I'm 5'5" and I'm 19 y/o I weigh somwhere around 130 pounds. What would you guys consider fat? Because I think 130 is pushing it.
Yum.
>>16686820
No.
Not fat, but not thin either.
You guys say this a lot but it's not exactly easy. I need a reason to talk to to someone and I can't really think of anything in (public place), especially when conversing with a stranger.
Additionally, saying "I like you, let's go out" is fucking terrible. She's gonna think you've got the auts.
So literally, what do I do. What the fuck do I even say.
I work retail and I see people start up random conversations in line all the time, it's totally dependant on the situation
say you see a girl wearing a shirt with a band name on it, do you like the band? Cool start up saying you like her shirt.
Are you both standing line somewhere? Comment on what she's buying.
both out and about, taking public transport? Comment on the weather
I'd say the most important thing when first greeting a stranger is to seem positive.
>>16686813
no one said it was easy, they said it is what you do.
>>16686813
Be realistic, you're not just gonna walk up to girls in the middle of a public place and talk to them. You'll meet them in class, or working, or at a party, or a bar, or in some other contextual situation you can talk about.
Men ask me out left and right.
How do I tell them no and still be a nice person?
>>16686788
"Thank you, but |I'm not dating right now@
"Thank you, but I'm seeing some one."
"Thank you, but this is a very busy time for me right now and I have to focus all my energies on school/work/family"
"Thank you, but I don't think your wife would approve."
>>16686793
>Thank you, but I don't think your wife would approve.
Top fucking kek
>>16686788
Just say you have a bf (if they're not in a position to find out that you actually don't). That way, it's like you're not really rejecting them.
Girl at school called me vain. How do change her opinion of me? She thinks I'm vain because I'm going to get laser treatment for mind acne scarring.
Should I tell her that I've had acne for 10 years and it's caused me psychological distres? Maybe opening up will get her to change her opinion of me?
I'm also always well dressed and well groomed and conduct myself in a manner that exudes confidence (thanks adv). So naturally I get female attention. She's jealous of this one girl that's been giving me lots of attention lately but I really only want the first girl. All she ever does is tease me about girl 2 and told me I'm promiscuous, which I'm not. I've suffered from social anxiety for a long time
>>16686737
then just ignore and politely shoot down the 2nd girl infront of her.
and when she calls you promiscuous just joke about it and imply you want to get with her
What do you give a fuck what she thinks of you?
My boyfriend has been an extremely angry person recently. It feels like I'm walking on eggshells whenever I talk to him. He's been punching walls and picking fights with everything I say and storming off all mad and leaving the house. He is constantly complaining and angry and annoyed with everything, but I still love him more than anything. He's really a great guy, I just have no idea how to help him and whenever I bring it up, he just gets more angry.
A lot of the problems are with our dog, who's a really fucking sweet dog. Never does a single thing wrong, besides barking at the mailman (no joke) and she is excitable around strangers. But he'll get so angry/annoyed or whatever with her and just start throwing her around and yelling at her and calling her a peice of shit and shaking her by her face. Then he wonders why she doesn't come to him when he calls her anymore and that pisses him off and it's just like, shit!!! I don't know what to do! I'm not a fucking doctor. So if any of you bros have any advice, I would greatly appreciate it. I really want to help him...
>>16686723
>just start throwing her around and yelling at her and calling her a peice of shit and shaking her by her face
record this and file a complaint with animal control and give them the video. your dog doesn't deserve to live with an abusive shit like that
and leave him. if he does that to an animal/pet that supposedly has value to him, there's little reason to think he won't keep escalating and start roughing you up as well
>>16686936
I don't want to leave him. I want to help him.... He's honestly always super sweet and nice to me. My dog doesn't deserve it, but I just can't get in-between when it's happening. I get too scared..... I'm a horrible person.
>>16686953
he's eventually going to beat you. that's how people like this progress
>My dog doesn't deserve it, but I just can't get in-between when it's happening
if you gave a shit about your dog you would record it and do what I said, or at least leave him.
I have a tiny 1 bed apartment with kitchen and bathroom. I'm paying $650 for it, that doesnt include water/heating bills or internet.
This seems like a lot to me but its the cheapest I can find that isn't shared with someone else.
