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Ayyy adv, it's that guy with the bad memory again. Me and my gf are now done. We grew apart, she stopped wanting to talk, I got tired of the apathy, so it's done. Which means, I have no place to go to peacefully. Any advice on getting a new gf?

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I want to jump start my social life by moving out, maybe from the suburbs to the city. All my friends have pretty much forgotten about me at college and I need a fresh start. I also want a relationship.

Everyone says I should stay with my parents until they kick me out so I can save my money and buy a house (I'm 21 now with only $17K saved).

Do any of you guys have experiences in moving out too early or spending way too much time at home?

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I just started working in a legal way, before that I would get money by bday gifts or doing some simple jobs. I found out that i'm like Mr Crabs with money when I want to spend it on me.

Idgaf if I spend on a friends bday, or on a meeting at a bar, but if I want to spend it on me I spend hours looking in the internet to make sure I don't waste my money.

I play Dota and I got near 30-40 USD for free by playing on local tournaments and shit like that, started betting for the lols, made it up to $60 and then I lost it all.

Since then I've been a pussy dude with no confidence on his decisions and I became even more Mr Crabby with the money (luckily I still enjoy spending it on my family and friends)

Every time I remember those $60 bucks I feel dumb as hell. Luckily I promised myself since I started gaming that I would never put a penny on virtual items or fucking pixels. I mean, it's not even that much money but I really feel stupid.

Tips on how to improve this? (I'm never gambling again btw, I did it because I got all that for free but it was stupid as hell anyways)

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I'm a soon-to-be college student who needs fun ideas to pass the time. It's boring when I don't have a job and only need to run and practice driving. As a result I've been pretty restless. What have you guys been doing, anons? I need some ideas.

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Why don't I feel like talking to anyone? I literally don't want to talk to anyone ever again. I am way beyond just introverted.

Is it because I'm depressed and have been literally praying at night that I never wake up again? I'm also basically studying pharmacy and have been looking up all kinds of drugs that would make a lethal combination. Benzo+opiates seems like the way to go, but I've also been learning a bunch of other shit.

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So, I'm almost 20 y/o and I've been dating a guy for 4 years. We broke up about 4 days ago and I wanted to talk to his best friend for advice since he was kind of the middle man. He is hardcore flirting with me, and since I am so sad and lonely I kinda went along. I decided that it's not right to do. The guy I broke up with still likes me. I just kinda fell out of love with him. So it's been about a month that I've been emotionally disconnected with him. Help?! What do I do?

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I have a very casual online friend I've known for roughly 6 years. One of those friends who was a friend of a friend who happened to share similar interests with me, but one I've always kept at arm's length to some degree However, we never really like super bonded and got super close. He's kinda like that one friend on skype where you guys don't talk often but you get along when you do?

He messaged me the other day and was like "Guess what?! I moved to (insert town that's literally 15 minutes from me.) Suddenly this online acquaintance is now very much offline.
But the thing is that, I don't want to meet him IRL. We've never really been close enough for me to want to do that, but he certainly seems like he wants to. I feel like its going to inevitably come up and I'm going to have to turn him down. I'm afraid to post on Facebook when I'm going to events b/c I genuinely feel like he'll want to show up to them and surprise me.Shit, what do I do?

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I've just turned 18, just left school, soon will be leaving the town I've lived in my entire life.

Everyone I've ever gotten to know, everyone I grew up with, everyone I went to school with will be going away, doing their own thing and I'll likely never see many of them again.

I wasn't popular, I didn't have many friends, and I only kept in contact with a small handful of people.

I regret it. I'm filled with regret with what could have been. I feel nostalgic, but I also feel like I missed out of once in a life time memories.

I wish I made more friends, I wish I wasn't so antisocial, I wish I experienced more in my youth instead of playing Xbox or laying in bed all day.

I understand some may see being 18 as a new beginning, but I am struggling to let go of the past, and life that I have known it for 18 years.

