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>>17150164
always masturbate before doing anything important.

>>17150164
don't, it takes the edge of yes. But it'll give you more energy.

Don't masturbate
The 3 or 5 days before you meet her, you shouldn't fap. If you go out on weekends, don't masturbate for 2 days, depending what you. If you want to study fap a few hours before but don't fap while learning it's too late then
If you fap in the morning wait don't wait to long to get up.

>>17150138
Not everything in life is about money, if it's a good job you like just take it, maybe discuss the opportunity of a raise if you're really mental about money

>>17150138
Why not call and ask? Gather up a few intelligent questions to show that you're interested and ask those as well...it will show that you're actually interested, which might play in your favor. You'll also have more info to use in determining whether or not you want to entertain the interview in the first place! GL!

>>17150138
You can discuss salary if they make you a job offer, including schedule for raises -- get any promise in writing -- or any benefits that would make up for the lower salary.

You might also want to consider that if this an attractive but not a particularly demanding job, they may not feel the need to pay more to attract a qualified employee.

Did you have an employment contract with your previous employer? Did they violate it when they fired you? No? Did they fire you for some reason that is contrary to your location's social policy? No?

Then you weren't "fired unrightfully".

>I'll never have the time to apply and interview for other jobs, especially being new.

This is one of the stupidest or laziest things I've read here today.

>>17150094
figure out which foods cause it
avoid that food
for me it's eggs, pork, and anything that is too greasy.

that dog probably does

>>17150094
IBS is a catchall term for everything that doctors can't put a better diagnosis on. Impossible to say for us what it could be. Analyze your own eating habits, whether you're stressed, etc.

Bumping for interest, my EI runs out really soon, and all jobs here are min wage, 20 hours max per week. Rent (without utilities) is around 900+$ per month

>>17150059
If you start doing something to attain money you have employment and aren't a NEET.

>>17150059
neet bucks are social security benefits, disability, food stamps. if you get food stamps and you aren't disabled in some way you have to do like 80 hours of work/volunteering a month. that will put you in an awkward position if you're too disabled to get and hold a job but not disabled enough to qualify for an exemption.

Bump
How do you stop being afraid of screwing up?

>>17150133
no joke. see a shrink. If it's a big problem for you.

most of the time your problem isn't stress. But something causing it.
Those guys try and get it out you.

>>17150243
That may be a long term solution, thanks.
I have to do something right now.

>>17150028
Inb4 the only thing zoloft does is ruin Mastrubation, fixing your life this way.
Seriously op you should be glad to have gotten rid op the curse of porn addiction

>>17150128
No it's a curse, if I was to have sex it would take me like 3 hours to cum

>>17150149
How is this a bad thing? Unless your only pleasure is cumming, bitches will be Hella impressed

Find out if she's with someone first. No one on the house knows Spanish and can help you?

>>17150012
She doesn't have a boyfriend neither married
Never has visitors

and not really, I'm belgian, theres another danish, two english and a polish

>>17150020

The language barrier is the major problem. Abort mission. Language is important to catch the subtitles in how they pronounce certain words.

All this is lust and nothing else. You can find cougars at your local bar if you are desperate enough.

You offered to pay as well

That doesn't make you a gold digger
She just want you both to have a great time

The answer is yes.

Could be as easy as
>you are a nice and pleasant young man

Her having money means that you won't need to try and impress her. She's sorted in that area, and you managed not to get intimidated by the fact. Like the other anon said, you did offer - just don't make it into a habit never to offer her anything.

How you proceed depends on your game in general, but I would eat that pussy out asap.

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>>17149975
2/2

But then a red light word popped up. She said "I'm flattered". Now usually when a girl says that its a kind way to put a guy down gently because shes not interested. But I figure I'm a good looking guy so she must really mean shes indeed flattered and I ran that red light and said "Yeah I would like to take you out on a date".(No PUA lines here.) And asked for her number.

She gave me her number. But then said.. "I just got out a relationship so I cant make you any promises". --- And that threw me off a bit because who accepts a date proposal like that? Stating no promises?. But then went on to tell me how she was heart broken and all over her break up.

So with her expressing heartbreak I decided against my gut feeling to wait to text her. And I played it real strong and waited a whole week because she laid the whole heartbreak no promises thing on me so I felt no need to push that envelope. But at the same me waiting a week could of been a slight mistake.

So I went about texting her. And she obviously replied with "Whos this?". --- Knowing she would say that I already had a funny yet flirty line to follow up describing myself as she would know it was me.

2 hours go by. No reply. I know she knows its me. I reply with 'So how you doing?'.

She replys with "who is this though seriously I need a name".

Well I'm not buying into this game because I know she knows its me. So I tell her "lol nah, I think you know who it is."

She texts me my name.

With that I say "So now that you know who it is you going to answer my question?" referring to me asking her "How you doing?"

And it just dropped off. Nothing back at all. No reply even though I know she read it.

Is she playing super hard to get? Were those red lights I didn't pay much mind to really red lights? Or... with me being thinking self centered here, did she not reply at all to look separate herself from other potential girls?

