Who /paranoid/ here? I'm pretty sure literally everyone I come across hates my guts for being a loser NEET. Even my own family, everything they say I think way too deeply about and it always comes back around to people fucking with me. Even online, people will play stupid to fuck with me I think. Is that paranoid or are people really just THAT mean spirited? I never could get that, I've always been a nice person, so it doesn't make sense how people can be so cruel. I feel like if I don't have something to offer people just don't want to be around me and it's fucking bullshit. I can't be mean myself, I don't know how to and I'm not very good at it. What do you guys think? Am I just paranoid or what?
I used to be a neet and i thought the exact same feelings. Literally it is somewhat true, people will feel a bit weird about someone being a NEET loser, they might make an odd joke randomly but majority of the time they don't give a shit. Im no longer a neet and i notice people don't care really, they think "Oh you should study or work" then thats it, they continue their life.
I recommend ignoring other people and do what will make you happy.
>>16688730
It's hard for me to ignore people for some reason, I take it too dearly to heart. Like my nieces and nephews, brother in law, half sister were shit to me during christmas and they are literally dead to me at this point. All I tried to do was be there for the family and they treat me like that. People also give me dirty looks or maybe smile or laugh or talk shit behind my back when I go places sometimes and idk why. I don't think they are jealous of me so it has to be the way I look or carry myself and all I try to do is be as normie as possible so idk why people hate me. Fuck it, I need to find me again, but I can't with my life in shambles. Anytime I try to make it better shit like this happens.
Maybe instead of getting all offended and crying about it you should fix your shitty lifestyle because everyone will hate you for being a non contributing no life leech. Or you can stay a fat fuck and just get used to people thinking that way of you. If you behave like a pathetic human we will treat you like a pathetic human.
I got scammed. I sold a camera lens through marktplaats (Dutch craigslist) and the money never arrived. We met in person and I saw him complete the transfer with his iPhone app but three days later the money hasn't gone through: €1500.
It was my girlfriend's camera lens and probably her only valuable possession. We are low on money hence me trying to sell it.
I feel so violated and stupid and trying to stave of panic attacks. I've reported it to the guy's bank, I have his name and a photo of his driver's license and made a police report last night.
I found his Facebook and made a fake profile, first friending his friends and then him. He finally wrote back yesterday, denied all attempts at defrauding me then reluctantly and finally agreed to meet me today. I brought a strong friend along just in case but he was a no show. He originally proposed a very late time claiming he had a night shift, I suppose to buy him extra hours?
He did beg me to stop dragging his name in the mud, but since his no show I have just escalated my attempts. I’ve posted the whole story on Facebook on my timeline and Instagram with my fake and tagged all his mutual friends. I’ve gotten the ear of one of his closer friends, but most of them play dumb or “don’t want to get involved”.
What other recourse do I have left? It does seem like he wants me to stop informing everybody, but he is also seemingly eager to avoid giving back my property. I don’t know his address, any phone number under his family name in the area doesn’t answer, but I do think I know what neighbourhood he is in.
I am going to keep up the Facebook shaming, and keep mentioning that the police are now involved, any other thoughts?
Didn't you agree to meet yesterday?
What have the police said
Thats grand larceny, capable of going to jail for more then a year, in the us at least.
Keep on going bro, thats 1 goddamn k and some
Do guys expect the girl to swallow his load? I have fun giving my bf a bj until he cums. He always wants me to swallow idk why, but I never do because I think it's gross. How do other girls manage to swallow fun without heaving?
>>16688553
Yes
>>16688553
Just let him finish in your hair. He'll respect you for it.
It's sort of a ego stroke if you do.
Spitting reminds them that they taste nasty and should be ashamed to like oral.
How do I ask to my gf if she would like to buy some lube, since it might involve that it means that we will do sex next time we meet?
> I don't want to appear as someone that thinks only about sex, because it is not true and it makes my effort in other things with her useless.
You know, anons, girl pay attention to those particulars, and I'm really into her I don't want to make errors.
just buy some fucking lube yourself and bring it you stupid fuck
>>16688534
moron there are too many fucking lubes out there. What if she don't like "Faggotry Strawberry flavour" or "Sea Fart".
Talking is always the best, and I need a line to start talking about that.
>>16688542
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAH
holy shit you are a pathetic faggot
This chick has casual hookups and got out of a long term relationship
Should I go for it?
She says she wants to have fun for the time being
>>16688458
Do you hate your cock?
>She says she wants to have fun for the time being
What does that even mean? It's a rhetorical question as I'm sure it just mean clubbing, getting drunk, snorting coke and getting gangbanged.
Do you want it OP?
