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Am I fucking up my life? Am I fucking up his? 2016-02-03 04:31:10 Post No.16762961
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Am I fucking up my life? Am I fucking up his?
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Mostly me just venting but feel free to jump in with input/advice
>be 22yo femanon
>2-ish years ago start dating guy I meet online
>lets call him "A"
>hit it off immediately. great chemistry.
>start having relationship problems
>didn't work out (I have trouble communicating problems)
>we have a mutual break-up
2 months later
>start missing A
>start hanging out again
>get back together
>start having same issues
>I still suck at communicating
>my friend dies and I don't know how to handle it
>A can't help because I can't communicate feelings
>I break up with A
>he doesn't take it well
>I'm comforted by my childhood friend
>start dating childhood friend
>Let's call him "S"
>S and I have good relationship at first
>slowly realize we have 0 chemistry
>begin to resent him for almost no reason
about 10 months later
>start missing A again
>still having issues with S
>all I can think about is A
>Start texting A to try and get back in contact
>A still upset over the breakup, eventually tells me to stop trying to contact him
>I cut contact with A
>eventually break it off with S
less than a week after breaking up with S
>A texts me "sorry to hear about you and S"
>we begin talking again
>meet up for the first time in over a year
>end up going back to his place
>we talk about everything
>sex.
it's been about 2 weeks since I broke up with S.
A and I have been seeing each other on a regular basis and having sex. We both agree that we don't know if a relationship is the best thing for us.
I really want him back, but I'm afraid we'd have the same issues as we used to and break up again
Should I try to keep this as a FWB thing or should a pursue more?
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Could you try some kind of counseling for your communication problems?
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>>16762966
Basically, this.
It isn't going to get any better if you don't change what ruined your relationship before. Work on yourself, since your communication problems are the main issue.
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>>16762961
Understand that time is a natural accellerant. A has changed as have you, from the last time you dated. You need to stop letting the past define how you proceed in the future. Sure you had communication issues in the past, instead of fearing that may happen again, YOU NEED TO MAKE THE EFFORT TO MAKE SURE THAT IT DOESN'T HAPPEN AGAIN. You know the problem, you don't communicate your problems well, It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what you need to do in the future so you don't end up replicating the past, YOU NEED TO COMMUNICATE YOUR PROBLEMS BETTER.
you have the fist step, awareness, you know what the problem is, the thing will define what you and A's relationship will be is what you will do next.
Will you take that second step? It's up to you.
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Parents kicking me out 2016-02-03 04:25:27 Post No.16762938
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Hey /adv/ I'm queer and my mother is kicking me out, I'm in the closet but she's getting more and more suspicious
I've had issues finishing school, and I have major really bad depression, which makes everything harder.
I need to be gone by June at the latest, but id love to pack my shit and go now
I have no car, and no money
Help??
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Is she kicking you out because of your depression issues? Because if you were able to perhaps calmly discuss the issue with her, or bring her to see your therapist and discuss the realities of mental illness, that might keep you from being kicked out.
If you don't have a therapist you can always get one. Not like there's much to lose at this point.
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>>16762945
I've been seeing a therapist and been on anti depressants for a few months
To be frank, my mom is a shitty person, and I hate living here anyway. But this chronic depression makes it hard to do anything, getting a job included
My mom is aware of the depression issue, she just doesn't care, in her mind mental illness isn't a "real"thing so much
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>>16762938
You need money.
If i were you id start job hunting now.
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Would you date a girl with the same name as your sister?
I work with this girl and she's great. She's funny, smart and a good worker. I like her enough to date her but she has the same name as my sister. Thoughts?
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>>16762932
Grow up, seriously it's just a name
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>>16762932
Try calling her by her middle name instead.
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Yeah sure, who cares?
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Guys i think i have a problem. My gf says that i do not trust her enough and that i am killing the relationship. Last weekend she told me she is having a girls night with Becca and some other chick. But i found our she went to her a guy named Josh (They used to be fuck buddies before we were dating). She said she did not want to upset me because i know he treated her like shit and used her for sex only in the past.
She invited him over for tonight to show me he changed and is a nice guy. But as he arrived he grabbed her butt like pretty hard. I pretended i had not noticed that. He said he was very hungry and my gf wanted to eat sth too. Now i am on my way getting food and drinks and i am worried that they might do something. But i love her and gotta trust her, right?
Sorry for my english, not my first language...
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I would not even keep contact with former fuck buddies when I'm in a relationship. Sorry to hear but your gf is disrespecting you OP. As for the butt thing I would have smacked him so hard if I had any respect for myself or my man. There is something wrong with her.
