>haven't cum in a day or two
>checking out other people, questioning my relationship, get annoyed with my partner to the verge of breaking up with no remorse
>masturbate/have sex
>good feelings about partner come back
>relationship issues don't seem like issues anymore, wonder why I was suddenly willing to give up my relationship just to fuck other people
Which is my real brain?
>>17279751
you posted a meme on sex, what do you think
>>17279751
Talk your partner about satisfying your sexual needs. It's literally your only job in a relationship, keep the other person moderately happy and satisfied and don't fuck anyone else.
>>17279751
Also, you're probably 16-21, and full of insane hormones. Just fuck until they're gone
How do I get rid of my fetishes? I'm hoping I can maybe remove a fair amount of my degenerate tastes and keep them to a minimum so I have any hope of getting laid and achieving orgasm in the future. I'm also just tried of fapping everyday, finishing, then come down from it only to be ashamed of what I'm doing/watching to get off. Honestly being able to stop wanking in general would be great, my multi-hour once a day fap sesh is probably hurting more than helping
>>17279681
exercise some more self-control and discipline, stop watching porn, go outdoors, find new shit to think about instead of porn and sex, you can do this anon... you're only hurting yourself by watching porn
>>17280155
What should I fill the void with? All I have is vidya and I even get bored with that sometimes
Fetishes are usually life sentences. In middle and early high school i was into pissing and BDSM, but i just stopped liking that one day. The rest of my fetishes haven't gone away. But they're pretty vanilla and probably not even fetishes. Unless it is something disgusting and repellant i wouldn't worry about it.
>qt3.14 adds me on FB
>starts conversation
>mostly joke around a bit
>stop talking after awhile
>months pass, see her post on fb asking if people play X game
>tell her I play X game but suck
>shes in the top 5% of X game
>play togethere, she usually does all the hard work
>she lives far away, but ask her to chill next time shes in my area
>she says yeah sure
>dont talk alot between games, often seems to stop replying
>keeps asking me to play with her though
what do
she gives off sort of a tsundere vibe at times
>>17279647
>>months pass, see her post on fb asking if people play X game
Attention whore. Girls don't play videogames.
maybe you just suck at conversation don't ask a lot of questions and be really confident at just chatting shit and ignoring her.
>>17279655
checked
also yeah this kinda sounds like me
so just tease her about stupid shit?
I've been told I talk like i have marbles in my mouth.
Any ways to avoid this? Like any exercises I can do to help my pronunciation?
your tongue might be too long
Is there a surgery for that?
If only there was a way to search the internet using keywords...
Something like "how to enunciate"...
>>17279552
Ironically, actually talking with marbles in your mouth can help this (for practice, onviously; not in general). Just make sure the marbles are clean.
Is it weird to have a lot of hair around your nipples?
If you're a man no
If you're a woman yeah
But both can be fixed with a razor, just dont slice your nip nips off
It's not weird for either sexes but it is more common in men. If you are female then it may be due to a hormone imbalance.
My ex had some around her nipples. It didn't bother me.
I have no idea what the relationship between me and this girl is. We kissed/made out a few times at mutual friend gatherings. We had sex one time so I'm assuming that means she's into me. The last time I saw her at a party she texted me saying the only reason why she went was for me. So if she's still apparent about liking me after the sex the sex couldn't have been bad or something.
I even had an insider (not by my own notion, this was independent) talk to her. he said something along the lines of "text her more" or something but i was drunk and I don't really remember. Now we don't normally text often and I don't like doing it too much because I want her to think I'm keeping my options open and making her go crazy for me. But she's a pretty busy gal so I'm not sure if it makes a difference anyway. Anyway I took the advice and decided to text on a more back and forth basis. I told her that night to come to my house the next day, and she said she would after she got off of work.The text conversation continued.
