My partner is leaving me because of depression. My partners name is "J".
So J and me have been together for 5 years. I have health issues that have made me quit my job twice in the past and J has been supporting me. J and I have a child together. We haven't been married because we both share the same views on marriage, it's a business transaction that is more beneficial for financial reasons. Never thought to do it. We just think weddings weren't worth the hassle.
..J always told me we would be together forever. Been with me through everything. I'm currently relapsing on my health issue again and a couple weeks ago, J told me it's over and the the reason J did not break up with me sooner was because of the fear of loneliness.
I'm scared because I don't really have anywhere to turn to besides my parents house. I haven't talked to them in years because they abused me as a child. I've tried telling J that I would prefer to seperate when I can live on my own and find a job, it will take me 2 months maximum. I said I can't go back to living with my parents in the mean time, the abusive memories hurt me too much. J talked to my parents and they were willing to let me stay with them for a while. I tried to tell J: "no, please don't make me live with them while I get back on my feet. Please don't do this. I don't wish to have the people who abused me as a child to help me. I don't want to see them again. Just give me some time to find my own place." J's response: "I'm sorry but that's your problem and not mine."
I feel betrayed. I had no idea J would just leave so abruptly. I'm spiraling into a depression. Even if you don't want to be with someone anymore, there should always be a more civil way to seperate, especially when there is a kid involved.
Can anyone give me advice on what to do, besides get a job. I have panic attacks. I just keep hoping this is a bad dream because this is a person who had been there with me every step of the way.
What do I do.
Why are you trying so hard to hide your gender? It's obvious you're a man, because women will leave a guy with depression, but a guy won't leave a girl with depression.
Maybe stop being such a gigantic whiny bitch and realize that depression isn't even real??? You're just addicted to having whiny, bitchy ass thoughts and being a pussy, thats a better description of your illness.
My parter is leaving me because my partner has depression*********
Wtf, why are you people so mean.
Dont you have any friends you can turn to?
What is the point of short-term dating? What's the point of being with someone with the intention for it to fail?
mostly to introduce yourself to different personalities and people. Get exposed to new things and try out different things so you can better understand yourself and what you like and don't like. Not every coupling needs to end in happily forever after OP and it being labeled a "failure"
>>17268295
Best quote from a professor I had:
"Back then, dating was actually dating, not just an excuse to bang like bunnies."
I think that should explain.
to fuck
im bad at this crap but had to let it out
>be me, 19 yo
>go out with some friends
>at the end, bring girl i really like home
>have great conversation
>we reach her house, she asks to take a selfie
>we take it, she says we look great together
>i agree
>she gives me a goodbye-hug
>as she goes, says she loves me
>don't know how to react, say have a good night and leave
she has been avoiding me since (was like 2 months ago)
why am I like this?
you're a faggot
She told you she loves you during a one night stand?
Good riddance. Probably a psycho.
>>17268182
This unless you knew her for a while prior.
Not sure if i should keep seeing a girl or not, She is getting attached too quickly and I only want a fuck buddy and my ex used to be her friend
Make it clear you are not looking for a ship. It's her choice if she want's to invest her time into it.
Shes only 18 though
Abort. I doubt at this point telling her that you just want something casual is going to work. She'll tell you yes while thinking that you're going to fall for her eventually.
Let's theorize about subtlety and the subconscious
What do you think trading places signifies? If subject A was standing and talking to subject B, then they traded places over the course of the conversation, what goes on in their minds? Mirroring?
Could pattern mirroring become so powerful that key expressions between two subjects occur simultaneously? If both subject A and B developed rapport, and then both fix their hair at the same time, start talking at the same time, etc.
Has anyone had any experience with Pavlov's platonic touches? Touching an agent while they experience emotion, subconsciously linking emotion to touch. How evident was it?
How much do our eyes tell us about ourselves? They are the windows into the soul - or brain, rather. We generally can tell when a person is remembering or creating auditory or visual stuff, or when they are recalling emotion - but what else can our eyes say? What could eye-contact non-verbally create between two individuals?
>no one wants to discuss psychology on an advice board
Go to /x/ fag
>>17268386
Didn't you know this board is for trolling, shitposting, snd tfwnogf?