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I'm 25 years old and I've rejected facebook ever since I was in high school, making a profile because a few of my friends insited, but never really using it. I just never felt the need to publish updates on my day-to-day life, and I don't really like pictures of myself. I also never found other people's posts that compelling, and I figured if something significant happened to my friends they'd tell me about it. So my profile has been sitting there, basically inactive for 8 years, and I've considered just deleting it many times.

However, now that I've gotten older I find myself short on friends, and I've realized that a lot of my coworkers seem to socialize and keep in touch on facebook. Is it an inevitibility now? Do I have to bite the bullet and start using it? I find the website as a whole extremely innane, and I dislike social media in general, but it seems like the only way to maintain friends these days.

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Hi guys, I am 31 and one and a half year ago I lost my job. I still live with my parents. I dropped out of University at 22, from that point on I had jobs every now and then, never finding something I was capable of carrying out. Even If I have always had a mild depression, I've had some girls and a long, meaningful relationship with a wonderful woman, ended 3 years ago. Since then, I wasn't able to go after the first date. But still my desire to have a fulfilling life with a healthy body, a job, a place where to live on my own, sex or, better, a girlfriend, and hobbies, passion, isn't dead at all. Thing is that I acted in my past so that, now, I'm unfit for achieving anything. Not saying I was a lazy fuck. I did everything that was in my power according to my psychological resources at the moment, with little results. Now I'm in a shitty place, totally unsatisfied. I'm willing to start over but I realized that to do so I need time and focus. I must discard the illusion that I could actually get lucky and obtain something now: I only must to postpone, by at least 5-10 years, the moment when I will actually be able to reach something. Problem is that I am naturally willing to definitely discard social and sexual life for these future years. I feel like I'm giving up and making space for something more worthy. I'm depressed because I did not want to get to the point where I'm negatively selecting things so fundamental, but my inner change is leading me. I'll be doing 18/24, 7/7, active job searching and, when I will find the job, I'll have to invest my free time in specializing myself. Private courses or again University, with a different attitude.
How would you cope with the fact that you feel like an inept, because nothing from your present empower you?
How would you cope with the fact that on average the social life for 30yos is a natural, well integrated part of their life, and gives them strength for their other activities, while for you is expendable by now?

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Every now and then, I receive a catalog for a local technical college offering adult, non-credit continuing education.

From what I know, the technical college's actual degree programs are pretty good, but I can't find anything on their continuing education topics.

This seems like something that I really want to do to get out of the rut I'm sort of in (want to be more productive, haven't done shit other than work and come home fairly tired). I have lingering interests in drawing, storywriting and graphic design that I may want to blossom into an actual new career (that I've been too afraid to act upon until now), and I want to continue to spend my time learning in general. Even miscellaneous things like music composition, languages, economics/finances, or even history can feed into those interests or make me a more effective and well-rounded person.

I'm hesitant, however, because some of these courses almost seem like seminars at the community center rather than something that really fosters profound personal growth.

Has anyone here taken courses in continuing education? Was the experience valuable for you?

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What's his name again?

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How do you guys deal with selfish, self-serving people? Especially if they are a boyfriend,girlfriend, spouse

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Hey /adv/, I need some help.
Currently, I live in the country(Southern GA) and have trouble meeting girls I can relate too. I'm sort of a punk rocker/County boy blend and I really prefer goth chick's over country girls. Anyways, how can I meet goth chicks?

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21/M. Was dating a few girls, one of them stood out. She was pretty cool, into what I was into. Liked my favorite movies and everything. Out of nowhere stopped talking to me for two days, said she "needed some me time", then proceeded to do it again for 2 and a half weeks. Moved on, childhood sweetheart comes into the picture, we never actually dated, but she's my girlfriend now.

Former girl slides into DMs and tries to talk to me, ignored her for about 2 months but at the urging of my friends talked to her again. Naturally I know what's going on and what's on her mind when she asks me if I want to go get some coffee or go to the movies.

Should I do it? How do I break it to her that she made a mistake that pretty much makes her an invalid relationship candidate in my eyes? Do I keep her around for a potential rebound? She's about a 7.5 on my scale, current's an 8 so I'd be downgrading. What do you guys think about this mess?