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>>16766827
lol limp dick

She'll cheat on you, break up now and play Warcraft for the next 50 years bro. Save yourself the fuckin trouble.

>>16766827

It happens, especially when you're new to sex.

It's not your fault, it's not her fault, just keep at it.

>>16766954
How can I stop being so nervous?

How old are you?

>>16766823
Does my age really matter?
I'm 18 but still in highschool and living with my adopted family.

Apply for medicaid if you think you'd qualify (if you're over 18). If not, talk to whoever manages your family's finances (mom or dad, usually) and ask if they've considered applying.

If you already have health insurance, congratulations! See a psychiatrist.

>I wish I could be more helpful but honestly I only got the help I needed when I was put into a psychiatric hospital

Here are some links which may or may not help.

Finding a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
Finding a therapist (get one if you can, they really do help): http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
Dealing with suicidal thoughts: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm
A list of suicide hotlines by country (find a relevant one and put it in your phone's contacts -- that way if you need it, it'll be on hand): http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html

Should I attempt to hold her hand? I get the constant googly eyes and hold her with eye contact. Very good at that (one of the few things I've learned how to do, despite being a social retard).

Should I make my goal the first kiss? We see each other at a college organization, and we don't really have formal "dates". Should I try asking her out on more of a formal sort of date?

OP here, for those curious I am indeed currently waiting outside her house in my car for her and her mom to come home. I plan to approach her when they come in and ask her to talk.

So she's mad when it was obvious she didn't want to talk to you for some stupid reason? Ask her why she began with the short texts then went to ignoring you. And ask how you not wanting to waste your time blowing up her phone when she didn't want to talk? Because you fell asleep you cheated. Lol

>>16766864
There is no reasoning with her but I am going to try. And I did blow up her phone but apparently it wasn't enough.

Just because you didn't inb4 all the hate, imma hate on you.

You're a fucking asshole if you think it's a good idea to sneak around behind your girl's back and cheat. You must be seriously lacking in respect if you don't have the balls to just dump your girl before you go off fucking sloots. I mean I get it, who doesn't wanna fuck whoever they want and still have someone waiting for you when you lay your head down at night, but your efforts would be a lot more valuable if they were going to finding someone that will be okay with your lifestyle choice, rather than being spent on sneaking around and trying to be discrete.

>Tl;dr: you're an immature ass, grow some balls and dump your gf before you give her AIDS

>>16766788
Man, that wasn't particularly helpful or what I asked.

>>16766800
I think it was plenty helpful, nicely summed up what the rest of us think

That's not a life goal, that's a side quest.

>how to get all the STDs

Enjoy fucking some fat nasty bitch just because her name is Xenrietta.

>>16766691

No. There are plenty of women who are just fine on their own. Problem is, 99% of them are taken at any given time.

Stop being a queer and take the advice posted in your own image.

>>16766702
I am kind of a queer I like men too sometimes.
I do take the advice in my own image, that was not the crux of the issue (although you did address my although concern in the first sentence)

So they're are some but they're scarce since they're taken, eh? Well that's kind of hopeful :'>

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Eh, there's some truths to be had in the red pill. Some folks take it too far, make a religion out of it rather than admit they're maladroit when it comes to dealing with women.

First off, you're young, and it's hard not to be bitter when things go bad routinely. That's usually a waste of time and energy, and can cause you to miss out on quality time.

First off, women aren't going to make you happy. Happiness comes from within. A woman will only enhance your happiness and satisfaction in a meaningful way when you've provided fertile ground for that.
I said in another post that dynamic people tend to attract each other. If you want to attract high-quality women, build a great life for yourself, surround yourself with only people who love you, devote yourself to family and make yourself a better man... and don't do that to attract a woman, do that to make yourself happy. Until you can be comfortable in your own skin, odds are not great that you'll find a woman who wants the same thing you do.

Also, stop listening to what women say and focus more on their actions. You'll find them a LOT easier to understand then. Women have no trouble reconciling a certain lack of self-awareness when it comes to behavior and motivation, but get awful hurt when you tell them that you see it.

>>16766662
What was it? Were their victims? Could you make things right and dodge karma? I need details, however vague

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>>16766662
Pic related

Depends.

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Things besides have sex? Can't think of any.

>>16766644
What is the sex of you and your friend? The uncomfortable truth is that that will make a difference in how you should proceed.

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PLEASE ANYTHING BUT THAT !!!!! How about things I. Can say please

>>16766638
Enjoy your herpes while getting some real problems you need advice for.

