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Sooo.what would you are asking for here?

>>17356552
Other than look for a job, what the fuck should I do?

sell yourself on craigslist.

>>17356508
Have you talked to her about it? If not, you should. Speak to her about how you feel.

Are you two happy together? Does she love you? If that's the case, why would you give a fuck about what others have to say? As long as you two are happy with each other it doesn't matter what people think.

>>17356508
Friend of mine had a bf like you. You could smell from a mile away that he wasn't comfortable around us and really anxious. I don't know, you could just feel how insecure he was. Even if we didn't know him. It instantly devalued him.

Her new bf is also a druggie loser, but he's confortable around us. He's not talking more, or being nicer than her ex, he's just less occupied with himself in those situations, talks and listens to you. Much nicer to be around with.

Also, use that insecurity to get /fit/.

>>17356547
This person is an idiot

Don't put up with her dumb ass friends + family. This will keep happening senpai. Normies are cruel cruel people.

Is that with a condom?

>>17356533
A condom didn't help much.

>>17356535
Are you cut?
Could try developing death grip

>>17356502
You should count your blessings that they even took you in for the interview, faggot.

Go to the interview, judge their expressions and tone of voice and you can see what your chances are. Still try your best, apologize once maybe? But I wouldn't go beyond that.

or you could just beg forgiveness and say you really want the job. Depends what job it is though. Also you are taking the advice of a min wage service industry fag, just so you know.

>>17356507
Yeah, you were right. It was wrong of me to expect more than that. I should have grateful enough to get the chance.

>>17356509
Tomorrow is a whole different interview from different company though. I just feel really bad due to my incompetence. The interviewer today was cool though.

>>17356480
well, I don't know you but there might be different reasons: maybe you don't like relationships that run too deep or too long and so you cut'em as soon as they start bothering you or maybe it's true that you're in only to get satisfaction for them liking you and then run away

>>17356480
Can relate and I'll bump because I'd love to hear other stories.
gonna describe this honestly, not trying to impress or brag etc.

I have an awful, stupidly high libido which has been a problem since I can remember. For most of highschool my entire social effort was attempting to get laid which ended in shit like grade 11 me dating who I think was 22 at the time, but with the cycle of dropping contact after a short "relationship" these girls who of course were friends or friends of friends would disrupt hangouts and circles and all that dumb highschool stuff.

So then Tinder shows up.

Essentially Tinder is retarded insane cheat mode for those of us with social anxiety to get turbo-laid because you can get so so much of the legwork done from home, by yourself, AND TO TOP IT OFF these aren't girls you know, nor do your friends know them, so there's no obligation to be courteous.
I'm genuinely nice, 6'6", and naturally can be hilarious (which I've now learned is often developed as a way to cope with anxiety and fit in socially when you're growing up), so we've never not fucked on the first date.
From there, I've done the same thing where usually just short of a month they're infatuated and either want to do the bf/gf thing or at least go the monogamy route, either of which are an instant drop in communication from me, EVEN IF I'M NOT SEEING OTHER GIRLS AT ALL but even the prospect of missing out on other girls in the near future is too much.
It's a mix of panic and a projection of all our incompatibilities that we've used sex to ignore. It's that I don't feel as though I'm worth pinning their happiness and dependence on. It's my absurd pickiness and my my views on the pointlessness of exclusive relationships if you know they won't work long term. It's a bit of boredom and a longing for that "thrill of the chase" you mentioned. Especially sex-wise, fucking on the first date, like really just fucking the hell out of each other is incomparable.
(I'll continue)

>>17356647
After ignoring texts and dropping it all there's never been any guilt, not that I'm not aware of their feelings, the effect it has on them and how dickish I'm being. It just doesn't weigh heavily, possibly because the casual fucking was where we both mutually started so I don't feel as though I owe any more courtesy than I'm giving which once again is shitty behavior on my part.
There was a point when I was 20 where I'd narrowed it down to three things I suspected, either I:
was a sociopath
had Borderline Personality Disorder
or had no attention span

In January this year (I'm 23) I was assessed and then fully diagnosed with ADHD and had fully explained to me the lengths of my social anxiety.
We'd had a brief conversation on relationships and in my case, fickle relationships does fall under the umbrella of my disorder.
Since then I've been with three girls, two of which I'd dropped as per usual, although on medication the process has been different. Different as in slower I guess? More of a gradual let down with a final "talk".

