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>>17269784
get out more often and talk to other people about their stuff instead of your shit all the time.

Too scary? Too hard? That is just how you do it.

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>>17269784

>redpilled

do you want to save the white race with me?

>>17269784
>red-pilled
>have cats
Clearly not redpilled at all.

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1. Wholegrain oats is one of the most low-cal and satiating foods around. A cup of it microwaved with some water will fill you up like crazy.
2. Broccoli is good for vitamin C and fibre. Can be quite good raw or steamed.
3. Beans of just about any variety will work. Good for protein and can be prepared in a number of ways.

>>17269774
Avoid pretty much everything processed.

cook things from scratch as much as you can.

Get a rice cooker and have rice with everything and reduce portion sizes of everything else. the rice will help you feel full.

Have popcorn as a snack over everything else.

Ditch all sugary drink cold turkey. This is probably the hardest but most influential in weight loss.

>>17269783
>>17269786
Thanks guys. Much appreciated.

>>17269756
you are craving social iteration and intimacy.

Expand your social life. Get out more for anything and everything. Try to make friends and meet people. And yes it is scary and yes it is hard, but anything worth doing always is.

>>17269760
Yes i am. and it's not hard for me to go out or fuck a girl... it's the intimacy feels like i'm missing something. I can't connect with most people either. Never had trouble getting sex.

ill be ur friend, add me on steam : dilapidated asshole

>>17269705
You have to be good at SOMETHING.

pic related?

just graduated college with mediocre grades
good at nothing
no experience
what can i do with my life

>>17269675
Theoretically yes.

In short there are a number of chemical and psychological benefits to pair-bonding. These benefits like muscles degrade with neglect and improve with use. Social skills, oxytocin and serotonin being some just off the top of my head.

>>17269698
Great, this is what I was asking about.

Do you have any links to articles/websitexs that talk about this in-depth?

>>17269703
No afraid not but its an easy google. I say theoretically yes because i base it on my own understanding of brain chemistry and biology. hugging releases oxytocin and serotonin, which improves your bodies ability to release it, conversing with a familiar person improve connection in speech pathways of the brain etc etc,

But then again, four months later I received a text from her, telling me she miss me and stuff.

Well, we talked for about two hours before she stopped replying my messages. This was repeated in many ocassions. She stops replying at a certain point and won't text me back. I'm not an idiot (or am I?) so I haven't claim her or asking why she does that.

Yesterday, she texted me that we should hang out. And that's why I'm here.

Have you ever been in a situation like this?
What the hell is going on?

Ask for details, if you need them.

auto-bump

Conversations end. It's not something to worry about. She started messaging you again because she misses your company. Whether it's as a friend or something more is something you'll have to find out yourself.

Yeah, just do it.

There'll be a chance that the negative shit outweighs the positive, but what if it doesn't? You could've struck gold and narrowly missed out on it. There'll always be a chance negative shit happens, but there are tricks to tilt the odds in your favour. And being risk-averse is not one of them.

If you're having doubts like this before it even begins, don't do it. A bad relationship is NOTHING but stress. Just walk away and keep looking

Honestly, don't get yourself into something you're not 100% sure about. You'll start feeling guilty and the girl will soon clock that you're not into it as much as she is. That will lead to a fucked situation full of drama and general shit which you don't need in your life. I'd try and slowly get out of there without too much fallout - you don't wanna waste your time with girls who you don't think are the absolute shit. Hope it all goes alright for you

>>17269588
Does the thought of here dating someone else upset you?
If yes you should ask about being a couple.

Quite frankly from what you have said you should at least take a swing. marrying a girl that is a friend is awesome and is claimed to be the best relationship. And from what you have siad you have feelings for her.

Remember regret hurts a hell of a lot more longer that rejection.

Why even bring it up just go hang out with her alone just the two of you, doesn't even need to be a date and see how you jive then get close and in the moment make the call on kissing her or not sheesh louiesh

>>17269602
>>17269602
>>17269602

The thought of her dating someone else does upset me. It's kinda like a "damn, that could be me" kinda thing.

And about the marriage thing, I'm gonna open up my shallow, childish side here again and say that by the time I get married I would've liked to been with other women. The thought of only being with one woman ever makes me uncomfortable

And it is true what you say about rejection. I'm sure I could bounce back

SAT? MCAT? LSAT? Final exam?

>>17269553
Nah, non academic, it's just something I love.

>>17269571
Well your stomachache will get better and you'll get another chance at it.

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you go out to have fun and meet someone you have an attraction to.

>>17269447
Not everyone gets butterflies in their stomach, and if they do, it can come later. It all depends on the weird chemical concoction going on in your brain--your brain just does whatever the hell it wants. If you're wanting a relationship, go for someone that you would be friends with.