The morning after she did not respond to my last text. Now I usually get pretty anxious about double texting, and I keep worrying that maybe she changed her mind about me or something. She didn't respond to me but texted a group chat that I'm in with me and a few others for plans. We had another groupish gathering the day after and still didn't get a response the entire day. On a whim I went for the double text and asked her why she didn't come. She responds early in the morning saying that she had work very early. I've chosen not to respond all day because if I texted back too soon I feel like I would appear needy or desperate, especially after a "double text". If I like her, do I wait it out a few days and then spontaneously ask her to hang 1v1? My whole gripe on this is how she chose not to text me back that one time when I was under the impression she was really into me.
Stop trying to strategize. The worst thing about first starting to text someone is to second guess everything. Just text her when you want to text her. If she had work tough tits text her back saying "ok have a good day at work." people like that polite shit.
You strategize and it gets awkward and forced. no-one fucking likes awkward convos.
Man, as a girl I should say : stop fucking playing this games. You think that by not answering fast she'll like you better well let me tell something: this isnt a fucking movie
If u want a girl go there and get her. Show her you know what you want and definetely goes for it. Nothing is sexier than a confident guy. If your instintcs tell you she's messing with you Just let go
But for god sake stop playing games and man up
You want her? Make that clear
God, you Both had sex, its not like you went to the movies together. You fucked godammit
Make it clear that you're really into her. Chat, text, whatever
>>17279480
Why doesn't she WOMANUP and contact him for a date if she's so interested?
>all my friends on the east coast
>we try to live stream some shows together to chat at the same time
>all the pirate streams are shity, end up getting frozen even with 60mbps
i have directv access through ,my boss so could log on to the channels website and live stream from there. the problem is that its the west coast, cuz thats where im from. any way to spoof it so its east coast? preferrably without slowing it down a hella lot.
>>17279425
Look outside, I know that you'll recognize
it's summertime
>>17279603
Seriously.
Steaming shows and chatting? What are you 12?
>>17279603
Did you know this album is about a 8 year old girl that Coyne raped and her escapist fantasy/battle to cope?
My boyfriend told me the other day that we should change things a little in bed. We've been together for 1 usar and 6 months but our sex is not the same. I mean... iT's good but it's not mindblowing
I'm a woman with some self steem issues and it affects me. I don't like fucking on top because he'll see my belly and I'm not skinny at all...
He says he tottally loves me the way i am but the fact that I don't find myself vou fucks hoje everything.
I wanna have mindblowing sex but i feel that I dont know how to fico though i'm awesome ar blowjobs. What should I do? I love him and want to improve our sex life.
Obs: sometimes I fake i'm cumming...
I'm sorry for english mistakes. I'm brazilian and sometimes I get confused writing in english
You could try working out together if that is one issue, you'll find each other more physically attractive which may stimulate something in your sexy life.
You could simply ask him what his fetishes or fantasies are and move forward with those. Or vice versa tell him yours.
Try doing things that are spontaneous and out of the ordinary like being aggressive and making the first move somewhere other than when you're both in the bed.
I've been in a similar situation and from personal experience I found the only way to fix it is to be confident in yourself, in your appearance.
I know this is easier said than done but once I tried to see myself through his eyes and imagine how sexy I look to him I really learned to let go and the sex is incredible.
Only when you let go, forget what you look like and enjoy the moment will "mind blowing" be achieved.
Oh and some alcohol/weed/whatever helps lower your inhibitions, so that's always a good starter!
All of the things that make me upset are things that I can't talk about to people or are things I would get shit on for admitting. Mostly I'm a massive sexual degenerate, but I also have gender identity issues, I'm not straight, my only interests are extremely niche (tabletop rpg's), and my only solace is writing music about my feelings and putting them on my soundcloud. But I have to keep my soundcloud secret because I have a nice job, live in the deep south, and my music gives a lot away when it comes to who I am. People would start to question everything about me if they heard my music.
What do anons?
Lol not a single reply
Fugg
>>17279166
you could tell us about the things that make you upset
>>17279166
Move or try and meet like minded individuals through social media or in person. Or just vent on 4chan.
This self-depreciating degenerate shit getting old though. You can have fucked up fetishes and still be mentally healthy.