For what it's worth, I find the topic interesting and am lurking. However, I'm an occultist, not psychologist, so what I have to say is nor likely what you're looking for.
Hey guys,
A non-psychological question.
My sister started a small design clothes line (she's already selling) and we'd like to have it reviewed by people who do that - where can I look them up?
I know who to contact if Iwanted computer game or movie reviewed(doesn't mean the'll answer, but still) , but for clothing I have no clue. I promised her I'll ask around.
thanks
Why not ask on /fa/ ?
>>17268000
Didn't even know for this board. Thanks man. I only lurk in /tg/ mostly. thanks.
Etsy is a popular website where people can sell design clothes and other cute handcrafted things. Maybe it could be worth checking out. I think people can leave reviews there and there might be blogs/tumblr that focus on reviewing the various artists on Etsy.
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What do you do when you're sure you've found your soulmate, she shares every one of your interests and kinks and is 100% down for you, but she's like a 4/10 and that's being generous and you have mild social anxiety about people seeing you with someone ugly
then she ain't your soulmate dumbass. If she were you wouldn't give one single fuck what other people thought of you and her. Right now you're just being a pedantic little shit.
>>17267983
Fuckin' harsh bro shit, I admit my own anxiety's the problem didn't I
>>17267980
First, soulmates don't exist.
There are a few people who are highly compatible with you, but there's not The One.
If you can't get over the fact that you don't like her physically, just leave her.
Work on your social anxiety tho.
Alright /adv/, I currently work "full time" at a grocery store. I am actually a part time worker that is suppose to work 25 hours but I end up working 40 because we refuse to hire anybody and when we do the workers we hire are mostly incompetent. I make 10.75 an hour but I have to pay union dues. At the same time as working "full time", I am currently working on several projects related to my career (film) such as a documentary and a short indie film. I'm starting to feel that working 40 hours for shit pay is wasting my time. At the same time, I have credit bills, but it wouldn't be a big problem if I just worked part time hours, but the cash is nice. I just feel it's making me unhappy being at this job for basically nothing.
Have you tried talking to management?
So you 're saying you want to work part time and still satisfy your interests in films? Do that.
>>17267972
I should also elaborate that if I don't work full time, they will actually start scheduling me worse hours. So if I stop working 40 hours, they will not let me stay 25 hours. It's very illegal in my union to even have a part timer close to 40 hours
Ok know I know this is going to sound stupid. But the guy I got a date with has really thin lips. I like everything about him, he's really attractive and has the perfect personality for me. But I'm afraid kissing is going to be terrible. My upper lip is thin as well, while I'd say my bottom lip is average. Does this mean kissing him is going to be a bad experience? Is lip size related to being a good kisser, or at least, a factor?
Pic related, those are his lips.
>I worry over shit that doesn't fucking matter - the thread.
it's really not about the shape of the lips. you can have a perfect pout and kiss like shit and vice versa.
>>17267784
just waiting until you get his pants off! You think lips are the biggest worry, who boy...
I do it very frequently and there are a couple of women that heard me fart at least 25 times. The one works at a local ministore so I get the chance to go there whenever I'm gassy and break wind. Once , she was walking right behind me and I farted when shepassed through. She laughed at first but that was before she got to smell some. I've done more epic farts near other girls though. Anyways , is this an offence? Can farting like that get me in trouble?
>>17267591
t. Englishman
>>17267591
Can farting get you in trouble at work? I highly doubt it, unless you are in food service and it is an extreme problem.
You might not have a shot with any women you work with, but it's often best to not shit where you eat anyway.
>>17267635
I don't do this at work. I do this on purpose abd whenever I have the chance.
So, my gf and I have been dating for two months now, and she's a smoker. Die hard smoker. I don't mind the weed side, but when she smokes tobacco, I get really fucked off because of the obvious health risks and so on. When I try to talk about it, she pulls the guilt card: but anon, it keeps me calm (she reckons she has depression, but I don't know). I want her off the tobacco, but I don't know how to go about it. Any tips? Also, pic unrelated
She doesn't want your help, stop being a nag and fuck off.
It only keeps her calm because she's staving off withdrawal. She wouldn't need tobacco if she wasn't addicted to it.
