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I'm sorry, but did you just date a girl for two years because she was attractive?

>>17118065
be thankful you didnt have a kid with her i guess

>>17118068
attractive and good personality too

read a book

>>17118040
Play an instrument, ideally a phallic one requiring similar hand movements to masturbation

>>17118048
Are you suggestive preventive masturbation?

What if I get myself a whore instead?

As someone who got a near perfect Sat score who skipped the vast majority of high school, it's fucking easy. You get something like 600 points for just filling out your name right. The questions aren't designed to mislead you but they are very particular in what they seek. It's not hard, you have nothing to worry about.

My advice is "do your best to not fall asleep" because that test is so easy it puts people to sleep.

I wasn't even smart or good at test taking. Easy easy test.

how did you do?

Yeah I get it all the time. I reckon it's down to there not being an emotional connection u get me?

>>17117979
How about you jerk off before doing the stupid things. Fucking spastic.

>>17118045
Hahahaha

I get you, bro. Loud and clear.

>>17117880
U can by straight pills on ebay

>>17117880
Stop sucking dicks?!

>>17117880
yeah, nah, you're fucked.

Then something unfortunate happened: one of my former teachers died. It was a rough day, I went to his funeral. She was there as well for a really short time, we didn't talk much to each other. Apparently I was looking gloomy enough and some people took notice. Going back home I thought that she really didn't give much of a shit so I just gave it up like I wouldn't bother talking to her much anymore.

As soon as I get home, I'm still thinking about this whole thing, I'm pretty unstable. And she decides to text me. She tells me "hey dude, you looked pretty sad today, cheer up" "if you need someone to talk to, just bring it here, I'm your friend after all". And what do I do? I tell her about all of my current problems. I unload a shitton of bricks on her without even thinking. She seemed to handle it ok. After ignoring her, after treating her the way I did I just whined like a bitch about my personal problems. We don't know each other enough and I told her more than my family and friends basically.

And now I'm sitting here thinking, have I screwed up badly? She is more of a stranger to me than many people, yet she gladly offered to listen to me and my troubles. Instead of being thankful enough I just decide to dump it all on her. I ignored her, I didn't help when she was in trouble at school and I barely know a thing about her because even though she does look troubled at times she doesn't seem to bother anyone about it. I feel truly like a piece of shit. I know this question is going to sound weird, but what can I do for her at this point? How do I explain something like the amount of time I spent giving her the cold shoulder?

Didn't do anything wrong. With circumstances as they were throughout you two knowing eachother, I'd say things are neutral at worst, looking on decent. Don't be so hard on yourself

>>17117943
It's just that when I look back at that time I focused my attention on other people without realizing that she would most definitely benefit from me being there for her. I tossed her aside and if the roles were switched I don't know if I could handle it the same way as she does.

So where we stand right now, though we don't talk to each other a lot, I told her that I'd be there for her as well. These things, her trying to contact me and just out of the blue being the only person in that funeral who talked to me after that just made me think things through.

>>17117834
Looks like toe nail fungus at a glance, OP! You can get something over the counter for that or see a podiatrist if you really are concerned...

>>17117834
Trim it, file it, buff it, repeat. Guaranteed success, nigger get your shit together its like posting edited internet porn

>you can do it~

>>17118222
Not even necessary. Regular doc will do.
>>17117834
There are pills that your doc can give you. Took them for about half a year until it was back to normal.
>>17118320
Don't do this, I started bleeding from my nails when I cut too deep.

You sound like you have a similar personality to me. I have learnt to overcome most of it but sometimes that feeling comes back.
How old are you and what kind of past life moments can you link to feeling this way now?

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>>17117831
Not OP, but I'm in similar situation. How did you learn to overcome it?

>>17117849
>>17117811
Avie sure sucks. It really does.
How to beat it? You have to take the plunge and embrace criticism, negativity, disappointment, and discomfort. Grab yourself by the balls and go do whatever you are uneasy about doing! Manifest your thoughts into actions, or else stay emotionally comatose because you can't challenge your patterning.

Step it up!!

also the boss takes half our tips at the end of each day; and the kitchen doesn't get any at all

(we make a living wage in australia, so the tips are really an extra, but it's extraordinarily dishonest and by no means the norm)

Keep working there until you find another job. Can you pass a drug test? Great go work for a bank as a teller. Drivers license? Go do deliveries. Either that or work in a warehouse. Also go to college. All starter jobs are shit.

>>17117998
I just inb4'd that man

you can't just quit a unfair job in the real world, regardless of what google of your dad tells you

unemployment is high, the unions are bloated and useless, labor law is clear but it's not enforced, and I rely on the income

there simply are no jobs, I'm lucky to have one to begin with

I feel like I know this guy

>>17117734
What are his initials?

Also, if you really want to help him, call him out on his shit. You said he was pretty smart and often gives insight, so just be honest with him.

