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>>17147521
Squeeze some fresh lemon in ice water. And parsley helps too.

Brushing , flossing, tongue scraper and mouth wash TWICE A DAY, then gum after you eat.

Every 6 months per routine at a dentist

Unfortunately some people are genetically predisposed to stink.

Does your mouth get dry?

I take several medications and my mouth gets dry at times. I brush twice daily and brush my tongue with a tongue scraper, that seems to do the trick. I also make sure I drink plenty of water.

>>17147384
stop being a pussy dude
the world doesn't end when you are rejected. everyone goes through that, it's goddamn normal.

Can't do anything, can't do anything, can't do anything.

So annoying. Gee, what's the problem? Certainly it couldn't be the crap I'm constantly spewing, yet can't acknowledge. Absolutely neurotic. Yes, let's ignore issues, because that's what I see other people do, and that's what I've been taught to do.

Bullshit.

Just DO stuff, who cares? If you're afraid of something, make a plan. Forget other people. Other people are other people, they're irrelevant. You are you. Your plans of you should not include other people. Your plans of you should only include what is going to make you happy or less stressed.

>>17147384
quit hyperfocusing on yourself and focus on everybody (don't forget yourself)

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Dragons

>>17147268
Acid.

>>17147268
rare pepes

>>17147195
Kegels exercises. Google it
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It's hysterical aka psychosomatic.

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>>17147291
...unless she pinched her pudendal nerve(s).

Stop being a pussy

Go to James Hetfeeld's Pub in Grand Boulevard station in Paris. Have a drink or two and go!

>one single day without friends/family
>so lonely I'm crying

How are you still alive?

It has a lot to do with narcissism. The mother overbears but often expects love in return. >reddit's raisedbynarcissists subreddit could provide more info.

>>17147101
Made it difficult for me to bring women I was involved with around family. It caused some stress and hurt feelings. My brother didn't talk to my mom for a long time because she was trying to interfere with his marriage.

My mom being highly critical and demanding when I was a kid has caused more of an issue. When I'm tired or stressed I can be overly sensitive to criticism coming from someone I care about.

>>17147336
Thank you for sharing your experience. It helps.

>>17147062
Use flesh colored paint

Foundation is your friend. Get water resistant foundation so you don't sweat it off.

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>Not just wearing some classy gloves

>>17147020
depends entirely on how agressive the cancer is. Wether it will spread in the body or not.
If its true what you said about your mom then I guarantee you that things will become toxic rather soon.

Sorry for you

>>17147043

Is it wrong to sort of look forward to her passing away?

>>17147350
yes

You're still drunk dummy that's why hangover sessions are the best

>>17147019
But it's been seventeen hours.

>>17147008
its normal. sometimes it can take long than a day for the effects to fully ware off. im hungover due to drinking alot last night.

Ok first, how?

>>17147007
friction.

ok genius that i am i covered my tip in a zinc salve
left it on for a while, then washed it off.

now there's literally zinc UNDER the skin near the cut wound.
or it may have congealed in the wound or some shit i don't know.

infection incoming?

>>17146965

The latter part does sound like dissociation.

You can look up grounding techniques, sometimes people will recommend you hold something heavy to "ground" yourself. Sometimes people will recommend you repeat a mantra. I usually find having someone talk to me on the phone helps, I have a friend who loves to ask me questions and it forces me to be conscious about who/where I am.

>>17146985
Okay, thanks.

It was concerning. I feel super drained now. Maybe it was just anxiety combined with tiredness, but I'll certainly be aware of these feelings in the future.

Thanks, I was listening to music which kind of helped as I sang the lyrics. You sound lime you have a good friend, anon.

>>17146965
psych major here. yeah, sounds like textbook dissociation. there's the stress, which triggers a defense mechanism in you to withdraw hence the feeling of not being there. it's a form of detachment to cope with the problem. but that's just current theory on why. it does give some comfort in being easily understood.

if you're diagnosed then keep up your therapy. those take consistency before actually having any changes. ask your doc for something with less crappy sides than benzos.

as an armchair psychologist, face your problems in smaller doses. try a philosophical approach and understand that you do not own your girlfriend. human beings have free will and are subjects that cannot be reduced to objects or arbitrarily given meaning. and because a relationship requires two subjects in willful acceptance, then there is true value in a relationship. because both of you freely choose to be together, and the beauty is that in all of the choices, you are committed to each other. the possibility of infidelity gives value to the fact that you have stayed together, or even got together in the first place.

you do not own people. you share in their presence. you don't possess, you are together with. it's being with, not having.

Does she want to get married, or does she want to have a wedding? A simple civil ceremony costs little to nothing, doesn't involve large numbers of people or dancing, and is very quick. All of your concerns are dealt with, and she gets to be married. Is there any remaining problem?

i think getting married is awesome, but i agree that weddings are a waste of time and money. if i were to get married, i'd MUCH rather just like, go on vacation with my husband/wife to be and get married as privately as possible in a small setting.

it sucks though because if i were to do that, my mom, who means the world to me, would probably be heartbroken about it.