>>17267427
Yeah, that's true. It'd be great if you could go around saying "hey you should do this, it's good for you" and be thanked and have them actually do it, but the world doesn't work that way.
OP, you only have partial influence over people. There are ways to tilt the odds in your favour - you should be encouraging, not accusatory. You should live a great life of your own, because when you look at people, you can tell how well they're doing. If your life is great, she'll likely want to be a greater part of it, and your opinions will hold more weight.
But you must always know it's never a guarantee to be able to change another's mind.
How to deal with having no specific talents, or finding/developing one?
I feel like I'm very unremarkable. I play video games, watch anime, and am interested in programming and science. I have no particular talents. I'm above average at most games, but not great at any. I can't draw, as much as I wish I could. I've never tried an instrument, but I feel like I'd be bad and I don't think Iits worth paying a large sum of money just to find out.
How can I develop or find a talent? I would kill to be able to draw, but myself practice isn't yielding progress and I've heard from how bad I am it should take literal years to become decent so that sucks. I'd love to play an instrument but I'm indecisive and probably naturally bad. I could probably get pretty good at a game if I focused myself time to just that one, but I'm once again indecisive and it's not something I can really show off.
What do you guys think?
>>17267148
Talents come from practice. No one is a master the first time. Find something you want to get better at and actually do it
>>17267148
Also you have a ever "meh" attitude. "I haven't tried this but I just know all be bad". If you don't over come that you'll be like that forever
Gotta buckle down and keep trying if it's something that interests you. Talent comes from hard work and persistence, man.
How do I make sure I never get tricked again?
attend Meme school and learn to discern the clever ruses of Master charlatans
>>17267247
There is no meme school
Broke up. First it was only anger, thought It's over once it ended. Now I'm missing her damn fucking much. I can't find interest in anything, nothing brings joy, I return to her in my head constantly. 3 weeks after now.
When does it go away? How to speed it up? Will it ever get better?
Anyone who's been through that?
Literally everyone who's ever broken up with anyone has been through this. It sucks, but it'll go away after a while, just go out and engage with other people, live life and try to not dwell.
Takes everyone a different amount of time to get past it. First time it took me 2 years. Last time took about 2 months.
>>17267024
well what helped me was hanging out with my friends and having a good time with them. eventually, i started seeing other people too and i realized there were "plenty of fish in the sea", just like what everyone says.
working out and focusing on my hobbies also helped. i also liked that i had more money to spare.
it does get better though op. i ended up meeting people who were much better than the ex that hurt me. i wouldn't be with my current if i had stuck to my ex.
I'm in need of advice, and i feel as if the only friend i have to confide in no longer wants to give it or doesn't know what advice to give.
Know this girl for probably over two years now, I see her maybe twice a week, some days she seems really into me, other days she seems like she hates me and actively avoids me. Its really kind of fucking me up because normally im good at reading people, but with her i just cant figure out what she wants.
I asked her out to dinner probably a year ago, she said sure and then just never responded when i got up with her later that week. I really don't want to ask again because I feel like after the first time it would be obvious she wasn't interested, and after that she distanced herself from me for like a month and then all back to normal, Lately she has been ABNORMALLY AFFECTIONATE with brief instances of avoiding me in between. I have also noted she only acts like shes interested when im not with friends.
Im not exactly a straightforward guy when it comes to emotions and feelings, most people are under the impression that i don't have any just because i don't act upon them or acknowledge them, always act logically.
Ive pro'd and con'd the hell out of dating her/asking her out, concluded i REALLY want at least ONE date with her, just because i might be slightly too overly invested emotionally, but im not sure a long term relationship would work out.
Add the fact that ive been single for not quiet two years now after a very long term relationship that ended badly and Im not sure how to even get back into the game anyways.
If anyone is remotely interested in helping me i do appreciate it, although it feels good just to talk about it, and if anyone wants more details or anything to help me get this sorted out in my head at the very least, please, im losing sleep and my mind has been stuck in daydream mode replaying and trying to make sense of it.
>Tl;dr: Girl probably playing mind games with me, and shes winning.
random pic
>>17266886
Just don't date her. Dating shouldn't be complicated like that.
>>17266886
you dont give to much information of her, but i think she's using u to make someone jealous or something like that, also ask her for a date dont be afraid time has passed and if you dont you will regret