The location is the middle of a small town.
How much are you paying?
>>16686680
$425 plus utilities, three roommates. One room to myself, shared kitchen, but no living room. I live in a semi-ghetto area near my college, but it's nbd.
$1000 for a small closet 1 room and 1 kitchen. No living room or anything. Living in middle of tokyo
$540 for a one bedroom, one bath with a kitchen, living room, and storage area.
Athens, GA for school.
I'm 23 and fucking terrified. So many people I know are having children, all of them are accidental pregnancies. I was an accidental pregnancy and I know that so were pretty much all of my cousins.
It seems to me that basically if a couple is together long enough and having sex enough, eventually a child will result.
I DO NOT WANT THIS.
But I also really love my girlfriend, she's the best. But I am so terrified of her falling pregnant I think I might have to break up with her... the risk doesn't seem worth it. She has an Implenon bar and we use condoms as well to make doubly sure but she has to take it out soon and it has really wrought a lot of hormonal havoc for her and I do not blame her for wanting it to stay out.
I see some couples who are like 35 and childfree and I wonder that they must have had a vasectomy or something.
How reversable is a vasectomy?
>>16686675
Isn't there a way you can store a sample of your sperm in case you want to have kids later? I'd be expensive but you might save money in the long run
>>16686686
*it'd
Your fear is utterly irrational.
That aside, a vasectomy is a potentially permanent solution. Wikipedia tells me that there are reversal surgeries but they are expensive and can be unsuccessful (read: they'll sterilize you forever).
If you're careful and research more methods to preventing fertilization, you can minimize risk of pregnancy as far as you possibly can. But you're freaking out, man. If her being pregnant means that you'll break up with her, it sounds like you don't really love her.
Are kneesocks an appropriate gift for your gf?
They would be for me, hnnng. That's my fetish, though
I have a drawer dedicated to knee socks
>>16686606
Yes. Find some cute ones!
>>16686606
Who knows?
Who knows anything?
Hey guys. Last week I bought this really nice, expensive vibrator for myself. I keep it at my boyfriend's apartment since I have roommates and the buzz is loud, so I can't use it at home.
Anyway, I thoroughly expressed to my boyfriend that my new expensive vibrator is NOT FOR BUTT STUFF.
>Bf openly loves butt stuff, sometimes I stick things up his pooper during sex, all is good
>He has his own dildos for this
>I told him not to put mine in his butt
>Don't even put it in my own butt
>I keep finding my vibrator in places I did not leave it
>Bf says he likes to put the vibrator against his balls while jacking off
>I am skeptical
>Pretty sure he's butt fucking it
>He denies everything
What do I do, /adv/? I don't want gross ass bacteria all over my toy. No matter how thoroughly it can be cleaned :(
Keep it at your place then just bring it over to use at his
>>16686597
I... Why has it never occurred to me to stick one of these against muh balls while I jack it?
Eh... Let him stick it up his butt... XD, even better, stick it in his mouth next time you're over. Ask him if it tastes like butt...
Confront him about how you really can't trust him regarding this object which you own.
Perhaps you would feel safer if you come to the conclusion that you'd prefer he doesn't use it at all, not even on his balls if you're not with him. As much as a relationship is about "sharing and caring" it's also respecting borders. This toy is yours, and even if he was your husband you have no obligation to share it with him.
I love magic wands myself, but with the money they are worth it's important to know you are the true wielder. But if he's even able to ram it up his ass I'm impressed. They are not designed for that stuff, our beloved "massage wands".
Im so torn /adv/
To keep it short, I have been dating a girl for almost 3.5 years (with two 6ish month break ups during that time). She just started talking to me again this past week. And we fucked a few times already too (i know, dumb).
Ive never cared so much for someone, and I know how badly she cares for me. She wants to be with me so bad. Half of me wants to get back with her, and I know if I do, I need to be all in and considering marriage within a year or so. The other half of me still wants to live life, go out with friends, meet new girls, and travel.
Im 25 years old, she is 23. The thought of not talking to her again is so hard, and thinking of her with someone else kills me inside. Fuck i just dont know what to do.
Any /adv/ would be awesome.
