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>>16779779
I don't believe in ADHD per say.

>>16779786

that's interesting anon. What medical school did you graduate from? Did you write your thesis on mental health issues?

>>16779786
OP here,
I think it's extremely over-diagnosed, but it's validity is pretty apparent based on loads of studies, and my personal experience. I think people are quick to diagnose young kids with it since the symptoms that correlate with an ADHD diagnoses also correlate with pretty typical elementary school kid behavior. 8 year olds don't like to sit down, they shout silly things out, and would rather draw an play outside than sit in class. And you can even attribute the more severe symptoms to poor parenting, or a different disorder. But as an adult, I know I have great difficulty with concentration regardless of my interest or motivation and I know that these drugs help me greatly, so I'll stick with it. This is besides the point tho

Well obviously you don't want to die as seen by your cry of help/attention.
Go see a doctor or shrink.

>>16779707
I would have jumped if the cop didn't show up

>>16779656
what's so bad about life that you want to set your self off?

The earlier you forget about her and move on the better for you.

DON'T take her back.

Before everyone else chimes in, I agree.
Just want to note that when you're in a relationship, you do things for each other to help. And it sounds like you did a lot. I don't know enough information to call you a doormat, which the rest of the thread might do.

Realize that connection trumps materialism? Learn how to make her feel special with just you?

>>16779451
She's wanting to go out and have fun and fuck around. Rather than sound like a selfish cunt and come out and say that, she's pushing the responsibility onto you. Making it out you're boring her and you're the one at fault. That way, it makes her feel guilt free about ending a relationship to go and whore it up, while possibly having you as a backup.

If you're going to date females, you need to learn to read what's under the words. This is a general thing just about every female does. Don't listen to what they say word for word, look at their actions behaviour and intent.

You should never try to get anyone back. When a relationship is over, it's over. Looking backward is a waste of time.

I think she took way too long to put her foot down about whether you could provide for her needs. Yes, I'm sure that time with friends and classmates opened her eyes to a new lifestyle. Whether it was worth ditching her old one is a question she'll have to confront on her own. The consequences are hers to bear in that regard. That having been said, don't forget about your stake in this too. Can a girl who's always out with other people (whom you're not even made to meet) really provide for your needs? She's not even around. How can you be getting anything out of an absentee girlfriend who only whines during those few moments she does spend with you?

You work on a life that suits your tastes. Also consider being more attentive to how those needs of yours are met. Don't stand idly by while the situation sours. The more you're being expected to compromise, the more you should begin to ask yourself whether the purpose of a relationship is to conform to other people. There's a reasonable limit to that sort of thing.

>>16779474
what I can't warp my head around is how happy we were after 6 months of dating (summer of 2014), and we really enjoyed spending time together as a couple.
I wans't going out much other than with her, but honestly I was working on that. She wasn't going out that much, but I was never mad or jealous that she was doing social things on her own because it's totally normal.
Now it seems she is more into going out to bars, more with friends that are into partying or having a "cool" lifestyle (like'"I'm fucking up my studies but at least I'm traveling" etc), doing stuff last-minute etc.
That's something I've been over for a few years now (I'm 27) but honestly I can understand that she thinks it's cool .
What I don't understand is why she is comparing our life as a couple (after being together for 2 years) and the fun she can get while partying with friends.
I planned for us to do cool shit as well when we were together but usually she couldn't and we ended up at her parent's house for the week-end, watching shitty tv shows and that was it. Meanwhile she'd be invited by her friends to do cooler stuff while keeping me out of the loop.
I just don't know what I did wrong, it fucking sucks

...no. The human body is disgusting and gets worse as it ages, and I don't see an exception for men there.

Also, I've met too many awful and crotchety old men to really think that men have it better in the aging department.

This has nothing to do with advice.

as a general sense, yes - women are more reliant on their looks (men care more) which degrade faster - but it's also highly individual.

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your premise is wrong. White men are the most sought after race, you are only imagining the racial cucking because you are personally unappealing and would prefer to blame it on something that's not your fault.

>it seems they go more toward black and spanish guys than white men.
Maybe where you live, but not generally. I think you might need to move.

>>16779249
First, you need to lose the aura of desperation. Girls can sense that from miles away.

OP here, bumping. General first date tips, anyone?

Why'd you say you were already in your first 'real relationship' if you haven't even been on a date with her?

>>16779179
>>16779813
Well, if you already know her, a movie would be fine. Not much of a chance for conversation, though. Dinner is a good idea, you can be with each other and still converse, and lots of restaurants have Valentine's day specials, but book early.
As far as a gift goes... maybe keep it a small gesture, nothing too grand or expensive. Skip the sappy card, make one yourself. No jewelry for a first gift. Flowers are usually a good bet.

I'd fuck you.

>>16779162
The truth is that different people are attracted to different things at different times. That's the truth in my experience.

Yeah, your body looks skinny and cute. But a LOT of women will fuck you. a lot of those same women will also fuck other men who look different than you. It's not a one size fits all, but we all do have our preferences. Plus, men and women will want different things based on their most recent experiences. Maybe a woman just had a bad experience with a meat head and wants to try you out to switch things ups.

