Sup /Adv/, recently I have been thinking of getting back into touch with my ex girlfriend, yeah, I know what you're probably thinking but wait. A bit of background first, we had an extremely healthy relationship for about 7-8 months, we were really close and we would talk to each other about our issues (we both have a history of mental health problems) But when I began university I simply didn't have the time or energy to maintain the relationship, so we came to a mutual agreement to end it. I instantly regretted this decision, and still do to this day, I must make it clear that there is no bad blood between us however.
Fast forward 5 months, and I have been talking to her again after a four month hiatus, we get on fine, as if nothing had ever happened. But what do I do to seal the deal and get her back for good /adv/, I really want it to work out, she is all I think about
Thanks for reading
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>>17144358
Here's what you do... Move the fuck on, she isn't the same person that you broke the relationship off with, she is different, you are different. You choose school over her and that's not necessarily good, but not bad either. If you do get back shit will go south. If I were you I would maintain the mutual friendship, and find other girls. If you did regret it you would have made it clear already, but it's been half a year.
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>>17144393
We still get on as before though, same dynamic and all, is that a good sign or?
Bit of added context: The reason I haven't contacted her for so long was that she told me that we should have some time apart after we broke up, as in her experience, if contact is maintained, then it becomes complicated and jealousy brews
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>>17144403
ignore that guy, a person doesn't change in a single year. she may very well have the same feelings for you again and it doesn't hurt to try again if everything was fine and healthy before then. you had to end the relationship for the sake of both your sanity due to the amount of stress you had on your end. that's totally understandable and i'd assume your ex would have understood that and you guys have ended things on good terms.
but don't expect her to not have fucked/dated some other guys in between the period where you guys weren't together. she might even be seeing someone right now. if you're ready to hear and deal with that, then proceed. ask her if she wants to try again.
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I'm really struggling to meet and interact with new people. Whenever I'm around people I don't know I just feel like the whole room is judging me and deem me as not good enough for them. It'll cause me to go all quiet and be just completely unable to converse or interact with them. I can't approach/say hi to new people for similar reasons. The only time I feel comfortable around people I've just met is if when it's very very clear they have some form of interest in me.
This is just making it impossible for me to enjoy life. It's causing me to live in a rut because I'm too scared to put myself out there. I've gotten lots of advice on this, "be more confident", "just charge in head first and don't think", "If you screw up you'll never see them again", but no matter how hard I try to apply the advice into my life I can't help but become consumed by my fear and anxieties.
I'm honestly getting to the point where I feel straight up hopelessness. I want to change, but I can't seem to pull off whatever fucking mental gymnastics I need to do in order to do so.
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Fuck people.
People suck.
Literally nobody is judging you, they just suck in general.
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>>17144378
I'm just so fucking miserable with the way everything is though.
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>>17144353
In case you didn't know, this is considered pathological (SAD/AvPD).
Psychiatrists and therapists help with it (it's a big part of their job, this is a common problem due to human evolutionary background and social dynamics).
If the drugs don't work and the therapy doesn't help, come back here and we'll talk about the extreme and experimental solutions (i'm in that situation myself).
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Im 19, is it too late to learn any sports? Should I even bother?
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The fuck op? 19 and you are asking if it's to late?? Nothing is to late until you drop dead remember that, just do it! ;) what do you have to lose?
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>>17144312
golf, running, and chess are sports
honest
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>>17144312
Try doing soccer, even if you suck you'll be running around and you might even get some boys attention
>OP is a fag
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What's the fastest and subtle way to find out if a girl as a boyfriend or not?
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Casually ask her a question about her boyfriend or girlfriend.
That way she will either answer (in which case she won't think much of it and will just assume she or he told you about her bf/gf before) or if she doesn't have one she will be "oh I don't have a boyfriend" - which again is less awkward than straight up asking if she/he is single.
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Just ask her if she's single, fuckfart.
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>>17144529
This. No need to be subtle about this one.
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PC buzzing solving options 2016-05-14 23:22:41 Post No.17144274
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PC buzzing solving options
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Hi /adv/,
So i have this problem:
I want to record audio on my pc via my headset(jack) but i have a buzz through when recording as well via the "Listen to this device" function in the recording-tab of the sound options. I have tried using different Microphones, headsets and headphones, but none of them seem to remove the buzz. I also used a ADC converter, but that didnt solve it either. After doing research on the internet i found that it might be static coming from the electricity. I then decided to look to see if the static would be gone if i'd use a powerplug that did have ground. This fixed the issue of having static, but brought up a different problem: Where do I place my pc that I dont have static, but viable internet. The pc is currently on my bedroom (static + good internet) and i can place in the garret (top floor) but (no static + bad internet). My father is afraid for electricityleakage which causes (i think) the Ground Fault to pop out frequently. My question is: How can i record my audio without static, whilst having good internet. I know that I can pull a cable to the heater, but that is too dangerous for me (and my father would kill me), nor do i want to buy a wireless microphone. Im from Holland, if it might help, in a house from around 1990.