So i've been with this girl for about 6 months now. We had know eachother for about a year because we worked together but we didnt talk for another 6 months or so after she had gotten a new job.
She had randomly hit me up one day on snapchat and jokingly said DTF? and it actually happened that night, which is weird because I never saw myself actually hooking up with this girl, ever.
After we had hooked up we had a little "bed talk" or whatever you wanna call it and anyways she had said that we'd definitely have to do it again as a FWB kind of thing. The following day she had hit me up asking to come hang out, no fucking, and we did just that, but even later that same day we ended up hooking up again and hanging out for a little bit once again.
I'm going to save little details but it eventually turned into a seeing eachother every damn day thing for about a month and a half, we did acid, smoked, fucked, had "slumber parties" like she liked to call it and we basically whenever we weren't together we were talking about being with eachother.
It eventually turned into a relationship and we had been together for about 6 months up until 3 days ago. She loved me and I loved her. We actually had went on a 5 day vacation last week, and the following morning (saturday) I was back to work and shot her a message as a normally would and she ended up telling me "im not in the mood" after the 2nd text from me 3 hours later asking why she wont respond to my goodmorning text. Later that night after I got off my 2nd job she basically just said "I dont wanna do this anymore. I feel like you put in more effort than I do, and I can't handle how upset you get when I cant give you what you want".
I let her have her way but I showed up to her house 2 days later to apologize for making her feel like she couldnt give me what I was giving her and put all the blame on myself, but she continues to angrily insist that this relationship was something she never wanted (we originally told eachother we didnt even want a relationship anyhow, but it still happened for the right reason, or so I thought). and that finally, she just wants to 'figure out what she's doing' on her own, and 'doesn't want to have to rely on someone for happiness'. Ive been going back and forth with her the last 2 days trying to convince her that there's a reason were together and that shes overthinking things and that she shouldn't feel the need to convince herself that just because she didn't WANT it to turn into a relationship, that it doesn't mean she just has to take a 180 degree turn and completely drop our relationship.
Does anyone feel like they've ever been in this position? I've been asking for her to give it one more chance, and to just give it one more day but she just keeps telling me its not what she wants and that she's just better off alone. I just can't sit back and tell her im okay with her making this decision after we had spent several months happy and in love. she says she still loves me, and cares about me, and swears that she doesn't want to start a new relationship with someone else, but insists that I just let her go. I feel crazy that I have to force her to believe that it isn't a bad thing that this relationship came to be, or maybe that Im selfish I cant just let her have what she wants, because I find it so hard to believe that she could just make a 180 just like that.
I never forced it to become a thing. Whenever she had mentioned our agreement (that we didnt want a relationship) I took a step back, but she still continued to invite me into her life when clearly the control was hers.
One last thing I forgot to mention, I told her I just wanted one last chance to sit down and discuss this shit. Or to just be together and maybe she can decide maybe she's making a mistake. She finally agreed that we can see eachother after work tomorrow (we work together at one of my jobs) and I'm not even sure what I'm supposed to do. I don't feel like I should have to be convincing my girl what's right for her, but I just can't comprehend her thought process on this whole situation, I've been raking my mind for the right words to say to her but I feel like i've exhausted every word that could motivate her to think differently about the situation.
I had some crazy idea to do one more acid trip with her and spend some kind of special night together. Im only convinced that this is a good idea because I swear I realized how in love WE were the first time I had tripped with her (the following morning after our first trip she actually asked me "am i your girlfriend", even though I would've never dared to ask her that). I doubt she'd be willing to try it, but I need to keep this girl in my life. Maybe Im selfish because she doesn't feel the same way, and most people i've talked about this to already have basically just told me to give her time, but I just feel like time isn't what will fix this. Im convinced that she will 100% never reconsider her decision if I'm not actively fighting for her back.
bumping for advice
Hi all need some /adv/ i have a job interview tomorrow for a data entry position, thing is i exceed the minimal requirements.What is the right way to ask for higher wages than the minimum offered?
forgot to add that the application says 13-16an hour, what can i say if they offer anything under 16?
