So I'm going to be moving out of my parents house, sharing a place with a friend.
Aside from some obvious stuff like respecting their space and cleaning your own mess, is there anything someone should know entering their first roommate arrangement?
>>17281456
Prepare to master the Stealth-Wank
>>17281456
>respecting their space and cleaning your own mess
Yeah, that's going to go right out the window.
>>17281456
>sharing a place with a friend
You are going to learn a lot of things about your friend that you may or may not like. Prepare yourself.
Don't eat other people's food, clean your shit up, don't bring people over without asking your roommate first, don't blast music etc. In general you just need to be conscious of your roommate.
Guys , if you were a girl , what would you do to attract the guy you are interested in?
Would you want the girl to be respectful towards herself and others like, "I'm available Thursday evening if you'd like to go out to dinner with me. Just let me know if something comes up, we can always reschedule".
OR
Would you rather have the girl come up to you and be very straightforward like , "I wanna bang."
I would be definitely respectful to myself.
Wanna bang if I want that and nothing more.
Just do what you want to do and you will attract the kind of men that suit you best.
Personally the second choice you give will immediately make me assume the girl is a whore, but a lot of guys don't care about that and just want to fuck. So do whatever.
Somewhere in between.
I think every guy has the fantasy where a hot girl wants to go up to him and bang, but IRL that kind of aggressiveness is really strange. It just throws me off. On some level, I want to take the masculine role of being the one to initiate things. If the girl just throws herself at me lewdly, I have the instinctive reaction of wanting to find a girl of higher sexual value, which doesn't make sense to me on a logical level, but is exactly my reaction on an instinctive one. That said, if I'm not getting any positive reaction from the girl and I'm pursuing, that's an even bigger turn off. I get why it works this way - if I just give up I appear as weak, and on a subconscious level I signify myself as more timid and uncertain, and thus a less valuable sexual candidate. But if I could alter reality, I would stay as the pursuer, but have the girl respond extremely positively to my advances.
IRL, I've only been with two women. On the occasions where a woman has clearly been on the prowl and throws herself at me, I'm just instantly turned off. Then when I think about it later, sometimes I kick myself for it.
The two times I was with women, it was because I was pursuing them uncharacteristically aggressively, because I was horny, and probably because I wasn't thinking straight. I'm almost surprised I didn't get charged with sexual assault with the second girl, but she responded so positively to the advance (which literally involved me groping the inside of her thigh and her breast) that I got her number, the next time we met we had crazy sex, and I wound up dating her for six months. This experience didn't at all fit my preconceived notions of how you're supposed to act with women... still doesn't, which I guess is indicative of how off my understanding of women is, and ergo why I've been so unsuccessful.
tl;dr as a guy I want to be the pursuer, but I want the girl to respond ridiculously positively and encouragingly
I had a one night stand with a girl in a hostel (no protection). I never told her my name but she could figure it out if she asked around. Should I never talk to her again, or get in touch with her on Facebook?
P.s, I stole a pair of her panties before I started flirting with her, she might suspect me or someone else in the hostel if she noticed them missing.
Do nothing until she's on your doorstep with your bastard child in her arms demanding child support
>>17281373
You really think a slut wants to get back in touch with you?
At least you know where you got your genital warts from. Enjoy getting shit burned off your dick.
>renting
>if i get hot water out of the tap, it's a milky white color
>cold water is clear and looks fine
What's going on here? Is it contamination? Should i try to get the landlord to fix it?
it is fine, just remember to moisturize your skin after showering.
But if you mean if its good enough to drink... i would not count on any tapwater, without boiling it first. Yeah, i boil and chill it in the fridge, just to be sure its clean
>>17281357
Milky white? If you shake or stir the water does it become clear? If it does, then there's just air in the water and it's fine to use.
http://water.usgs.gov/edu/qa-chemical-cloudy.html
Has anyone here taken a pay cut to work on something you're more interested in? Was it worth it?
