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I've went from 152 to 134 in just the span for 3 months due to not eating. I am killing myself like this and need help desperately.

Do that, then. Why not? You've only told us positives to that plan, no negatives.

So leave. You hate it there.

>>16941612

I'd have wasted a lot of time and effort at this school getting my degree here; by far the biggest issue for me. There will be wasted classes, and thus wasted money and time.

I neglected to mention I was 21 at the initial diagnosis. I'd wager I'll be lucky to make it to 50.

I just can't even right now, I'm not sure if that qualifies as asking for advice or not.

Please don't delete this thread.

I feel kinda weird for replying to this as I feel like I have nothing to say about these matters, having not experienced cancer and all... It may sound stupid, but the only (and I guess best non-medical) advice I can give you is to 'hang on' and don't give up!

I probably don't have to tell you, but cancer is a constant battle, if you don't fight the cancer, it will fight you and you will lose. But if you resist it, you might be able to live your while and get some nice things out of it.

I can give you the example of my grandma:
She was like 80 when my mom discovered she had cancer (there was a huge tumor erupting from her belly). After some scans they found out it was pretty much all over so it was hard to say where it started. Doctors estimated she had been suffering some form of cancer for at least 20 years. Yes... 20 fucking years. Nobody in the family knew she had this, she never spoke about it or showed any kind of pain to anyone. After they found out they started chemo/radiation therapy but of course it was basically useless... the only thing they could do was extend her life. So this went on for a year or 2 and after that she was kinda too weak to continue and returned home. It was evident she would die soon, so one night when she felt extremely bad we all gathered to my grandparents' home. All her children were there, like exchanging their last words, sharing good moments, saying hopeful things. everybody was there, except for my uncle, who was in Romania at the time.

apparently her wish to see everybody before she died was so strong that she managed to survive that night. She even lived on for another half year, until EVERYBODY in the family could be with her and say goodbye. So eventualyl she died in a care-home with her whole family besides her. It's probably the most romantic death I have ever experienced.

So, sorry for the long story... now my comment is too long, get ready for the second one :P

>>16941588
so... my point is:

Set some goals in your life, some things you want/have to do and just go for them. Don't let your health/disease get into your way. Resist it even though it is harsh and get some support (your family/friends) if you feel like you need it.

If you start losing hope/giving up it will get you, so please don't. Now you even don't know what will happen, cherish life as long as you can man! If you let the cancer/fear of cancer rule your life, it will get you. So never give up!

I hope these words helped you a bit. Anyway good luck in your life and I hope you will remain healthy :).

Stop masturbaiting for a month

>>16941539
maybe too much pressure in your current life?
is things okay with you? work? college?

desu sex its like a porno, where you need to cum, as long she was satisfied you are ok.

Try having sex at a neutral time, so without alcohol, and obviously dont wank if you are gonna get laid sooo.

>>16941539
Prob performance anxiety op. How's your confidence overall? Are you a socially awkward person?

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>>16941531
She says she enjoys it alot when we do have it, we used to have it a lot more often, but as a result of me not engaging (to give her a chance to do it first,) we don't do it nearly as often.

On top of this she's recently moved back in with her parents, so I only get 1-3 days a week to have sex... and if I don't force it upon us, it simply would never happen.

Even if I straight up ask her "can you be the one to start something later?" She'll make a deal out of it.. and I might get a predictably obvious forced attempt at a blowjob before we go to bed.

By predictably obvious forced attempt, I mean similar to what you'd expect from a child when you say "I'm not gonna ask you again, finish your broccoli" and they pick at it for 5 minutes then decide to miserably take a nibble, then glare at you.

Doesn't exactly put me in the mood, and I'm at a loss. Pic related: tfw I try to address the issue.

>>16941531
She either has a low sex drive or she's not in love with you.

Did you have to convince her before?

>>16941531
I don't think you should be fucking your tv.

>>16941488
Anyone care to give some advice? It's become an annoyance and I can't depend on my own judgement right now, i'm afraid I'll choose to meet uo with her to see how she's doing when I probably shouldn't.

Ya, I would. To save your own sanity. I know the feeling, dated a suicidal girl in highschool, all 4 years. Been with my current girlfriend for 5 years now, but it took awhile for me to not worry about her because of her state of mind.
I would tell your current girlfriend that you plan on talking to ex to clear somebody the air, just to be safe. Woman are fucking OK INSANE when their emotions are in jeopardy. And if she freaks out, the bitch doesn't really love you or understand what your going through

>>16941528
Jesus Christ, typing out long post on mobile is cancer

>>16941452
>Is touching your arm when she laughs flirting?

There are probably some cultural differences when it comes to this but where I live touch is something very intimate and generally only shared by couples and close relatives. So I would say that she was showing some clear signs of affection towards you.

>>16941526
Idk we have these moments where it's just us two and we're just giggling at dumb shit and having a good time and I feel something idk if it's just in my head

>>16941542
>My friend got upset because my other friend would flirt with me and it bothered my buddy that's in love with her. Is touching your arm when she laughs flirting?
>Idk we have these moments where it's just us two and we're just giggling at dumb shit and having a good time and I feel something idk if it's just in my head

The fact that you're saying that he's in love with her makes it sound like some sort of childish teenage love triangle.
You'r friend is not in love with her, he has simply developed a crush towards her and finds her very attractive because of this.
To actually be in love with someone you'd need to really know them on a lot more intimate level.

But do understand that stuff like this can break even the strongest friendships, if you start dating the girl your friend might turn very bitter towards you for stealing his girl even if he had no chances with her to begin with. It's probably best to have some man to man talk with him before proceeding further with her if you are interested in her and value your friendship.

