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I think teaching yourself to have more realistic expectations of how life goes would do you good. I know fiction paints a picture in your mind of what you want, but it's not a reliable example. learn to self soothe.

Man up, weak pussy bitch!

>>17300871
You really shouldn't depend on other people, against common belief i think you will just give yourself the support to act this way and drag the other person down along with you.
>>17300877
He is more of a submissive beta.

if your friend likes her too, that's a problem. friends competing over girls is bad news.

but it's not impossible. try to relax a bit and be casual. get used to the idea of being okay with however it turns out so you're not dealing with it intensely. then, if you want to give it a go, approach the girl casually, being like "i think i could like you as more than a friend, would you like to do something sometime, like a movie, a meal, etc?" that way, if she's not down, you just say "that's cool" and nothing changes.

>>17300883
Do you think i'll really be able to get used to this situation? It's been 3 years. Sometimes i don't even sleep thinking about this and even when i do most of the times i dream about her. It's destroying me.

>>17300902
I'm saying this as a compassionate third party: you're being overly dramatic. I understand why. Love, romance, yadda yadda, very drama. But being dramatic is not going to get you anywhere good.

You will be able to get used to it because you're going to believe you can and make it happen. It's not destroying you, you just feel strongly about it.

You'll do better overall if you look at this more as casual dating than pursuing the love of your life and performing grand gesture after grand gesture and pitting friend against friend like they do in the animes and stuff.

There's no such thing as destiny. You like her, you like the look of her and her personality and, probably moreso than any other aspect, you feel COMFORTABLE around her. But you can feel that way about another girl someday too.

Don't let yourself get hung up on not having any experience. It doesn't make any difference. People who have lots of experience with kissing and fucking can still be terrible at it.

become a elephant

listen to evanescence

Leave 4chan

>>17300817
Post a pic or don't even bother calling yourself decent, we know you're ugly and don't even deserve a 4

>>17300817
Your life seems boring, why would you want such a boring sex life aswell.
>had sex with 18 with a tinder bitch.
I can see that tinder will be known as a free sexclub in 5 years from now.

>>17300817
Don't bother posting a pic.

Tinder is for fat girls to attentionwhore.

Total waste of time.

leave yourself open to be texted by her

let her text you stuff and don't get offended

she'll quit eventually when she burns herself out, but don't get involved in any debates

that's a way to be nice, if you know she needs it

>>17300780
She will go full yandere and hunt you down again desu.

Rip it off like a band-aid and get it over with. Tell her it's not her fault, and that it's over. If you have mutual friends, tell them about it first and ask them to help her through it.

>>17300779
They're gonna do shock therapy on you.

>>17300866
If it's good enough for Princess Leia, it's good enough for OP

>>17300779
if they suggest concerta you should probably say no. it makes you suicidal and anxious as fuck. that stuff fucked me up in elementary/middle school

>>17300772
Yes, unless you are in a formal setting. In that case, you can simply place her hand in yours, make eye contact, and smile.

In a professional setting, if she is not too much older, then you might be able to actually shake it. Depends on where you are from.

Nah just wave or nod.

>>17300782
>>17300848
Ok going to kill myself now then, thanks

I also suck at math.

I guess you could target where you are lacking.

Khanacademy. Practice. Persistence.

You are longer bad at math.

>>17300763

This isn't asking for advice.

Because it's a cat.

Cats sometime bite to show affection. If there's no hissing or growling, don't worry about it.

>>17300756
It's a show of affection. My cat does it too.

my girlfriend is becoming an art teacher, she said its better job security to get a bachelor in your subject then get a masters in education.

Since you didn't bother stating your nationality, I'm gonna assume you're a US citizen.

I have no idea how the teaching profession works in the US. The only thing I've heard, based on numerous greentext stories on 4chan, is that public schools are awful.

I took a bachelor degree as music teacher in Norway, and I've found that understanding the learning processes and cognitive development of children is vital to working in classrooms.

>Is it better to take an education major, or to major in the subject I want to teach? (Which would be English or History)
Absolutely do NOT get a degree in education unless you plan to be a principal or superintendent. Get a history degree above english- some business firms like the one I'm in are actually looking for history majors right now, so if teaching doesn't suit you, there's a fallback option.
>Is the pay really that bad? I feel like the work would be worth it, but some of my hobbies can get pricey at times
Depends on where you live, and what school district you teach in. It's literally minimum wage around Detroit, and it's pretty substantial in Arizona. Do some research, see what the average salary for a high school teacher is near you and see if you're up for it.
>How do you connect with students and get them to be passionate about what you're teaching?
You don't( at least with ALL of them). I've found that no matter what, some kids don't give a flying fuck about the subject, or their grades. After the first test, take the ones that got A's and B's as your core class and try to arrange the seats so they're distributed among the others. There's a ton of teaching philosophy, this is only one of many, MANY techniques you can use.
>Public School or Private School?
Private if you can get into it, but you'll probably have to begin your career as a teacher public. Avoid charter schools.

you don't. or you break up with your girlfriend first.

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>>17300951
no, I think I can charm this girl. I look like pic related

>>17300677
if you have to ask for advice on this, you don't have the tact to pull it off

>>17300653
Add a third

im ready bby

>>17300653
>how do I get away with being a cheating slut

Bait

>>17300631
Women do it to men all the time

>>17300631
Women do it consistantly. Go for it.

>>17300638
>>17300644
All well and good, but my question was never of morality, simply of pulling it off.

Do I start talking to her about her skills and make more conversation based on that until asking her out? Do I simply ask her out and feign interest until I can bring it up later? How long should I date her before I ask her for help?

What is the appropriate amount of distance I should keep so she doesn't get too attached, but close enough so she will help me? How can I orchestrate this so I can retain access to her services after I break up with her? How do I avoid having to sleep with her?

We are gonna need a bit more detail about your issue.

>>17300623
Nihilism. Learn to be independent as soon as possible and get away when you can.

>>17300623
Get good grades

>>17300554
>What is the first job someone typically has when following a career as a database administrator?
My first job after uni was as a DBA.

>Flowchart
>IT/CS industry
Those are never, ever accurate, and I wish people would stop spreading them around like fuckwads.

A DBA is just somebody who deals with SQL and NoSQL databases all day because nobody else fucking wants to. So get really good at SQL and something like MongoDB. And get really comfortable working with linux server software and things like Microsoft Server 2k12, Active Directory, that sort of thing. You're probably going to be handling a lot of that stuff too unless you work at a big company.

>>17300569
>no one else wants to
Everyone always jokes about DBA being the worst computer related job. I wonder why it's so hated. I don't get how SQL programming could be less boring and repetitive than C++ or Java as a software engineer.