>>17146982
She wants a real wedding. I'd be cool with a civil ceremony and maybe a small get together with close family at a nice restaurant or venue. I'll need to talk to her about finding a middle ground. Is this becoming more common? I don't know of anyone else who's done this but I feel like it makes more sense. I have never enjoyed a regular wedding.

2/3

She has been in a relationship with someone for years. I make it my policy not to delve into more personal aspects of my friends' lives unless they want to initiate conversation. I do not know their state of affairs but for the past year they have seemed to be drifting apart. I've heard rumors thrown around that together form an image- something to the effect of them not being together anymore because the dude is a selfish manchild or something but she still lets him live in her house out of pity for his financial situation. I wouldn't discount such a scenario as it wouldn't be out of character for them. However, I do not know what is going on regarding this. I stick to my policy of not sticking my nose into peoples' personal problems without them wanting me to and I am not going to compromise my principles.

Over the past few months she and I have both been working out with a few friends in the park twice a week and carry on the dynamic I described earlier. It was nice harmless fun, a boost to the ego, etc. However, I have noticed a trend in the past month or two. The things that we usually do are more frequent, the jokes laced with innuendo are sounding a little more like hitting on each other, and other weird things that I can't remember happening before. When we go out with friends we tend to be closer and more touchy and our innuendos are more risque right in front of the groups faces sometimes. I notice eye contact stuff like stolen glances or whatever it's called and I have to stop myself from doing it too. I could swear this is not unusual for her but lately its like its taken up to 11 compared to a few months ago.

3/4 actually holy FUCK this is long


I kept trying to tell myself "nah man she's just like that with people she is really close to," but I find myself acting in a similar manner, something which is out of character for me. I'd know that things aren't weird 'cause when I jokingly reciprocate the more blatant actions she recoils giggling and we just laugh it off, but that's happening a little less each time. Every once in a while she will lean in to her friend and express preference for me regarding more intimate hypotheticals, while we are all there in a circle within earshot. I tried to think nothing of it because we have joked about things like that as a tag team referring to other people just to mess with them.

Then there are weird things once in a while where I'm just thinking "lol wtf are you even saying." An example was when she was meticulously packing a bowl while we all watched intently and I crack a joke by sensually whispering something like "yeah just pack it in there" as expected and we all chuckle, and then she states something to the effect of "somehow when Anon says things like that my vagina doesn't clench in discomfort."

4/4

I'm not so naive that I can't see what it looks like, but at the same time I know her well enough and I'm paranoid about damaging relationships with the people I know where I have to ask myself if all this is some kind of coping mechanism for her personal problems, or I'm reading to much into things, or some other shit like that. This wouldn't have even bothered me before if I didn't finally realize that yes, I am totally into her, and it took me this long to realize what I was subconsciously acting on. I'm also terrified that my interest is really just to use her as a crutch for my own problems or some stupid shit, 'cause deep inside I am a bitter, cynical, depressed fuck. My worst fear is that if we really are into each other and we do something, based on what I know about her and myself, it'll not work out and everything will be ruined.

I hate problems and love solutions and I do not like being unable to figure out the right solution to something so volatile and delicate.

>tl;dr long-time friend and I have always been flirty but now it's getting too flirty between us and I need to see where this is going, even if it causes irrevocable damage

I need the thoughts of people not involved with us in any way. Am I reading too much into things? Am I a retard for not having done something already? Am I just a retard altogether?

>>17146918
Does your brother have any skills/abilities that can be a hint to what interests him? Any hobbies that seem to make him happy?? Without somewhere to start, it's like opening a phone book and just calling a random number otherwise...

>>17146946
Nope, nothing at all. He's not stupid tho, he has good notes.
He likes playing Dark Souls and CoD, that makes him happy I guess.
Maybe a career that wouldn't strees him out? I'm oblivious and he doesn't even care.

Does someone has some sort of career tiers infographics?

There must be something he doesn't like at all.

Let's start with this.

You are too egocentric to stand seeing something that isn't about you.

Maybe also you envy these interactions or maybe you repress too much and think that the rest of the people should do the same.

What do you think?

>>17146928
>7
>>17146928

I think probably the second option. I do envy these people I guess but children really do bug me out.

What bugs me out more is seeing young people with children already. In my mind I think "WHAT THE FUCK WERE YOUE VEN THINKING!?" "Now you are 20 years old saddled by fucking crotch fruit. Good job idiot!"

Granted, I am 25 but seeing young mothers and shit really makes me upset because I can't understand how someone could be so retarded and have a kid at that age.

>>17146954
You may question their choices but your reaction is stupid.

I think that if you took care of yourself more you wouldn't be bothered by what others do. Your complaint seems a powerless cry. You can't fix their lives and that makes you frustrated. Maybe it is a reflection on what you are doing youself.