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>>17143144
including, but not limited to:

>girlfriend of 1year
>couple that are "friends" living in my house

my dad is extremely respectful and I have no problems with him.

>>17143148
*dad's crib

>>17143144
>feelings

my girl would be the only one that really gives a fuck but she's mean as fuck and flirts with the dude that's with the other girl crashing in my dad's crib.

I know if I left she'd fucking bawl and scream how much of a piece of shit I am for leaving.

I see no reason not to leave, and help my dad financially who is going through a divorce. what do yall think?

in case it matters im 21 y.o in east coast america

shooting? black eye? is this some slang I don't know?

>>17143030
Shooting a shotgun. Black eye from not holding it right. I was a moron.

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Cold compresses in the mornings.

Iktfb, the last thing you want to do when you're depressed is–well, anything really. Everything feels like it takes too much energy to accomplish, and you feel guilty when you procrastinate, so you trap yourself in a vicious cycle.

Unfortunately I don't really have a solid solution for this, but if it'll help I'll tell you what has worked for me.

-Take breaks; short 15 minute breaks every hour.

-Force yourself to commit to at least 10 minutes of work. If that time passes and you want to stop, then you can stop. But at least you'll have accomplished something, and best case scenario you'll feel motivated to continue working.

-Reward yourself at the end of the day. Don't punish yourself for not accomplishing enough, you'll just feel guilty and it will kill your motivation. Be proud of what you've done. Whether this reward is a beer, your favorite show, or extra (much-needed) sleep, it'll help alleviate stress and keep you sane.

I have more tips if you'd like to hear them. Good luck with your exams bro, you can do it.

>>17143018

Thanks for the tips man, think I'd be lucky if I could work for 15 minutes every hour though! I've been trying to work in short bursts but I'll write a few words and then suddenly snap back to reality and realise I've been staring blankly for who knows how long.

Just seems to be a bit of a gamble if it will be a motivated day or not at the minute.

Thanks for the help, any extra ideas would also be gratefully received.

>>17143061
>I'll write a few words and then suddenly snap back to reality and realise I've been staring blankly for who knows how long.

Are you me? Really though, it's so easy to just distract yourself from your work. Even staring at a wall is more appealing than forcing yourself to study. I catch myself in an almost catatonic state at times.

To keep myself interested in my work, I'd turn it into a game. If there was something I've been eyeing for a while, something stupid on amazon or a video game I've been wanting to play, I'd drop a dollar in a jar every time I hit a milestone with my work. Watching the jar slowly grow helped motivate me to continue and reach my goal.

>>17142990
When you start wondering where is the line between friendship and love you have pretty much crossed it.

what is sexual attraction

>>17143010
That is when your peepee goes stiffy when you are next to a girl.

it's not wrong per se. but your intentions are pretty shady and weird.
what do you want to achieve with this?

For the reasons youre doing it for? Yes.

Erections and sexual attraction from people that aren't you are completely normal. Actually I think your boyfriend may be autistic since you're still around and not a normal girl.

>>17142742
Why would we get you any further

Probably you can Google that. Depends on the variation you expect. 3 animals per condition could do. 10 will surely be enough.

>>17142742
How the fucking hell are you allowed to conduct experiments on living organism and "sacrifice" them without even knowing the basics of experimental method?

The general rule is that you should use a sample of at least 5. You can use a smaller one (3 or 4) if you are confident that the drug will work, but then you will have to face harsher criteria for the statistical tests proving its efficacy - and it's the tests the scientific community is looking at, so you'd like to have a high t-value (in case of T-test, here you would probably want to use ANOVA).

The only one of the above that I do is watch GoT, and I do just fine socially. I don't even talk to my friends about GoT or anything, not many of them watch it themselves

>>17142698
I can communicate rather well with some small number of people, but I am kinda sad I drift from nerd communities, I used to be a part of.

>>17142698
Are you naturally a social person?

unless you get a job in your own bed, you'll have to commute. commute just means travelling to work, it doesn't matter whether you drive, walk get the bus or ride a unicycle there.

As long as you're a semi-organised person and can factor in the extra time commuting will take in the morning, then it shouldn't be a problem. How long are you talking?

>>17142659
a few months at least.

>>17142663
no, how long would the commute be?

Who puts a piano in their bedroom anyways? Ask them to move it into the living area or something so you can better access it

>>17142459
yeah but i rareley go outside my room because of the current situation i have with him and my mother. Its just fucked

Is it wrong for me to put it in my room?

