I've never posted here before, but I really need some perspective on this. I've never had any problems in bed, most girls I've been with cum a lot. I had one that would always get off 5 or 6, and one they would regularly get off 8 to 10...but this new one. I struggle horribly to get one, and I've rarely got two. I've been failing for a week to get her off and she's staying too think I'm not into her. I really want to keep her, I really want to fix this. I don't know that the problem is. Pic unrelated.
Another humblebragger.
When will this meme end?
>>17275907
If you don't want to give advice, just fuck off. I'm seriously at a loss here, and with the amount of people that get on 4chan someone has to of had a similar experience.
>>17275851
Perhaps more foreplay is needed? Try new positions? Or fetishes? Talk to the girl, not us anon
What easy jobs can I take in other countries and still live a middle class lifestyle?
I'm terrible at interviews, not very likeable and probably won't get the job I want here in the US, and I'm getting annoyed at the fact that you have to "sell" yourself and promote your personal "brand" to get a full time job.
I shouldn't have to pretend I like someone and am interested in them just get a foot in the door (networking).
Is there any way to get around this? Any easy full time jobs that aren't awful? Thanks guys.
>thinking you can just up and move to another country
>>17275803
but i can, so do you have any advice for me?
>>17275798
I don't pretend to like people, I just be unfakingly nice to people. It seems to get the job done.
As far as foreign countries, I have no clue. My guess would be to go to school in a foreign country and network -- being nice, but not necessarily liking people -- to an extent.
A lot of foreign countries seems to have markets for teaching people English, but you might not like that and who knows what your pay would be.
>be 28
>no gf in 5 year
>no friends virtual friends anymore (all online now)
work by myself and got my own place but the life of the recluse is getting to me.
can you even meet new people in a natural way anymore? All I even met was people from school/work previously. trying to do dating sites isnt working it feels to forced and the anxiety kicks in trying to small talk girls and i usually ignore them
how to meet new people and get past these days where im feeling blue as fuck?
>>17275724
Since you're not a complete retard and have a job. Start going out more.
Find hobbies that suit your interests.
Hell, go and read in a coffee shop for a few hours in your down time.
Eventually, if you put yourself out there you'll meet people and make friends.
It's true that the older you get, the harder it becomes; but you still should try to be social.
Take up a group hobby, join a club, pick up a sport or join a gym.
If you live in a city there should be a club advertising or something.
>>17275724
Be happy that you had friends and got laid.
Some of us didn't even get that.
Is there any place I can talk to people who enjoy ASMR? I've been trying to practice. I find it really nice to be able to relax people with only my voice but I can never find any places with people who feel the triggers. I've had countless friends saying I should start but I am unsure about youtube.
Any discourd, teamspeak, mumble type servers that might be related?
I guess not so much huh?
>>17275710
Honestly you'd be better of just jumping straight to YT. The ASMR community is one of the nicest ones out there, and there are plenty of people who'll be able to give you tips or pointers if you need to alter anything.
there's an asmr subreddit. just go there and ask you normie.
How do I assure myself tonight that tomorrow I will do the things I want/need to do and not procrastinate my day away for the umpteenth time?
You can't assure yourself the night before, unless you uber motivate yourself before going to sleep in order to wake up early. You have to actually start it the night before or you never will. This is a "do what i say, don't do what i do" deal cuz i failed hard like 2 to 3 weeks ago.
Just do it one day at a time
make a list of things you want to do
do and cross out at least one of the things daily until the list is done
pro-tip: the list is never done
Hello,
i live in social housing for 6 yrs in the UK and i have got a notice to seek eviction from the housing association, they said they could smell weed from my store room.
can i contest this, should i see the CAB, am i likely to have to be evicted, im worried
thanks
I don't know how contesting it would work. You can't prove a negative, i.e. that weed wasn't there, and even if they re-inspect, they'll just assume you moved/sold/smoked it to hide evidence.
I don't know how UK housing laws work, but call the council or the equivalent to discuss this, don't ask /adv/.
