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My GF has a friend who she used to make really intense sexual jokes with. Hanging out with the guy for the first time, he made a sexual comment to her in front of me that made my jaw drop.
I didn't say anything about it until sometime later. I let her know that I don't understand their friendship and that the sexual comments are a bit much for me to put up with.
After the "we are just friends" speech, she relented and said, yes this crosses a line.
So I went and snooped on her and his insta and twitter and found out that they went to a few highly sexually charged events, that she suggested he be her boyfriend and all sorts of stuff like this.
Now I'm not proud of the fact that I went snooping but I feel like I'm in a "where there is smoke there is fire" sort of situation.
She maintains that they have curbed this sort of behavior, that they no longer really talk because she spends most of her time with me anyhow.
But I can't help but feel that this is more than just a friendship and these jokes are not merely jest.
I did get ugly and say I don't want her to be friends with someone who would disrespect our relationship like this, but I also don't want to be a controlling asshole.
I did her that I would be checking her/his social media and if something seems strange, she should know I would be aware and bringing it up. She interpreted this as a threat, but I really just meant to say I was suspicious and would be treating it as such.
What do I do? I'm 100% not ok with this kind of shit.
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Its not really up to you who your girl is friends with buddy, you can tell her what makes you uncomfortable, but outright demanding who she can and can't hang out with is controlling man. On the flip side if she doesn't take what you say into account and at least try to limit what she does to push your buttons then she's a cunt who's not worth your time regardless.
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>>17299208
Ofc she can be friends with the dude if she wants. Despite my initial feelings, I told her its fine and I can't make that choice for her. I'm just saying that there is a line of respect that shouldn't be crossed.
Clearly it was in this case and I think I have every reason to believe that they are interested in one another as more than just friends. But I still relented.
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>>17299198
what was the sexual comment that made your jaw drop?
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Hey /adv/
My parents are going out of town for the weekend and my friend talked me into throwing a party.
However, while I have been to a party, I've never had a party at my house before.
I was wondering if anyone had any tips for making this be fun/go smoothly etc
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well, what kind of plan do you have? how many people? how much space do you have, how much money do you have to spend?
Normally you shouldnt let others let you push you to make a party.
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>>17298827
I'm not really against the idea, I just probably wouldn't have chosen it myself
I have no plan so far but smaller is probably better. I don't have much money really, but BYO for parties is the standard here. My house is bigger side of average.
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>>17298806
As someone who recently graduated uni and having dealt with many parties in the past, I suggest one very important thing:
The only time any crazy bad shit will happen if people get too drunk. To solve this, provide a central mixer for the party. Tell them ahead of time as to entice them to come but also discourage them from bringing a lot of their own shit.
When you make this mixer, you make it super weak. Problems solved.
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How have you improved yourself in the past year /adv/?
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Surprisingly last year's july I promised i won't act like an autist anymore, dyed my hair to mark that and
>started to be more vulnerable with relationships
>cut ties with emotionally abusive friends, with whom i associated, because mom whined i have no friends
>become more open, try to tell about myself, even if i think it's too lame
>attempted to try to listen and be interested in other people
>stopped wallowing in despair and fixed my college work ethic mistakes (a bit)
Now I have strengthened my friendships and it feels good that someone besides my family appreciates me.
And i feel less of a loser maybe.
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>>17298756
Grats anon, keep it up
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I love that only one anon replied, it tells something about 4chan
I fucked up hard /adv/
I dated a trap or a MtF transgender for the past 6 months. Recently I decided to break up with her because she is too clingy and is already trying to controll my life.
The thing is all my friends and family doesn't know I'm dating her because they might think I'm gay. Now she intends to say it to my family and friends. She is passable and qt but she says she will show her shepenis and boipussy to them just to show I am gay.
What do now? I can't breakup with her since she will definitely do it. What are my options?
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deal with it, youve been gay all along anyway
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No she won't.
If she does, tell your friends/family you didn't know and you broke up when you found out
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but you are gay anon
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Dealing with a girl's self doubt
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I'll be talking with a girl, and then suddenly out if the blue she'll say something like "am I annoying you?" or something along those lines. I've noticed I get this a lot when I start getting closer to girls - they seem to have a huge sense if self doubt or the feeling that they're unworthy of happiness. What's the correct way to deal with this? Or should it be seen as a red flag?
