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Going back to school is going to be a waste of time of for you at this point unless you're confident that further education will help you in the future. Working another job at least guarantees you money and adds to your work history, which makes it easier for you to get other jobs, like being a flight attendant, for example.

How many hours a week do you see yourself working between these 2 jobs.

Is it humanely possible to put in an 80 hour week without experiencing severe mental exhaustion?

>>16889343
My father has a pretty bad temper, fucked up my entire childhood, don't let that shit control your actions and NEVER use it as an excuse, you are in full control of yourself and the more often you have that thought the more responsible you will handle it

telling yourself you have a bad temper over and over will reinforce that thought over the years

did you ever hit someone because of your anger problems? because If you can't be sure that you won't harm the women or child you should not even try to raise a kid

>>16889362

the child already has 6 months old so trying to not raise it is off the table.

so you're saying that simply telling myself "i have a bad temper" wont help but rather make it worse? (my english is a little rusty)

I'm going to get psychic help, drugs and shit. I dont like the idea but today I cross all the lines

shameless self bump.

She said she left me and she will never talk to me again. I lost her. what do i do? and about my baby?

>>16889295
What medications have you tried? I just did a quick search and there isn't great evidence for anything, unfortunately. For example, SSRIs don't seem to work. Have you seen a pain specialist?

Do you smoke/ingest weed?

Hey anon,

Fellow lifelong migraine sufferer. Migraines have become a buzzword and applied to different levels of head pain. I'm not sure what a migraine is to you.

Personally, for me, there are migraines that disallow me to do anything. The only thing I can do about these is to immediately manage symptoms when I notice them. Once they hit I'm done. Literally nothing works totally for these migraines, and I've tried everything up to very strong opiates (which, bullshit enough, makes migraines worse and last longer). If you have these, you'll have to go through the long process of trying everything. The only thing that works for me, marginally, is oxygen therapy.

I, also, used to have headaches 28/30 days a month. There was never anything I found for these that worked, until I got Botox. Botox has been a miracle cure for these lesser degree, regular headaches and have improved my life massively.

Good luck. Shit is stupid.

There's something called a "daith piercing"? Give it a gander..

>>16889291
Stop posting your bully

Tell them they're right, then cock your finger into an imaginary gun

>>16889291
get a new hair cut, look at some youtube videos how to style your hair

stop wearing autism clothes, buy some nice normal stuff (don't go to /fa/), If you don't know where to begin look at other people that look good, but copy them in a subtle way

if you have bad skin buy some soap that agrees with your skin, exfoliate every few days and def use moisterizer

brush your teeth twice every day, try to floss every day

most important is probs hair and clothes though, and practice smiling in front of a mirror for a few minutes a day, in case you have a creepy stare/smile


I went through all this myself, if you have any questions I will stay here for a while

You miss the fantasy of what you thought he was. Not what he actually is.

>>16889289
>3 months
>in love
OK.

>>16889296
How is it a fantasy when I want him, all his flaws and imperfections. Through good days and bad? I know exactly who and what he is and I still accept him fully and want to be with him.

>>16889255
Drop this pseudoscience thats the only fact you'll learn through that pic lmao

>>16889255
Its far easier to accept facts and have problem solving skills then having security of health and property. I guess i dont really understand that pyramid.

>>16889305
Niggers in africa have 0water 0food 0safety and all they got is family kek

>>16889239
Can you post your budget? We might see some areas where you can adjust.

How many hours do you work per week? It seems that $300 a month could be made within a few part time shifts. It wouldn't be great, but if you got a second job that could make the difference.

Other than that, do you have any skills? Can you build or craft things to sell on Etsy or something?

Being poor sucks a lot, so I feel your pain. I finally finished my PhD and moved cities to start a postdoc and I'm poor as dirt. I think I will be out of debt within a year though, especially if I stick to the good spending habits I developed in grad school. It will be really nice to be able to buy beer on the weekends!

Suggest stripping to your wife...couple extra bucks

What kind of debt is it? If it's credit card, try refinance it. That can help drop the Apr from like 17 to 5-10%

When I feel overwhelmed I just stop and try to solve one problem at a time. Sometimes everything piles up and it seems impossible to overcome, but individually I'm sure you have what it takes to solve your problems. 1) figure out what you'd like to do with your life (hardest part), 2) see how you can get there (through a job , further studies, etc) 3) work towards achieving your objective (send cv, applications). One. Problem. At. A. Time. And most importantly, surround yourself by positive people with whom you can talk and can help you along the way. It gets better, you can do it.

>>16889195
I am not sure my suggestion is okay for somebody with depression, so handle with care.

Why don't you just dedicate yourselves to other people?
Instead of ending your life, you can gift it to somebody, if you get the metaphor.

And do not set goals too high for you. Accept it as your nature. Maybe you're not designed or meant to have a degree at all.
Given all the pressures we have from society, this thought is daunting, but it shouldn't be.

Or maybe, another thing I would do would be to go and see if I can join a community, e.g. those who live like medieval times, etc.

But keep goals easy and small.
E.g. do not just pack and leave.
You go there, and visit for some hours.
Next time you spend a day.
Next time a weekend.
Etc.
This system applies to other stuff.

E.g. when you had health issues, why did you keep studying? Weren't you entitled to get some free time? Ill people do need time to recover, for fucks sake. Instead you tried to recover AND do all the other stuff at the same time.

>>16889103
Ofc if neither of you have std

>>16889103
Dude do it. Pop one off real hard in her mouth and make her swallow it. Then, have her keep sucking you even though you already came.

do it, then see if you can keep her as a fuck buddy

me too, not another day of this crap

oh god take me on your sparkly chariot , forever

Its a sign of depression when going to sleep brings release and waking up brings stress. I'm in the same boat but I'm so tired of all the bullshit I don't even want to seek help.

Same, but I bottle that shit up deep and fight through life anyway. You're a man, aren't you? Act like one.

Food poisoning is probably the quickest and cheapest. Not the most pleasant though

>>16889038
Or anyway to convincingly fake sick?

You're an adult. You dont have to do things if you dont want to. You dont need to play sick like a child.

>>16888529
Depends on the therapist. Get one that will be on your side. But still challenges you. The more you have in common, the more they can relate.

Therapists didn't leave a big impact on me. However I met a lot of people with similar problems to my situation during group therapy and befriending these people helped me a lot.

Yes, I'd definitely recommend it. I also agree that you need to find a good therapist that's right for you, and it might take a few tries, the same as with any other doctor.

>>16888344
Damn white women cant even compete

you can survive a different sense of humor, absolutely.

you CANT survive poor communication - which means understanding the intent and meaning of someone's words, so if one party is getting offended at the other's jokes it's going to be up to the offended party whether they want to accept the joking intent or not.

Try to be an alpha male.

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Get a better job. Military Sealift Command will take fatasses, and it pays well. You'd be working as a civilian sailor on ships carrying cargo for the military. No military BS, but you'd have to actually work and develop skills.

>>16888291

Take ethnobotanicals.

>>16887975
buump

>>16887975
tl;dr
Girl won't respond on messaging app, should i add her on FB or is it too stalkerish? How do i get in contact with her again.

>>16888235
Just add her on FB. She's already not talking to you. What would you lose by doing it?