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>>17149975
>>17149981
Closing:

I don't know. And like I said I'm written this just to clear my head a bit. But any feed back or perspective from anyone who is willing to stomach through this wall-o-text of bullshit I wrote is welcomed.

She isn't into you.

It really is that simple. Put it this way, if a girl really likes a guy do you think she would play this dumb games? Even hard to get girls know that ignoring someone like this and acting like a bitch isn't the way to get a guy.

She probably has feelings for her ex and isn't into that kind of way. I think you know this and are in denial.

Move on. Your instincts are right.

She is using you like a tissue anon and will only spring up when things are convenient. She knows your options are limited to her and so you will await her like a loyal dog. Have dignity and cut this off for good.

Just send a simple message asking what is going on..
Then forget her..
What is important here.. By what I see.. is your conscious.. So.. This is what I would do..

>>17149903
See now I feel even less like that's the right answer because you're trying to dictate to me the thought process of someone you've never met.

That and the fact that she previously would break contact with me specifically when she had to deal with her own problems, which goes against the whole "using me for support" angle

Oh for the love of god stop bitching and complaining. You sound pathetic. Jesus man you need to understand that life is tough and that some times you badly fuck up. Instead of bashing yourself all the time and feeling like shit, you need to accept your problems and understand that you won't be ever doing that again.

Now continue to talking to her but realize it is over. She is happy now and you are nothing more than at best an acquaintance she will chat with once in a while. You need to mentally move yourself to find another girl and that starts by accepting the proposition that if you could find a girl as amazing as she was before then what is stopping you from finding a girl who is as good if not better? It is all about how you see the prospective of your situation.

>>17149889
I pretty much agree with this. Moping about the mistakes you made isn't helpful. Learn the lesson, be mindful of what is actually valuable to you, and get on with life.

You can also watch this relevant video until you feel better.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-h0IpjnByfs

>>17149889
>>17149939
Of course I sound pathetic man, I just hit rock bottom. I also know you're right about pretty much everything, except for the acquaintance part, she says herself she never had something like this before. We chat much more than we probably should. But she also states she is happy and can't risk her current relationship. Trust me, when I talk to her, I sound rational, not like the whining one here on /adv/. I'm using /adv/ to cry my heart out exactly because I can't/don't want to do this in front of her.
The reason I bash myself up like this right now is because what I did was absolutely stupid and I thought I had learned from the past.

It just sucks to realize that sometimes you can't think straight for months and when you wake up, it's too late, realizing you've done the same mistake you did before when you had already sworn it'll never happen again. Well, why does it happen again? It's so important to be nice/kind and honest with everything all the time. It's the only way things stay CLEAN. This here wasn't clean at all.

So guys, it's a fresh situation and of course I'm moping for as long as I think I need to in order to find the positive essence in it that helps me become a better human. It will be okay one day.

>It is all about how you see the prospective of your situation.
I know this and absolutely understand. The "right" (helpful) perspective will come with time. Right now I'm dead. We'll see what tomorrow brings. Until then, I'll embrace every second I get with her.

Maybe the only good thing about this is that I learned a lot about myself. I'm re-inventing myself. That can only be good.

I'm just wondering if it's normal to do the same mistakes over and over...

>>17149807
Just be honest. Say you don't necessarily disagree but he is on overkill and sounding crazy. Also tell him about the Marijuana legalization conspiracy and how the govt wants us to be doped up so we're too lazy to fight back.

>>17149812
I believe he knows that he is sounding crazy. He even joked about this a little, and I told him that it's somewhat true. The problem is it doesn't stop there. If it's not paranoid conspiracies, he just rambles on about himself. For instance, how he can taste and visualize sounds or something in that vein. How he's special and different from other people. It's plain narcissism. I could be blunt about that, but I feel like he wouldn't be able to handle it if I'm being honest.

>>17149807
bump

>>17149803
Your mother must be so proud.

>>17149803
Congrats, you're not a loser virgin. Just a loser.

>>17149803
>it pretty much just made an upside down U shape
So... Like a lower case "n"?

>>17149785
probably 4-5 years

For me, dabs is too "man-made". I prefer weed cuz it's all natural and the weed culture is also a big part of why I smoke. That being said, I've never tried a dab so I could not advise fairly. Whatever your preference I suppose (especially if it's cheaper).

>>17149785

Weed is easier to manage because it is less potent

You will gain mad tolerance if you start smoking dabs, and the first weeks will be very very hazy

>>17149742
No it is not cuz if she has the clap it'll get contaminated.

>>17149976
>No it is not cuz if she has the clap it'll get contaminated.
Not quite true, assuming you think hooker pee can give OP the clap. It can't. You can test for gonorrhea via urine, but not transmit it.

You CAN catch bilharzia (a parasitic infestation coming from freshwater snails, mostly found in Africa and South America), typhoid, and certain cytomegaloviruses (cousins to herpes, mostly non-symptomatic) from whizz. And if she does have nasty STIs, the pee could be especially disgusting (cloudy, full of mucus or pus), but it's not a vector for disease (ie, it won't get you sick).

The old chestnut that pee is sterile isn't true, but it is true that it doesn't really carry transmissable disease.

>>17150049
>. It can't. You can test for gonorrhea via urine, but not transmit it.
Nice!