>>16688465
Not OP, but i sure want that.
tell me if I did the right thing
>at friends house drinking with a couple of other friends and my gf
>gf nags me for an hour straight for my brother to pick us up
>I finally ring him, he come to pick us up
>gf says she wanted to then stay there which is what I first suggested because our cars were there
>loose my shit at her, tell brother its all good and tell him sorry
> around 1am, tell gf I'm going to bed when is she coming?,
>tells me she'll be in bed soon
>wake up at 5am to her and another guy (who was my friends house mate - this guy was spewing and rolling in dirt all night) on the couch, with separate blankets next to each other
>loose my shit, guy she was next to shits it and goes in his room,
>ask gf wtf, says nothing happened
>ask one other person who was awake if anything happened, his response "what ever your gf said was right, im not getting involved"
>gf doesn't apologize and rants on about how she did nothing etc
>wait 3 days for an apology, does not give one
>break up with her
a friend of mine tells me that I'm in the wrong because "I dont own her" which is fair enough but why be in a relationship if you going to do that?
was I in the right? I mean who does this to their partner in the first place?
>>16688309
Haven't you posted this already?
>>16688313
no?, did I do the right thing?
>>16688309
>what ever your gf said was right, im not getting involved
It was ogre, of course you should have broke up with her.
How to save a shitty reputation?
You ask a girl out, she says no. You ask another girl out, she has a bf. You ask another, she wants to be le single and have fun. Eventually you ask everyone in your class.
Girls usually talk among themselves about guys and shit and if you asked a LOT of them out and you were rejected every time because of various reasons, you will only be considered pathetic.
In this case, is there any way to save such a reputation?
I mean isn't it better to be on your own with no one to give a damn about you?
>>16688238
Protip:
Don't date in the bowl you eat from.
Srs, dating with classmates is a bad idea. Ons are the best you can get, and even then it can be awkward.
You obviously have self confidence, why not go find them elsewhere like everyone else?
What the FUCK is up with that picture
>>16688243
>don't date with class mates
>don't date at work
>don't date from the gym
>don't hit up on girls on the street
Seriously, where the fuck am I supposed to date? I have like zero female contacts as it is... Man I'm like this close to just give up
On the couch with a cold. Got plenty of time to give well-meant advice for anyone who needs it!
that is exactly what I am also doing.
>>16688224
Isn't that what this board is about? Now this is my advice to you:
Give advice to people on their topics
>>16688225
Get well soon then!
My GF is Vietnamese and I'm white.
We've been dating for almost 3 years and she will never have a conversation with me and her parents at the same time. They like to talk whenever I go over, and if I'm talking to them she will either leave the room, or refuse to join the conversation.
Now I know damn well she speaks to them while I'm not there, so it definitely has something to do with me. This troubling since her parents speak broken English, and theres a language barrier that my GF could easily help with but she never does.
I was recently diagnosed with Crohns disease and I was trying to explain it to her mother. However, all she got out of the conversation was that I was having stomach problems and she said I need to eat better. All the while my GF is just sitting their and made not attempt to help explain or even join in the conversation. I told her to help explain it and she just refused.
So what the hell is up with this? Is she embarrassed by me? Is this common with other Asian families?
I should also mention that ive talked to her about this before. Her answer was that I don't talk to her parents that much and she just wants let me talk with them. But after two years I can't remember once where we all had a conversation together.
I know her parents stress her out like crazy, and I feel it may have something to do with it.
bumping one more time. any advice?
What an odd situation. Although I've grown up with some Asian friends and relatives, and I know introducing a foreign bf or gf can be hard, I've never heard of something like this.
I can guess what your gf's motives are, but she's the only one who can tell you. I would urge younto talk about this again, in a non-accusing way. Approach it with a "let's try to fix this together" attitude, rather than telling her how this is weird or upsetting to you. Because whatever your girl' motives are, this situation is hard enough for her to act this odd about it.
Looking for a bit of /adv/ice here please, I don't come on this board often so I don't really know if I will get good advice.
I live in dormitories at college with 10 rooms and we all share a kitchen. We do stuff together, we see each other and everything. One of the girls is really cute and I want to ask her out but this is difficult because I will live with her for the rest of the year, and because I have never asked a girl out before.
I see her in the kitchen, I talk to her and often she will be alone. I was thinking that the best thing to do would be to nonchalantly ask her on a date but I am not sure if this will backfire.
I was reading online about "building attraction", is there any truth to this?
I am fairly good looking I think.
How should I go about asking her out? Thanks in advance :)
>college
>living with girls
If you haven't gotten together drunk and yet then it's never going to happen.
>>16688203
This.
Also, if you see her alone so much, just ask her if she wants to hang out. She's obviously free. If she says no, then oh well- she's just a loner.
Nobody in my flat drinks too much. It's a bit strange.
I want to ask her out to do something. Should I invite her out directly and do dinner, or try and invite her to something subtle that is sort of a date.
How do people with no experience find better jobs than minimum wage pseudo-full-time ones?
I'm not talking about going back to university or getting some training, because I need a better paying job immedietly. What I am getting paid now is not enough for maintaining a healthy standard of living.
