How soon can I start milking the end government for money? How do I go about this? I'm an unemployed student strapped for cash at the moment. Classes are too busy and unpredictable to maintain a job.
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Btw where r u from op?
I'm going to a mental health "transitional housing" for my anxiety/depression/personality. The goal of the program is to offer a safe and functional home (because lots of negroes you find on craigslist, in your family, or scattered throughout your history of friends are actually sick as fuck) until independence can be achieved. I think something like 85% clients selected moved out and into their own place after a year or two on average. The clients were selected for their probable ability to do so. Some of them were in the midst of rough shit such as psychosis, and maybe are living off the NEETbucks now. My philosophy, and I know that schizophrenic people can't always help it, is that you're only as valuable as what you contribute to the world. My philosophy is a stressful one, but it keeps me intellectually honest and kind to others.
I know that none of you likely have the mental healths this bad, or that most of you have devised a system to kind of manage it. However, I know anxiety is a really common thing, and maybe you guys could offer me some tips in dealing with anxiety involving life and change in general. I've always done NEET activities and popped the benzos to cope, but I'm starting to realize this anxiety could be a lifelong problem. What I need is a group of people to pull me out of my head, be it friends or coworkers, and a little bit of confidence that I will not go insane or die every time something uncomfortable happens.
I could also be going schizo like many of the fellows in that transitional housing place, but I am not currently psychotic, so I'm told not to think about that. Anyway, thanks for reading this far. I appreciate any input. My therapists have all had a big, "We'll see what happens", attitude, which is actually not very helpful or friendly in this respect. One of them says I can do it and that I'll be really awesome, but she also looks like a doll and feeds her family by being strategically kind all day, so...
I have had trouble with depression in my life, as well as other symptoms. I go to a weekly meeting of Recovery International and use the tools I learned there to manage symptoms in daily life. I read Mental Health Through Will Training by Dr Abraham A. Low, Recovery's founder and its available at libraries and the website Recoveryinternational.org. There are meetings in many states in the US and other countries as well as online and telephone meetings. I invite you to check it out, it has helped me a lot. Good luck.
>>16891253
Hey OP, I have disabling depression and anxiety as well. If it hadn't been for my family making my mortgage payments for me, I guess I'd be in a group home as well.
If you can find any anxiety support groups in your area, join them. They can be a big help. I am in one now and have learned some stuff already even though I have been dealing with and learning about anxiety on and off for years.
I find it helps, if something is making me anxious, to focus on one small part of it that doesn't make me anxious, if that makes any sense. Like if I have to go to an appointment and I'm wound up about it, I don't think about the appointment, I just focus on each step: getting in the car, then driving the car, parking, walking, etc. Sometimes it is a very moment-to-moment thing and I have to talk myself gently through it. Like "ok here I am in the driveway, just gonna get in the car, man it's a nice day out" or "fuck it's snowing but at least the car is warm" kind of stuff. Basically I think back to times when people have said things to me that made me feel confident or reassured, and I try to talk to myself that way. Obviously I don't do it out loud if there are people around though.
But that's one thing that helps get me through stressful situations. Sometimes I use relaxation techniques, deep breathing, imagine a safe place, stuff like that. Obviously none of that is going to be as effective as a benzo. But it's better to do something small and even just get the anxiety down from an 8/10 to a 7/10 than to do nothing and let it spiral.
Sometimes with bigger stressors, all I can do is remind myself that it probably won't be as bad as I think it will. Having contingency plans sometimes helps me feel more secure about a change, just knowing all the bases are covered if something goes wrong.
Will post more if I think of it.
I have all of the symptoms of alzheimers disease. If I explained this to my doctor, what are the chances I'll be prescribed medical cannabis?
Zero
Just buy weed from highschoolers like everyone else. It's cheaper but they don't take cards.
>>16891252
Zero. Pot is prescribed in some states as a painkilller and spasm-reliever, not for alzheimers.
Girl i like said I was a great guy although a bit of a womanizer. How do I respond to that?
>>16891212
"I know, you've already fallen for me"
>>16891216
Well I'm trying to tone down the cockiness because I think I act too cocky and arrogant around her. This will just throw a wrench in my plan.
Any more input?
