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>>17271557
You do know that it is possible and perfectly OK for a man and woman to be platonic friends.

I suspect, though, that a married woman only in the area for a few months was looking for a short sexual adventure rather than a nice friend.

>>17271564

I know, and I would have been fine with that if it wasn't for the connection I made with her.

Well, she could be here for a few months or for much longer. It depends on what she decides is going to happen with her marriage.

I thought about that too, which is what worries me because I really don't want to be used - especially with someone that I'm starting to have feelings for.

help bump

>>17271520

your fear of not screwing this up makes you unable to text her because you think there's a "right way" of doing this and you have already screwed this up

if you cared less, you would've realized it doesn't matter WHAT you text her, it's important that you DO text her, hell she gave you her number, yet you are calculating the optimal thing to say like an autist, say goodbye to this grill

>>17271520
Hey (girls name) how you doing?
-good anon how about you?
I wanna rock your roccoco if ya know what i mean babe
-click nnnnnnnnnnnnn engh engh engh
(you call back) hey this is anon what happened?
-dont call me ever again weirdo i though you were different
click nnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, you call back but your blocked so you start stalking her, getting pizza everyday, eventually she transfers to a different rockys but you eventually track her down, she calls cops, they shoot you, end of story

>>17271520
Hi. I'm the guy from Rocky's. What's up?"

I mean I do want to stop existing but I still want you know a second chance

I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting, but what sorts of constraints are bothering you?

Go to a psych and get some fucking medication.

>>17271472
A cool wash

>>17271476
Does it need a gentle cycle? Or can it take medium?

>>17271482
When in doubt, use gentle cycle with cold water

>>17271443
Is he paging for it? Uni is LUDICROUSLY expensive here compared to the UK, and we don't have the same financing scheme where you can turn the debt into a payroll tax.

>>17271463
Err meant to say paying, not paging.

>>17271463
Yeah he said he would pay for it.

H31p p1s

Ah, to be that young again!

It's scary, I know, but you just have to do the thing. Walk up to her and talk.
You'll get better if you do it, you'll regret it if you don't. If your a fun guy, continue doing being a fun guy. But also be pleasant. And not a douche. And be outcome-independant. And not needy.
And show interest, and positive body language, and keep eye contact and remember to touch. But don't be a creep, and don't to t-that f-fake stammering bullshit that so many seems to think is a proper way to behave around girls.

Just be normal and go get yourself a girlfriend. Get to know her. You don't need any excuses, just tell her she's intriguing and ask her about stuff. Get her talking about herself and her interests, and ask her to go do something fun and/or nice (but don't call it a date)

>>17271349
Thanks a lot dude, this looks really helpful

>Will this stop with practice?

Yes

If she asks if you are listening, tell her you are trying to.

>>17271161
Sounds to me like you haven't slept well the night before.

>>17271161
Take notes. Write things down. Lots of people use writing as a way of drilling something into their heads.

Show the notes to the instructor. Ask "Did I miss anything? Did I get it all right?" You may think this will make you looks stupid - but you'll look a lot more stupid if you don't remember instructions and foul up.

And refer to the written instructions until you've fully learned them.

Get it checked. Most hospitals have someone who knows who to talk to in order to speed up your case. They do want to get paid.

>>17271083
Ffs, an emergency is an emergency you twat. If you don't go, and your appendix bursts, you could die or get sick in a way that costs you exorbitantly more money.

Just fucking go and eat the cost if it turns out you aren't covered. Beats death or much higher costs.

>>17271099

I'm already 30k in student loans

100k or whatever for this shit and I might as well be dead

>>17271080
Not necessarily. As long as you don't say anything creepy or weird, you at least have a 50/50 chance of her responding back. GL!

I'm in the same boat, but I looked her up and read email lists to know her last name.
is this still acceptable?

>>17271428
It really depends on the approach and the recipient. Is she the type who welcomes friends and new contacts or not, and if the friend request sent is "right" for her. You can try it, and she would decide whether or not to accept. Keep whatever you write light and positive. GL!

>one year
>no sex
Holy shit, how blue did your balls get?

>>17271066
I have my hanf and I live in a country with more conservative values. I respect their beleifs and Im okay with it. I like to build relationship with her familt as well. But when Im single I go for whore houses. Ive only dated virgins. There a lot more where Im from.

>>17271066
Not only that, but twice.

>>17271052
Go to college .you'll write so much you'll fucking hate it. Then the job market is yours

>>17271059
Full disclosure, I went to college. Full scholarship to a private school, but I was an idiot kid and fucked around and failed out. Spent a year at a community college and actually failed classes there too. ADHD game too strong. Now I'm older and mature enough not to be a total life failure, but my transcript is so disgusting I'm worried about going back.

>>17271063
Find that college with that 96% acceptance and say you're ready to change for the better on your cover letter.

>>17271024
You may have to just ask, and be ready for the answer as it might not be what you want to hear...

>>17271106
I'm prepared for whatever she might say. I just want a clear answer whether the relationship between us can grow into something bigger or not.

At this point I might add, that when we are together, she usually brings conversation topics to kids and our future together and what would happen if we were together.

>>17271165
# 17271106 again...you two really need to talk this through and see if what she's saying is just romantic musings or is she really, honestly considering having a mature relationship with you. That will NOT happen while she's already in another relationship. She might be "having it both ways" and saying things to keep the status quo...

First, didn't you ask for her number?
Second, knowing how shy and probably gullible this girl is, did you think it was a good idea to bring a female friend?
Third, yes, you probably fucked it up.

>muh display of social prowess

You dun goofed

The female competitive thing only works when there are girls that are checking you out naturally or desire you naturally. Unnatural never works, especially if that girl does not even like you. If you are in a fucking coffee shop, you could have gone about it the right way. Get her a free coffee or something. Also, did you dress nice, that helps. Certain colors give an impression of you off the bat. Red is a good color if you want to let her be more open to you. Either way, you fucked your chance

Yes, that would be stalker level creepy. At least talk to her in real life before attempting to contact her on FB.

Or alternatively realize you're a kid, this was a high school crush, and it would never have lasted anyway. Move on.

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>>17270922
The problem is that i'm already out of hs, and there's no way for me to see her.

I guess i'll just have to pass on this girl

Bumping just in case

i wanted to be the subservient one in relationship last time, but, it didn't work... i didn't have enough power or say so in how things worked.

how to be dominant yet still be attracted to the man?... this is hard for me to do. i have some takers but i am just not attracted enough or i feel like they aren't good enough, and i don't want to settle. i would like to find someone i am head over heals attracted to and want to fuck all day every day. but i am stuck in a dilemma, where if i chase after a guy who is attractive, he might leave because he is not doing the chasing. if i get chased, i'll eventually dump the guy because i get bored of him being in my space 24/7. how do i find the balance?

the ultimate dilemma is, we want what we cannot have, and we want what is scarce.

how do i become attracted to someone who lays down like a desperate door mat in front of me? to tell you the truth, i'll dump them for sure after a year or so. this happened every time.

how do i become genuinely attracted to a man without having to chase after him like i'm some psychopath, and stalk his facebook 24/7? this is exhausting, but my stubborn brain will always linger and chase after something i cannot get, sometimes even when i am dating.

i mean if someone wants me, obviously they may ahve problems finding people, or are just desperate, or bored. and its not a good enough reason for me to date them.