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How to ask a girl out/confess 2016-03-13 18:15:29 Post No.16911595
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How to ask a girl out/confess
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Hey, /adv/, how do you guys confess to a girl you like? Do you guys just plain ask her out on a date or do you guys straight up tell her how you feel?
>pic unrelated
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>>16911595
PLEASE. PLEASE. Do not confess.
Whenever a guy confessed to me I was immediately turned off. Makes me cringe so much.
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>>16911607
What do you suggest then? I want to tell the girl I like how I truly feel but I don't really know how to do it. We're planning on going out to eat next weekend and I was planning on telling her there.
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>>16911614
No dude, you let the momentum and the sexual tension build on the dates and keep talking to her to keep her interested before and after.
You're basically like trying to turn on your water faucet without any pressure in the pipes so the whole thing just doesn't work.
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Advice from a conservative Christian 2016-03-13 17:50:42 Post No.16911540
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Advice from a conservative Christian
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Hello, /adv/!
I'm a little sick and have a few hours to spare while waiting for a bus, so I thought that I might come offer some 'alternative' (by 4chan standards) advice with some of that time.
I don't pretend to have all answers, but I promise to answer as best I can!
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>>16911540
Why the fuck are you a Christian?
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>>16911540
Can you tell me which version of the bible conservatives use? Because it's not the one I have read. You guys seem to think it's best to fuck over the poor, worship the wealthy, kill people in war, and just generally disregard human welfare, none of which agrees with the Gospels. Or perhaps you could explain why you even bother calling yourself a 'Christian' when you clearly care more about conservative politics than anything Jesus had to say
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>>16911545
That's a good question! It started mostly because I was raised around it, but my eyes were truly opened to it only when I got to college. I started looking around, exploring the world's religions and their holy texts, but then--on a whim--I revisited the gospel of Matthew. Whether it was because my re-reading it was framed better having had more exposure to the world or otherwise, from that point on I began to realize just h ow much the teachings of Jesus resonate with me as truth.
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i read my boyfriends texts yesterday and i saw that he was talking ot his ex girlfriend who hes still "good friends" with. she was asking him if he still liked getting his nipples stimulated and thens he randomly talked about how he liked her asshole one time. and then she was trying to tell him how to have sex with me? it really grossed me out and made me upset.
so i got fucking angry and when i confronted him he just said that they were together for a long time so they were comfortable with eachother.
am i fucking crazy for being enraged by this?
inb4 "you shouldnt have read his texts"
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>2016
>dating people who are still in contact with their exes
Go ask your mom how her ex-boyfriends are doing. She either
a) has no idea or
b) has lots of time to talk about those guys because she's long divorced from your dad.
Come on already.
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No, he clearly still has a thing for his ex and she has a thing for him. I would dump my girl if i found out she was doing that shit with an ex
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>>16911342
i think she likes him but i dont think he likes her
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do i have mommy issues? 2016-03-13 15:58:11 Post No.16911212
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>be me
>29
>always am attracted to girls that have been through shit
>get turned on by friendzone
>I just want a girl that will take control of my life and give me direction
>I worship females and feel so submissive in their presence, to the point thats it downright embarrassing
>most girls I encounter can immediately sense this
I just want a girl that I can talk to, and listen to. I want a friend that I can fall asleep with. It doesn't have to be sexual, but I'd love to wake up next to her and cook her breakfast and give her massages and love her for who she is; her strengths and faults. Of course it would be great if I could have sex with her or maybe at least help her orgasm to relieve whatever tension she is dealing with, but I don't even feel it's necessary for me, and I would hope she has a lot of sexual gratification even if she finds it from other guys. As long as she'd come back to me and let me treat her with love and respect...
ladies ...am I fucking weird?
What do I do? I feel like it's impossible to find a girl like this...
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This is not mommy issues. This is a lack of socialization with females.
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Would you let her peg you?
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>>16911223
Depends, whats in it for me?
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How do you eat pussy?
Does anyone have any videos of a lady showing you how it's done?
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Go to >>>/soc/ ask a socslut to eat herself out.
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Find the clit. Go nuts, everything else is pptional/up to your partners needs.
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>>16911187
A lot of guys and girls don't know that the labia right below the clit can often feel more pleasurable when its licked than the actual clit.
I sometimes squirm in discomfort when my boyfriend focuses too much on the clit because overstimulation can be painful. I like it when he licks right below it and my labia indirectly stimulates the clit instead of his actual tongue.
So you should try licking both and see which the girl likes better because not everyone's sensitivity is the same.
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>Love to laugh.