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Chad what the fuck are you doing on 4chan man
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all girl/women are like that deep down, some show it more obvious some less
> "am I annoying you?"
you asking me if you're annoying is annoying
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>>17298668
Are you absolutely sure you are not unconsciously signalling boredom or annoyance in your face or body language? Maybe it is not they who are at fault.
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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Here's a question for the girls
>Set up online dating account years ago
>Enter wrong birth year - it says I'm a year older than I am as a result. Don't bother changing it (just never get around to it)
>Start seeing girl who is a year older than my actual age
>Seem to hit it off, really like her
>She asks when my birthday is
>Remember my fuck up on the website, realise she thinks I'm the same age as her
>Tell her it's at the end of the year
>She now thinks I'm slightly older than her
tl;dr basically sort of lied to the girl I'm seeing about how old I am because I was worried she'd think I was lying and not want to see me again if I told her about what I did wrong on the website.
Girls: how would you feel if the guy you were seeing told you this one day?
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Bump...I thought these threads generally took off more
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>>17296560
I'd start to question what more he is hiding. The lie in itself isn't that bad, one year here or there, unless you are underage, doesn't really matter. You should've come clean when the opportunity came, I don't think she even remembered your age from the site.
How should I answer these questions?
>Why do you want to work at <pizza restaurant>?
>Do you consider yourself a leader?
>Can you provide examples of how you were able to effectively manage employees at past jobs?
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>I need a job
>Yes
>Yes I can
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>>17300799
>to further my cooking experience and gain experience on what it would be like in a restaurant cooking all day
>are you going to be stupid and say no
>use an actual example or make one up, if it's babby's first job name or make up a real world example
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>>17300799
*pizza restaurant* offers great pizza for a _____ price. People get excited when they order a pizza, and it's usually a special treat. I love baking, rolling dough, and making sure that we're able to reliably deliver a great pizza to our customers.
Yes, I do consider myself a leader. In the past, when I worked at _____, one of my favorite memories was when I helped my team to _____ . I think that real leadership is helping to bring out the best in people and creating a great, inclusive atmosphere.
When I worked at ____, one of our employees had a problem with _____. It was really an ongoing issue. So what I did was sit down and communicate with him the standards of our team, and let him know that if he wasn't willing to live up to those standards, he wasn't going to be a part of our team anymore. Luckily, he decided that he valued his job and he's still working there today. He even got promoted to assistant manager! (or talk about how you taught an employee to do xyz or managed a conflict between two employees)
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How do I get revenge on the guy that psychologically abused my family for years? And I need it to be subtle enough that he doesn't know it's me, but it still drives him insane,
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You don't.
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>>17300750
Not going to work. He's got watly more practice than you, and even he couldn't keep you from knowing it was him.
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>>17300750
By becoming better despite his shit
What am I doing wrong? I just seem to fail with every girl I'm into
>Girl 1: High school, See that she's one of those quiet types,might possibly be shy,but ultimately seems more social than I was. Thought she probably hasn't went on many dates, or ever been asked out. She somehow keeps, "forgetting" that I asked her out.
>Girl 2: High school. Shes a cheerleader, one of those really popular girl types for lack of better description. Flirted with her as a joke, not expecting much wasn't expecting to get anywhere. Hear that she thinks i'm cute, and that she would probably have gone out with me if she wasnt already dating someone.
The rest are my College encounters
>Girl 3: Meet girl at orientation. We have the same class together. Become good friends with her,hung out with her almost everyday after class. Asked her out a few months later after meeting her. Tells me she would rather stay friends. We still are good friends now, but now shes currently dating my other friend. I don't really feel any attraction towards her anymore.
>Girl 4: Meet her at the bus stop,that goes back to our dorm. Strike up a conversation with her, She's keeps smiling at all my shitty jokes. Ask for her number,before we leave, and she gives it to me. Call her up and no answer. Tried it again a different day, still no answer. Never talk to her again. She still waves and smiles at me when we pass each other.
>Girl 5: Find out this other girl I was interested in is part of my new group of friends. Find out shes an insanely huge weeb, More than I could ever be. Even studied in Japan a few times. A lot more responsible than I am, and she lives off campus,alone. Might actually be a workaholic. Apparently doesn't think much about 3D guys, only cares for her husbandos. Rejected me because she was too busy for a relationship. Find out later she might be asexual. I find out asexuality is actually a thing.
Am I doing something wrong here?
Cont.
