I need to know if I'm lying to myself.
>I'm 29
>This girl, one of my best friends, is the same age and we've known each other since 3rd grade
>She's a Vanderbilt grad, campus heartthrob, prom queen, makes over $150k a year
>I was editor-in-chief of the yearbook, popular, attractive, I make great money myself
>We work for the same company, we spend 3-5 days a week together (outside of work)
>We hooked up for a while during college but never "dated"
>Can't think of a girl I enjoy spending time with more, my parents love her, everyone thinks we're together
>We're both attractive, smart people who grew up together
So, people always assume we're going to end up together. She's dating some 50 year old guy who works in a warehouse and she pays his rent. She's cheated on every boyfriend she's ever had, and has an eating disorder. She's got enough emotional baggage to down an airplane, even though she's beautiful and smart. Regardless, I always imagined some other girl would just walk into my life and I'd never have to consider this.
The other day, a good friend of mine told me that I was fooling myself if I thought that, turning 30, I was going to end up with anyone but her. He's well aware of all the bad, but her relationship likely won't last in his eyes, and he thinks we're both broken enough for each other that we could really be with no one else, and he said that everyone else in our lives sees this as a "foregone conclusion, and that you two are in love with each other but won't admit it."
So, I'm not trying to steal her away or anything, but is he right? I don't want him to be, but sometimes I think he is.
Pic only related in that they look alike.
>>17145040
>>17145040
i dont fucking know stop humble bragging on a Thai Joinery board
>>17145046
It's a Nepalese Pashmina board so suck my dick.
>muh humble bragging
Also EVER dating a known cheater. You must be a cuck?
Where can I find cyanide to off myself? Do they just sell it in pharmacies?
Seems pretty painful. Didn't you watch that james bond movie?
op you have things to live for like the evening news or a cup of coffee in the morning or taking a really pleasant dump.
>>17144986
Cyanide? The only person I'd think would carry actual cyanide capsules would be someone in the military, soldiers usually carry that shit around for if they ever get captured so I'd assume they get handed it by a physician or something. If you're going to do it (which you shouldn't) go find a helium bag or a gun, those are the least painful and quickest ways. But really OP, go to a therapist, get some antidepressants or some shit, don't end your life.
How am I supposed to love women or form a relationship when I don't respect them? I have been thinking about why I'm in the situation I'm in and have realized that I rarely develop feelings for a lady and when I do it's actually all just me fantasizing. When I realize they are probably just like all the other women that I don't feel anything for and almost certainly don't fit my fantasy (why the hell would they? That's totally absurd) then I lose all my respect for them and don't want to date them anymore. I mean I still sort of want to have sex with them but the motivation really isn't there anymore.
The obvious solution to this is to start respecting the way women really are but in my opinion respect is earned and they have done nothing to earn it. I mean I don't respect just any random guy either but I don't have romantic feelings for guys so it's not a problem I just treat them with some basic level of civility and when our business is done we carry on with our lives. I do think that I am more prone to respect men though for some reason. I think maybe I respect chastity and for some reason I am more prone to believe that guys would be this way (whether it's by choice or not). Rationally how promiscuous you are doesn't say much about you as a person other than you like to sleep around (risky behaviour?), although it does mean something when it comes to relationships.I can't really explain why, it just does. Maybe it's male instinct?
Pic related - How do you reconcile this quote with believing that respect is earned and not simply given? Ideally two people would earn each others respect, not simply return it because it was given to them.
Date women who have actually accomplished things you admire or respect.
What kind of women are you dateing? Baristas with tits? Or women who double as admirable people?
>>17144949
Well guys aren't any more chaste than women (unless you believe the women are fucking each other and not men.) so that part makes no sense. But your odd bias is neither here nor there.
If you want to find women who can earn your respect you actually have to give them that chance. If you just write them all off immediately you're never going to get anywhere.
Chat with women in your workplace/college/uni, chat to women in bookstores, try meeting women in places that are generally considered more "intellectual" and go from there. Aim to get to know people, and don't place unrealistic expectations on them and disappoint yourself before they've even had a shot.
A lot of this is your own doing by the sounds of it.
