TLDR: Is affection really something that totally disappears eventually in a relationship, and it's normal?
I'm really confused. My partner doesn't really care for anything related to affection anymore. Doesn't say anything nice (ever), no touching, no interest in sex, nothing. I like being affectionate sometimes but now it seems to only make them upset and make me feel like it's wrong to even do it. I've only improved myself recently and become better looking, so it's not about that.
I just don't know anymore.
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No. It's normal for that heart-pounding physical passion at the beginning of a relationship to fade over time. That doesn't mean ALL affection should go with it. Your "partner" doesn't even sound like much of a friend, let alone partner
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>>17269071
Are you a girl or a boy?
Have you talked to them?
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>>17269078
I know things wind down overtime, but by how much it's normal, I have no idea.
>>17269079
I've tried talking about it a few times. To keep it short, the last replies were ''It's the way I am'' and ''I want you to be less clingy, it's annoying''. Which has made me think overtime if I'm really the problem after all.
It hasn't always been like this.
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tl;dr: relationship ended, want advice on shit to do to cope
sup /adv/. I'm dealing with my first breakup that's actually made me sad, so like any well adjusted adult I'm posting on 4chan about it. The point of this thread is to get ideas for shit to do to keep me busy instead of thinking about her all the time. I've already started exercising more frequently than I already was, and I'm probably going to join a local sports club once I get decent at running again since that'll give me people to hang out with and events to go to over the summer while all my friends are at home. When I'm alone in my apartment I find myself only able to concentrate on uni work, and I've only got one summer class so there's not enough of that to keep me busy for long. I can't really enjoy any of my other hobbies that I can do alone like vidya/online chess/playing guitar because I just end up sitting around thinking about her, which I know is stupid but I can't seem to help it.
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10 weeks into first break up
Finally slept with someone 2 weeks ago and i'm just sleeping with her. I am almost over my ex completly. Just do what you want like i just watched tv, walked doggo and hanged with friends
you'll still want another gf but stay single with good friends or you'll turn depresso
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>>17269039
Friends is the issue. All of mine from uni are home for the summer, the few friends I kept in touch with from highschool live in two other cities that are a ways away, so meeting up with them has to be a planned thing.
I also mentioned in my post that I'm having trouble enjoying things I used to like that I do alone
How do I get a gf if I look like pic related?
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>>17268882
Remove headset
Get better clothes
Get better hairstyle
Wash your fucking face, it looks like its dusted
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>>17268882
I'm sure there's a tinder for neo-nazis.
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>>17268882
It's not just about looks. That guy is probably a 7-8/10 depending on if he works out, smells good, and the salary he nets. He cares about his appearance. White teeth, even complexion, his hair is well-groomed even if you don't like the style. You can tell by his expression that he's confident and has got some charisma. His pick up game is probably so on point. You get a gf by paying attention to these things. Plus, wearing suits and good posture makes you 30% sexier.
I went to a booth at my college to join a club (like pic related) and just stood there silently, not knowing what to say. They then asked "interested in joining ....?" I should have just said "hi I'd like to join ..." Or something, but it seemed redundant because why else would I have walked over and stood there?
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>>17268870
sounds like social anxiety or aspy or something. Go to someone to get evaluated.
Your issue is interfering with your life.
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I'm pretty sure it's Aspergers.
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>>17270031
This was me as a kid, but I still exhibit some of those.
>Inappropriate Laughing
>Prefer to be alone
>Attachment to Objects
>Inappropriate Response to loud sound
A-am I still an aspie, /adv/?
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My roommate told me I look like pic related. How do I get a Penelope Cruz lookalike?
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Step 1: Be rich
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By being a succesfull actor
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>>17268805
Be as rich, charismatic and famous as he is.
well i guess im quite desperate to be writing here, but hey atleast /adv/ will tell me i have cancer. So i've been smoking for abit more than a year (and alot more recently), i do hit some tabs from time to time, tilt a glass atleast few times a week and been dealing with alot of stress at work recently also decrease in sleep added to that. And i assume it all summed up into erectile dysfunction. At first the problem was very rare in bed, but as time progressed it became more often to the point that i could'nt please my partner at all the past like 5 times. Then i thought maybe i just need abit more time to get comfortable with her in bed, but then what was left went to shit and she dumped me because of that and now even fapping wont even get me aroused. Has anyone in /adv/ had a similar case ? Should i just try to quit my habits and hope everything goes back to normal or are these problems not the cause of ED and i should seek a doctors help ? Btw im 22yr.
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>>17268804
bump
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Sounds like you are just bored with sex desu. Try something new. Maybe some fetish you never thought of with your partner.
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I am no expert, so take what I say with a grain of salt.
I could see this being 1) psychological. Something is keeping you from getting it up. Worrying about it could be making it worse, like a performance anxiety. Like when you worry so much about getting enough sleep that you can't fall asleep.
2) could be a diet thing. Take better care of your body, try to sleep more, get exercise, etc. That being said, I have been smoking cigs for almost 10 years and never had a problem with my weiner.
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What's the secret to finding an apartment?
These niggers put up ads and then don't respond to e-mail or phone calls (if they aren't Pajeets trying to scam you.)
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>>17268755
Buy a single apartment unless you are on the west coast or in the north east (because it's expensive).
