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Hey, quick question, is it okay for my boss to talk about my write ups to her friends? She did this today and it's been bugging me for awhile. Pic unrelated.

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So we let a few people live in our house with good intentions, under the assumption that they could get back on their feet since they helped us get out the two previous people who lived here, and have since then proven they are not doing anything to get better, are clearly doing heroin or meth still, and do not pay rent nor really anything to help out with the house.
These people have brought in their personal effects and are receiving mail here. We would like to evict them and they have agreed to leave, but are not only abusing the 30 day eviction notice but are also demanding we have something signed saying they have 20/30 days to leave which they have been abusing for the past month while we get the funds together to do up the paperwork.

We want them out. Like immediately.
Is there any legal loopholes I can use or is there something I could do to make their lives a literal fucking hell within the boundaries of the law?

We have already taken the microwave, locked up the refrigerator and both freezers, MAC Address blocked any and all of their devices, and they still won't leave. One of them has MS and the other is a severe asthmatic.

Give me your best ideas guys. How can I get these fuckers out? Also where I live is a house, not an apartment, and it's owned by one person.

TL;DR Our roommates are drug addicts and moochers, they're abusing eviction laws, what can I do to, without being illegal, torment them to where they leave or evict them faster than 20/30 days?

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Hey /adv/, how do I deal with anger towards people that have wronged me in the past and how do I deal with conflict in the future?

Lately I have been plagued with rage over past incidents in which other people have criticized me, back stabbed me, mistreated me, etc. It can be stuff from years ago that some people would probably find petty. But I will just relive these incidents over and over in my head and feel the urge to murder the person who wronged me. I'll even punch myself in the head and pretend I'm punching them.

During the actual situations I usually pretend it doesn't bother me at all, but inside it makes my blood boil for a long time.

A little background about me: I tend to avoid conflict, I care a shit ton about what other people think of me, and I have a toxic reaction to rejection and embarrassment. I suspect I might have aspergers and probably other mental disorders. I had a shitty childhood. I've been a shut in NEET for the last year due to health problems and I feel that this rough chapter in my life has amplified this already big problem. I want to stop feeling this way because it makes me miserable and I'm afraid I might kill someone one day.

And yes, I'm going to seek therapy within the next week. I know I need it but looking for help in the meantime.

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>bugged my parents room

I live with my parents because reasons. They put up a facade that they love me and would never turn their back on me, but I've overheard them call me a few things to each other, and even to others.

I haven't caught them in the act, but I'm going to. I planted a voice recorder in their room and I'm going to listen to all the shit they say about me.

If I find something of value, what would you recommend I do? What I want to do is go "ah-ha", point my finger, and tell them what shitty people they are. But, maybe I shouldn't.

Opinions?

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Isn't it good to have a small dick?

I mean the smaller the dick the closer you are to your girl during sex.

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Were I live, Weed is illegal, and while I am for legalization, I hate people who smoke it. It makes me lose a lot of respect for people if they smoke. Problem is, my mom smokes.
Should I confront her? The thing that really gets me is she is so anti smoking, yet smokes weed.

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I start work at Starbucks tomorrow.

I have such a bad memory. How will I ever learn the six billion drinks they make??

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When people talk about how "attractive" somebody is, are they talking only about looks or are they talking about a combination of looks and personality?

I was told the other day that I'm "fairly attractive". I don't know what the person meant by "attractive" and didn't think to ask. I know I should probably just ask them, but what do most people mean when they talk about attractiveness?

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She walked out on us for the second time. I am absolutely lonely again after getting accustomed to her for the past few weeks while we talked. She put it up front she didn't wanna be with me anymore even thought we would go out and we ended up making out a few times. We almost got back togheder but she said she can't be friends anymore because it reminds her of the past. She left me for someone else back then but i made mistakes too. The period of time without her was absolute hell, i had faith we'd get back togheder after we started talking again, now i'm lonely and alone again. How do i cope with this? Nothing makes me happy anymore, no hobby no nothing, i can't make any friends, i am piss poor and she was the only good thing i ever had. What do i do?

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Girlfriend of 4 years just left me. She is my only true friend I've ever had in my entire life and now it's over

How do I get back to normal. I'm an autistic or socially phobic guy who can't do small talk for shit, met this girl online and that's the only reason we became anything.

Does online dating work? I want her back but I don't know how to get her. But I need a backup plan clearly. I don't want to die alone.

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So I went out with this girl and I pretty much spilled my spaghetti everywhere, unfortunately, and she lost interest in me and has since gotten a boyfriend.

We talked and she seemed cool and honest about it, and I can't be mad or anything, but for some reason I just don't feel like giving up.

Anyway, so I wrote this song kinda about her and want to share it with her, but do you think it would be too much to literally write her a song?

I wrote a joke song for another girl once after a bad date and she never messaged me again. I posted it here and basically everyone said I was extremely autistic and awkward for doing that.

This time it isn't really a joke though, so I wanted to see what you guys think.

http://youtu.be/ZHaRuNJVB0I

I just don't want her to be like weirded out by it or something since she already rejected me. I'm just actually pretty shy and and have a hard time expressing myself, and i think i can do it with music sometimes in a way that I can't with words.

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Why is sex and having a gf or bf such an important thing in modern society? I'm not trying to sound like some anti-modernity /pol/ idiot, much to the contrary, I think you should just be able to walk up to someone and ask them if they want to fuck and get a simple yes or no response and the same with relationships.

But in our world (at least in the United States, I've never been anywhere else so I can't speak for it) you have to play this stupid game. If you want sex you have to ask all these stupid silly questions and buy a girl some drinks or dance with her or some other shit to prove your worthy and if you want a relationship it's like that bullshit on steroids.

The worst part is that when you finally work up the nerve or get to the level where you can make a move, and they decide they don't want you after all, then you're the asshole or it's like a huge deal. They think you're a piece of shit for even being interested in the first place.

I am a virgin if that helps you understand my perspective on this

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The girl I like doesn't want anything serious but she wants sex.

If I fuck her good enough will she change her mind?

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I only have one friend I hangout with when I'm not at work. Shes awesome and we used to hangout daily. But over the past two months shes been wanting to hangout less.

She is starting to see a new guy but before that she did start not being down to hangout as much. I've even noticed she doesn't want to take the same car that much anymore. I know I can't really be upset but I do feel upset. She never was a good texter and now she goes almost the whole day with responding.

How do I stop myself from getting so butthurt? I like going on drives and playing video games but I still miss my friend. I've mentioned to her about this and nothing's changed. I have a really hard time dealing with people and always feeling I'm bothering people so I don't really want to hangout with new people.

I know she still cares about me but there are only so many hours in a day and it selfish of me to want all her time, how the fuck do I not be so needy?

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I'm 29 and will be 30 next month. I'm still a virgin.

I don't want to be a wizard (aka "permavirgin)." It feels shameful but it feels like there's nothing I can do.

Prostitution is illegal where I live. Even then, I don't have any money to hire a sex worker.

I have been trying to apply for jobs. I have an interview tomorrow. If I manage to get the job, I won't have enough money to solve this problem before August. Time is running out. How do I just accept myself?