>Love to have fun.
nope.jpeg
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> i strongly prefer to date within my own race
It's way to hard to find this on any profile that isn't white.
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>Ask me.
Fuck you. The site just asked you. If you won't take the time to even begin telling people who you are, I for damn sure am not devoting any energy to figuring it out for you.
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>fluent in sarcasm
What do guys think of boobs similar to pic related? Mines are that saggy and they make me feel insecure. I mean, everyone knows that guys like perky boobs and every girl wants perky boobs. I'm 20 and I doubt that they will become perkier.
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Good enough.
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>>16911027
How boobs are fine.
>everyone knows that guys like perky boobs
Everyone should also know guys like all boobs and will be satisfied if you arent obese or completely flat.
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>>16911027
It's a little sag, nothing to get all worked up over.
(Secretly, though, I love sags like this.)
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women find drama any fucking where...
...my head hurts reading this.
my advice: ignore her
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>She says if he moves out, she won't pay anymore. So he feels a little stuck.
How is your boyfriend not turning into his sister here?
Plenty of guys handle their living expenses and pay for school on their own. It's not ideal but they make it work. You make your boyfriend come off as being trapped when in reality he chooses to be there. Do you know what the end of this road looks like? He becomes a do-nothing bitch too. He'll just keep "blaming the man for putting him down" while suckling the teat of his family's wealth.
He's going to become his sister unless he grows a pair and gets out of there. Being a burger flipper isn't as pathetic as being a bitch.
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>>16910996
Now I have to ask if this is usa or not because that implies OP is european. American college can be 20-30k a year for just a community college.
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>>16911014
>American college can be 20-30k a year for just a community college.
2-4K per semester at the one I attended. Your turn to show the one that's 5x more expensive.
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How to find virgin gf 2016-03-13 14:49:00 Post No.16910976
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Let me just start by saying this isnt a troll thread.
I genuinely believe that monogamy and this hookup culture we have are incompatible and studies validate that people with a lower sexual partner are less likely to cheat.
I know you guys like to believe that a girl is going to be faithful no matter what but I dont want some flimsy promise that she is going to up hold. Sex means something more to me.
How do I find a gf we beliefs closer to mine. Ive had sex with one girl and it was with a girl I was engaged with but she fell deathly ill unfortunately it wasnt meant to be. Now Im not particularly looking for a virgin. That would just be ideal. Id be willing to go as high as 3 or 4. MAYBE 5. This of course assumes none of the instances were casual sex because despite what you think, I disagree and thats not a good disagreement to have in a relationship.
What Ive usually been doing is just going around dating girls, then they wonder why I wont have sex with them since Im always so horny and I have to explain how I feel about sex. Then they say what theyve done and I try to pretend its not a problem but it is a we break up eventually. What hurts more is when they lie.
Id just like to avoid this. Whats a good way for get a feel for a girls sexual history early in the relationship before ending things comes with hard feelings.
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Let me add that this isnt for religious reasons if that wasnt clear enough. Ive always believed it so much so that I cute out porn after high school.
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nothing you can do besides stop being a sorry faggot. Millions of people have found partners who are sexually promiscuous and not been cheated on- because they're not faggots and women enjoy being around them.
You can keep on going down this path and get nowhere, that's up to you.
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>>16911007
>Millions of people have found partners who are sexually promiscuous and not been cheated on
Maybe I didnt make this clear. I dont want to be one of those people.
Dont imply that there arent women who arent sexually promiscuous because thats ridiculous.
Whenever I'm around new people, I'm shy and need some time. I'm trying to improve this, but every guide on the internet assumes I'm anxious. The reality is that my mind is just a blank and I can't think of anything to say or do.
How do I fix that?
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Practice, practice, practice.
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You are probably insecure, but I agree with first post. You'll learn from taking action.
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>>16910790
But wouldn't insecurity express itself in knowing what to do, but not doing it because you're scared of what they might think of you?
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People will often accuse me of making things up and it's starting to concern me but I don't see how it could be possible. I only hear this from people who I have a rocky history with and they only seem to do it when they get called out on something. I try to keep a very careful timeline of events and even started recording things for visceral sanity. That way I could play it back if needed and be assured that it happened the way I remembered. Even so people will tell me that I make things up in my head and maintain that these things never happened. If I confront them with proof their reaction is so flummoxing that I have trouble describing what happens but through wordplay the subject gets changed or turned back on me.