>>16941412
Just put it in your car.

>>16941412
Do you have any friends or family nearby?

Drive it up to them early morn. Bonus points if it's someone you don't really like

>>16941432
Will he be ok in there? I'd have to sneak him in there now because they'll see me in the morning.

>>16941371
>but in reallife we just cant talk to each other in the same way
why not?try to figure what's not going well in your conversations and fix it.
>i know she likes me
then you should be more confident and make a move. if you're hesitant the girl will probably lose interest soon.

Become alpha

a lot of virgins around here would kill to be texting a girl daily

wtf do you mean "next date must take it to the next level" this is why you fail. go fap if you think your balls are going to assplode.

forget that friendzone shit. real relationships require friendship. if you can't be her friend, and you just want to use her, go get a hooker instead

This belongs in the homosexuals section or /soc/

Also sorry that you are a broken human.

>>16941357
>pegging
>homosexuality
Someone here is not understanding the terminology

>>16942064
you asked for advice on crossdressing faggot, not advice on anal sex

There's a lot of videos with Chinese audio and subtitles on the net. You might even find some with English audio.
A good source for such content is Tudou but YouTube might also work.

For content of varying nature news sites like Xinhua have bilingual articles.
If you're of the weebish inclination, there are sites like dm5 that might cater to your tastes.

With regards to dictionaries, MDBG might do the job.

For learning characters try spaced repetition software like Anki.

>>16941292
Look up for the book "Remembering the Hanzi" which introduces the "Heisig method" for learning how to remember complex characters.
It's a great and easy way to memorize how to identify and remember complex Chinese and Japanese characters very quickly.

Trying to memorize the characters through repetition just doesn't work for most of us so the method really helps.
However do understand that learning how to identify and remember character doesn't that you'll learn to read it it just means that you'll at least have a hell of a lot easier time assigning meanings to the characters and learning the actual language when you already know most of the characters.

You can probably download the book off somewhere for free, but it's not all that expensive either.
Anki is a great flash card software to be used with the method
use pen and paper so you'll learn how to write the characters as well.

>>16941292
I don't know. I learned a lot of Spanish in Duolingo but as far as I am concerned Chinese is not available in Duolingo.

Why do you feel the need to sleep so much?

why are people who post here so stupid?

>>16941293
You want the truth? Life sucks and it's legitimately not going to get better for me until about September. I don't want to kill myself, I just don't want to be active where I don't have to be. Just doing work and school and sleeping outside of those would be fine.

>>16941294
Most of us are desperate for a relief to our suffering.

>>16941281
Don't be a car salesman. Most of your pay is commission based and it's pretty cut-throat. Work isn't meant to be fun or liked. Take the stable job that pays well and is relaxing and easy as hell

>>16941281
>Commission only

Noooooooooooooo. Unless you are really confident in selling to people and can handle potentially swindling people(even the most honest car salesman is still trying to fuck you a bit), you'll hate it AND you won't make any money.

Take the cubicle job.

>>16941281
The cubicle job will destroy your soul. You'll have some officious twat breathing down your neck all the time, timing how long it takes you to go to the toilet, and all sorts of other stupid shit. It'll be an intense psychological sweatshop. For the sake of your sanity, do not do this. Don't even consider it.

If selling cars isn't something you can do then turn them both down.

>>16941253
No, just don't be obsessed/a dork and have other hobbies. Also be hygenic. I'm a "normie" by 4chan standards and I don't have a problem admitting to liking either of those. They're just things I might pursue in my free time

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>>16941253
But by asking this question you have demonstrated that you are not secure and confident in it.

It's only cringy if you're up in people's faces about liking it, if you dress in anime/vidya clothes, play your portables in public, etc. In short, keep it to yourself, unless you're with other people who also like it. At a convention, you'd be more out of place if you didn't, for example.

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Date other chicks, treat them like sex objects.

Does wonders for ye olde self-esteem....

>>16941257
i try but whenever im interested with someone new i become *too* attached and scare them off

If you really think you're about to hurt someone, including yourself, then you need to go to the emergency room and tell them exactly what you told us.

Assuming it's not quite THAT urgent, then my first advice is to avoid visiting your ex-girlfriend. Right now, you can't handle it. I don't think she'd be able to handle it either, if she knew.

My second advice is to start getting rid of mementos, physical and digital. Ordinarily I tell people to take mementos they can't bear to part with, put them in a box, and put the box somewhere safe but out of sight. But to be perfectly frank, you sound like you need something more radical. Get rid of EVERYTHING, no matter how much it hurts. Give back things you borrowed, donate what can be salvaged, and throw the rest away. Delete any and all digital files -yes, even those- and sledgehammer the drives if you think you might undelete things. Do this with mementos all of your previous exes as well.

The reason for this is simple: you hurt because you're obsessing. You need to make your headspace and environment into a place where it is possible to think about things that are not your ex.

Once you've done this, my third piece of advice is to flood your brain with new information. Everyone has a backlog of things they thought would be neat to do, but never got around to learning how. It is time to take something off of that list. I do not recommend using artistic pursuits for this purpose -they backfire way too easily- but anything else will do.

And lastly, once you've started this new interest, seek professional help. Order matters: right now you sound like you really could hurt someone, and that has consequences. My advice is not a guaranteed cure, but it is my hope that it could at least pull you back from the brink. If that doesn't work, then you should see someone anyway, tell them what you told us, and brace for impact. I am sorry.

But one way or another, you DO need help.

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>>16941222
Bump,
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Relax, mang....

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