Also she should have been honest from the beginning about who she was hanging out with.
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Tell her to either stop hanging out with the guy or it's over. You might as well be getting cucked. He shouldn't be touching her like that, no matter what they did in the past.
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shes not your gf
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Tips for staying awake? I need to turn my sleeping schedule back to normal.
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>>16762883
Willpower.
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Turn on conservative talk radio. That works for me because it makes me mad, which makes me unable to sleep.
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keep your mind busy with something, coffee also works, dick sucking marathon, you get the idea
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I need advice. which one do i bang?
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>>16762752
The loneliest one, who wants it the most.
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>>16762752
Since you don't actually care about them, all. Why would you not?
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>>16762757
>women
>lonely
kek
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Is it weird if I don't kiss a girl goodnight after the first date?
Seems like a weird question but people are having sex on the first date nowadays and I dunno how common that is being a sperg.
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>>16762692
As long as you both enjoyed your date, no, it's not wrong to not kiss your date goodnight. If you didn't even give her a peck, that's when it's a little odd.
>people are having sex on the first date nowadays
That's a myth, serious relationships don't usually start with sex on the first date.
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>>16762692
Depends on the vibe.
Always hug when you begin the date.
If she keeps talking while looking in your eyes and away and back again she wants you to kiss her. Just go for it mid sentence. Grab her hips and kiss her, she will close her eyes, look up, and tilt her head.
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>>16762702
>If you didn't even give her a peck, that's when it's a little odd.
I only hugged her. How badly did I fuck up?
>>16762711
>Always hug when you begin the date.
I only hugged her at the end. I fucked up badly.
Don't know if this would be more appropriately posted on /mu/, but here goes.
How do I enjoy normie music? I don't have no life, I go out to places with other people. It's just whenever I do, they always play Taylor Swift or whatever else they like. I always end up sulking in the car or standing around on my phone. Is there a way to not do this?
>pic related, I'm between a 2 and 3 on the chart
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Level 6. Fuck mainstream.
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>>16762617
I'm level four and it hurts my autism that there is no classic blues, country, funk, or jazz subgenres on there but there are a bunch of retard genres. I'd also like tho know who the fuck thinks jazz is entry level.
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>>16762617
Sorry, >>16762636 didn't answer the prompt.
You don't enjoy it, you endure it. You can't get basic listeners to enjoy more complex or harder to listen to music. Most people don't have an ear for it and simply enjoy melodies and lyrics. They want something with easily digested lyrics and a backing track that a non-musician can memorize. That's why pop music has such simple backing tracks. If you play music or are a more active listener you may be capible of memorizing a larger group of syncopated instruments like found in acid jazz, but most people can't, so songs like that aren't memorable to them. They can't keep track of that many rhythyms and notes in their head because they aren't musically minded.
That's my theory anyway.
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What do you do if you get suicidally depressed so often that you can't manage to function as a normal person, and aren't willing to tell that to anybody because you're afraid they'll overreact?
I want to manage like everyone else, but can only move forward in short spurts before I get bogged down again.
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>>16762579
had the same thing for years, even as a little kid i wished i would have never existed even though i always a many friends and a carrying family
i didnt care about anything for a really long time, always hoping one day i would just end it
stopped carrying so much that i didnt care about depression anymore
just understand that you probably will never live the "normal" live, but rather find a thing you love and focus on it
dont care about what others think, just live life
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>>16762624
It's not about feeling normal, per se, just being able to function: I can't manage to do anything for long before depression sees an end to it: can't hold any job for longer than a few months, can barely handle college (as a 25 year old), and can't get myself to exercise to help myself (I'm not fat or skellington though, just decent shape).
I'm worried I'll eventually hero myself or end up in a lunatic house if I don't stop having this problem so constantly.
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You go to your closest jewish psy and ask for meds.
Only take third gen btw, the other will make you go limp eventually
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Hey /adv/, I'm about to lose my friend to some douchebag, she's a 10/10, and we've been pretty good friends for about a year and a half now. She know's I like her, and I'm not really sure if she likes me back. I could honestly care less about her dating someone if he wasn't a little punk and an asshole to my friends. Should I just let her go and see her get hurt or do something? He can easily beat my ass if we fight.
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You don't own her, so you have no right to dictate who she dates, kiddo.
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>>16762574
> I could honestly care less about her dating someone if he wasn't a little punk and an asshole to my friends. Should I just let her go and see her get hurt or do something?
