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>>16778079
How long have you been with her.

>>16778079
How close is the wedding? My original thought was just cold feet before I read the drama sentence.

What kind of drama is it? I mean, if the drama is unbearable, why are you signing up for "to death (or divorce) do us part" with her?

>>16778079
3 years.

>>16778066
No, pussy. Do it.

>>16778066
Yes, approach girls in a setting where you have a valid reason for small talk.

>>16778066
Bump

>>16778013
Patience, faggot.

>>16778013
If you're in america go to any publix and ask for zpack. Its an antibiotic that doesn't require a prescription. Also take the mucinex its breaking up the phlem in your chest. Lots of warm liquids and dayquil nyquil for the rest of your symptoms.

>>16778013
>viral infection
>give me an antibiotic
How dumb can you get?

how did you find out about this msg?

>>16778008
That would be a deal breaker for me.

He's manipulating you. If you take him back, he'll know that he can pretty much do whatever he wants to you, and it'll only escalate. Dump him and find someone who values and respects you.

>>16777961

It's because you're probably doing some sort of soft science, it's easier that way.

You always hear about people studying engineering who study every day. Well it's easier for them, not in content, but to actually practice method and routine every day. Open your textbook to page 42 and do the exercises to page 60.

With stuff like English and arts degrees all you can do it just read articles and then write essays, it's harder to be methodical. I find that to really just DO it was hard because I was always like "well what is it exactly that I'm doing and where should I start?"

Treat it like the first draft of any story, you don't know what the fuck you're doing so you just start writing shit. Well address what your major essay is about and start it, finish it even, studying and reading the appropriate sources as you go. Then, re-write it, start again. Add more sources, learn more about the subject. etc. etc. This seems annoying at first because you're probably used to writing whole essays or whole halves of essays in massive, rushed 5 hour stints. Well if you just work on it every day, little bits, it won't matter, finish the first essay won't even be a milestone because you just get up tomorrow and write another 100 - 300 words like you've been doing every day anyway.

>>16777980
I see what you're saying

So i should just start by spraying bits and pieces of ideas pertaining to the topic almost at random onto Word, then later on rewrite to connect the pieces, and then rewrite again to add more ideas, and then rewrite *again* to weave those ideas into coherent paragraphs etc. etc.

I hated even the concept of that before; and yes i was used to just piling through an entire essay in gigantic chunks when in undergrad

You might be quite right about your first point, too
When i was studying organic chemistry i think i had an easier time of it when holding down the urge to procrastinate because the textbook provided had just a colossal amount of practice problems to peck at in every chapter. All i had to do is sit down, open the book, and just run one problem at a time.

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>>16777961
Meditation and/or nootropics like piracetam (amphetamines like ritalin work better but it's nasty and addictive so I would def not go that route plus you build tolerance on those).

Wait till she's 30 then see if things change.

Depends on how close to 30 she is. If she has no time for you within a few months time, get out. Based on what you said, it sounds like she's not super into the relationship. Talk with her more. Find out what her plan is and where you fit into that. If it doesn't sound like something you want to spend your life doing, tell her that. Gotta communicate.

>>16777956

She was once, but many job rejections and shit like that has just changed her priorities.

Guess give it a few months as you said, might just be temporary

I loved you.

I'm sorry.

>>16777862
Pull the trigger. It'll hurt less.

>>16777817
Obviously you gotta go full ara ara~ milf mode on him. Be the sexy experienced lover teaching her cute little shota boy all the ins and outs of sex for the first time.
Fetishize the cherry popping.

>>16777833
That's truly terrifying lol

But thank you

>>16777845
It's really easy. Just read a shit ton of /ss/ doujin and repeat the most common lines that you see the milfs saying. It's instant boner fuel for every man.

What do you think he's hiding?

>>16777739
What about his past could be a relationship dealbreaker?

>>16777741
>>16777751
To be honest I'm not quite sure how over he is about his ex. Which really gets me down because I feel like she still has an effect on him even now.

I have been like this for a long time, what helped me is learning to read people. Be more perceptive and less judgemental of yourself and others, and if you see something doesn't fit, work on it so it does.
People don't want perfect though who do are usually don't worth it because they need some growing up to be able to respect you as a person and not just as a tool to fulfill their fantasies. Have some self esteem be confident and do your best, some people will value for it, others won't, even others will be hateful. Stick to those who value you. Don't take others judgement as holy truth, they make mistakes just like you.

>>16777639
Hey I totally know that feel - I'm in the same boat at the moment where everything is great in the relationship, and I can see my bf and I being a long-term thing. But even then I still have these thought that he'll just eventually get bored of me or find someone prettier or smarter or something like that.

I don't really have a solid piece of advice because I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with it. But I think that you should try not fretting about it too much, and just try and savour what you've got. It's not good to dwell on things that may or may not happen.

>>16777639
Well you could date someone who's less attractive than you with a good personality. I'm sure they would appreciate you more.

is this bait? You either drive off good guys because you're too picky or you're just a bitter hambeast

>>16777503
1/10. Apply yourself better if you want to have a successful troll thread.

>>16777503
> its the guys job to contact the girl
> 2016

>>16777501
Go to therapy.

Don't not go to therapy. These feelings won't go away by asking an advice board.

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>>16777541
I don't make enough money to see a therapist.

>>16777501
Don't let others give yourself a value. you have to appreciate yourself before others will give a damn about you.

Seriously, fucking get over it. It's all something we gotta do. If you're focused on her you shouldn't have any problems, get her to put it on you.

>>16777502
>have a problem
>just get over it

wise advice anon. Wise advice.

Sex is largely mental, OP, have you tried meditation, it can help you relax and take your mind off of sex. Performance anxiety is more common than you think when dealing with an issue like this.

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Kegel exercises

You should get drunker. Keep drinking until you pass out on the floor and pee your pants.

You kind of remind me of myself, if I were more full of myself.

Digression aside, I don't drink much either and I have a similar opinion of alcohol. Personally, I'm an enormous introvert and I try and get tipsy before I go to casual social events or before I go hang out with people. It helps keep my internal thoughts silent and allows me to focus on the people around me.

Keep drinking until you literally can't stay awake anymore, and you just pass out whereever you are at the moment, even if it's on the front lawn, or in the street.

Sure.

How old is his little sister? If she's like under 16 and you're college-age, I can see why he wants to kick your ass. But knowing 4chan, I'm sure she's like 12, am I right?

Are the threats recorded by text/email or were they verbal? That could help. Tell the school, campus police or whatever, bring logs of threats