Unless you have a history of anti-social behaviour or they have proof you were growing to supply, they won't be able to touch you. It's likely that if they take any action, it'll be a notice or a warning and then the housing officer from your area will watch you like a hawk to a few months.
I work in this field and we have let people stay in houses for much worse.
Just be more careful in future and don't piss your neighbours off, you filthy pothead.
If all else fails you'll have a clean test after 2 weeks if you need it, besides that they can't throw you out for smell.
There is perfume that smells like weed, if you're clean you should be fine but if you live in a complex be so thoughtful and smoke while going for a walk and come back not smelly.
My GF took a morning-after pill 6 days ago and since yersterday she has not been feeling very well, having stuff like headcache and nausea. How it's possible to reduce those side-effects? She is also still bleeding.
That's not normal after six days. Take her to the damn doctor your mongoloid
>>17275496
You are legitimately retarded and should never breed. Ever. It's good that she's using the pill. Keep doing that.
>>17275510
>morning after pill
>it's good that she's using the pill
>keep doing that
Your heart is in the right place but you sound just as retarded
>grandma just died
>shit sucks and she was an amazing person but I honestly don't feel it that hard, people die
this isn't weird right? I'm not a sociopath I just don't think I'm really gonna be devastated about this, I'm more worried about how my mom is gonna feel
She wasn't as close to you as your immediate family.
That's just how it goes.
>>17275436
this is completely normal. i mean i imagine you dont see her often right. once a year? twice a year?
thats not like feeling bad that someone you saw once or twice a year just got busy. or a friend moved. its not THAT different. yes their life ended but in relation to you its not a big deal.
we all 'love' our grandparents and its great, but they arent like our parents who raised us from the beginning. you are not a bad person for not being devastated. the fact that you care about your mom\s feelings in this show you have deep love for those you bond with.
>>17275436
my grandmother died not long ago and i too felt little to nothing. I was not saddened by her passing . My dog died a week after her and i cried like a little bitch.
Sup adv
I need advice
I wanna change, i don't like myself, im always anxious, stressed out, unorganized, lazy, don't like people etc etc
How do i change myself? I don't expect it to be over night of course but in a year so i can look back and say im different for the better
I have a job, a good one at that, that im blowing because i suck, no social life whatsoever tho
I need a change because i don't feel like spending rest of my life like this, it fucking sucks
>>17275254
List out all the things that you want to change, then sit with that list and write out 1) What it would take to make that change realistically, 2) Benefits of that change and 3) A reasonable timeframe to do that change in. Commit to actually doing the steps towards your change as best as you can, focusing on the outcome i.e. I want to be a singer: 1) I need lessons, a demo tape and an agent--I will work toward each! 2) Becoming a singer will make me happy, as I fulfilled my dream. Money, popularity, etc. are also good. 3) Today I will look into where to get voice lessons, in a month a demo tape and/or an agent. Reaffirmation: I WILL be a singer if I stick to my goals and work at it in steps. GL!
>>17275254
Another vague bullshit thread.
Seriously kids, provide more info in your OP.
>>17275313
there isn't much more to provide honestly, dunno what else could i write
Just broke up with gf of almost 2 years. How long does the brain take to rewire itself into being as happy as I was before the relationship. I have consistent anxiety and lack of energy. Just really want this feeling to end.
No one went through some shit like this?
6-9 months (depending on how in love you were with her, how it ended, etc etc.)
It's pretty subjective so.....
>>17275257
Holy fucking shit... a few months would make sense, but the better part of a year? Never heard of that before
I'm tired.
My uncle came to live at home and he and his wife take care of his animals as a child.
Gives food pro dog on the couch, sleep with it, and get angry if I do not give the necessary care or exaggerated treatment.
They treat better dog than the children.
He despises his mother. It is rude to everyone, but speaks very generously with your dog.
What is happening?
Because all people think that way today?
Go fuck yourselves, it's just a dog!
And people who say, "animals are better than humans," go to hell, fuckers.
A dog deserves to be treated well, but everyone is going crazy. You do not see that they are getting emotionally needy? really!! I think that all is shortage. Psychology explains that when we are unsuccessful we cling to animals because we are not loved by ANYONE.
