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2 nights ago I went on here asking for advice about herbal SSRIs besides St. John's Wort because I was suicidal thanks to being cheated on by a worthless fiance who I then had to dump. I went to a dispensary and got some CBD oil and Harlequin at you guys' recommendation, and my ass is happy for the first time in a long time. I think you guys might have saved my life. In return, I give to you shit I've saved which I think is funny.

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Lets start this out with me. I am a 20yr old male who suffers from DID (Disassociate Identity Disorder) and more traditional PTSD symptoms.

I am an introvert who ruins relationships if i spend too much time with people. I spent 4 years from 14-18 in high level lock down Residential Treatment centers which did nothing to help and only made me worse.

I had a friend in one of those places, a young girl a couple years younger then me. We got in trouble all the time simply for talking. I spent 3 days and nights without food, water, or clothes in a cinderblock cell because i dared to console her when she was crying.

I hadn't seen her for 3 years until a few weeks ago when we started texting. Turns out she has feelings for me and I for her. Problem is she's in a relationship.

Boyfriend is a controlling and abusive asshole and everyone in her life has been urging her to leave.

He HATES me and takes it out on her.

I told her last night that I think it is time i step out of her life so long as he is there.

Tell me anons, did I do the right thing? Did I fuck up when I helped her troubleshoot her computer today, but did nothing else?

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Toxic relationships, when do you call it quits?

>3 years, we're both 30
>she tends to overreact and escalate fights by cursing and using words that pisses me off
>minor issues get her riled up, I told her to stop her yelling/cursing so we don't end up fighting all out
>she proceeds to dump a bottle of water and some old coffee all over my pants while I"m driving her back home from work
>storms out of my house with her stuff

Lately, she has been bringing up marriage and I told her that I don't see myself marrying someone who resorts to throwing shit at their partner

>things she threw at me during our relationship
>glass jar, right at my ankle, few glass shards got stuck.
>yogurt that ended up staining my walls/carpet

I'm just so mentally drained by her. All I wanted her to do was stop her yelling b/c the end result is always sad and hopeless.

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... I want to get into programming, specifically, building websites for now.

I already got HTML and CSS for the most part, but now I want to get into Javascript.

I'very been practicing writing variables and functions, if statements today etc... but just very basic ones. I just got into Return Statements and am having trouble understanding what it is.

I'm waiting the EJ Media and New Boston tutorials on them, but all they say is we're returning a value. What am I returning a value to? When would I need to do something like this?

What the heck is a Return Statement?

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My ACT Scores came in:
A 28 is good enough to get into UT Austin, right?

I looked online and it said it was moderately competitive, being exactly the average of all the students there. My GPA also average for a student there and it is about 3.7-.8 on a 4.0 scale as well. It has a 40% acceptance rate as well.

The problem is i'm a FUCKING STRAIGHT CIS WHITE MALE and that may drop my competitiveness a lot because it's full of yuppies who value mental and physical traits more than qualifications.

Aside from my grades and after school drama participation, I don't have much else to work with for the application.

You think I can ride my grades into UT?

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I was extremely sexual and I also was sexual with other children

I'd kiss them, make out with children that were younger than me, I remember taking a childhood friend's diaper off and giving him oral, taking a little girls pacifier out of her mouth and kissing her, I also had mutual oral sex with a childhood friend of mine.

One time, I had a little doll baby and put the mouth of the doll baby on my vagina as if it were giving me oral. My mother caught me and threw the doll away. I was also caught riding the toilet as if it were sex (cowgirl position).

I also used to draw pictures of stick figures with genitals (again, before I was molested)

My mom (rest her soul), ran a daycare and I was 4 or 5 when I remember this stuff happening.

I don't recall ever seeing porn, I wasn't molested (very sheltered by my mother), and I was a single child at the time.

I /did/ get molested, but that was when I was 7 or 8 and after I returned to the US from miltary base in Germany.