But girl number three is who scares me. We've been dating for a month and I've only been this comfortable around maybe two people this quickly in my life. We've gone exclusive and things are so rock solid between the two of us
and yet I'm so scared that, as I've done time and time again, I'm gonna wake up one morning in that *click* of a mindset and just drop it.
Could self-esteem be a large factor in our cases? I don't think it's NOT a factor, but it might not be surfacing in the form of needing constant validation. In my case if low self-esteem is fueling anything it's the mass doubt that makes me panic and kill the relationship.

What I've learned is that my other mental health issues at play which affect my school and work have been affecting everything else I hadn't thought of. Another thing to ask yourself is are you okay with your routine? Is this behavior you're looking to correct or are you just trying to understand it?

>>17356477
the fuck?

>>17356477
i don't judge you but as someone (21) whose teeth are fucked up i will suggest that you brush your teeth more often.

the teeth die first.
then the big holes happen.
you can't brush away death.

ooh god i was going to make a thread like this

>today is my two day anniversary since i started working here
>in that time I have literally only been on time once

i feel so ashamed and keep thinking I'll change but i never do. even this morning i rationalized 'well theres no consequences so why not enjoy it til i get a different job?

Stay in shape, and finish your school. Unless your military has a good reserve program which would allow you to do schooling that they pay for while you're getting paid as well.

Then you can decide from there with a foot in each door.

Addition: I'll be here for another half an hour, then I'll go out for dinner, but I'll be back later in the evening.

>>17356458
If i get right what you mean, then yeah, the german military has that. You can go study while getting paid, but I believe that you have to sign up for 12 years of service as an officer or so...

>>17356445
how much acid does this guy do and how frequently? he needs therapy because he sounds super fucked up.

>be in an abusive situation
>staying in an abusive situation.

Derp, move out.

Why do you have to fuck with the guy who causes problems with everyone. You're not going to help him, let him do what he does, and if you're not wanting to be involved, leave. It's his house, and he can do what the fuck he wants. Y'all don't like it, move.

>>17356447
He did 90 or less hits within 4 months!

He says he is going to counselling but i think he is lying about that

give him one of the best blowjobs hes ever had in a while and buy something sexy to wear for one of the days for vaca to excite him.

>>17356422
Are you the girl who posted a few days ago?
The one who talked about how her boyfriend didn't make her feel appreciated and didn't spend enough time with her?

Be faithful and obedient and don't start shit with him. If you're a cunt to him after this that's when you should feel really bad. I wouldn't even give 500 to my gf,family or friends so he either really likes ypu a lot or is paying to to shut the fuck up and not be a bitch.

>>17356412
If money is an issue i'd say a fleshlight is not worthwhile.
Just learn to fap with your non dominant hand instead.

>>17356433
Oddly enough, I'm tight with both hands, but I could try.

Find real vaginas. Tinder makes it incredibly easy if you're not a landwhale. If you are a landwhale, lose weight.

Hit her more

>>17356404
yeah man, always with my best friends as well. but they come around and they love me.

nothing to the level your talking about. sure maybe a night of it but nothing prolonged. she sounds spoilit

>>17356409
It's been every night like this for the past months.

She's always asks if I'm going to break up with her, it's really annoying. Like, if she has so little faith in our relationship, what does that mean for me?

>>17356400
only when you become important to someone else. A lover, a doctor, a president, a leader, its up to you how you leave your mark in this world Anon.

>>17356400
ask yourself if you want to die. you'll have your answer.

>>17356400
Importance is relative to priorities.

>>17356388
Are you like 18-20?
This is common as shit, it happens to almost everybody

>>17356510
Whaaa?It is? Wow, I thought I was the odd one. Why though? I mean, what's the reason?

I need a more detailed answer to clear my doubt tho, can anyone help me?

You're not a good match. You both need what the other can't provide: stability. Neither of you are capable of helping each other, even if you want to. It's cliche, but you really do need to help yourself before you can help someone else.

The most confusing aspect of it is that she really has told me that she's happy she met me, she admires a lot of my traits, and she really cares about me and feels like shit for making me worry so much.

I don't pressure her. I don't excessively message - usually space out my pokes about a week apart. She DOES eventually get back to me, we usually have a brief 1-3 day period where things go normal again and then poof...

I'm trying to be patient but this has been going on for about a month now. I don't want to ditch her, I truly care about her, but my emotional well being is really being strained out.

I don't wanna lose her as a friend, she's the coolest person I've met in like a freaking decade. I don't relate to other people or share niche interests with them as easily.

>>17356364
wtite her a sincire message saying that you care for her and want to be there with her to lead a more progressive future. dont say that you love her or anything like that but tell her that you would be devastated if she killed herself.

>>17356363
Get someone to do for you.

You learn not to masturbate.

>>17356365
this