I need some advice I guess, or maybe I don't, I'm not sure. I feel so out of touch with everything around me, and it isn't that I don't try to pull myself back in it just seems the harder I try the more tired I get because in the end nothing helps. I feel really depressed, I can't get into the things I used to enjoy like playing music, drawing, or writing because nothing meets my already low expectations of what I'll make even though I try to put everything I can into it. I can't interact well socially because I don't relate to anyone and I can't hold a conversation without feeling like a try-hard or like the other person thinks I'm just bullshitting.
I try to analyze these problems in my head and sometimes I feel like I know what's wrong or I know what will help me, but I can't overcome them and improve myself as a person or any of the skills I try to learn and apply. I feel stuck and it seems like its always been this way. I'm not sure how to keep going on without feeling so aimless.
Are you in highschool? It's a common problem there. Try new things till how find what you love again. If no one else loves them wait till you get into college. You'll find people who also like that same thing .
>>16891191
23, and out of college. Shits been going on since I was probably 8 or 9.
I'd recommend a trained councilor... my subjective opinion is it has the sounds of depersonalization personality disorder DPD.
I'm basing this of a feeling keep in mind
Ever since my gf broke up with me and moved to a different state, I've been unable to pursue any of my passion projects.
I just go to my day job, perform it like a robot, and come home to my empty apartment. If I try to make anything, I fail. I used to make tons of shit almost every day. She was my muse.
Right now, I'm sitting at my desk, just had my coffee and my meds. I should be ready to go. But I'm not.
I'm wasting days. I'm putting the weight I lost back on. This has been going on for over a month now.
I feel empty. I used to make shit every day, and I was excited to do it, but my I just can't anymore.
>>16891161
Focus more on what your trying to make instead of your ex. By the way you speak about her you put her on a pedestal. You've lived without her before, you can do it again.
>>16891324
I suppose, man. It's just hard, being alone again.
Normally I can force myself to care about stuff, but my tank feels so empty right now.
I feel like shaking things up would help, but I don't know what to do. I just have the same old friends to do the same old shit with.
>>16891876
Do something by yourself then.
How do I wake Mr bubbles?
Make a boat put, the Bubbles in the boat, put the boat in the tank and set it on fire. He'll be fine after 3 days.
>>16891142
Thanks
/adv/, I have a problem sleeping with my wife.
Not sexually mind you, like actual sleeping. You see, she kicks and jerks while sleeping. This is an issue because we're on a relatively cheap spring mattress. So when she kicks or jerks, it rocks/sways the entire bed a good bit. She does it almost every couple of minutes at night once she falls asleep. Now, I can sleep through it just fine generally, but the issue comes if I'm trying to get to sleep, because when I'm going to sleep and I'm almost asleep then she kicks and it jars the bed, it wakes me up and frustrates the fuck out of me. I realize its not her fault, but it still doesnt change the fact that I have a real hard time getting to sleep. And fucking help me if I happen to wake up in the middle of the night and not immediately get back to sleep, she kicks/jerks worse when shes in deeper sleep, so it's like sleeping with two dogs fighting in the bed. It sucks shit too because if I wake her up, she will be drowsy enough to immediately go back to sleep, so the kicking/jerking starts again very shortly after, long before I can get back to sleep.
Now a simple solution would be "Why not just go to bed before her?". I work late generally, she goes to bed no later than 10, I'm typically up later than that working. I realize a different type of bed might be a good option as well, however; we're not too far from making a big move so we really don't want to incur any major expenses. I can get a decent nights sleep on the couch, but then she gets sullen/upset because she feels bad its happening.
So /adv/, any ideas?
Simple as fuck. Get a separate bed, or two twins/full sized beds that you can push together for bang town, and separate when sleeping.
You're both adults and married. Should be understandable.
You could tough it out after you move. And at least you are sleeping in the same room, so you're not going. Anywhere.
If you don't want to buy a new mattress, which you should be, then you can sleep on the floor or the couch. You could also try an air mattress, but that money could easily go into a new mattress.
Even if you move you'll still need a new bed. Keep an eye out for sales and do research on the best one for you.
>>16891113
Tie her up.
How do I tell a friend that I have feelings for her without ruining the friendship?