I live in a medium city in Ireland. I look at job ads, but all of them require training, a degree or experience. I applied to job agencies to find some factory work. When I go in person they just say to send e-mail and wait. I haven't heard from them since.
I know a guy who got a job in a factory paid 400 euro per week just because his sister works there. Is it the only way to get such job?
Nepotism
>>16688166
You get paid what you're worth- if you have no skills, you get peanuts.
Learn to do something useful.
>>16688166
Emailing gives you the lowest odds. No face, no personality, just a fuckin email.
Show up, in person, dressed as if you work there already or as professional as you can, and have a quality resume on hand. Politely ask for assistance in finding someone who does hiring. POLITELY. Be sincere and thankful, and ask if it's ok to exchange info for a follow up.
Directly relate whatever skills you have to what he job requires. Tell them that you are a fast learner, and are willing to be fired if you are not good enough. You just want a chance to do some work you feel you could excel at, not just for the money.
Approach at least 200 businesses this way. I am not kidding about his number. Do this 10 times a day, wake up early and stay out late. You will have a job within the month, I guarantee this.
Hello, /adv/.
Both of my parents are Muslim. They were born and raised Muslim, and they have decided to continue this tradition with their children. The problem is, though, that I am an atheist. Even better, I’m a 18-year old girl. I live in the U.S. It took me a long time to even admit to myself that I was an atheist. My parents often use religion to deny me things, such as hanging out with my friends, having a boyfriend, etc. I’m not allowed to dress as my friends, and every weekend they drag me off to Madrasa. Madrasa is a Muslim school that I spend roughly seven hours in every weekend. It’s really tedious and I hate going. It’s unfair to make me go through hours of something I don’t believe in. I’ll be sitting there and thinking, why am I going through this if it makes absolutely no difference in my life? I’ve never told anyone in my family about my being atheist, and I’m really scared to do so. I highly doubt my parents will be accepting of me, and will probably either ship me to relatives in other countries or kick me out. I disagree with what my parents hold dear and I feel as though I will not be able to have a relationship with them when I grow up. How do I deal with this? I hate this, and I don’t know what to do about it.
>>16688162
Keep your mouth shut until you move out and look to move out as soon as you can.
>>16688285
This. Save up some money, go to college, respect your parents as much as you can, and plan on living on your own. It might devastate them when you drop the bomb, but hopefully that will be a while from now and you will be independent. Just tell them, as best as you can, that you aren't as strongly religious as they are. You will still work to be a good person, and religious ceremony just has to take the back seat for now. If they don't accept it, don't fault them. Just try to make a life you can enjoy.
What previous anons said! Make sure to fix a nice life for yourself without telling your parents, as it's highly probably they won't understand and make it really hard on you and themselves. Unfortunately I guess a big part of that means you'll have to sit things out until you can move out and do your own thing.
As for a more temporary solution, wouldn't it be an option to try and fill your weekends with other things that are possibly more important than weekend religious school? Maybe extra tutoring, sports, playing a musical instrument? If they're really religious it might be a long shot but that's the only thing I could think of.
What are your best manipulation techniques ? And for which purpose do you use them ?
I think the best way to manipulate someone is by gaining their trust. There is no magical technique you can use on everyone, it's not like that, you need to find what someone values or what you can give them, work towards achieving that in their mind and then trade. Your trade should be mutual, you offer them something, they offer you something.
Don't believe the Machievelli stuff either, that will get you no where in the real world when you have 0 power. It will actually destroy you faster than you can gain. You should instead follow the anti-machievelli advice by Fredrick The Great.
>>16688088
To get girls.
I manipulate her and her friends. Driving a huge rift between them so that I can replace them in her heart. Then ask her out once she has no one left and she'll usually cave from fear of losing me as well.
Technique wise I wait for even the mildest argument and reaffirm her beliefs as much as possible. Snitch on her friends to her as much as possible. Create intentional misunderstanding through omission. Give her terrible advice that will make her feel better but isolate her.
Sure is edgelord in here.
I've been trying to act alpha for few months at new school, not flirting with girls, just harmless non-needy chatting etc, but I heard there have been rumours around me that I am gay.
Why? What should I do? Should I start being more flirty?
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Your talking to all women like regular people (zero flirting) don't have a girlfriend, and act alpha.
You gay?
>>16688003
Come out of the closet.
>>16688003
>alpha
>not flirting
>harmless
Doesn't sound alpha to me. Alpha has the word 'tough' associated with it.
i am still on the road to suicide.
>>16688002
That road always has a little rest stop called 'post it on 4chan'.
Come on nigga, get off the ledge. There's a world full of pussy and hot tubs and zip lining. Go do something fun.
>>16688006
i cant wait to kill myself.
>>16688011
Yes you can. That's why you're still on the road. That's why you're posting. You've been waiting the whole time and you're gonna keep waiting.
If you have the balls blow your head off, you have the balls to live a successful life.
If you're too scared for both, then stop wasting my time.