I am absolutely miserable in my job. I hate every second of it. But I am making way more money here than I could earn anywhere else. I am starting to think the income doesn't compensate for the massive hit to my daily happiness.
how long have you been working?
>>17281353
Yes.
Your daily happiness and content will easily make up for the missing cash. Think about it, you spend half your day at work. What good is having money to spend during your other half of your day if you already hate most of your day? you'll still be stressed and pissed.
>>17281353
Depends on how much of a pay cut and whether or not you need the money. If you are making a whole lot, if you can deal with the misery for a few years, you can potentially set yourself up so you don't have to work for the rest of your life.
I'm self-employed and don't really make too much money, but then again I also don't work all that much, tend to only take jobs that interest me, and I have very little need for money. In part I got myself to this situation because I spent three years working 16 hour days at jobs that paid a ton. The payoff was worth it to me.
But if you're simply miserable at a job that's not going to give you quick security for life, it's just another average middle class job except on the higher end of the pay scale, the misery probably isn't worth it.
One thing I have found though is that even shitty jobs can be ok if you like the people you work with. (Conversely, if you hate the people you work with, the job can be ok if the work is interesting. If both are bad, you should get the fuck out.)
when you feel like you want to fuck someone who is not your SO, what do you do? i normally jack off but she's gone for a few months and ive been getting bored of jackin it 2x a day
ways to ensure i keep my urges under control¿ i dont want to mess up a good thing you get me?
"what she doesnt know wont hurt her" is a bad way to look at it i think. i just want to be cool and not think about acting on this
>>17281341
Realize that you're only infatuated with the idea because it's new/a thrill/a chase/risky. Utilize some fucking discipline and just stop thinking about it. Fap to your SO and how attractive you think she is.
If you can't do that, break up and maybe kill yourself.
>>17281341
>"what she doesnt know wont hurt her" is a bad way to look at it i think.
When she does find out, it will hurt her. How's that for a way to look at it? Keep your dick in your pants, for god's sakes.
>>17281341
It's too late OP. You're a weak faggot and I think anything I say will be dust in the wind. If you really don't want to cheat though then you should maybe stop focusing on sex for awhile, hang out with friends or something, indulge in hobbies, anything that can keep your mind off fucking. I don't know why you need someone to help you, seems like you've got problems as most normally functional people would be capable of controlling themselves. Are you really, truly committed to this girl? If not then fuck it, if yes then why the fuck are you asking for help.
I have a crush but there's two problems one he's my best friend and two he's gay advice please
Are you female?
If you're a chick there is literally nothing you can do about it. Get over it, and move on with your life. We all have someone in the past that we cared about that didn't care back.
>>17281322
Be really nice to him and tell him you like him. It's worth a try. Still better than meeting him regularly and having unrequited love.
My boyfriend's older brother stole $80 and my credit card from my wallet. His brother is a 32 year old unemployed bum that physically abuses his mother that financially supports him. This is the second time this has happened and I don't know how to approach this to my boyfriend's mother or anybody else.
Trash his room, why you letting him steal your stuff? anything over 50 is a theft
>>17281188
It's my boyfriend's room but he bullied him and made him surrender his room to him. I'm afraid because if my family knew, there is a chance they wouldn't let me see him anymore. I don't want to stress his mother, she is sickly and has enough on her plate.
Stand up for yourself or no one else will.
After posting a youtube link, this came up. What did he mean by my id?
>>17281177
Prob the channel's name of the uploader
>>17281183
Nothing to do with me then?
>>17281189
Doubt it. No
I recently broke up with my gf of 3 years. I was paying all the rent, the bills, and buying most of the food and I could bore you with all the other problems we were having but the catalyst was this: We weren't fucking, and she stonewalled me hard every time I brought it up or tried to fix it. Eventually I started to chat and trade pics with other sexually frustrated losers to get some sort of sexual release, I'd like to point out I never actually fucked anyone else. She found out, and we broke up. She insisted she had come out as "Ace", I was cheating on her, and that was reason enough to not have any intimacy in our relationship, and she never told me because I was "unapproachable" she isn't entirely wrong, but it was something that needed to be said right? I've accepted that I kinda fucked up in reaching out to other people for sexual gratification, but was I really in the wrong? How do you get over someone you love, but at the same time you know the relationship was an awful burden that needed to end? I'm trying to move on, but I really just want her to be better.