Any /adv/ice?
(Is this the right board/site to ask this?)
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>>17144274
Before you did any of this, did you have access to or around a different computer where you might be able to rule out it was a computer issue; did you try doing everything on a separate computer?
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>>17144282
Yes, i had a laptop with the same problem
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Is everything hooked to a solo wall power source or extended plugin
When people say you should spend 30% of your income on rent what do they mean? 30% of it before or after taxes? Do I subtract my car insurance and phone bill and shit like that too?
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>>17144266
It means 30% of your income, silly
I would imagine they mean gross income because that's what all other financial applications and formulas I've seen have been based on.
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it means if you take home 3k a month you should only spend 1k maximum on housing to be able to afford your other bills and a comfortable lifestyle.
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>>17144291
so my paycheck each month is 4k. i spend ~500 on car payment, insurance, and phone bill. is my take home pay 4k or 3.5k?
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Thursday night I pulled an all nighter and took 120 mg of Adderall over the course of 12 hours. I fell asleep yesterday at about 5 PM, and now (almost 4 PM Saturday) I feel really light headed and tired. Is this part of the crash still or did I permanently fuck up my brain?
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>>17144215
you know how to read? then go and fucking read up on how amphetamine works.
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>>17144222
I never implied I knew how to read, so don't make assumptions about me ever again!
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>>17144215
Sorry, you have about one week to live.
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Spoiled Teen/Adult Siblings 2016-05-14 22:47:11 Post No.17144187
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How do you guys deal with this? I have siblings who are 15(sister) and 17(brother) and they are some of the most entitled people I know. I'm 21 and graduating from college next month with a solid degree and a job. I plan to move out soon after graduating, but in the meantime I'm going crazy.
My siblings don't cook, clean (their rooms, bathrooms, anything), do good in school, or even have much going on. Sister just watches Netflix and reads YA and brother just plays ps4 until like 3am every night. I try to do my part and clean up, but when you have an additional 2 other people who eat a lot and don't want to help, it's a big job.
I love my parents, but they can be rather spineless when it comes to this and so this behavior has only gotten worse. They also dislike when I try to take authority so I just clean and help in the background while sticking to my business.
Has anyone ever gone through this before? What worked for you?
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>>17144187
Bumpo
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>>17144373
fuck them, if your parents are too spineless to raise their kids then leave them alone to suffer once you're out of there.
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>>17144187
You live with teenagers, congratulations. Unless these are really bad examples, you've got very little to complain about.
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How stupid do you think it is that someone is willingfully trying to fall in love for someone else?
I'm literally trying to force myself into falling in love for someone.
And it's not a genertic someone, I actually have a clear girl in mind, and am actively trying to feel (romantic) love for that person.
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>>17144172
>willingfully trying to fall in love
>trying to
>willingfully
So you mean somebody can be forced to fall in love with someone? :-D
This sounds like 4chan's level of stupid. Does the target of your "soon to love" even know this? And HOW ARE YOU DOING THIS?
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>>17144249
>Does the target of your "soon to love" even know this?
No, but she has an explicit interest in me.
>HOW ARE YOU DOING THIS?
Back in higschool I had a crush for her, it was one of those really strong crushes. I'm not sure if you can call it love. But by then we never talked to each other.
We ended up following the same paths in life (careers) and now we talk a lot to each other.
She confessed to me. Neither of us ever had a boy/girlfriend in the past, and are pretty lovesick.
I told her to give me some time, and it's been already 2 months or so, we barely talked to each other ever since.
She is really perfect. Virgin, kind, altruistic and sweet. I can't think of a logical reason not to go with her, but I feel like I can't move foward.
As a disclaimer, I don't ask you to believe what I'm typing, because it's really unbelievable, but I'll ask you to assume that I'm telling you the truth, or at least pretend so. Because I am.
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Are you currently in a relationship with her? I'm a little confused by your phrasing.
I'm four months into a relationship and my boyfriend likes to bring up marriage and kids and how beautiful our half asian half white kids will be, who's gonna teach them how to ride a bike, etc. I don't mind since I really like this guy, but he's only young and 19. Is there any red flags or is there anything I should look out/know or? It's a little weird, yeah, but I think it's cute.
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As long as he rocks your world it's all fine.
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>>17144159
It fine as long as it is just talk, I enjoy talking about this with girls before it is fun to imagine but in reality I am thinking 10 years from now.
If he is pressing you for early marriage and kids at a young age because of cultural reason than it may be a problem.
But I would put it down to being cute and shows that he really likes you.
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>>17144159
LOL is he the white one in the relationship?
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What the fuck do I tell a woman who keeps telling me she looks hideous in response to her getting an allergic reaction on her face. She is horribly self conscious.
