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>>17358339
What's more important, your best friend or your ill will towards the Jews?

>>17358339
>person doing job indirectly leads to a persons death without their knowledge
>happens to be Jewish
>"Jews are evil!"

No, sorry, but your dad is an idiot. Would he blame anyone if it was a white Christian? My bet is no. He is racist and looking for excuses to complain.

Don't be an asshole. Support your friend, learn just enough about Jewish weddings to not make a fool of yourself, and just get on with life.

>>17358339

>Friend is Getting Married to a Jew. Feel Uncomfortable

>My grandfather's home was foreclosed on accident during the last recession and later auctioned off to a landlord who was Jewish

You're retarded.

>>17358307
Maybe you're the DUFF (Designated ugly fat friend), it might actually be a real thing.

>>17358307

maybe you are using that as an excuse. like 'OH SHE WOULD HAVE TOTALLY DATED ME IF IT WASNT FOR THE FACT THAT SOMEONE ELSE ASKED HER OUT FIRST'

there is no mental trick to beating this. you know the problem, you see it before you. start asking girls out.

>>17358319 It would make sense desu. All of my dude friends are super attractive compared to me and that's not just low self-esteem talking it's something we've all pretty much agreed on before. We did that whole shit where we figured if our life was a sitcom I'd be the funny fat guy (even though I'm not that big anymore)

>>17358321
>there is no mental trick to beating this. you know the problem, you see it before you. start asking girls out.

I guess the real question is how to deal with low-self esteem issues. I've had pretty bad anxiety and self-esteem issues since I was about 13 and all throughout middle an high school I had really bad experiences with girls that I won't go into, but they're cringe material for various reasons. These left me really jaded for a while and when I finally lost a bunch of weight and actually started trying to participate in my friend group and have a social life I knew that women didn't automatically think I wasn't worth dating or whatever but I still react the same way I did when I thought all women hated me back in high school

>>17358300

most celebrities do have a way to get fanmail. just google 'fan mail' and the celebrity and such. refine your search from there. generally their official website would have info

Is it a stadium concert? How large is the venue?
If they're still a down to earth musician then showing up at the venue before things get crazy and talking to the merch people about taking something backstage for you might work.

Who's the musician?

Guys stop. This feels like a troll thread. It has the same formula where man does a favor for women to gain favor from a man. We put in effort trying to find out his story, which involves some form of unrequited feelings, cuckoldery, and weakness.

It depends on the context and on the people involved, but usually it's at least a little bit fucked up.

Also that is a sad bottom.

What kind of split did they have? It's kinda fucked up, but if they split up mostly amicably it's probably okay.

I'd be worried about bringing them around each other. How much time do you spend with your best friend irl? Could you successfully segregate the two? Did your buddy break up with her because she's a crazy bitch? all important factors to consider.

>>17358282
They aren't your best friend if you would go out with their ex.

Do you go to church at this point? You need something concrete to prove that you aren't bullshiting. What made you convert? That actually might be the best way to explain it.

>>17358281
No I don't. I'm friends with a lot of people in my local church who I amn't comfortable with talking with about it atm.
I feel ridiculous just saying it but I was high and I thought I "felt god's presence". I wasn't sure what to think at first and put it down to the drugs but I have been praying, meditating and reading the bible over the last two months and I don't even know how to explain it to myself but I really sincerely believe God is hearing me and even answering in small ways.

>>17358306
Maybe go over bible passages that have helped you. If you were making it up you wouldn't be wasting your time going through the bible. I don't think she would think that you are putting on some sort of ruse at that point. I guess I don't know why she would think you would be fucking with her.

>>17358257
well, you are married, have a career, and own a home right? Just take solace in those things.

>>17358257
I'm 19, you're not that old. 45-55 is when you start to get old.

>>17358259
Kek

>Not OP
Sorry, originally wrote this for another thread thread then decided to make my own

>>17358222

depends what it is. and whetheri ts real or if you are just using it as an excuse to be the way you are.

all that being said what would you rather
>explain that its just part of 'who you are' and reach a level of understanding
>or instead have them NOT truly love you for who you are, but just excuse it since ur technically retarded.

id rather just explain it as a part of me, rather than a part of a brain disease.

>>17358235
Shame, it would be a nice touch to the personality disorder.

That means you need a cat.

>>17358210
i got 5 cats

I used to hate being alone, Then i got smarter and realized that im better off. I already lacked friends to begin with and the ones i had weren't really friends. I spent 3 years single after my last break up. Then my old co worker reactivated her facebook and started talking to me. we've hit it off well after the first year and now im really starting to miss being alone. we've hit a spot where we kinda end up arguing over some stupid shit every day. mostly because im irritable and hate everything around me.

My suggestion is, if your alone and okay with it. Stay alone.

