, I can tell you that I want to kiss more than anything. It seems so tender and innocent.
She's just watched Pretty Woman too much or something. Kissing is not more intimate than sex. It's just kissing.
As a female I kiss one night stands and fwbs
But some people are definitely afraid of getting attached and may view kissing as a more romantic gesture over sexual
Anyone else with ADD/ADHD that know ways for me to get my shit together?
I can't afford a shrink.
>>16684650
Get high, it really helps
Self medicate with cocaine. I also find coffee and energy drinks calm me down, which is apparently related.
But really try adjusting your diet/exercise and take a multivitamin. I've heard fish oil can help, but I've also heard the fish oil pills don't really work, so just consider incorporating more fish into your diet to eat.
This can do wonders for people suffering from all kinds of maladies, but it's been proven to especially help ADD-ADHD focus.
I have a comorbid diagnosis of ADD-ADHD and I never felt the medication was worth the side effects, anyway.
>>16684674
I should add that doing a quick work out in the morning before you start your day can be really beneficial (for everyone, really).
Well, her friend found it actually.
I thought I had deleted it long ago. I guess not. I guess it has been active this whole time.
I made it a few months back when I wasn't sure about our future together. I never was going to use it to cheat on her, but I got curious and at the time was living in a different city anyway.
We've talked about it and she believes me that I didn't cheat on her, but I can't get this huge weight off me. It follows me everywhere.
Is it possible for us to get past this or is that an exercise in futility?
Also, how should I go about dealing with friends that have innevitably found out? She's being good about not telling people but the girl that found it, we don't know who she has told.
Wew
Just delete it and be done with it if that's what you want. If she gets iffy reassure her you want to be with her, or whatever. If your relationship can't get past this it's because of bigger issues, not this single incident. Just put faith in her for now and hope she does the same for you.
As for who gets told :
What a fucking non issue. Who gives a fucking what they think. It's not their relationship. If people bug you about a fucking tinder account, shrug it the fuck off. Sweet lord, you're calling a papercut a stab wound. You'll pull through, OP.
Well the least you could do is go back and delete it for now. Ultimately, the relationship is between you and your girlfriend, and it is not up to any internet strangers to call you a whore (though it's unlikely because you're a guy and only women get called whores on this godforsaken chinese pictogram board) and your girlfriend should break up or whatever.
At the end of the day, to be honest, it's nothing. If your friends find out, just say "yeah, I made one out of curiosity. nothing happened, the end."
>>16684638
Its all about trust, if you explained to her and she believed you I don't see what's the big deal. I had a tinder account while eating my ex, she knew about it and it was ok with that because she trusted me (and I had no reasons to lie to her).
Can we have a thread for guys where we talk about our successes dealing with women romantically and just in general.
Theres a lot of truth to the nice guy meme and its really sad in general to watch because no one deserves that. Im not blaming women but its only natural that someone would become bitter when they think they can go through life being nice and then are never rewarded and are hurt.
A thread like this where they could read how other guys deal with women and their experiences my allow them not to fall into the same pit falls and hopefully let these guys who deserve some happiness understand how to get it.
>>16684630
Most people learn thru experience..
Get burnt once and then they stop being retarded
>deal with women
>being nice and then are never rewarded
>deserve some happiness
You know what's wrong with your entire OP post, aside from the blazing faggotry? I'll give you like, 20 guesses.
>>16684630
>nice
You mean basic courtesy, right? That's what most people have.
Ive been with my fiance ever seen he met me while he was vacation in taiwan and he gave me his number and email. We kept a long distance relationship secret until i turned 18 (met when i was 15 and he was 25) and he sent for me to move to America with him, i hadnt even finished school before i moved. My family had no idea because they would not have approved.
Fast forward 3 years, we have been engaged for a year and are living in a brand new beautiful home. I cook and clean and spend all my time with him. I am truly in love and want to spend my life with him but after new years this year he got up and made his own breakfast which is unlike him and asked me to sit with him. He tells me that he's fallen out of love with me and that I've taken his best years from him when he couldve been partying and hooking up with girls like the rest of his friends, he tells me that he feels that he deserves a more fun life and all i do is hold him back...
This devastates me, he also tells me that i need to move out by the time he gets back from a business trip next week, i can take whatever i want but i just have to be gone... i have nowhere to go, he kind of made me cut off contact from my family and i have no job and no highschool diploma, all i know how to do is clean and be a housewife... part of me just wants to take all of my sleeping pills and let him find me when he comes back... my life means nothing now thati can't be with him... the other half just wants to pack what i can and travel... I've saved up a little bit of money but i have no direction and no goals... i feel as if im better off dead, it will help him get over me quicker. I love him even though he hates me. I have no reason to live anymore...
Im a sheep with no guide... what do i do?
>>16684623
Finish school.
Don't be a stool, have your own hobbies, keep being interesting.
Find someone who will actually care for you
what you can do is take whatever you want and start a new life , go back to your parents maybe , they'll be super happy to have you back
what a dick. im so sorry.