>>17281144
She's played you good. It's no use stressing over it now. Just move on and don't fuck up once again.
>>17281144
>She insisted she had come out as "Ace"
dafuq does that mean? does she sexually identify as a WWII fighter pilot or something?
>>17281160
Cringey term for asexual.
So a friend of mine had sex with the girl i was into. We've been texting and making out before, she drops hints about us being together. They don't know that i know they had sex; and i'll meet both of them tommorow. How do I react? Do i just ignore the shit outta both of them or confront them?
You had your chance and wasted it. You should have made a move while you still could.
>>17281097
she fucked the guy she wanted to fuck so don't humiliate yourself by being pissed. If she wanted you she would have fucked you and told the friend to take a hike
>>17281097
If she is still droping hints just drop her. Otherwise there is nothing to be done
Soon acquiring my driver license, getting an 1980's Mercedes v126 and attending senior highschool, would becoming an Uber driver actually pay off? Considering the cost of gas and maintenance of the car, could I expect to make more than a few extra bucks by driving people around within a 35 kilometer radius?
No cars over 10 years old. No children either.
You have to be 21 or older,
3 years of driving experience, and have a 4-door sedan that's 2001 or newer. So your application would be instantly rejected. That took me 10 seconds to find out on Google.
>>17281019
>You have to be 21
>You car must be 2004 or newer
>You are is old enough to be your mom if she got knocked up in high school.
You cannot be an Uber driver.
I'm thinking of putting together a meetup group for people who like writing and drawing art. But I've never done something like this, and I'm not sure what would be interesting for people. I just want to make a group for people to hang out, share there work with each other, and get advice for things like drawing and writing. And depending on how much interest there is, maybe meet up once or twice a month in places like a library, or maybe a local cafe. Is this enough? Or do i need more activities.
>>17280913
Ever see "Field of Dreams" where the phrase, "If you build it, they will come..." became famous? Point is, you can start the group and see who shows up and what kind of interests they bring to the table and go from there! Maybe some would like to meet up in a park or retreat to draw and write, while others may be interested in seeing inspirational movies! Maybe they'd all be willing to go to an amusement park just to get away from it all while sharing in like-minded company! First, get the group together and see what the chemistry is like and how willing they really are to organize and commit to get-togethers...one step at a time! GL!
>>17282147
If this was in my town you'd already have one person there. Do it
It likely exist already
I can't get my head straight in this.
I'm in high school and there is this girl that I really like. I never really talked to girls that much because I'm not good with the opposite sex. Anyways, I got this girl's number (a friend used it to prank call me) and she started texting me on a regular basis. She was very caring and sweet once I got to know her. Soon, we started seeing each other and talking to each other more to the point where I got her too much into my life. I was depressed at the time and even considered suicide so I decided to push her out of my life. Two months later, she started talking to me again as my depression was lessening. During the nine months between that month and now, I felt like I was growing feelings for her.
Do I really love her? Or is it that I am seeking the comfort and happiness she gives?
>>17280737
>I'm in high school
I literally stopped reading there
>>17280737
Gotta be 18 to post.
>>17280737
>Do I really love her?
Do you expect us to tell you the answer to that?
>Or is it that I am seeking the comfort and happiness she gives?
There's nothing wrong with this. A lot of guys will tell you something along the lines of "I feel happy and comfortable with her" when you ask them why they like their girlfriends.
I have a guy that weve been hanging with the same friends for a while now but i have a crush on him. Where do i take him out so it seems friendly and not too straightforward to him?
Hiking somewhere.
What's the mistake?
>>17280984
This! I must know! Why would you do this, OP?