>>17358207
I do have suicidal depression that comes with it so the doctors overlook the physical stuff. I'm so frustrated that sometimes I want to just go jump in front of a truck. There's got to be a way out.

>>17358207
I'll take any suggestions, from herbs to cutting off an arm. Been researching online for three years or so to try and figure this out but there's gotta be something I missed.

I would see a nutrionist or gastroentologist. Could be diet related, seems to be the root of what fucks up a lot of people. Hell maybe even try a holistic healer. I view most of what they do as common sense for the most part, but I got a bunch of cysts on the back of my neck and they gave me some asian herbal supplement that looked like black BB pellets and the shit cleared up in like 2 days.

>>17358191
>!
Anon, pls no.

Generally no.

but context is key. If i was really into someone and we had a long term relationship, and there was going to be a period of no more than say, six months, where we wouldn't see each other at all, i would consider it.

but as a general rule, no. your question is very vague. its like asking 'would you date a blond'. sure... depends on the blond though.

good luck

as long as she is willing to love me and not cuck me like the last one did.

You gay nig

Have you ever heard the theory that time is relative?

basically, the way it works, is that the more time you have, the less time feels like.

the first day you were born was the longest day of your life. day two was just a little shorter, and so on and so forth.

once you've lived several years, a single day doesn't seem like a big deal. but you remember how days seemed to be never ending as a kid?

factoring in memories oyu lose in early childhood, some scientists estimate that your entire year at the age of 75 is the same length as your summer when you were 17.

even more interesting, even with those calculations, scientist estimate that by the time you are 17, you have already experienced half of your life in terms of the length of time. thats right. 18-90 feels only as long as your childhood.

now take that logic, and apply it to women.

the first time you loved is so hard, and each times a little less. you chase that feeling, but as time goes on you realize people are more and more flawed. you become more comfortable on your own becuase the more girls you have (and even the ones in porn count to some degree) htere is something less exceptional about each new one you meet.

its normal more or less. its a bit more extreme for our generation cuz we are basically all sluts and expected not to settle down til thirty at hte earliest. but that gives you an amount of romantic and sex partners most generations didnt have, as they used to marry quite young, and even if you werent married, courtship and sex were a lot different, less 'to the point'.

people used to figure out if they liked each other before having sex. now they have sex to figure out if they like each other.

this isnt bad imo. it makes you more independent. and when you DO meet someone exceptional, you know they really are.

>>17358238
That's actually beautiful.

>>17358185
Try another screen
If persists, unplug graphics card and use motherboard video output
If persisting, clean memory contacts and try again

>>17358197

We already tried another screen to no avail

>>17358204

Digitizer I mean. You think its the screen? We tried a screen cable

>>17358168
>p.s. please exclude suggestions like online dating,going to bars and joining clubs. Been there done that.

Try harder then. Don't give up and/or maybe change your approach.

Yes. legally speaking you are only allowed to date until 28. at that age you have two years of legal grey area where you may 'court' a woman, but if you dont propose by the third date you could be fined, or even arrested depending on your state.

>>17358216
Really dumbass

>>17358167
Don't worry. The dirty secret in life is that there are a ton of people who will grow up and be alone their whole lives. We've all been conditioned to believe everyone will find someone eventually, and make babies. There are a crap ton of people who will die alone, ;)

>>17358194

Why haven't they rebelled yet? If someone said "You are destined to die alone."

I would definitely fly into a rage and kill fate or something. No way in hell you are going to make me live with the urges and then tell me that I can't fulfill said urges that were given to me per being a fucking human being.

FUCK. THAT.

>>17358167

your logic implies its a race, or that there is an endgame. and while marriage may mean the end of a lot of adventure, its not the point of life. we are not racing towards getting married.

my friend recently started dating. ditched me for his girlfriend on two important occasions. I called him out on it and said he was pussy whipped. everyone said i was just jealous that i was 'behind'.

but its simply not the way it works. everyone knows they're going to get divorced anyways, so why not skip that step?

it sounds to me like you are missing out in the dating field, sure. but you aren't missing out on being married.

>>17358069
We're you doing drugs or currently high when these events took place?

No. I had a couple drinks when one person kidnapped me and raped me. Not enough to get me drunk.
The other person gave me a mixed drink with ghb laced in it and I had about half of it before I felt the effects and passed out

I should also add that two of these people come from extremely wealthy families and I think that is why the police will not pursue charges against them. I don't even want there fucking money. I have family money of my own. I told the one that kidnapped me after I pressed criminal charges that I wasn't going to pursue civil charges because I didn't want his money but now it seems like that is my only opinion but no lawyer will take my case. I just want sebelence of justice. I want them in jail. I don't want there money. I want them to be incarcerated so they can't do this to anyone else.