I do not know what to do, it's nothing against the dog. But I feel very angry to witness this every day.
How best to deal with it? It makes me angry to see it all.
>>17275178
Are you too scared to say that to his face?
>>17275181
what?
up
Hey people of /adv/,
I recently got a position helping around a charity store on weekends, and I was offered to either work on the cash register or help in the back, steaming/ironing clothes.
I kind of want to work around the front on the register, but I'm basically a shut in and I've not done anything like that before and I'm kind of scared of fucking up in front of people.
Am I just overthinking this because I've not done it before? I kind of want to know what I'm supposed to expect working out front on a cash register.
Man up.
>>17275166
>fucking up in front of people
Customers literally don't give a shit if you mess up a little unless you somehow give them the wrong change or something.
Just do it, you'll learn that way and realize that it's not nearly as big a deal as you're building it up to be.
I'm sure that this has happened to many of you before, but in my current relationship my partner seems distant around me, and they never reply/read any of my messages. Am I just being too paranoid, or has this lead to anything in your experience? I would appreciate any replies. (file not related)
I haven't spoken to my bf since last night because I'm depressed.
I do this when I'm depressed-- to everyone, not just significant others. I know others do this cocoon mode shit when their depressed too.
Could that explain the distance?
Use common sense.
>>17275139
It could, but they seem really bubbly and friendly when we're both around other people
Hey /adv/.
I recently got offered a job at a garden, lets call it Plugs.. but there was another job I was after, at a different garden, which we will call sinks.
I had the interview at sinks. Which went well.
However the head gardener at plugs has started to get everything all set up and organised for my arrival. He called me and said he had my e-mail set up and had me on the system at plugs and was looking forward to having me there.
If i get the job offered to me at sinks, then I will take that one.
So I called him back and explained that there is a job elsewhere which i have applied for, and if it's offered to me I will have to consider it, due to it being more in my financial range to live near it.
He said that he thinks i'd be better off at plugs, and that he is actually looking forward to me working there. He said to just keep him updated on how it goes.
The reason i told him was because I didn't want to waste his time if I was going elsewhere. Which I also explained.
I'm honest to a fault.
Have I just fucked myself over again?
I reckon he is going to call up and say not to bother coming into plugs.
I should have kept it too myself, but when someone like that bends over backwards, and offers support for moving up to the garden for me. I feel that out of respect, he should know that there is a chance i will take another job.
Just tell me i'm a fucking idiot please.
You fucked up, everything is ruined now. This was really stupid, you just sabotaged yourself. I can't believe what I just read.
People are generally understanding about things like this. You didn't fuck yourself unless you did it in an emotional way.
It's good to be honest with him that you're waiting on another position. I would not necessarily have said that I didn't want to waste his time overtly.
What's important is that you're polite, professional and you keep him in the loop.
>putting this much thought into a job that is literally watering plants all day
Go back to college, my man.
Maybe someone has gone through this before, and can advise me how to act.
TL;DR: same gender friend hitting on you. What to do/say?
>be me
>male
>have a girlfriend
4 am, a big friend, guy, of mine texts me, one night after we hung out with other friends on a bar "are you bi? I always knew, hottie. I found your haircut to tell so. I am, but I keep it silent hihihi". I kinda suspected he was, but I never cared to delve more into it.
So I answered, on the next day "No, bro, I'm not.. but don't worry, I won't tell anyone or anything. I'm sure you won't confuse our friendship with second intentions, right"
Which he replied "hahaha" minutes later.
On one hand I don't want to be very harsh on him, because I don't want him to think that him admitting to be bi means losing all friendships. And on the other hand, I don't want him to ever comment anything like that again, because it made me feel uncomfortable and I'd be forced to stop talking with him.
What do you guys think I should do? Leave it like it is, or send something else?
Feel free to comment how was your experience, if you had one.
Leave it. You did good.
>>17274853
Thanks. Anyone else has any more insights?
Nope, you did fine. Just continue with life as normal. Don't overthink it.