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As an aside she embraces this aspect of me. It really adds to our physical chemistry.

However, as a much younger woman than myself she values her freedom and ability to say/do/see the things that she wants. I really just don't need to be adding strain to relationship that is important to me.

I'll over analyze and be critical of details that are of no importance simply because I don't have the ability to make people act how I expected them in my head.

>>16771422
>>16771432

Honestly, there ain't much to do besides what you're already doing: Analyzing your behaviour and being critical of how you deal with the relationship.

Estabilish that she has not given you reason to doubt her and communicate when something makes you unconfortable, as long as you're sure it's not about mere insecurity. If you take the whole thing seriously, and are sure that she feels the same way, this basically about accepting trust is a part of any commitment.

Anyway, pretty sure being "exclusive friends with benefits" qualifies as dating. Defining the relationship properly seems logical at this point.

>>16771422

The need to control comes out of insecurity and immaturity and fear. If you felt less vulnerable you would probably throw tantrums less often because of people not doing what you want. Therapy may help you feel more secure and able to accept people for who they are and meet them where they're at rather than trying to dominate them into doing what you want. Comments on 4chan are unlikely to unlock any significant change in your bad behavior.

I'm the opposite of you: I have never felt jealous over a woman. I value women who choose to be with me. I give them complete freedom, since to do otherwise would cheapen the experience and rob me of feelings of validation. It doesn't mean anything for a woman to be with me simply because I've trapped her somehow. But if she can do as she pleases but still chooses to wake me up with a blowjob, well that says something about my worth as an attractive man. I like that. Then again I've never had much trouble getting with women, perhaps it is different for the perennially hard up.

You would probably enjoy life more in general if you accepted fully your complete inability to control people around you. If you really just have got to control your sex life then pay for hookers, don't trouble normal women with your failure to reign in your childish need to dictate the lives of others.

>>16771398
>tall
Yeah a lot of girls like men taller than them
>smelly
Uh, no. Take a shower, wash your pits cock and asshole, wear deodorant, cologne and clean clothes.

No girl wants to smell your dick cheese, unwashed asshole and waffy pits

>>16771406
OP said skelly not smelly. As in skinny as a rail- a walking skeleton.

>>16771398
Just go for it.

They are really no different from other women, which means they have no glue what they want. Girls prefer boys that are taller than them so you've advantage on that front at least. Nerdy girls are also very shy, often inexperienced and a lot more welcoming to nerdy boys with common interest.

Swimmer mode is probably what most girls find pleasing but women in other hand might have soft spot for men that look like they're from Bara doujin (big, strong, hairy and muscular). But women are not as visual as men are so don't sweat too much about it.

>>16771392
First of all you really need to tell us what book, you know so we can properly help and totally not fap to it later.

Second you need to take some deep breaths to calm yourself then do some mindfulness exercises to properly understand your feelings and gain control of them.

Lastly you need to take a break from the book, realize it is just a book and has no power over you, then do something else to distress like watch a light comedy or something heartwarming.


Yes you are being a oversensitive faggot, but I guess you have come to the right place and can learn to deal with it.

TELL ME THE NAME OF THE NOVEL OR I'LL RAPE YOU

>>16771423
so many keks nigga
over 9000/10

>>16771327
Depends on the religion, the initiation process is different for each one

>>16771327
Talk to a priest/rabbi/pastor/imam. Be given books to read and be taught about the religion. In some cases this is a formal process, like taking a course. In others it's like home study. Eventually you will go through some formal ceremony welcoming you into the religion.

>>16771327

Some religions you can just declare yourself a member of without any specific ceremonies.

>>16771304
there's no doubt they influence who you become heavily, but no I wouldn't consider myself to be just like my father, and I think he slightly resents me for it

>>16771308
This. >9000 this

Unfortunately I am not as accomplished as either my father or my mother. I am very introverted compared to them, they were both very outgoing people, active in life. Both died when I was young, though.

>>16771245
Why would you love someone that's flakey and cancels on you.

>>16771250
I don't even know man.

Here's a tip don't bother with tinder girls

That's a lot of effort to go to to avoid having your parents (who were right) tell you they were right.