>>17144956
Well there is nothing wrong with these women, they are just normal people. But when I realize they are probably a little bit gossipy, a little bit promiscuous, and a little bit entitled it doesn't really matter what else they do or have done. One girl was a med student but it just sort of cancelled out. Like I can respect that you are very intelligent and driven, but when it comes to forming a relationship there is just no respect in that department. I am by no means Mr. Perfect either, I mean I'm sure there are plenty of reasons to not respect me, I don't respect myself a lot of the time because I'm not living up to my expectations either. I'm not some manly man with stories of adventure and career success to regale you with until you're at your deathbed. My expectations are high for myself and also for the people I'm interested in and when I realize that they don't meet them I lose respect and with it I lose a lot of the non-physical attraction and my willingness to put effort in to the relationship.
eh just get them to shorten it but leave it basically the same.
Do what I do, pic related is me when I shave it
You'll look manly as fuck and women are into it
>>17144849
There's a YouTube video about which haircut goes with which face shape, but I don't have the link. If you have the time go on YouTube and find it. I personally think you should just cut a bit off the sides and leave the bangs the way they are
how can I enjoy my lonely time?
I couldn't take summer classes and now I have nobody and nothing to do ( no pun intended)
I can't work either because of my visa
what are things to do in sf?
Personally I adore lonely time. I love to workout, read, camp, hike, canoe. I fucking love my hobbies and they keep me sane. You may be more of an extrovert, but I would find an activity that is solely "for you". As in it betters you and makes tou happy.
>>17144797
Don't mind you're alone. Do hobbies just for yourself, read, walk, do some workout. Be a great companion for yourself
>>17144824
Thank you alot
What's the etiquette with asking out a girl your friend was really interested in but ultimately struck out with? In that he didn't even have a date with her.
You don't if you want to stay friends with your friend. It doesn't matter that he was rejected, he wouldn't be happy with you dating her and you know it, otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question.
>>17144799
I thought as much, but I wanted to ask him before I did anything.
>>17144968
Then ask him. Unless he whole-heartedly says yes, don't do it if you want to keep him as a friend.
How do I cure these between my legs? I tried hydrogen peroxide, jock powder, and cortizone, and nothing. What do?
Op what am i looking at here.....
Do you get rid of the hair or is it just itchy. you might have jock itch
Micatin.
>>17144770
Then how do I cure this jock itch? Sorry if the picture is bad?
How would you kill someone?
I have someone close that's been abusing my family for a few years now and dosn't stop anytime soon. i have a few ideas that i want to cross with anyone and get a second opinion.
>sneek in when he is sleeping and stab him with a syringe full of air into his heart.
>Strangle him in his sleep with a bet or rope, then use that object to make it look like a suicide or auto erotic assimilation.
>pay someone off to come and rob/kill him in his house or at a stop.
Or frame them and send them to prison
>plant drugs (cocaine or any hard drug) in his car and tick the cops and lock him up for a few years.
I need serious advice on this guys please...
Report the abuse to police
>>17144737
>auto erotic assimilation
man that had me laughing.
I'm sorry for what you're going through but committing a felony just to end it is not worth it. I've been there. Which country/state are you in? If you're in the united states there are both federal and local government programs to assist you.
>>17144737
>can't figure out how to kill someone
>I know, I'll announce my intentions on a public website where my IP can be tracked
face it OP, you're not smart enough to get away with it.
Why do women I've been with previously claim they want to be friends but then if I don't chat with them for a while they block me on social media?
I never did anything to offend. Just didn't respond for a long time. Why do they always do this?
I know they block me because all I have to do is log out to be able to search their names again and then I see everything since their profiles are usually public.
I just want to send a message asking why, but that sounds kind of creepy.
But what gives. What if by some freak chance one of them became pregnant from me? I'd want to be able to talk with them or something.
Why do women do this?
>>17144726
They were hurt and couldn't handle it so they had to remove you from their life. Is that so hard to understand? I've had women do this to me. It's about their own feelings.
>girl says she wants to be friends
>you don't act like a friend towards her
>she decides you have nothing to give her so she stops being your friend
>somehow she's the bad person in this situation
hey /adv/, if anyone with medical / dermatological knowledge could chime in on this thing on my a bicep, that'd be great...
It's a little smaller than a pea, kinda hard, and is in a fixed position on my bicep. Is this cancer?
It's a melanoma waiting to burst through your skin. Once it does, attack it with a mixture of lemon juice and vodka.