>>16766638
Come clean to both of them and lead an honest life.
If troll, consider why you made a post looking to incite people on an anonymous imageboard.

>>16766638
Yeah I wish I could watch the trainwreck that your life has a potential to become. It'll be great.

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Go to college if, AND ONLY IF, you know exactly what you want to do with yourself.

Otherwise, you'll be undirected and will waste time and money. You can always join the workforce, learn a little more about yourself and the world, and revisit the issue in a year, or two, or five.

Get a job for a year, SAVE UP for preparations, then go to CommCollege, THEN go to uni. If possible go to grad school for a limited time. You don't need Doctorates, but something to prove you're worthy of money in this competitive job-meta.

Neither.
Instead, travel. In the end, experience is far more valuable then money will be.

get a gun

Get some grenades, or a rocket launcher.

Get a big boner and club the rat to death.

>>16766471

Your problem was you waited until she got with her ex to confess.

Don't worry about talking to her. Speak when spoken to, no more, no less.

>>16766510

Yeah, I wasn't sure how I felt and I would have felt like shit to move forward with a friend when I wasn't totally certain.

Then things got weird. It just sucks we both lost a good friend, but if she won't even look at me for an unknown reason then the friendship is pointless. And if we'll just end up in the same spot again why bother trying again?

I get that the logical thing would be to drop me as a friend then, but I've never seen her be so utterly cold before. During one of the pauses in the friendship when I asked if she was hurt she literally refused to admit she was despite clearly acting bitchy to the point where I had co-workers ask me what was going on.

This is just flat out ignoring.

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>>16766522

You need to understand that people don't give a shit about you. (not to be mean but usually people think about what you can do for them first, whether that be a friend, confident, side pieces etc; and the other person's feelings second)

People generally look out for themselves first, so I am not she is surprised that she didn't "admit to being bitchy. She dissipated her dissonance a long time ago, and it's likely that she would rather cut off all ties then deal with the confrontation (ostrich effect)

I will agree with the other anon, in saying you waited too long and let her ex-bf come back into the picture. Understand if you don't catch her on the downswing (during/just after relationship ) or rock bottom, you it becomes very difficult with all the emotional baggage. Why is this you ask? Well, Time is a natural accelerant, on the downswing you get value. The people in this state are emotionally weak, angry and sad. Human's try to justify our feelings, generally blaming the other person in the relationship. This is the time to strike.

Because time is a natural accellerant, all these feelings we have of hated, anger, and sadness, eventually turn into introspection, self-reflection. After awhile we stop hurting, pick ourselves up, and think more logically about the situation. We start thinking about what we did wrong, how did it get so bad and just generally looking at the situation with rosy inspection, looking at the situation positively, and in large disregarding most of the negative things.

The reason it is so hard to get with a girl who has made up with her boyfriend, is because she is optimistic, all those negative, introspective thoughts we had about ourselves, seemingly abolished by the act of reconciliation. The loneliness, "pain" seemingly gone. Optimistic for a second chance, and new beginning with her ex, she is not trying to mess this up this time. 1/2

>>16766435

It sounds like it's partly your choice in men, and partly how you take care of them - you're too lenient. Also, the men you've taken care of sound like my last girlfriend - who was so terrified and anxious of everything that I basically had to step in and become her parent and do everything for her. Scheduling appointments, making every phone call because she's too scared to talk to someone she doesn't know, trying to keep her studying for college.

It's not that you're a doormat, you have a good heart and you want to take care of people. But people will find that you're weak to this kind of approach and take advantage of it. It's all about putting your foot down, and that's hard to know exactly when since it's a case by case basis. But with two manchildren under your belt, you have some experience on dealing with it. You'll get better at figuring out when to start putting the boot to them, at first to help, then to help them become less dependent on you, or to kick them out the door.

men don't have the social advantages that women do, so it ends up being harder for them in the modern world until they've established a certain level of experience in their field.

either stick it out, or date someone already successful. I don't think being a hard-ass about it is going to be easy for someone who's personality just doesn't lend itself to that.

I think there is a specific personality disorder for that shit. Codependency or something

>>16766410
Not be a whore on camera. Oops... too late.

Fake your own death/tell him you no longer want that sort of relationship. Blackmail is a crime, screenshot any conversations that sound blackmail'y and contact the police if it comes to that.

Does he know your circle of friends or do you know him irl well otherwise? If not just tell him. If anything gets posted online, if it's not your facebook I doubt it's gonna affect you in any way