Try and be the "you" and that makes you satisfied with being you. Then find a woman who likes you.

Bro, do you even lift???

If you don't want to get shot eventually with the rest of your class, it's a good idea. Where can you redirect them though?

no retard just try not to die while you're working in the line of fire. go to work, don't die, go home, at some point collect your money, and do this until you retire or die

>>16779130
>responsibility
Probably not. But it might be a damn good thing to do, if it's possible at all. Sometimes though trying to help might make things even worse.

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>>16779142
Btw I'm on my phone xD

>don't be keyboard warriors
>listen to my /pol/ views

jej

No, you cannot become asexual or aromatic.

Well, you could chemically or physically castrate yourself. I'm pretty sure that lowers or kills your libido.

>>16779147
Could I try just ignoring my feelings for the rest of my life then?

>>16779160
Of course you can try, but you'll probably be miserable. Being in a failing relationship makes you miserable too, of course, but if you keep trying you might be able to make it work eventually.

jiu jitsu and muay thai

Krav Maga is the shit. Also, it's fairly widely considered to be the most effective martial art in self-defense, and you may as well get that benefit if you're going to do it.

>basically the argument is Krav Maga vs MMA

Avoid taekwondo, it's mostly a competitive sport these days. It didn't used to be, but it is now.

Karate is good. Kempo is solid, Shuri-ryu is about 60% hands 40% feet with some leg sweeps, Shotokan is about 50/50.

Kung Fu instruction is a mixed bag in the US. If you're a smaller person wing-chun is good if you can find a reputable instructor, but I've typically found their kicking to be weak and their counter grappling methodology is based on how solid a grappler your opponent is compared to how skilled a trapper you are. A green wing-chun fighter is going to have a lot of trouble moving on a grappler with more experience.

Judo, hapkido, jiujitsu, and aikido are all good arts. A lot of the old school TKD dojos used to teach hapkido along with their main art since it was a sister art, but those days are more or less over. Just be aware that going to the ground in a street fight is a good way to get killed by the buddies of the guy you're fighting.

SHIT TO AVOID
>Krav Maga, I have never seen a reputable instructor outside of Israel
>Jeet-Kun Do, most reputable JKD I've seen was taught as JKD inspired wing-chun, which was Bruce Lee's original style, lack of centralized leadership is why grifters take advantage of JKD's reputation as above with Krav Maga
>Ninjitsu/Taijitsu, unless you're learning from a 80 year old Japanese man who is inexplicably taking on Western students you aren't learning from the source, much less a reputable source

>>16779036

it wasn't easy for me to say goodbye to him. I'm his only friend and pretty much the only person he can open up to. I just hope he finds a way to find confidence in himself. I always helped him out with making big decisions and helping him calm down when he has anxiety in public.

the playlist is this:
Bright Eyes - First Day of My Life
Hello Saferide - My Best Friend
Garbage - Beloved Freak
Lights - Siberia (acoustic version)
The Magnetic Fields - Book of Love
Gregory Hawk - Boats and Birds
Sara Lov - Wallflower
Deathcab For Cutie - I Will Follow You Into The Dark
Jets to Brazil - In the Summer's You Really know
Angus and Julia Stone - Whereever you Are
Giles Corey - Spectral Bride

there's some more, but they are mostly songs that we liked back in highschool. I keep thinking about on the kiss wondering if it really was the okay thing to do. I know he likes me, but he knows I don't like him back. I still don't like him that way. I told him that it was just a friendly goodbye kiss, but I still felt like it might have lead him on.

I think it was fine. Affection is affection. Even if he's mislead, he's gone and should know a relationship would be impossible anyways. You were clear, you were honest, that's all you can do.

>>16779048

Except that no she wasn't fucking clear when she kissed him FOR A FEW MINUTES.

I've seen this situation multiple times. He's going to sit around and mope thinking that there's still a chance - he'll get hung up on that kiss for years. I guarantee you he's thinking something like "A kiss - that's something there after all! One day, when we meet again..."

I have heard friends say "It's ok, I'll wait for her..." and proceed to do exactly that.

A kiss on the cheek would have sufficed since it clearly demonstrates "I care about you, but we are FRIENDS." A kiss on the mouth is "I care about you... (maybe more than either of us)"

What'd she leave anon?

>>16779026
A shitty guitar and a disposable camera with pics of us.

>she won't respond to efforts to contact her

she abandoned her stuff there, so I'd say sell that shit or trash it and move on with your life

>>16778945
I am 25 and autistic and I just got dumped and lost all my friends six months ago. Where do you live and would you be interesting in assisting each other kill ourselves?

ok

>>16778945
Eat healthier

Go outside for walks every day.

If you do these for week straight and still feel like shit then see a doc.

You're young and likely hormonal. Plus it's the time of he year for depression.

Pills should be your last option. And so many people think they are an easy out when they are not.