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>>17268755
You get in your car and drive around town. There are hundreds of apartment complexes in any given city. Walk in, ask for prices.
Or cut the bullshit and just google "apartments in x city" and browse from apartmentratings.com, apartmentguide.com, rent.com, etc. Go see the properties in your price point.
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>>17268755
I used google maps. I would find the area I want, search for apartments. Then brought up the website if the place wasn't in a bad area. Wrote it down if I liked it. ALWAYS VISIT BEFORE YOU RENT.
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Hi /adv/.
I feel so fucking empty, I don't know what is wrong with me. I feel like everything is devoid of any meaning.
I stopped playing LoL about a month ago and thought that will help me be productive. Then I used Linux Mint but I just watched some series, wasted time on internet etc.
I want to start with LoL again even though I know it's shit game and I get salty but at least it was a fake purpose and I got my mind off of other things.
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>>17268732
buy Overwatch instead
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>>17268732
The solution has to come from you. If you want to be "productive" then find a productive hobby, or some job or skill that you can be passionate about. Motivation is a muscle, you got to develop it.
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>>17268735
I would try it, but no money for it.
>>17268792
I agree.
But maybe I don't want to because I would find no meaning in it, or I'm afraid of failure. Just excuses probably.
Thanks for reply.
What do newlyweds do after the ceremony, prior the reception/party? Where do they go ?
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>>17268724
Probably go makeout in a room somewhere.
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>>17268734
But they usually leave in a car, where do they go?
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>>17268738
Can't say for certain, but I'd imagine they'd want to spend some moments alone since they kinda just tied the knot. Maybe they go home for a moment or rush straight to the reception?
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So I've recently started reading about existentialism and all that bullshit philosophical crap and they keep storming into my fucking brain, I keep getting really shit thoughts about life and death and I just want to go back to being happy
Ignorance is a bliss
I'm quite young and I have a life ahead of me, how do I just fucking stop this
>inb4 kill yourself
na mate
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2016-06-18 18:23:40
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>>17268676
You should have taken the Blue Pill
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>>17268684
No mate I'm fine with the redpill
It's just that this deep, philosophical crap that storms into my brain and puts me into misery
I swear I go from one depression to a fucking another
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>>17268703
Read the Myth of Sisyphus if you haven't already.
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disclaimer: im (probably) borderline (not selfdiagnosed)
How do you know what sexuality you are?
I got a blowy from a male friend last night and it felt kinda conflicting. I like SOME girls, rarely, and get into guys when im drunk. I dont feel like sex and stuff does anything for me though, i just wack it to furry shit every now and then. Shit's weird, if it were up to me, sex every week or so would be plenty. Kinda feel like my sexuality is broken or some shit. Could be im just too picky? Granted, i have good looks.
tl;dr HOW KNOW IF HOMO OR BI OR WHATEVER
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Borderline people have fucking weird identity and sexual habits.
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>>17268581
So... i cant know right now?
If the diagnosis comes to borderline, i definitely want to go on meds. Think i can figure that shit out then?
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bump
any other thoughts?
A while ago, I experienced what I would call the worst headache of my life. It started above my left ear and spread up and back across my scalp. It felt like my brain had been hit really hard or something. It went away probably an hour later. I may have passed out because I opened my eyes and was on the floor. I was pretty anxious but the pain stopped completely. What's going on?
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>>17268479
You probably had a stroke
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>>17268479
stroke dude
I will not scare you, but it is very important that you go to a neurologist. Sounds pretty serious, just have some exams to see if everything is fine.
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And uh by a while ago I mean it was a couple years ago.
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am I addicted to sugar?
for the past weeks i've been trying to eat more healthy; that also includes eating only about 10-20g sugar per day and including almost no refined sugar. but every few days i notice that i feel dizzy and have a lack of concentration. like just now. but now i went to the store and bought 200g cookies, ate every single one and i'm literally on a "high". haven't felt so comfortable for at least a few days. comparable to drinking your morning coffee. only slightly stronger.
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>>17268422
I'm addicted to sugar. It sucks.
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It's pointless to reply to this thread, because OP has already had the worst sugar crash of his life and now he's asleep.
And yes. Sugar is extremely addictive
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>>17268422
Sounds like it. I myself have started working out and cutting out the caffeine & sugar I was so hooked on. I quit cold turkey so I got a bit of a sickness and had some of the symptoms you stated, but they went away after a while.
You can try weening yourself off by replacing all that shit with literally anything else. Fruit is a great substitute if you have a sweet tooth.
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I've tried like 15 different brands but I still feel nothing when I'm wearing a condom. What's going on here? It feels like I'm just humping the air and there's just no friction around my penis.
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Same here, i lost my virginity at 15 and since then i cant feel anything wearing a condom or not, when i have sex i need to jerk off to cum, girls love me, but i cant feel any pleasure in sex
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Desensitization from masturbation
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#SmallPenisProblems
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Is there anyway I can help restore my damaged hair? Any washing techniques or special shampoos and conditioners I could buy? Ways to comb my hair?
It's made me pretty self conscious about anytime people decide to stroke or run their fingers through my hair incase their fingers get caught on them and they think I don't comb my hair. But even when I do it looks and feels tangled
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Have tried a haircut?
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>>17268392
I have and it didn't work, I can't really afford to cut my hair much
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>>17268397
So let it grow out and be patient