>>17279124
Ask about advancement opportunities and mention that, while you are interested in the job, that it would be more attractive to you if the pay was closer to $__________ due to experience, education, etc. As it is a data entry position, though, this is a risky step: There's lots of people going for those jobs, and some are willing to accept the minimum offered, so be ready to feel this one out and negotiate if they're willing to even consider higher pay. GL!
>>17279193
Thanks, A friend told me best i could do is just say "I was hoping for X amount"
I just started texting this girl today but I've been talking to her at work over the past few weeks. She acts pretty flirty around me and I constantly catch her looking at me.
I'm fairly good looking and fit, and i am pretty confident, I just don't want to end up friendzoned, which seems to happen to me time and time again when I text girls.
So any help and tips to keep the convo going strong and how to keep from getting friend zoned?
OP here, I guess I should mention she didn't give me her number I just messaged her first on twitter
>frienzone
there is no such thing
if she likes you as a friend and is available attraction kicks in and a relationship forms
your real concern should be making it clear about your intentions
you can do that by being honest and straightforward
you think she looks cute: tell her
you want to kiss her: tell her and then do it
>>17279171
Never post on /adv/ again
I don't understand myself.
I currently have a "fuck buddy" who happened to take my virginity. I'm an introverted, shy, beta dude who finally got laid. Pretty sweet, huh?
Now, the fucked up part is that, while I have this friend of mine that I'm active with, there's another girl that I like romantically. She too is an introvert, awkward, and really connects with me when we communicate.
Why do I have the confidence to go from 0-100 with one girl, but struggle to share my feelings with the other? How do I get over the fact that I'm doing something with one, while wanting another? I feel like shit fucking this girl, but it all came out from my frustration of not getting laid. Now that I have, I should drop her.
Still, how do I build up the confidence to tell this introverted girl that I like her?
>>17279006
You're putting the introverted girl on a pedestal, Have the same attitude you have with the fwb girl.
>>17279011
This.
Basically you actually have feelings for one girl and not the other. You don't care if your fuckbuddy leaves you, but if you get shut down by the other girl suddenly that hurts.
There is literally no solution to avoiding that potential situation. So just nut up and go after her.
>>17279011
The fwb friend, while she's pretty cool to be around with, I don't feel any romantic connection. This has to do with the lack of common interests. Music tastes are different, movie tastes are different. It just does not feel like the quality of a close relationship. We do talk a lot about random shit and that's always fun.
Introverted girl lives streets from me opposed to fwb who lives a city away. I have not yet, but I can arrange a hangout with introvert and execute it in 10 minutes easy. Not only that, but our conversations are actually very... touching? We literally connect on every interest, and her being a computer science major like me completely won me over. I met her in CS class too. Just, everything about her personally I feel in touch opposed to fwb girl.
How do I communicate my feelings with introvert though?
I hate my life but I don't have the motivation to make it better. I just fantasize about killing myself because it would be so much easier.
What's the deal with that
>>17278951
Sounds like depression. Maybe talk to close friend?
>>17278955
I've been on meds/therapy treadmill several times before and it didn't prompt any major changes.
>>17278960
Tell us more about yourself anon
>Britfag
>MathS undergraduate
>masters degree any job I want 300k starting
All jokes aside, I've just finished my third year at university and its all gone so fast.
I'm at home for the summer and I have 3 months with little to no commitments at all.
I want to make the most of my time at home. I live next door to the gym, I take some time out of my day to research what I'm going to be studying next year, and I am more than content with playing video games the rest of the day.
My life is almost perfect. The only thing I wish I was doing was earning some cash.
I recently got my door supervisor licence and I'm looking for a job, but I'm living in a tiny seaside student town in Wales, It's quiet this time of year and all the other obvious jobs have been taken.
So I am wondering, without any real experience or qualifications, are there any jobs or is there anything I can do myself to bring in a bit of income? I don't wanna sit on my ass for the WHOLE summer and achieve nothing..
>seaside town
Work on a fishing boat.
>>17278805
Not a bad idea
I'll ask around the harbour
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