For example, one new years eve my boyfriend at the time left a message on the answering machine cursing at me for being late picking him up from work(his car was in the shop). I was on my way to his work when he called but my best friend was there and she must have heard everything. I heard it the next day and was so embarrassed. The message is long gone and he swears it never happened and I'm just making it up to villify him but I don't realize I'm doing it.
It's not just him. There are other people too. It hurts and I'm conflicted because these are people I want to like but I can't move past these things anymore, imagined or not. Do these people know what they're doing or could I really be making things up without knowing it? Has anybody ever experienced something similar?
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Bump?
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You can't be serious. You know things that make other people look bad, and you're surprised that they deny it happened and accuse you of making it up?
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Is this normal? It's not like I go telling these things to other people . I just bring them up to work it out and move on. If two people know what happened if it makes sense for one of them to lie about it. That's just stupid. Is it possible that these people are able to convince themselves that their version is the truth? Or do they simply insist on lying because they don't want to handle it and are unhappy with that part of themselves? That sounds really unhealthy
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where can i go to meet relatively nice girls who would be fine with being with a (facially) 3/10 guy? during the day time, to meet i mean, and something specific please not just 'outside' cos thats a very big place and doesnt tell me where i should go, what i should do etc.
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The mall
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Post a pic of yourself, you're probably selling yourself short
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>>16910732
what do i do when i get there? what should i say and stuff?
>>16910736
i have done before, i got smashed on here. someone made an image macro from my face actually. it was pretty upsetting so id rather not do it again
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Self improvement thread ? Yes. 2016-03-13 12:02:52 Post No.16910627
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Self improvement thread ? Yes.
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Just, how to put myself out there without having to put my 'mask' on ? Everytime i'm with other people, i always have to fake everything. I'm very insecure, very unempathetic. Just, how to be natural and be social ?
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Everyone has a mask they show to others OP. If you feel fake then learn how to relax a bit.
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>>16910632
But relaxing means that people will see you less-great than what you want them to see in you.
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>>16910643
Nah that's insecurity.
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I've had a terrible relationship history. The short version is that my first ex was brutally physically abusive, and the ones that followed, while most weren't violent, fucked me over in some other way (cheating, verbal abuse, yelling, breaking my shit, etc.) Recently, I became cynical about relationships and quit for a long time. I figured I'd die alone. I was fine with that, and was putting my energy into my education, career, and social life.
But then this fucker drops out of the sky and changes all of that. He's so considerate, I'd call it borderline genius. I've never met such an empathetic, caring person. I have a crippling chronic illness. Long story. He not only cares, which is new for me, but he goes out of his way to make things easier on me, or to make my life more normal where he can, because he knows it's important to me. Who does that? He's extremely supportive of me in every way.
He spends a lot of time on the road, because of his job. While he's out, we're in constant contact. I'm a student, so if I'm available, we talk on the phone. If not, we text. He helps me study, even if he can't pronounce most of the words. He's principled, ambitious, fun, gentle, and it seems to take a lot to make him angry, because I've spoken to him all day on his job, heard everything go wrong, and he's chill as hell.
"Okay, what's the problem?", you ask. I'm just thinking something ain't right. Who's like that? Doesn't that old saying go "If you think it's too good to be true, it probably is?" What if all of this is all just some kind of manipulation? I mean, in the right light, it could look like it. And isn't all fucking day a lot to talk? I don't mind, but it's odd. He's a bit possessive. He calls me "mine" a lot, and happily chases off other guys, though only with my permission. Maybe I'm so used to being treated like shit from my bad decisions in the past, I just expect it now.
Well, /adv/? Am I being paranoid? If so, how do I trust after all that?
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Actually i'm in a very similar situation. I think we should just go with it and enjoy the ride. If it's just a mask and truly "too good to be true", i will deal with it the moment i find out. I don't want to taint the presence with worries that might not even have a reasonable ground.
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Take the chance. Until you know something's wrong, it could just be your mind playing tricks. Regret for not having a go at something is always worse than trying and failing.
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Yeah, that's the plan, right now. I'm just kind of at a point where I'm getting really wrapped up in this guy, and I really, really don't need another fucked up relationship experience under my belt. I'm trying to make a lot of my life in very little time, and my time and energy are rather precious.
But yeah, sometimes, time is the only way to know. I do like to see this shit coming, though.
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Ok, Im a little brother. My big bro is seven years older than me and is distress. I want to know what I can do to be a better brother. He has started to drink more and more. I understand this slipper slope he is going in. What steps can I take to strengthen a bond with him to show him that I care. I'm not the creative type and I don't know how to connect with someone feeling wise. Please, anyone that has brothers, can you help me out?
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Any bros please.
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>>16910480
How old are you?
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