Whatever you want. Don't do anything because you feel like you're supposed to do it, go out with her if you want to.

But in my personal opinion, if you're single, there's never any harm in getting dinner and having a conversation with someone. Get to know her a little bit, maybe you'll become more attracted, or maybe you'll realize things aren't gonna work out. And either way, you won't have to walk around wondering what might've happened. A date doesn't have to be a big deal

>>17269364
You suck it up and you go. Graduation ceremonies aren't for your, they're for friends, families, and parents especially, who have supported you. Had they not supported you financially you could've gotten away with telling them no, but this is really the least you could do to show some gratitude. This is coming from someone who is pretty much in a similar situation to you who graduated in May and begrudgingly went to graduation for those reasons.

Go, for your parents' sake.

I wasn't in the same position as you - I actually worked hard for my degree. But I did two degrees (a BA and an LLB), and because of this, it took a lot longer than normal to get a BA (still finishing off my LLB atm). As a result, I knew pretty much no one when I graduated it, but I went anyway. It wasn't bad, we have allocated places, and the two girls I was between were both really nice and I had a class with one of them so we had a good chat. My boyfriend and parents came, and they seemed to enjoy it enough too.

My boyfriend was the same as you, he didn't put much effort into his degree, so he didn't feel like he deserved to go to the ceremony either. His parents didn't expect him to go, so he graduated in absentia, and that was fine for him

>>17269372
>>17269379
The whole ceremony sounds awful though. I won't even be with my parents for most of the day since I have to be running around collecting the robe and hat and their tickets for the day. Whilst they wait in a separate queue for the chance to be in the graduation hall because there aren't enough seats. (Most watch a livestream in a larger modern auditorium).

I just know my Mum isnt gonna enjoy it and is gonna make a snarky comment.

>>17269333
No, stop taking the fucking internet seriously.

>>17269333
just leave the request hanging and ignore it
or accept and unsubscribe to feed and never look at it

If you accept and unsubscribe, she'll still be able to see all of your stuff.

I think just ignoring it is the best bet.

You left on good terms, and that's a good thing, but you aren't required to remain a part of her life.

You're too insecure. Does she actually do anything wrong?

I was in the same position once. It really only goes away if you work on your self esteem.

But if she is really too flirty or something I guess you could leave her. But you won't.

>>17269403
Is having a sleepover with one of her girlfriends and both of her exes worthy of leaving her?

>>17269323
>Other guys have kissed her. (4-5 Times)
Yeah, that's not one-sided if it's happened that many times. She's seeking this out and sending the wrong signals to other guys.

>I don't really trust her
>Should I leave or stay?
It doesn't matter how much you love her or if she's gotten rid of her guy friends. If you can't trust her, and she has the ability to interact with males (work, school, public, etc), the same thing will happen. Because she can't be trusted.

>>17269221

>Their marriage is a weird thing, but I still don't want to try to break it up. They have nothing in common, and she loves him, but isn't in love with him. He's nice to her and lets her do whatever, and he's a doctor, so combine all that with a desire for companionship, familial and societal pressures, and you get their marriage.

You're an emotional outlet, nothing more. If it wasn't you, it would be some other guy. Your situation is so common and so sad, because you think that she genuinely feels for you. She's emotionally cheating on her husband and justifying the things she does by blaming everything but herself.

>She did say we were soulmates.
Yeah, for now. Wait until the husband reads these conversations or she finds someone to bond with in her country.

>>17269221
She's an idiot who is taking her partner for granted and doesn't realize how good she has it. "I love him but I am not in love with him" is code for "I am way too immature to appreciate men who treat me well and probably have serious issues to work out before being in a relationship"

You're really playing with fire with this chick. I would not touch anyone with a ten foot pole of they suck at relationships this bad. But that's just me.

>>17269248
Dang, I never thought of it like that.
>>17269265
Sucking at relationships, that sounds fair. Is there even hope of one here?

Fuck marriage.

>>17269102
Stay away from rings.
Bracelets can get in the way and need to be removed even more often than rings.
Earrings are changed out to match outfits daily.

Go with pendents/necklace. The necklace itself should be simple. A plain, thin gold chain. The pendent should be something that sticks out, and can be worn with both casual clothing and to show off with a lower neckline shirt.

>>17269174
Femanon here, basically agreeing with this poster. Get a necklace, not a ring, bracelet or earrings. I'm just gonna add: take a look at the jewellery she already has too and try to get something in a similar style - jewellery tastes vary a lot and if it's outside what a woman likes to wear, she probably won't like it.

>>17269174
>>17269190

Another femanon, agree with these two posters. Just make sure that while you get something similar to what she has that it's not so similar that it feels like a copy of something she already owns. She may like gemstones, a particular type of metal, certain chain sizes, etc. Those are the details you'll want to pay attention to.