I have so many other sexual experiences from 5 all the way til 15 (when sexual things usually start). I started masturbating in kindergarten and watching porn at 8. I had cybersex and phone sex with grown men at age 9/10.

My parents were divorced and I had access to the computer while my mother worked all day during summer.

I'm 20 now, and can post my driver's license to prove it if things go awry.

My question is... why? What made my brain is sexually perverse? I was never molested before I did those sexual things at age 4 and 5, only molested after I returned to the US.

Is there a way I can be that sexual just naturally? And if so, what causes it? Are there other sexual people here that are like that?

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How do I deal with job interviews when I have poor self esteem? My resume and qualifications are great but I'm short, ugly, and look like a child and years of bullying has taken a toll on my self-esteem. How am I supposed to project confidence? I've been on literally 6 interviews within the last 2 months and gotten nothing. I'm in accounting btw.
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My gf is getting chunky. I didn't sign up for this, however, since we have a child together I feel like I have to stay. Other women have children and manage to stay fit, why can't she?

How can I let my gf know that she needs to lose a lot of weight and take better care of herself?

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Here's my problem !!! i have several people who are just NOT answering my emails. one chick didn't answer one, then i sent a second one, and 11 days later she still hasn't answered it at all. and i see her posting on facebook every single fucking day.... what am i supposed to do!??!?!?!?!

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Can you treat depression without a shrink?
I'm against therapy ethically and morally. I refuse to be psychoanalyzed or drugged for reasons I won't explain

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This may not be all that common of a topic on /adv/, but I'm not on here quite often enough to know to be honest. But basically I have this quandary where I don't know what to do with my time. I work about 40 hours a week, and work out about 18 hours a week. I read in my free time, and listen to podcasts to learn about current events when I'm working out. I feel like I'm pretty close to maximizing my outcome with my time, intellectually and physically, but I still feel a sort of emptiness. I also socialize what I feel is plenty, about 4 hours 3 times a week, outside of texting and phone calls with friends occasionally, but I'm just looking to better myself with the remainder of my free time.

tl;dr, what are productive ways to spend your free time that I may not have thought of?

Thanks in advance guys!

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18 years old here. I've been on a few dates here and there, but they've all either been to the movies or with a group of friends or whatever.

I'm ready to become a real man and go on a real date, ya know? Take my girlfriend out to an expensive dinner.

Only problem is... How is it not super fucking awkward to just constantly try to make conversation with someone you don't know very well?

I would understand if you were with a girl you were comfortable with- but let's say this isn't a girl you know very well.

How do you keep your first date from delving into awkward silences? Any tips?

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So i've decided to purchase the services of a prostitute. But i've Never done it before.
Any pointers? All the online advertisements seem the same and I dont want to get scammed or something like that..

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I just made a huge mistake guys.

So back story: I never 'came' with a girl... I had sex sort of twice but it always sucker and I didn't feel any pleasure at all,

An older women from China (I'm from the Netherlands) was staying at my home with couchsurfing. Before she said if I'm interested, I can have fun with her.

At first I wasn't. But during the night I got so curious I visited her and we had sex and I think I came within a minute x).

Now. There is a 17 y.o. Christian girl from Ukraine that really likes me and wants to get married. I told her I wasn't sure yet until we met. This was a year ago, but we haven't had the opportunity to meet yet.
Now during this time I had 2 women and 2 times feeling horrible towards her afterwards, thinking about her when it was already too late.

Now, how can I ever face her, or even myself, seriously again? Obviously I failed her, but I also failed myself because... I am not like this. I don't know why I allowed myself to get into this mess in the first place. I guess guys are just stupid animals indeed?

So, how do you people look in this situation? Should I say bye to the girl who loves me? Am I a worthless piece of shit? How should I even be able to cope with this?

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I don't have much personality, I'm depressed and boring and I sometimes act like someone I'm not. To keep this short, how should I act or who should I act like.