>>17144610
It could be cancer, but cancer usually doesn't involve the skin above being red. It's probably a pimple, they sometimes form in strange places.
OP here, it's just kinda red because ive been kinda poking at it just now
How do I help my mum?
She's getting older (mid/late 50's), is divorced, and last time I met her (I don't live with her) she was crying. She's tired of the world and other people grinding her down, and tired of being lonely.
She lives with my other siblings, but they're grown ups too.
Help me help her, /adv/. Please. It kills me seeing her like this.
(note: I know what I can do is limited, and I'm not exactly the strongest as emotional support, but I do what I can to make her happy. Hell, I'm certain I already know what I can and can't do to help her... I just need a little outlet).
Aww. Get her out dating. I love my mom. I'm sorry, have a bump
>>17144599
Thanks anon.
I don't think she into dating again - the divorce kinda burned her out.
I really ought take her out just for a weekend.
Anons, just call up your parents every now and let them know you love them and they're special.
>>17144614
Well, if she's lonely even with some of her kids at home, I think she wants more companionship. I could be wrong, but yeah taking her out would be nice. It kills me when I see my mom cry.
One time when I was a small kid and we were all at a lake, my cousin wanted my floaty device, and I didn't want to give it up so I floated into the center of the lake and my mom swam after me to get it for him. I kept swimming away from her. I felt so awful years later, for whatever reason the guilt and sadness still sticks with me over that. I don't know why.
I always have to start conversations with my friends. Its always me who has to put in effort, and I never get talked to first.
Is this how its suspossed to be?
>>17144586
no, and it sucks. I'm here with you. You might have shitty friends.
if that's the case, you can do better than them.
No it is not how it's supposed to be.
People should be putting in more effort to talk to you. YOU are the prize.
I went through all of high school being used. Now at 23, I'm the one people hit up. It's about confidence and being you unabashedly. Let your natural charisma show.
The Red Pill helped me a lot when talking to girls. But guys are easier. You just need to have more confidence and self esteem. You're worth it man.
>>17145089
>>17145104
Thanks guys
I'll be going off to college in the fall. It'll be my first time going off on my own and being an "individual," I guess. However, I've never really had luck in the financial aspects of my life. I've looked pretty extensively into stripping as a means of making extra money in the meantime.
Still, there's a question I haven't found an answer to yet. What do dancers do at the end of lap dances? How do they end it without being awkward? Like, what do they say or do when it's over?
I also was wondering if anyone could recommend clubs in Seattle or give me a heads up if you have experience in one, whether you're a dancer or a patron.
Any other advice regarding stripping is greatly appreciated too!
Keep your birth control handy. The assholes you fuck will force you into unprotected sex.
I'll have to see some photos before I can accurately provide advice for you. It's important.
>>17144509
Post a pic (with clothes on, I'm not a pervert, nor am I interested in women sexually) because you may not be fit for stripping, you also have to be strong enough to hold yourself up, those two factors are very important to whether you can even do the job.
So I curiously googled the symptoms of Psychosis a while ago and found a lot of them match up with the way I think. But the way it's described is that I should be very depressed, when I don't feel that way.
If I really am psychotic, and I don't believe anything is real, then why shouldn't I live my life without care?
Because, despite feeling like nothing is real, you still live in a system that has consequences for your actions. So long as you believe that, you won't live "without care."
>>17144489
for examples of people that don't believe it, see https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C7h7uevwxt8 and other "freemen".
just because you think everything is fake doesn't stop you from feeling everything around you and having to interact with everyone around you.
You should look into Existentialism, I have similar thoughts to you and found it very interesting.
Personally I think a lot of stuff is fake. Especially things like fashion & peoples opinions about what you should do with your life.
But to me at least basic needs right now, such as food, water, air, shelter etc. seem very real. Like if you get sick, or dehydrated, or without air for awhile you just can't THINK anymore. How can something that is fake affect your mind so much?
What's the best PC I can get for games and video editing around 500$
Intel Pentium II
60GB GDDR5 RAM
AMD Radiation HD1337
Assus LGBT1155 fatherboard
Kingston 4GB flash drive (as HDD)
A job.
>>17144450
get yourself a life with that $500 instead. video games and making youtube poops gets you nowhere in life.