Did you even fucking read the post? Dumbass.
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>>16762582
>you have no right to dictate who she dates
>who she dates
>who
I'm pretty sure you're the dumbass here.
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My mom gets mad at me alot due to small things, not normal mad like I just killed someone mad and starts saying I never do anything, I go to the gym on Thursda,Church classes on Wednesday, and boy scouts on Tuesday. On top of that I take all honors and ap classes and get honor roll all year every year. What do I do to get out of this problem.
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deport her to argentina
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>>16762534
>argentina
I need serious help.
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>>16762538
Nigga have you ever been deported to Argentina? Shits a bitch to get back
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When I am with people of my gender I am usually very outgoing, extroverted, funny, and charismatic, and people usually like me. However, when I am with grils, I turn into the most boring pos they've ever seen. Like when I am with men, I can make them hysterical, but I can't even keep a fucking conversation for more than 5 minutes with girls. It's not even that I'm freaking out when talking to them, I'm not that autistic. My personality simply changes.
I think it is because most of my humor is very dark, crass, sarcastic, and ironic. Maybe I am holding back on purpose. How can I fix this /adv/?
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>>16762471
Comfort increases with time. Sorry but you're going to need to handcuff yourself to your target until your personality shines through
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How old are you?
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Valentine's Gifts for Him 2016-02-03 01:57:44 Post No.16762449
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Valentine's Gifts for Him
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I am dating a guy. I want to do something nice for him on Valentine's Day. Problem is, I've only known him since December of last year. I would like guy's opinions on this because I feel gifts for men are the most difficult and I'm very peculiar with what I will gift.
Also general Valentine's Day Gift advice thread for those who would like help as well!
I have a few ideas for my future boyfriend but they're all bringing dilemmas.
Idea 1: Alcohol and alcohol accessories. He likes to drink socially and so this would be a great gift.
Problem: I have no clue what he likes to drink and I have also never drank alcohol in my life because I'm a law-abiding citizen and in America it would have been illegal for me to drink. Now I just moved here to Europe and suddenly drinking is fine. This means I have NO CLUE what good alcohol is like or how to tell the difference, etc.
Idea 2: Homemade Sweets.
Problem: Unlike me, he doesn't really care for sweets much and eats them rarely. He's the kind of guy who thinks that fucking lemon-flavoured icecream is the best flavor. So he's definitely not much of a sweet tooth. I also have no clue what kind of sweets he does prefer besides lemon ones and I hate lemon and have never made those kinds of sweets before.
And....that's all I have so far. He's a computer programmer but I doubt he even knows what 4chan is. He has nerdy interests but not enough to obsess over them//want a gift related to them. Doesn't seem to care much for sports. I want to give him something that he will really like that's not TOO extravagant.
Also for those men who suggest cooking, nope. Spanish food is completely different than American food and he also is an amazing cook. Both of us live with others so cooking at our places isn't an option. To those who suggest sex, we have not progressed that far yet and according to my calendar I should be on my period during that time.
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Everyone likes a bottle of baileys, tastes great with coffee.
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>>16762459
What kind of alcohol is it? Is it expensive? Does it scream "oh yeah this girl is super thoughtful for Valentine's day, I found a keeper"
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>>16762469
It's a sweet, creamy liqueur: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baileys_Irish_Cream
But like you said, he might not like it. Maybe you could ask one of his friends what he likes to drink.
How about some cologne?
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How do you know when you've made a girl cum? In porn they scream and flail around and stuff but the girl I'm with tells me I always make her cum and even though she breathes heavy and stuff I can't really tell. She'll then take my hand or head away getting me to stop going so hard. I mean obviously porn isn't real but how do I know if she's actually cuming, and not just saying I am to make me happy or something?
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You don't, so it's a great time to stop caring about it. Focus more on whether she's enjoying everything that went on up to that point. Encourage her to give you ideas about stuff to try together. Orgasm is important but there are simpler and more numerous things to focus on instead.
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>>16762295
You can feel their vagina tightening if you make them cum, thats why my gf said because i always make her cum
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it's different for every girl. My current girlfriend cums like five times every time we do it but I can never fucking tell when it happens. I've had exes that couldn't come very easily, but when it happened the fucking walls fell down.
If you can't tell, ask to make sure.
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You guys need to be more happy with your lives. Name at least one great thing that has happened to you or something you did that you loved
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>>16762287
Hillary won Iowa
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I'm so lonely
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>>16762287
I once accidentally masturbated.