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>you ask him to do something for you
>he does it
>but not the way you wanted, despite you not communicating that
>you yell at him
>wonder why he leaves
>conclude with saying you're hurt when you're the one who instigated all this

What the fuck is your question seriously? You're all over the place in this post OP, he said "ok i did crap" and you're saying "Thats all it was to him" well what the hell are you expecting him to say? I see him apologise for what he did and you say it's not enough, how high maintenance are you.

You also say you raise your voice to the point where he covers your mouth? How loud are you srsly? One of yous needs to tolerate more.

Yes, he did me a favour, but he also understood he messed it up. Im less raging about his messup then about him trying to mute me and the moment he fails he just runs off. I need advise about how to prevent this.
To me, freedom of speech is very dear. He totally ignored this, and he ignored it in past too. He did understand that it is dear to me to be allowed to say what i think and to feel the way I do, yet, if its uncomfortable to him, he prefers to mute me. What can I do?

>a bloo bloo bloo: The Post

I'm an empath with a great and very loving heart. I will love you until you turn on me. If you hurt me or reject me without explanation, if you take my body under false pretenses /- I will be the most sadistic bitch you'll ever know. I will hate you with all the love you turned black. YOU. You had to have done something cruel to these women to get them to turn on you. Because people with empathy and a desire to please the one they love can hate with the same strength if you stab them in their great hearts.

>>17118972
Nobody owes you anything in this world. Not your preacher, not your mother, not your child. No one. To expect kindness and heart is to expect nothing but failure in this world. But, if you go into the world, with a big heart and not expecting anything in return... You start to find those like you who also just want to care.

>>17118964
That there be an unhealthy relationship.

Only when I don't have to do anything.

>>17119040
Indeed unhealthy but fortunately not at all times.

I believe that there is a communication problem between us. It's partially my fault, unfortunately I don't think my partner has an understand that she also is part of the problem. When try to communicate this, hell breaks lose.

Struggling to get this across.

>>17118955
Fucked-up guy here (not autism, mystery brain dysfunction diagnosed as 6+ different psychatric disorders). I really do understand.
Some of my best friends (some of my only friends) growing up were autistic. Always felt like I could communicate better with you guys than with "normal" people, never noticed anything wrong (only learned those guys were autistic from teachers, parents, etc). I just thought they were weird. And I was weird too.

So you don't have to be alone, you can find friends who you can understand and connect with. Rare, but great when it happens.

Though yeah, you'll probably never really "fit in", especially if you're high-functioning and move into career paths full of people you can't connect with at all. For example, I decided to go into medicine, and everyone else in the field seems to be extremely normal, happy, and well-adjusted, with great social skills. Making friends is hopeless and I gave up long ago, I can barely hold a conversation with my fellow students. So I stay silent and keep to myself. It's lonely as fuck but I don't have much of a choice.

Trying to act normal and fit in isn't worth it, imho. First of all because it simply doesn't work, no matter how hard you try (and i've tried very fucking hard). And second, because it puts unreasonable stress on you to keep up the act, and that stress is awful for your mental and physical health in the long term.

Thankfully we at least have 4chan to fulfill a little bit of our need for social interaction. Sharing feels takes the edge off the loneliness.

>>17119026
I've made friends in the past, people who I've trusted, and people who left in the end.
I'm really scared of being alone and losing all of who I love.
Most of all, I don't know if they even care, or if they miss me.

I have one person tho. My best friend of the past 5 years, I'm not sure if one person is enough, but he's all I have.

>>17118955
I MADE THIS WALLPAPER!!!!!

>>17118899
swastika

fractals

Put splotches everywhere on the pants now

>>17118860
"you suck dick too" wouldn't be solicitation.
"for extra" implies money is involved.

You'll be fine, but you're an idiot. How you made it this far in life is a mystery.

>>17118887
I sucked dick and solicited prostitutes to get this far.

>>17118887
On a serious note, I'm pretty sure (not a lawyer so don't lay it out on me if I'm wrong) if "implication" we're chargeable we would all be fucked in any sort of scenario ever. I could have been implying for extra gas in her car, hell I could of been implying for extra guys to come with me!

congrats, bro. there's a decent chance she's into you.

>>17118814
:^)

She's probably into you. There is a chance it's a misunderstanding, but I doubt it.

This actually reminds me of a silly story. Last semester I was enrolled in the honours thesis research project for my wacko interdisciplinary programme. The prof was always weirdly doe eyed with me, floaty, and both stand-offish and coming back to me, repeatedly, to talk. I just figured she was weird. At the end of the semester I was helping to put away some tech shit, like mics and projectors, we used to deliver our theses. She and I were walking back to the lecture hall, and she reached out and half-grasped my hand before recoiling. She hasn't said a word to me since, but she gave me a 90 on the thesis kek

>>17118755
4chan might not be the best place to ask. I've been to /biz/ who will call CS an oversaturated meme degree, and /r9k/ and /b/ who worships the ground CS walks on.

I think the best thing to do would be to research the job situation in areas you'd like to live and see how much is there.