>>16771224
Don't you have friends to spend time with? I'm sure there's some eutrash that want to spend time with a qt Asian girl.

Depending on where you live. I live in Santa Monica You can normally do what you want at the beach at night. Just go lay down and cry in the sand. 10 years from now you'll be a doctor and you'll be rich and have no memory of his existence

This is an 18+ board.

>>16771203
You beat me to it.

What makes you think you're a sociopath?

Depends where you live senpai. Are you walking or biking distance from work? Don't get a car. If not get a car before you move out.

>>16771183
Kek f a m gets changed to sempai on this board.

>>16771183
I have to take train to work.

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Try shrooms.

Erowid dot com might help answer some questions, OP.

I have wanted to do shrooms forever also but I have no idea how to come about them or know their potency once i do.

for shrooms take a holiday to either Brazil or the Netherlands.

Honestly she'll probably just do this shit again, so unless you're prepared to deal with this again in the future every time you two go through a rough patch, I'd jump ship.

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Look, don't pressure yourself to forgive her. That shit takes time. You feel shamed and betrayed, and fuckin' A, you should!

What, exactly, is your GF doing to make you feel better and secure? That's HER job now, not yours. No contact with the guy, accountability, of course. Ask her for her passwords for now. When you both agree on it, later, she can change it. If she says no, her ass is not interested in salvaging things, and it's time to boot her ass out.

OP, why do you want to try and make it work? She was having an emotional affair with someone else. She obviously doesn't care about your feelings. GTFO.

If you invested four years into a company and for the past few months it has been going downhill, do you stay with that company? Hell no, you grab your money and run. Your relationship is over. Face the facts. It happens to all of us. You tried it, it didn't work, move on.

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> 16 years old
Is it weird to watch c-span for entertainment?
(picture unrelated)

I once tried to have sex with a watermelon. It was a bad idea. I got half of it stuck in my pee hole.

My significant other developed a disability one year into our relationship. We've been together for five now. I've become very frustrated with the ways that their disability not only holds them back, but me as well. We don't get to go out on dates anymore. I experience scorn from everyone I know because they don't work (see: disability). I feel so guilty about being frustrated with them over things they can't control. I feel selfish. God help me.

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An example of him trying to confront me about being a bitch at Uni today.

A couple months ago I was even worse.
I would say stupid shit to make him feel bad like
>i reconsidered our friendship
>just been like "Fine bye" because he ignored something I said

I feel fucking abusive. It used to just be over text but now we are not laughing as much. I really want us to salvage this friendship.
We used to say things like "Ill write a song about you." And, "Ill never have another friend like you in my life."
Recent things hes said that make me lose hope
>stop texting me so much I need a break
>stop calling me cute.
I used to say "aaaaw" all the time to tease him but he exploded at me so I stopped.

>>16770780
>What do I do? I told him he could leave me if Im making his depression worse but he says no I just need to work on it.
well then I guess you should work on it. try to see shit from his perspective more. in fact, why not try to see shit from other people's perspectives more in general? like when you see other people, try to imagine the shit they have to go through on a day to day basis. also consider either finding a therapist to help you with anger, or read up on anger management stuff on your own.

maybe leave him alone for a few weeks or so, work on your issues, and then contact him again. it sounds like you might be smothering him too, so leaving him alone for a bit will serve a dual purpose.

>>16770608
bump

tl;dr My friend thinks saying "sleepy" is childish to say and is insulting me over it and daring me to tell other people I'm "sleepy".

Is this normal?

Sleepy sounds kind of childish, and I use it in a humorous manner from time to time, but your friend is really a faggot if he berates you for it.

i think the problem lies with you my friend

if you're old enough to have a roommate you should be old enough to cope with their bullshit without venting your thoughts out on anonymous forums

learn more about yourself

Unless you're really good at conversation, only #2 is viable. Cashiers usually like talking to people.

>>16770630

I feel like the cashiers one is the most not viable.. they are paid money to be nice to you.

>>16770693
Maybe they are just being nice to be nice to only you? You ever think of that? Ask that cute cashier out, if she says no, oh well. Try the next.