Save up. Buy your own. There’s some relatively inexpensive ones you can buy and you’re just starting out so it doesn’t have to be amazing.

Sounds like it’s his piano now. He bought it anyways. Wouldn’t you feel bad having and using something from someone you hate anyway?

I honestly don't see why someone would want to smoke.

>>17142392
nothing good ever came to me from smoking any plant over a period of years.

If it's the herb, go for it. Live it up a bit, you're young. I honestly wish I got lit up more in my life, right now especially.

You can't have that in your life, friend. You're gonna have to find a different hobby because it's not healthy.

>>17142352
this, why'd you make yourself interact with him at all?

go find another band?

>>17142352
>>17142372
Well, to be honest at this point in time i don't give a flying fuck about what he did to me anymore and i'm not mad or resentful about it, if needed i would have no problem in talking with him because i'm not that prideful, but i still do not desire engaging him in a friendly chat whatsoever.
My main concern is how awkward would it be if i'm only friendly with our mutual friend, also it's pretty hard to find another band considering our mutual music taste and actually knowing each other well.

Friendship is a mutually pleasant relationship. Having a friend will improve your quality of life.

>>17142315
Explain how

If you can't answer both of those questions for yourself there's something deeply wrong with you - like, a defect in your brain.

Was in the same boat as you 8 years ago.

The solution is: force yourself to be around people. Even if you dont like it.

Always have a room to back off and be at your own whenever you feel exahusted of interacting with people. And never ever share a room. Not even with your gf unless you are 110% sure you are prepared for it.

>>17142216

Thanks for words.

So essentially, I have to bite the bullet and dive in gung ho on the proviso that I have a bunker of sorts.

Did your severe (?) (as it is in my case) introversion subside or was it a case of managing it the best you could?

If your gf isn't a total bitch, maybe she'll let you have a week or two per year away. Maybe let you get an airbnb in some nondescript town so you can create your "happy space". Watch TV in your undies, spill food wherever it falls, do the helicopter in front of a mirror etc...

Or you could take the easy way out and die alone.

There's always hope, man. Please don't give up, death isn't something you can take back.

Hey anon.
27, here. I broke around 12. So what, it's been 15 years like this? Everything I try, fails. And everyone around me somehow feels distant. It gets tiring. Living is exhausting when you have a mask that everyone is used to. I kinda understand clowns now.

It never actually gets better, but it does get less worse. I been seeing a therapist for about a few months now. Really don't see how it helps, but if anything it's nice to talk shit out with another human.

My weeks are somewhat similar, about 5 meh/bad days for every 2 okay ones. The moment I get a taste of happiness it's gone, since I question if it was even real happiness or just residual from the "happy mask".
I almost shot myself with my own rifle when I was overseas, but hilariously enough there was a click, but no pop.

I still want to die, I want the ride to end. I have wanted it for years, but i keep trudging on. Be it that I'm a coward to force death, or just that people will oddly miss me, I linger on.

Funny, since I can't seem to understand what others see in me. I have friends, that for some reason enjoy my company. Family, that loves me for reasons. Even a girlfriend, who is love with me to an almost creepy level. Yet, all these people I feel little connection to. In a way, I mean something to someone I guess.

It never really gets better, but strangely I stay alive hoping that I will at least get to know what happiness is again. I want to smile again, a genuine one, that isn't immediately clouded by the thoughts of falsehood or a facade.

May you will end it, maybe you won't. Either way, it doesn't get better. The best you can do it make things less worse.

>>17142307
that just makes me feel worse

Therapy is a vague word. If you mean speaking with a therapist, then no, it isn't guaranteed to solve every issue. There are other forms of therapy. Anything that provides a sense of healing is therapeutic. Some people find therapeutic benefit in performing a physical exercise, or following a hobby, or taking a class. Even just taking the time to smell a flower or pet a dog can be said to be therapeutic. The point being, nothing is guaranteed to provide healing. I recommend that you try many different things until you find what truly helps you.

It sounds like you have a grasp of what you believe is 'wrong'
so try it out and go from there

>>17142183
this. have done therapy, self-help, writing, art, exercise, meditation. all of them have helped in their own way.

I have even found it helpful to occasionally go back and rewatch a show or reread a book from when I was a kid, it helped me get back into the mindset of when I was younger and forming my ideas about the world. not to say that media necessarily warps kids or anything like that. just a way to look back on my formative years and see how I got to where I am today.