>>17118755
What is your other alternative?

>>17118818

Mechanical Engineering

Final bump

>>17118697
Yep she's done with you... for now at least. Imagine if a girl told you that she fucked your bro and that she loved him at one point. You don't care? OK. If you do care, then she probably feels 10x worse because that's how women are.

Don't bring it up again unless you can unfuck that girl. Which you can't. Oh and for future reference, don't disclose meaningless information like taht ever again. Honestly, what were you hoping to achieve by telling her that?

Oh by the way I fucked your friend and used to like her in the past.

How does that help your relationship? It doesn't you fucked yourself so just move on for now and maybe down the road something will happen.

>>17118697
Its cool guy!

Genetics and testosterone. Lifting helps but you need a decent diet and sleep too.

>>17118594
Does your father have cheft hair? If so jerk off as many times as you can and you'll get some hair in the summer

>>17118616
If jerking off is all I needed my chest would be the Amazon Jungle right now

Just be confident, man.

And take solace in the fact that 50% of drivers are even worse than you. Old people, people with bad eyesight, people who multitask terribly, etc...

>>17118496
True, I'm probably over thinking this, my only other thing would be the highway which I only did once but thankfully I don't see a scenario in which I would have to, only rode it once with my driving instructor

Fuck yeah, I've been waiting for a thread like this since forever. I'm a driving instructor who's had experience working with licensed drivers who need that confidence boost to get back out there again.

Have confidence in the fact that at one point in your life you were able to pass that driving test which may have been quite daunting at the time.

First of all, the fact that you have the inclination to drive again is a great sign. You have acknowledged you have an issue and are actively taking steps to address it.

You honestly seem to be on track with it by slowly immersing yourself into quiet conditions and focusing on the basics. Eventually you will have built up your skills considerably so that you will be able to depend on your ability to control the car, and respond to changing traffic conditions accordingly.

Trust in your ability to drive the car well, so that once you're in a heavy traffic environment you will be able to handle the pressures of driving amongst other road users.

Keep slowly building up the intensity in terms of traffic and reflect on what you're doing well, and what you can improve on. Eventually this will be second nature for you to handle the rigours of heavy traffic and you will take pride in your ability to drive well in all conditions.

I'd also recommend working with a friend or family member who's an experienced driver and getting yourself into difficult situations where they can provide guidance if needed. That way you can increase the tempo of your driving. Also, adopt an assertive mentality on the roads where you embody confidence and knowing your rights, and also responsibilities on the road. Acting beforehand instead of reacting to your environment too.

What bothers you most about traffic?

Dont give them sex and they will ignore you

>>17118472
You can't get rid of us. We are the monster you created. If you women were worth more than the gaping hole between your legs, maybe just maybe us guys might be interested in more than just sex.

I could care less about being called a fuckboy. I play the game to win, not lose. Ive tried being a good guy and treating women like human beings. It has a 10% chance of working and a 90% chance of blowing up in my face.

If you are a girl of some value, fix the women around you and the guys you attract. Then you might find a non-fuckboy to be happy with.

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fuckboys are easy to spot, just don't gravitate towards them

>>17118841

Fuck - title should read 'Want to leave the UK....'

irc you either have to marry a canadian woman or have some sort of skill they are in short supply of to immigrate to canada.

>>17118478
I currently have a psychology degree and am in the process of getting a Master's, so I think I could get to Canada on a PhD scholarship at least, although that would only be useful for a career in academia and I don't really want that.

We get him on his bed, hes happily looking around and eating his ice cubes. He loved icecubes and prawns. Frozen prawns were his absolute favourite. We go over him looking for a tick which we didnt find, so we watch him and my mother takes him to the vet the next morning which is my birthday.
After waiting 6 hours for a call the vet finally calls and tells us there is something wrong with his spine, a disk has slipped out of place and he cant walk. He feels no pain, he can feel his feet being touched he just cant move them. There 2 options, the first is paying 7k+ on a operation where the chances are roughly 50/50 of him recovering. The second is putting him on medication which would hopefully help get him back on his feet. Our family isnt wealthy and we couldnt afford the 7k for an operation so mum opts for the meds. We go get him, put him on his bed and his breathing is a little labored which the vet said can be a side affect to the medication. He seems happy otherwise, we give him his ice cubes and some love.
We wake up the next morning and he's passed on. I feel like he held on until my birthday had passed.
I'm writing this so every animal owner doesnt take their pets for granted. It only took 2 days for my friend to be here, then not. It still feels surreal that he's gone, every time I come home I except to see him through the screen door waiting for me. How do I deal with this? I keep crying.
Please, go hug your pets. I wish I could.

>>17118434

Sleep tight, pupper.

You gave him a good life OP. Take solace in that.

>>17118360
Attitude! Try to focus on positive things about yourself and not try to second-guess what anyone else might be thinking or feeling about you. Remind yourself every day about something good that you are capable of and maybe even use that to your advantage i.e. what social aspects exist or can be explored! GL out there!

You earn confidence when you find out what you're capable of.

>>17118360
are you a guy? This is important