This person was me. I never accepted myself for who I am. I never accepted the fact that what I am is OK. I also never realized that people knew I was lying so I kept going. It wasn't until I reflected on it one day that I realized something was wrong with me. I didn't lie to hurt anyone. I only lied about little shit to make me seem more eventful and cool because I wanted attention and approval. Call him out on it or understand that his intentions arent malicious and take everything he says with a grain of salt.

Other family? If you live in my town you can stay temporarily

>>17117669
Nah i have no contact with them over a huge fight a few years ago

>>17117672
So you got kicked out of your home and had fights with extender family...why?

Looks like you might have to try a shelter

Nothing. That "red thing" you see is the remnant of the third eyelid humans used to have. It's inflamed a little, take antihistamines and some rest.

>>17117654
>third eyelid
What!?

>>17117678
nicitating membrane.

>>17117611
Stop. Masturbating. Stop porn.

If you don't have a girlfriend to have sex with. Masturbate once a week. Watch porn only when masturbating. Stop choking your boner to death while masturbating.

I'm not kidding. Humans are not designed to have sex or be exposed to sexual acts more then this. Your sex addiction is messing with your body the same as every other drug.

>>17117618
I dont actually donit that often. I know guys who pass me up by alot so I dont understand it.

>>17117611
>I really need help because i have a very apathetic mindset where if theres nothing to keep me here
Also get a life. There are more nice things in this world then you may think.

[part 2] up until recently, she had instagated sex all the time, because I didn't want her thinking I'm only interested in her for that, so I thought she might have just been upset that I didn't try to Instigate it. So after a week of not doing it, I tried making a subtle move, nothing. few days later, made more of an attempt, still nothing. today I spent 14 hours with her hiking, horseback riding, laser tag, bought her lunch and made her dinner, and the whole day I was just being a little frisky and playful, then after dinner I really tried making a move and she said "you're really hyper tonight aren't you?" I said ya, which was followed by the "I'm tired" line, and we "didn't have enough time" line cause she had to be up at 8am and it was getting late (keep in mind we had over an hour when she first came over)

when I was driving her home, she asked me if it bothered me if we don't have sex and I said it did, which was followed by a load of excuses like "oh I don't like doing it after work cause I'm tired" and "I don't like to after exercise cause I'm sweaty" and "we need like an hour" which is bullshit for two reasons, 1 being I don't always last that long and I even told her I only did that for her, and if it's too much I can cut back.
and 2, I made a move on her when we had the whole house to ourselves for 3 hours and she still said no.

now she's going to go on her period very soon, then I will be in Cuba for a week ( last time we did actually have sex she said we should use the entire box before I go, more dangling the sex carrot in front of me) so now we will have gone well over a month without sex 5 months into our relationship, so who the fuck knows what it's gonna be like 5 years from now.

I'm just really pissed off now because I feel like she lied to me with the whole innocent Christian girl bullshit, I feel like she either lied to me about liking sex, or I'm just not doing anything for her in bed, which I find hard to believe because nearly everything I've read women like about sex I have. 6.1" long, Girth is well above average, and it has a slight upwards curve and I can last a really long time when I want to. I've also done my research on what girls like and I've literally tried almost everything I can with her from positions to the whole phycology of it all. I've done hours and hours of research, I am very athletic and i have really good stamina, so that's not even an issue for me. I have blond hair, blue eyed and I get compliments on my looks often, so I can't imagine that's the issue especially because her exes all looked like ass.
so now I'm thinking it's either because she's somehow broken and doesn't enjoy sex at all, because her ex's did things with her that I cant, maybe I'm hurting her.
the only reason I can think of that would be reasonable is because she put on a little weight lately. not that much, and she isn't showing much of an effort to slow down eating or anything.

now I talked with a friend, browsed a bunch of forums and everyone/everywhere says if it's not working sexually just end it now because it only goes downhill.
I really don't want to because I know I will never find another girl as amazing as her, and it's so shitty that I feel like this because it's such a stupid thing to end a relationship over especially if everything else works so well between us.

so are things really just going to go downhill here or is there any chance at all that we can somehow still manage to make things work?

TLDR:
>date girl, think I'm dating an innocent girl
>turns out she's a turboslut
>is now somehow not interested in sex despite months of effort and her history.

should I break up or at least try to make things work?

It's pretty damn gay, son.

There is nothing wrong with it, there is no inherent homosexuality attached to honestly and openness, unlike >>17117629 alleges.

The question is, how you will mix desire into that openness. If you show total desire to everyone, that just translates as thirst. If you show zero desire to everyone, then people will assume you are not interested in any romantic relationships.

>>17117566
my bf is like this and it makes me feel very comfortable and secure in our relationship. being able to tell each other what's on our minds is key to any close relationship.