I realize that however I say it, her mind is already made up whichever way it may be, and there's always gonna be that risk/awkwardness, but I don't want those things to be worse than they need to be if she doesn't feel the same way.
Is "I need to be honest about this, I have a bit of a crush on you" a good way to say it?
Don't "confess" that's inorganic and awkward as fuck.
Just ask if she'd be interested in going on a date some time.
>>16891104
The thing is, we've already done a lot of date type stuff without calling it that (or anything else), and I've had it before where I realize long after the fact that I went on a date without knowing it.
Feed her and put her in a good mood first.
In brief, i'm quiete sure she is interested, because she gave me a decent amount of signals: she's looking for me on FACEBOOK, she wants to hang out alone with me, she invited herself to my house when i was alone (and she knew it) BUT i'm scared to move things forward, even if i'm the MEN. Surely she wants to have sex with me rether then a story XD. But i've almost no sexual experience so i'm SCARED to take action (vs her in particular). On the other hand, i know that she won't do more then what she did. Im the men.
What should i do? (How can i escalate?) How can i gain some confidence? i'm litterally STUCK
(i like her)
>>16891095
Just sit back and let her take control.
She knows what she wants and how to get it. Let her have it.
>>16891095
Damn, is this how you get a sugar momma
>>16891095
Enjoy this, it won't happen when you're older.
huh. Im soon to finish first year in history studys. Studying middle ages now, which i hate, but whatever, ill get past it no problem. Last days im starting to wonder what will i do with my useless fucking degree. Im 19 and will finish uni at age 22 and be a bartender or smth from then.
What will i do with it and what can i possibly do with this degree. I really love history and find it interesting, makes me think and understand world, but I don't wanna spend my life sitting in archive or museum. I want my job to be interesting.
How useless is history degree and how useless ill be to society with it?
come on 4chan, motivate me or at least demotivate me. TELL ME THINGS!!
>>16891123
My grandpa has had a history degree
>>16891090
Come over to europe and do your PhD or next step in your studies here. After that find a job in your field, its probably not the best paying job but its better then bartender.
How to last longer during sex?
Try not to cum works for me
How are you at math? Do some problems in your head, think about meat loaf anything to take your mind off of what your doing.
>>16891084
Cum more than once.
I don't know if there's anyone here that can help me. I just want to know the truth and I know I can't get it from him, it has to be from her. I found her facebook page, google plus and all and all I gather is that she is perfect for him so I don't know if he is just using me? Till he knows he can be with her for good?
So I was wondering if anyone could help me gather more information. I know there are places on the net I could gather it from but I don't know how to get there because let's face it, I'm just a stupid useless girl. If anyone can help me please let me know...
>>16891082
You won't get a clean answer short of snooping on their fb and phones.
It doesn't matter anymore. 4chins has never helped with this shit and most likely never will.
Just run off and don't look back.
No matter how shit a girlfriend you are, it's never okay to cheat. Breakup is the only right way to end a bad relationship.
I'm not a bad girlfriend, I do everything for him, I stayed with him no matter how many times he cheated on me over the past years, I give him everything he wants, I cook and clean and do the laundry for him I pay all his bills I'm the only person who is always by his side no matter what I'm not a shitty girlfriend
dont even bother, girl. You shouldnt care. Hes not good enough for you. Trust me. If my gf cheated on me ill just go away and wont even think about looking back. Be happy that he did it now and didnt waste more of your time.
>want to start a youtube channel where i talk about interesting and original content
>record myself over 30 times and not be satisfied with the result
what do?
pic related, everytime i see footage of myself
Stop making shit content and it should fix itself.
Give a link to your shit and we'll give you advice on how to fix it.
We are going need a link if you are talking about visual content
as i said in OP, i did not have any content up
i want advice on how to not be harsh when critiquing myself. i don't think i'm bad but self-confidence and the idea that my friends will see me intimidate me to no end
I am tired of 4chan, but where else can I go? I need a good source for internet content, but reddit went to shit and tumblr is too decentralized of an information flow for my taste. It tried 2chan but I don't know Japanese so it got old p fast.
I feel like 4chan is dissolving my soul but I need more memes and fun stuff to read. Please help.
Best I can do is Facepunch