>>16686541
Question: jobs?education?family life? More background needed
>>16686541
Since you mentioned marriage, if she wants to have kids soon, get the fuck away.
Otherwise, once you marry, there's no reason why you two can travel together.
>>16686548
Jobs/education: I am college educated and have a good job for a large financial firm, I will be making $100k before 30 years old. She did cosmetology school, and works at a salon. It is a high end so she will probably clear $50k-$60k by the time she is 30.
We both have solid family structure in our lives. Her parents I know have talked about divorce in the past, but they seemed to have worked things out.
She is definitely not as motivated as I am, and a part of me wishes she was. But she still works hard. And i know she would do anything to make things work with me.
Hey what should I do?
I purchased shares in a company, and a month later they went from 9 Dollars each to 4 Dollars each.
I've lost nearly 10 thousand AUD
The companies name is Origin energy.
I wanna kill myself..
Spend more time on /biz/ and learn conservative investing strategiez
>>16686556
>spend more time on /biz/
That's probably how he lost his money in the first place
Why buy shares that have been dropping religiously for the last 5 years?
Sit on them and wait for the oil market to recover.
Long story short, my (female) friend is in an emotionally abusive relationship and she doesn't realize it.
He's groomed her to be COMPLETELY co-dependent with him. She requires his validation for everything, and she didn't used to be like this. She's CONSTANTLY messaging him and cries for hours when he leaves after a break back to college. She skype calls with him frequently while were hanging out, and secludes herself before she does it- I'm fairly certain that's at his request.
In addition to this, he's an incredibly jealous, beat as fuck little man who feels threatened by literally every other male in the room.
I didn't know some of this until today, but apparently he's controlling her long-distance through texting etc. I was looking over her shoulder and read a text from him about how he wasn't "sure if he could forgive her" for coming over to my house after an event we both went to. I've known this girl for FOUR YEARS, way longer than he has. I read this text in the car on the way to my house, and sure enough, she sent herself packing because her mother supposedly wanted her back because she's been gone for so long, which is horseshit. She often cries while talking to him recently, and blames it on a cat allergy.
I feel like I'm losing my friend, and I don't know what to do. I want to kill this guy because he's a fucking awful person, but she's COMPLETELY codependent at this point, and his leash on her grows shorter every time she "messes up", which can be as simple as what happened today. What can I do?
>>16686536
Let your oneitis go, bro.
You can't make her do, or realize, anything. She has to reach this conclusion by herself.
Acting on this will only guarantee she cuts you out of her life now.
>>16686583
>Oneitis
That's not what this is. I'm not into her, I actually have a gf. I'm just worried about her, and our friendship, because that 'all males are a threat' thing is making him tell her to spend less and less time with her friends.
>>16686604
The only reason I said that was to find out if you have romantic feelings toward this girl; assuming you would focus on that comment, and ignore my advice, which is that you can do nothing. Well, this is awkward...
Be there for her, when she is ready. You literally cannot do anything.
What did you think was going to happen?
Do I have an accent /adv/?
If so what is it?
Listen to me here
http://vocaroo.com/i/s12x6UaApxVk
>>16686522
No your voice is just really deep man.
>>16686522
American accent
>>16686547
Which part of America though?
I've been single for a while and dating around for about a year and a half now. Just left a fwb relationship... you get the idea.
I've noticed that a lot of girls I date will not want me to pay the bill (food, coffee, drinks) but will still fuck me or at least suck my dick. Almost everyone I talk to does not have this experience. Which is weird, because the last time I paid for a girl's burrito we just hugged at the end of the date and I never saw her again. I talked to some relatives about this (both are women) and they're like: wtf, no, you should pay for their shit!
I'm absolutely not complaining. I just want to know if anyone has an idea why this is happening. Maybe it's because I'm dating a lot of progressive women. I live in Boston, 23, for background.
>>16686416
guys, or preferably girls:
what is happening and how can I keep it happening?
Don't worry about it so much. Go for the check, and if they want to split out, cool. If they don't, that's cool too.
>>16686468
You're right. It's worked for me this far, so why change now?
How do I convince my gf to agree to a fmf threesome
By not forcing her like a fucking creep.
>>16686399
This.
Breaking up with her and let her be with other deserved her more than you.
How do I phrase it?