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>>17300693
Simple, you care too much. Just let shit happen naturally instead of feeling bad that other people are living their lives. Live your own as well and everything will fall into place.
The last one is funny though, Asexual? That's conman speak for "Not into your body, but maybe your wallet."
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>>17300693
Okay maybe there is no Cont. Just thought i should point this out incase yore waiting for more.
But over the course of this time period, I've changed quite a bit, some good some bad. I've actually became a hell of a lot more social than I was in high school. But I just cant figure out where I'm going wrong.
Theres this girl I'm really into right now, and i'm almost certain i'm going to fuck it up.
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Tl;dr
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2 weeks sober here and it's getting harder everyday. Depression seems to be getting worse, like a lot worse. Before I was just drunk and gloomy, now I'm sober and suicidal.
Any /adv/ice?
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One drink won't hurt.
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Keep going forward. Don't hide your problems with alcohol, face them instead.
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workout, eat better, find something to do and stop drinking.
Busy beats sad. Tell yourself it'll get better.
read the book "feeling good" david burns. Go search the pdf or w/e.
Get therapy if you can. Switch therapists if it sucks.
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Is trying to get with someone at work a bad idea? I just started a new job about 2 weeks ago and there is this ridic cute redhead that works there. We catch eyes ocasionally and smile and we've joked around with each other. I don't that much about her because I'm usually too busy working but she seems aiite.
I know i need to pull the trigger before any interest/tension wanes but im hesitant to start something because what if it goes wrong? I really like working there, and although I feel I could handle any fallout, I don't want anything to get awkward.
I'm not really worried about her saying no to me asking her out, there are girls everywhere. Just curious as to your guys' opinion about dating in the workplace. Pic related, should I pull the trigger?
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>>17300561
>Just curious as to your guys' opinion about dating in the workplace.
If the job is not important to you and it wouldn't affect your life if you lost it, go for it.
If you need this job in any way, keep your dick in your pants and be professional.
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Dating someone at work is generally a bad idea.
If it's a large company and you work in different depts and don't really see each other, it might work.
Think of it this way, if things go south, one of you will probably need to quit.
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>>17300595
This. It's a better chance of something happening, so don't shit where you eat. Unless you're OK with working around someone you no longer have good vibes with, and most people are not.
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Is cosplaying, trying to roleplay as shared otps too cringey?
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>>17300536
Nah sounds fun. I wouldn't tell anyone about it though.
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Privately, no.
Publicly, yes.
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>>17300547
I wouldn't either, of course
Are you a boy or a girl, anon?
I am a girl and it's hard to imagine guys can put up with it.
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What should i do if i quite possibly have ptsd and have no money to afford therapy to get clinical help and a proper diagnosis
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Avoid what causes it?
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Where are you located, OP?
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>>17300512
I would save enough to have proper diagnosis before you try to treat something you THINK you have.
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>Start talking to girl
>Text all day every day for 2 weeks
>Constantly entertaining each other
>Develop crush
>Think she might have a crush on me too
>Decide to go for it and ask her out
>Don't actually use the word "date"
>She says yes
>Going to eat dinner then go to animal shelter
>Pick her up and take her to restraint
>She starts talking about the due she fucked last night
>MFW
Is there any hope at this point and if there is should I even pursue it?
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Ask her if she knows any cute boys faggot
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>>17300490
She's either clinically retarded or a complete bitch. Or both. Likely a combo of both. What she did was wildly inappropriate, even if you were just her friend. She shouldn't be that chummy about her sex life 2 weeks into knowing ANYONE, friend or potential partner.
Time to bail, OP. She's fucking gross.
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>>17300497
She thought I was gay in highschool
>>17300499
I honestly feel so disgusted/disappointed. I just don't want to feel even worse about it that I didn't do anything else later on.
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Is it weird to not like women? Not in a homosexual way, but I just don't like them as people. I don't care about anything they have to say. I don't find them funny. I don't enjoy being around them. I still want to fuck them though. How do I explain this?
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>>17300439
Women are fucking dumb
More news at 11
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People are afraid to admit this even anonymously.
This thread is bait for white knight shitposting.
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either gender will find 95% of the other gender pretty unappealing to say it nicely.
When i was young and antisocial I never had a good conversation with a girl and at some point just stopped because they were of no interest for me. But in college things changed and i got along with them better, found some girls who are chill and friendly and then I found my first GF and other chicks that are nice to talk to.