I just want to cheer her up a bit. Don't want her to take it the wrong way that I'm into her.
Also one of my male friends busted open my brow last night, had to get stitches. He feels absolutely fucking awful and guilty about it even though I've said multiple times that it's fine, how do I make him not feel so guilty?
Please give me advice on how to communicate with people.
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Why do you hang out with such messed up people?
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>>17144128
He posts anime, these are his people
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>>17144133
Touche
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What Do I Do When I Realize A Friend is Dangerous 2016-05-14 22:12:11 Post No.17144072
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Hey adv, a few days ago due to a misunderstanding a fried (not really a close one anymore, but I tried to keep her in my circle since she's had some pretty smart and cool moments) blew the fuck up and basically threatened to create a twitter movement against me. I had to talk her down, mostly by beating up on myself a lot since she's a pretty big activist on campus.
Keep in mind this is not a political thing: our politics are pretty similar. That's not the issue here.
The issue here is that I know someone who's essentially manic-depressive, doesn't know it, and as I realized in one of those "How Could I Have Been So Blind" moments, takes sociopathic pleasure in making others feel bad and manipulating them into feeling bad about themselves.
I've slowly been ghosting her (thankfully she doesn't check her social media much, and when she does its to share articles), and I think I'm free, but I won't know for sure if I'm safe until the term ends in a few weeks. Have I been doing things right so far, adv? Is there anything else I can do to make sure this former "friend" isn't going to snap on me again?
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To clarify, I don't think she COULD actually launch a Twitter campaign to ruin my life. I think she's torpedoed her reputation with a large number of people. But I'm paranoid it COULD happen.
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So it's true what they say about you college sjws, you really do eat eachother alive in boredom
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>>17144072
>threatened to create a twitter movement against me
If anybody told me this I think I would run away laughing my ass off.
>Twitter campaign to ruin my life.
Yea mate, this can TOTALLY RUIN YOUR political career. Not life.
>I'm paranoid
I would say a bit naive.
>manic-depressive, sociopathic pleasure, making others feel bad and manipulating
Cool. And?
>Have I been doing things right so far, adv?
Nobody cares. You are over thinking things. Go read a book or something.
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Hey anons, I need to know how to talk to people calm and normally.
>Be me
>Me mum made the mistake in making me try to get a loan since money is needed around the house.
>Everything was going smoothly in sign I mg things till it was required to talk to someone on the phone about getting a loan.
>Bankers and loaners scare the crap out of me so I had to do my best and answer normally. Doing semi-ok, then this construction working negro comes in yelling like Samuel Jackson in a movie to say hello to the office people, and I had to go outside to answer the questions while traffic is loud.
>5 minutes later comes back inside after loud speaking construction worker leaves and get done with things
>Office ladies then tell me I was denied the loan since I mistakingly answer that I was bakrupt all because I couldn't hear them.
Is there a type of therapist or something to help a diagnosed-autist who always kept silent to himself in improving his social skills and to leave shy-fuckwad status behind?
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So let me get this straight. You want to take a loan for your mum? Do you even have a job?
Also your English is top notch. I could decrypt only something.
Advice for you: get your English skill together, maybe learn how to talk with somebody over phone and maybe later even in person and DON'T take LOANS on YOUR HEAD EVEN FOR FAMILY. If somebody will end up as a homeless, let it be your mum, not you. Jezus.
>diagnosed-autist
If you were really diagnosed, the same person who made the diagnoses should be able to point you for help.
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>>17144096
Nah nah nah. A loan of my own.(Probably should have put context)
She basically tried to help me,get my own loan from the bank because money is tight since the dad's job doesn't make,enough money and my ssi comes in once a month.
I didn't want a loan and was ok with being broke for now. But with how much of a fit she gets when someone says no to her and how thick of a skull she has, I went with her.
Finding a job in El Paso Tx is pretty damn hard honestly, so no job. Progress looking for one is still depressing.
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>>17144121
And I tend to rush things, so typing from the phone makes me clueless about the auto correct fixing my words even though I am using normal words like "inside" and such.
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My grades are shit and I feel like shit, Life just seems like a downwards spiral. I absolutely hate everyone around me and I don't see how this life thing is going to work out.
I'm not going to kill myself, its just that the rules of life suck.
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>it's not me, it's everything else that sucks
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by any chance is your name Not Important?
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>>17143965
I know its me
>>17143979
I don't see why it would be
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was looking up quotes, and thought this one made GREAT advice.
share little bits of advice or quotes you've heard?
If you want to know how your girl will treat you after marriage, just listen to her talking to her little brother. - Sam Levenson
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What if she doesn't have a brother huh? What then, faggot? What use would your shit-tier quote have then, huh?
here, let me tell you a real god-tier quote:
"Fuck bitches, get money"
-Budha
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If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole
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>>17143960
Haha, I love this one. It was on one of my favorite shows.